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There's this girl I hang out with a lot. We've known each other since we were little kids. We grew up together and we're both 15 now. For 4 years now I've fallen for her hard. I daydream of her all of the time. I dream of her at night. I can't get her out of my head. I love everything about her from the way she smiles to the smell of her hair when I'm close to her. I always seem to find myself making excuses to see her more often. I feel like I'm obsessed because my feelings for her are so strong I can't have a proper girlfriend (I always end up being distant to them, not really wanting to date them, and dumping them early on because of my lack of interest).
I've kept these feelings a secret but sometimes I think I should tell her. I'm afraid she won't feel the same though, and I'll end up ruining the friendship. I know I sound like such a wuss here but the emotions are so intense and I've kept them in so long.
What's the best thing to do in this particular situation? Should I tell her and risk everything? Should I keep this stuff bottled in? (link)
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Don't keep your feelings bottled in. It's bad, because just imagine yourself 10 years from now..well maybe 5 or 3, you still might feel the same way about her, but you still haven't told her. Those emotions that keep intensifying as the years progress, might even get worse and maybe turn into some mad-trip of anxiety(just kidding. I don't wanna scare you) but you never know, it can happen. I suggest that if she feels comfortable talking to you, you know...both of you are like "safe" friends, just go ahead and tell her. She might appreciate your honesty and you never know, she might even like you too--she probable just hasn't decided to make the first move. So, it's all about risk--either you win or lose. Life is full of opportunities, so don't stress out too much if she says "no".
I hope this helps :)
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My bf is really controlling. He always has to know where I am, what I'm doing, who I'm with, and everything. He controls like everything. If I end up being like 10 minutes late from when he told me to call him (like if I go out shopping and was suppose to call him at noon, but I call him at like 12:10) then he gets all angry and yells and screams and tells me I'm a really, really bad gf. I know this isn't healthy but I LOVE HIM. When he isn't mad at me then we have a really good time together. Is there something I can do to make him not controling and better understanding? Do I HAVE to dump him, because all my friends say he's just abusive and it'll get worse but he's everything to me. Help, please! What do I do? (link)
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If you feel that your boyfriend is controlling and this makes you uncomfortable, then you are not in a good relationship. I believe that it's a bit disturbing that he gets angry at you for just wanting your personal space. He shouldn't get mad. You don't have to be with him ALL the time. He should know that you love him and that you aren't going to do anything to hurt your relationship. If you must, tell him this. It seems he needs a little reassurance. He needs to trust to you, if he really wants to love you. He's the one that has to change his ways. So if he prefers not to change for you, then just listen to your friends becuase they are right. After all, your friends are more likely to be there for you til the very end.
Take Care and I hope my advice helps you in some way.
Oh! and watch out...don't let this situation get out of hand. Don't let him control your life.
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