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Hmm.. What kind of advice can I give? Any kind you'd like. Advice on relationships (all types) Getting out of trouble(my specialty) Sarcasim is always fun.
Giving advice is something I do best, I'll awnser any question you'd like, unless they're stupid and extremely pointless ones.
About me?- I like playing basketball, I'm still in Highschool, doing things that will get me in trouble, but always being good enough to get out of it.
My friends mean the world to me, without them I don't know what'd I do.
I could go on, but I don't think I will.
Anyways, if you do ask me questions, try to hold back on tYpInG lyK diZ N sTuFf alright. Other than that Anything you want to know I'll do my best to help with :)
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I cant stand my family anymore .. I just got into a bad car accident a couple days ago on this one road where someone before me wrecked n died so i was lucky i made it.. well i came home n layed down on the sofa n my mom told me to sit up .well i was n pain and she didnt care she didnt even wanna leave work to come see me n my stepdad told me he didnt care i got into accident. i dont wanna be here anymore my mom wont even talk to me she just walks away..
That's awful. I can't imagine what the feeling must be like. Your parents should realize how greatful they should be that you're still able to SIT on your sofa, and you're still alive...Now, of course talking to them would be the best solution, but sometimes that just doesn't cut it, and nothing will change. If they're being so inconsiderate, then you yourself might want to take the initiative to leave, and then let them realize what life without you would be like. There's no excuse for the way they're treating you. If you feel you need to leave, or want to leave, you should do so by all means for a little while. Let them know why you're leaving and hope that'll change something fast. I'm glad you made it out alright, you seem lucky to be alive. Hopefully they'll realize the mistake they've made, or how ungreatful they were if you walk out on them. Hope things get better for you!!
I was on AIM the last night and some guy IMed me from my school and started harrassing me calling me a slut and a bitch... stupid stuff like that. My friend's dad is a cop and I asked him what I should do since this was not the first nor the second time it has happened to me. He told me that I could find out his IP address. If I didn't know who he was, there was nothing they could do about it unless I knew who he was. Does anyone know how I can find out who this guy is and how I find his IP? Thank you so much if you can help!
Well, if he blogged you then I guess it'd be hard. But you could create a stupid xanga website or something like that, and put in an IMchaos link..and that tells you the sn that's clicked the link, and their IP address. If he clicked your like then his IP address would be right in there. www.IMchaos.com ... look up the link spy.. and pray that he clicks on it.
Hey I am sixteen and I know that I have an advice colum but I really need help? Ok look ever since I was ten my mom was realy mean to my dad they whould argue and he left then she treated me so badly that my aunt and uncle had to move in with us. They thought she was better but she still whould not do anything with or for me she whouldn't even come to my party or take me to get school stuff my sisters diod it. And ok this same exact thing happend about 8 or 9 times since then and she still won't do anything but the only time my dad tells her that something is wrong with her is when she gets paranoid and thinks he is cheating What do I do do I get out of this stupid sicle let my dad be missrable or do I yell untill he listens wicth will not work but will u please help me please
Your situation seems tough, I don't really understand it much, but it's a little like mine. My mom, whom I love to death, won't bend over backwards or go out of her way to do anything in that sort of way for me. I mean sure, she'll give me money, but she's RUDE to me, she puts me down 24/7 to make herself feel better. She would never attend a basketball game, she wouldn't even go to my baptizim, all becuase she wanted her beer. The thing is though, there's nothing you really can do about it. The only way you'll be able to escape, is if you leave. Your dad is a grown man, he'll be able to handle what he can on his own, he chooses to stay there, he in no way has to. It's all just a matter of if you really want to leave her or not, or if you want to leave that. It's useless telling your mom how you feel, for me anyways, she won't listen. The only people who can make them change is themselves. You just gotta make a decision as to whether or not you're willing to wait on her. I know it's hard, but don't just think about the negatives, and the things your mom does to you, or how she hurts you. If you want to leave, think about the whole perspective. Your life outside away from your mom, your friends, and the life you've created their, and how much you could be without @ the moment. If any of that just made sense, basically, just don't forget to look @ how much worse it could actually be.
I need help. Ive just recently started dated a guy i really like. My friend was really excited for me when she found out. But then both of them got into a big fight and now they hate each others guts. They always get into big fights. One time he called my friend bad names to her face. I stood up for her tho. cuz the reason why he cursed her out wasnt a good reason. But since he cursed her out shes been getting mad at me lately. She thinks that im putting him before our friendship. But im not. I value our friendship more than ever. She thinks i should break up w/ him because of the way hes been treating her. But i dont want to break up w/ him because he is sooo sweet to me. I feel like i can talk to him about anything. Plus he hasnt done anything to me. I know it wasnt right of him to call my friend bad names and i stood up for her even. but i guess thats not enough for her. My other friend told me that im putting him infront of my friendship w/ my friend since hes my first bf. Everybody is getting mad at me just bc im going out w/ him. Today my friend told me that i was hurting her by going out w/ him. She keeps rubbing things in my face and shes making it seem like im a horrible friend. and it hurts because i dont want to be. I dont think i did anything wrong. She told me that i should put friends first. And i do put friends first. i stood up for her did i not? i dont know what to do...i really need ur advice!! because i like this guy alot and he doesnt treat me bad or anything but my friend hates him. and sooner or later i might have to choose between them. but i dont want that to happen. please help!!!!!
You're probably not a bad friend, and she might be over-reacting just a tad bit. But don't forget, your guys gotta be able to hang with your girls.. It's too hard to make both people happy if they absolutly hate each other. I'm not saying you should give up a self sacrifice just to make your friend happy, if you really like this guy, then be with him. Tell your friend to back down a little bit, but get onto your boyfriend and let him know that that's your FRIEND who SHOULD come first... Tell your boyfriend about how hard it is to function and keep both relationships when they're both fighting... and tell him that your friendship with the girl is really important to you. And if he's kind and understanding, he'll change is ways and try to settle their differences
i really thought that i "loved" my boyfriend and we were going out for two weeks, but we really rushed into it; both physically and emotionally. I've never had a real serious boyfriend before, so its a pretty big deal to me. I never let the relationship fail, even though hes not the best boyfriend, i can't trust him, and i don't get as much out of the relationship as i put into it. but now he doesnt want to go out right now, so were on a break, i know he just wants to hook up with other chicks but he says that he will come back for me or whatever, i still like him, but i really don't get why hes doing this to me, the main question is; if he wants to get back together, should I? why or why not... please help !
He sounds like a jerk, don't wait for him, you'll find better. Let him go hook up with some trashy girls, and you find you a respectable guy who will treat you better. He sounds like he's a wanna be player. But please, try to think about "falling in love" so quickly. It takes a lot longer to fall in love with someone, and you deserve to be in love with someone better than a guy like that.
okay... I'm a fourteen year-old female in my freshman year of high school. I'm also an advicenator, but I suck at giving good rational advice to myself. Now here's the problem: I have trouble talking on the phone, even with friends, but especially with guys I like. I have lots of self confidence and I'm really talkative online and in person... but the phone? I will admit that since I've moved I've become more shy, but I've always had this phone issue. I know that often in conversations I use things around me and improvise... so it's harder on the phone. What should I talk about? Why am I *nervous*? Any advice at all would be much appreciated because I have no clue how to not to be like this and I know this guy is going to call my sometime... I'll rate or comment if you want... thanks!
I go through the EXACT SAME THING. I'm not really as nervous talking on the fone to my friends, but when I'm talking to a guy I like, I get so nervous that there's going to be one of those akward "silent moments" that there ends up being a bunch. On the computer and in person it's no big deal to me what-so-ever. I think it's just becuase you're talking to someone you really like, you don't want to say something stupid. You might not ever get over your fear of talking on the phone with someone you like, I probably won't either. But overtime it gets better, and pray that he's a conversationist. Thinking of things to talk about like a good subject that you could go talking about forever is good. Also, try not to be distracted by other things, it makes it completly harder. and don't forget that most of the time he's probably feeling the same way.
ok i have this friend lets call her cassy..shes like my bestfriend now..but when i met her i hated her cuz she always trien to steal my bestfriend at the time..and now that i hanged with her alot i think shes pretty cool..and we do alot together..well the other girl my old bestfriend (Hannah) always seems like to compete against me to get to her..and when ever me n cassy hang out she gets like jelous..i really just dont kno wut to do ne more..i mean i feel bad for cassy..wut do u guys and girls think i should do? thanks so much!
You should bring it forth that you feel liek you're competing against her for Cassy's friendship. The only way to solve it, is to make it clear that you realize that this is going on. Tell her that you don't want it to be a battle for her friendship. It might cause a big ol' fight but things like that alwyas end up being solved, just with time. It's the only way anything wil happen.
Ok I met this girl online like 11 months ago and in April I asked her out. I have pics millions of letters and we talks hours everyday on the phone. I really love her. But her past relationship she was raped and had a baby so now her dad doesnt trust guys being with her and since she met me online that makes it even worse. I really wanna see her yesterday was 7 months. I need advice on getting her dad to trust me if anyone can help. And no im not leaving her shes perfect we never argue or fight. Please dont give me answers saying to dump her I understand long distance is hard but I know with her dads trust it will work. Thanks much guys and gals.
It's somethign that you may never gain her father's trust. I don't think you should break it off because of that, you just have to show him by ACTIONS, that you're not that type of guy. But have ya'll met in person? Ya'll haven't fought, and that's great. Just don't forget that things might change once ya'll hang aroudn each other more. (Off topic). But you seem really into this girl, so thebest thing to do, is show her father, not tell him, that you'll be good to this girl, and you're in for the long haul and you don't want to hurt her.
ok..you see i have this boyfriend but i never rly see him an i just got on punishment for like a month which will hurt me bein able to see him..then i have this friend who i like and he likes me and hes always askin when are we gunna hook up and things like that an he lives down the street from me and i see him almost everyday and so do i lose my boyfriend for my friend..ive been with my boyfriend for 5months and we fight all the time over the DUMBEST things!
It seems like you already know the awnser to the question. If you really like someone who lives right next to you, that would definatly be a better relationship, a funner one at that. Not being able to see a guy isn't much of a relationship, and it's so hard to work out. If you fight with your boyfriend all the time, then maybe it's time to break things off, and start new with your neighbor. Not being able to see him must be a bummer anyways.
I'm at a new school where i dont know many people... i made this one friend, lets just call her anna. So anna and i have been hanging out on the weekends and stuff for the past 3 weeks and im starting to realize that she is really conceited. I don't want to have a friend like this, but i don't really have any other options because i don't want to be friendless. I don't know if you can help very much, just give me your thoughts on this, or maybe if you can relate we can talk about your experience. thanks.
That definatly sucks when something like that happens. The best thing you can do is try to talk to new people, maybe start talking to some people she hangs out with more than her. It would be better to have no friends than have one who makes you miserable when you're around. Don't be afraid to talk to new people, they'll come around soon enough,if you're willing to go talk to them.
does anyone know the lyrics to blessed be the name?
If I'm correct, that's a Christan song, and it's awesome....
These are the lyrics
Blessed be your name, in a land that is plentiful, where the streams of abudnace flow, blessed be your name
Blessed be your name, when I'm found in the desert place, though I walk through the wilderness, Blessed be Your name.
Every blessing you pour out, I'll turn back to praise. When the darkness closes in Lord, still I will say
Blessed be the name of the Lord, blessed be Your name.
Blessed be the name of the Lord, blessed be Your glorious name
Blessed be your name, when the sun shining down on me, when the worlds all as it should be, Blessed be Your name.
Blessed be Your name, on the road marked with suffering, though there's pain the offering, Blessed be Your name.
Every blessing you pour out, I'll turn back to praise.
When the darkness closes in, Lord stil I will say
Blessed be the name of the Lord, Blessed be Your name
Blessed be the Name of the Lord, Blessed be your glorious name
Oh blessed be the name of the Lord, blessed be your name
Blessed be the name of the Lord, Blessed be your glorious name
You give and take away, you give and take away
My heart will choose to say, Lord blessed, be your name
You give and take away, you give and take away.
My heart will choose to say.
Lord blessed me your name.
If that's not the song then I'll just choose to feel like a total jacka$$
Hey! Okay, well I am 14 female.. about 5'7 235lbs! I know... FATTY! but still... So, i wanted to go to this weightloss school but it was almost 6,000$ and across the U.S. for me so my mom was like NO WAY! but first I wanted to get homeschooled. and then again No! so I was like Private school.. Too much money she said.. I have 4 sisters n she is seperated from my dad!! So yeah, I have to go to a public school (freshman) n alot of ppl make fun of me.. I cant run fat or anything.. n i wanna start losing weight now, pick up my speed, and then just be a whole new me next yr.. i used to play softball, and i was well good at it.. but got too old to play slow pitch!! I mean im not saying i have no friends or anything.. but my thighs, but, stomach, arms, n etc... I know.. drink water n blah blah! but nothing works for me.. im probably gonna get Slim in 6 (www.beachbody.com) but I dunno if it will work or not.. im thinking i wanna lose 100lbs or so n sorta fat but like not too fast! i just wanna be left alone n not singled out everytime i go somewhere with a bunch "skinny" ppl, and this sumemr i was gonna change everything but stayed n side n was lazy!! n now 2days b4 school starts i wanna chnage everything!! i know its gonna take time but i wanna try sommin n see if it works.. i need lots of ideas, help, motivation, and support!! I seriously want a whole new me. i mean the "stretch marks" are ugly n never gonna go away so ill always remember being fat, i just want it to stop!! i wanna be the one not scared to speak up, and express what i think, i wanna be the one telling the person not to be making fun of someone, not the one being made fun of!! I want to change me!! have a high self esteem n just have fun!! so yeah u think u can help??? I'd rlly appreciate it!!! Any advice will help me .. i mean have any of u ever been n the same position or anything?? I was thinking baout even killing myself once, and i wanna "throw up" wut i eat but i dunno if thats smart, its like i cant stick to anything.. all i know is i wanna look good ... fast... not for boys... but for me.. n for all the teasing to stop!! I ask u all hoping for help!! Thanks alot, xOxOxO
Right now you're in the right frame of mind. It's going to take some time and you can't lose what you have right now, and that's going to be the hardest thing to keep, is your motivation.
It's good that you want to do this for just yourself, and not anyone else. GET SUPPORT, tell your mom to maybe help you out by not buying all those tempting fating foods that you might like. And as for your friends, tell them to help you out by just being accountable. If it seems like you might be falling back from losing weight, have them be there to make sure you keep up with it.
It's all about determination! I really do hope you reach your goal. It'll be a long process but it will be TOTALLY worth it! Just don't give up.
( 16/m/tx/junior in High School )
here's the deal: i've always been kinda...um...not cool lol or w/e u wanna call it but...i kinda found myself and figured out how to dress and do my hair to where i look my best...and now im starting to get noticed...but by all the wrong people...i mean i know the ugly weird chicks have feelings to but my god...i just want a pretty girl to finally notice me in good ways, because that's NEVER NEVER NEVER been the case, i mean every once in a LONG while there'll be a pretty one, but i'm just talking in general...i'm one of the nice guys, not one of the bad boys or w/e, and i know i'm not deadly good looking but i'm sure of myself...i mean i think i look better than most...that's not arrogance talking that's just confidence...a small amount but anyways...i'm really shy and idk exactly what to do when i'm around realllly good lookin girls...i mean i can talk their heads off online but in person i freeze up and stutter and all that stuff...lol...( jeeze i sure typed alot lol sorry ) any ideas on how NOT to be so shy...and how to get noticed in good ways? instead of ways like "oh god there goes that one kid...what's his name again? he's weird..." idk i'm just tired of the nice guys never winning...it's always the jerks and the bad boy types :(
thanks...
-Kyle
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You do infact seem like a nice guy, BUT... one thing I would like to point out
"by all the wrong people, ugly weird chicks have feelings to by my god"
That's kind of harsh. Aren't you basically doing the same thing to them that some "pretty girls" are doing to you. Believe me, there's a lot more than just looks to a girl.
If you want a "pretty" girl, be a little more outgoing. It's a good thing that you're sure of yourself, and I know how the whole "you can talk on the internet but freeze up in person" thing goes, you got to learn to take the akwardness and just go with it. One of these days a pretty girl will notice you, just don't forget to do things a little more outgoing so you can BE noticed. It's NOT always the jerks and the bad boy types that win.
Something about girls is that most of them truley go for the personality rather than the looks...(MOST) So if you try and stand out a little, and maybe gain the courage to strike up a conversation with someone who you think is "pretty" (and has a personality) then just go with that. Don't be someone you're not, and eventually maybe you can get the courage up to ask her out on a date.
I hope I helped, just remember, LOOKS aren't everything, you might find someone who's not the best looking, but she'll be just right for you.
i waz going out with this grl but then i went on vacatin. when i got back i got my freind to break up with her n the day after she called my friends when i waz there and i started callin her names liek i said she waz ugly n anoying n stuff like taht. i herd she cried for like a week or so. so now skool is back and i seen her and she got soo much hotter!!! i wana ask her out but i dont think she wud say yes cuz what i did 2 her so wut am i suposed 2 do !!??
What you did to her was really hurtful, especially to a girl.
Honestly you probably won't be able to get another chance with her. She's going to know that the only reason you really want to go back out with her is because she's "gotten soo much hotter."
Next time you have a girlfreind, maybe you'll treat her with a little dignity when ya'll break up, or have more respect for her while ya'll are going out.
If you still think you have even a small chance of going back out with her, then try talking to her as a freind, and start off by aplogizing for what you did to her the last time ya'll went out.
yesterday i fell off my bike cuz my chain broke and my hands r all scraped up and hurt is there n e thing i can eat or drink or do that will make it heal faster and school starts really soon and i dont want my hands to hurt cuz im in sports and stuff plz help
Put some neosporen on it. That always helps relive the pain. Also, try some Hydrogen Poroxide, it gets rid of all the germs and bateria in your skin and will help the healing process go much faster.
i was w0ndering if there is anyway i c0uld get a free ab0rti0n with0ut my parents kn0wing? =( ManDie x0o
It depends. You can always go to a free clinic but even they might ask that your parents be notifyed.
If you absolutly don't want your parents to know, then the doctors will give you information on going to court and seeing a judge about your parents not finding out.
The judge is going to ask you questions about why you don't think you parents should know ect. ect., if he feels that they don't need to know then he will sign something saying that you can go ahead and get the abortion without their permission. It's not a totally easy thing to get, but if you really don't want them to know, it's worth taking the risk.
Ok - I recently got a petsitting job about 3 weeks ago. It's great and I love it!!! But my boss is hitting on me. He's a older guy around his late 40 - 50`s (I am not good with age) And his wife owns it. She is the sweetest lady. Well me and him went on a client interview and somehow he brushed aganist my butt with his hand, I was thinking hmm ok whatever. Then just at different times it seem ackward, he was like after you and wanted me to go first and different things like that. Well when I first meet him I sorta did have this weird feeling in my stomach, but just thought it was nervousness. Well then I had to go over his house to pick up invoices for the clients. And I walked up and he was on the pourch and before we went in the house we were talking and he reached towards my lips and I backed away I am like what what he's like you had a hair .. and reached again well I took my hand and like rubed it across my face I am like oh ok. And that was weird. Well I told my mom about it and she said that that is very weird and everything and it's up to me if I want to quit my job or not. I mean I love it so much, it's just that freaks me out. My mom said whenever I was going someplace and we knew he would be there, she would go with me. But I'm just afraid since he knows my schedule what if I go to a clients house and go inside and he's in there .. or what if he's stalking me watching me walk around the dogs. Whats really weird too is that he always wears sunglasses and smokes cigars. I don`t know what to do tho. Also their was a misunderstanding about one day I was suppose to work and he like curked out on me. Then when I had to go to his house (my mom came with me) he was like calm. It's really weird. What would you do?? :-/
Well you should probably tell his wife. If he's doing stuff like that then she should know. However, she might be too naive to believe you and you could possibly end up getting fierd. It's all about what you think you should do. If you don't do something about it, it more than likley won't stop. He's going to keep hitting on you until you do something about it. If it starts getting more out of control do something immediatly! He could have the urge to go further, like rape or something like that. If it gets too bad, quit your job if talking to the wife doesn't work. If he still hasn't stopped, go to the police.
I've decided that I want to give my EX another chance.. But whenever I talk about him.. everyone in my family starts sayin that I don't need him and that he's not worth it..I haven't changed my mind on giving kevin another chance.. I just wanted to know if anyone new how i could get my family to forget about the things that kevin has did to me and how i could get my family to like him...
*~Needing help~*
There's really nothing you can do, it's what Kevin has to do. He's going to have to be the one to step up and talk with your family. If he's done some bad things then he'll just have to prove himself. The only thing you can do is let them know that you're going to try to work it out with Kevin, and ask them to be openminded about the idea. Maybe not accepting just yet, but willing to give a 2nd chance. Hopefully Kevin does make a change and your family won't be closed minded and accepts ya'lls relationship!
hey..i wanted to know if anyone new any cool online games to play..anything at all..thanx byebye
http://www.gamerival.com
I usually play diamond mine, it's a fun game that will keep you entertained, but they have TONS to choose from!
how can i get rid of my razorbumps? i have some down ..there n sometimes on my armpits help! thanks
Try shaving in the other direction, really for shaving down there you won't ever find a good enough razor to make it feel smooth, only awnser is to wax. As for your armpits, you're just shaving in the wrong direction and it's causing you to get irritated. So try shaving in the other direction and hopefully oyu'll get different results!