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Confusion with a Guy
So this guy always tells me im hot, beautiful, pretty and cute. But hes waiting for me to get off my period so we can have sex but I've only known him for about 9 days or so. me and him only were aware that we each exsisted but never talked and nine days ago we started talking and hanging out. but he is nice to my parents and very polite and hugs my mom hello and good bye. And than last night he was talking to my friend Whitney about drinking and smoking and how they should go do it. do you think he could be putting on an act for my parents and things and really just wanting to have sex and using me, or actually have interest in me? i know thats prob not enough info. so ill say a little more, he also doesnt mind kissing me or anything infront of my cousin brittney or my cousin brianna, and i think his friends know that we have a thing going on cuz i read his text the other day and it said "so your with nina right?" (yes my name is nina) so its not a complete secret. But if you can help me distinguish what he wants from me that would be great..
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I dont think it's a very good idea to have sex with someone if you have only known them for 9 days. In my opinion, its rushing things. No offense, but he also might be using you for sex. My advice is dont get too close to him, let your relationship be distant, but wait a while longer before taking that next step.
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personally i don't think you should have sex with him after knowing him for 9 days. it's hard to really know someone after a few months. you should definitely wait. if a guy is asking you to have sex with him after 9 days he is most likely using you. maybe he does have some interest in you but most likely he'll just have sex with you and then go find another girl. make him wait and you'll find out if he truly likes you or not
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You guys have only known each other for 9 days and your considering that?! I'm sorry to say but you guys are moving way too fast. You need to slow down and do that stuff at least in a couple of months. Or else you guys will eventually be bored of each other and leave. Just tell him no I would like to slow down the pace with you. If he doesn't agree with you then end it. He needs to respect you. And you can't let him have sex with you or else he will take advantage of you whenever. You need to let each other have more time to get to know each other and spend some quality time. He's not really interested in you just because he wants sex and other stuff. No way! Maybe that's all he is really interested to be honest. So do what I said and don't move so fast. Slow down. It won't be that great if you are moving so fast.
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I have to be honest with you, it really sounds like it's an act. If he's wanting to have sex after only really talking to you for a little while, it's risky. You could end up regretting it. My advice, tell him you're not ready and you want to wait to get to know him better. If he is willing and actually does wait, then go for it.
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We don't have enough info, and neither do you.
Nine days is not long enough to know if someone is putting on an act or not. That is why someone you've only known for nine days is REALLY high risk to have sex with.
It only makes me worry more when you say you are waiting for your period to end. Does that mean you two were planning to have sex after knowing eachother for less than a week, but got trumped by your monthly visitor?
He might be a geunine guy who really likes you (and who also has different ideas then you about what is okay behavoir with smoking and drinking, which can also be okay). Or he might be a total user.
Being with someone almost always means taking a bit of a risk, but the way you minimize that risk is by spending time with them and learning thier opinions, beliefs and actions.
If you sense a risk, minimize it by not jumping into bed with him right away.
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Well, it sounds like a sticky situation. On one hand he could really like you and want to be with you, but on the other hand it does seem like he's putting on an act. If he starts to seem suspicious of something or like he's out with other girls, then I'd confront him about it. Unfortunately, a lot of guys can be jerks so I'd just watch out if I were you.
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