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Mom and Dad
Hey I am sixteen and I know that I have an advice colum but I really need help? Ok look ever since I was ten my mom was realy mean to my dad they whould argue and he left then she treated me so badly that my aunt and uncle had to move in with us. They thought she was better but she still whould not do anything with or for me she whouldn't even come to my party or take me to get school stuff my sisters diod it. And ok this same exact thing happend about 8 or 9 times since then and she still won't do anything but the only time my dad tells her that something is wrong with her is when she gets paranoid and thinks he is cheating What do I do do I get out of this stupid sicle let my dad be missrable or do I yell untill he listens wicth will not work but will u please help me please
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Listen, my mom hasn't ever really been there for me...but one day, i was so hurt inside, i came right out and said "I'M YOUR CHILD, YOU HAD ME AND YOU WILL TAKE OF ME"...she basically had an emotional break down...Let her know, she's the ones who made "the mistake" and her b/f can wait..she has bigger problems...Hun, just come right out and say it, that's the only way to make her see! please realize that! pleasee....Hope it go's well..<3Ash.
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If kinda wanna be sneaky about it then just when you go to school just tell ur school conusler and she'll report ur mom's illness. They even have tapes that can help people who are ill like ur mom and it helps them out. I even think they have a foundation that helps family with a family member. And I believe it gives counsling so i'd go i think that is the best thing to do.
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Your situation seems tough, I don't really understand it much, but it's a little like mine. My mom, whom I love to death, won't bend over backwards or go out of her way to do anything in that sort of way for me. I mean sure, she'll give me money, but she's RUDE to me, she puts me down 24/7 to make herself feel better. She would never attend a basketball game, she wouldn't even go to my baptizim, all becuase she wanted her beer. The thing is though, there's nothing you really can do about it. The only way you'll be able to escape, is if you leave. Your dad is a grown man, he'll be able to handle what he can on his own, he chooses to stay there, he in no way has to. It's all just a matter of if you really want to leave her or not, or if you want to leave that. It's useless telling your mom how you feel, for me anyways, she won't listen. The only people who can make them change is themselves. You just gotta make a decision as to whether or not you're willing to wait on her. I know it's hard, but don't just think about the negatives, and the things your mom does to you, or how she hurts you. If you want to leave, think about the whole perspective. Your life outside away from your mom, your friends, and the life you've created their, and how much you could be without @ the moment. If any of that just made sense, basically, just don't forget to look @ how much worse it could actually be.
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You might want to let a school conseuler or try telling your dad its gettign realyl serious and keep letting him know.Or maybe try to talk to your family members and see if they'll do something.Sorry if iwasnt much help.Hope your mom gets help and everything gets better.
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hey , wow thats a serious problem. If I were you I'd tell my father about what happened, since he seems to be the more controllable one. Let him know that things aren't safe with your mother. He could get full custody of you if he wanted. With that you'd be living with your father. Depends on what you two decided. I can't really tell you how to handle this but just be careful while you're handling it. Good Luck,
Love,
Alyssa
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