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Friends VS. BF (13/f)
I need help. Ive just recently started dated a guy i really like. My friend was really excited for me when she found out. But then both of them got into a big fight and now they hate each others guts. They always get into big fights. One time he called my friend bad names to her face. I stood up for her tho. cuz the reason why he cursed her out wasnt a good reason. But since he cursed her out shes been getting mad at me lately. She thinks that im putting him before our friendship. But im not. I value our friendship more than ever. She thinks i should break up w/ him because of the way hes been treating her. But i dont want to break up w/ him because he is sooo sweet to me. I feel like i can talk to him about anything. Plus he hasnt done anything to me. I know it wasnt right of him to call my friend bad names and i stood up for her even. but i guess thats not enough for her. My other friend told me that im putting him infront of my friendship w/ my friend since hes my first bf. Everybody is getting mad at me just bc im going out w/ him. Today my friend told me that i was hurting her by going out w/ him. She keeps rubbing things in my face and shes making it seem like im a horrible friend. and it hurts because i dont want to be. I dont think i did anything wrong. She told me that i should put friends first. And i do put friends first. i stood up for her did i not? i dont know what to do...i really need ur advice!! because i like this guy alot and he doesnt treat me bad or anything but my friend hates him. and sooner or later i might have to choose between them. but i dont want that to happen. please help!!!!!
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Ok, well next time your friend says something to you about how you should break up with your boyfriend and you aren't a true friend. Just be like, hey, ok, listen. I like my bf a lot and I don't want to loose him. He hasn't done anything to me and I know he cussed you out, but I stuck up for you didn't I? Be like how did I not put my friends before my bf in that situation. I did. I told my bf that wasn't right and he shouldn't have done that, and I did that just for you. I know you don't like him anymore, but just because you don't like him doesn't mean I can't. Then say, you know how nice and sweet he was when you were friends with him and if he hadn't have cussed you out then you would still feel the same. Please stop taking your anger out on me and trying to break us up to get back at him, this isn't fair to me and I don't want to have to choose. -Kayla
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You're probably not a bad friend, and she might be over-reacting just a tad bit. But don't forget, your guys gotta be able to hang with your girls.. It's too hard to make both people happy if they absolutly hate each other. I'm not saying you should give up a self sacrifice just to make your friend happy, if you really like this guy, then be with him. Tell your friend to back down a little bit, but get onto your boyfriend and let him know that that's your FRIEND who SHOULD come first... Tell your boyfriend about how hard it is to function and keep both relationships when they're both fighting... and tell him that your friendship with the girl is really important to you. And if he's kind and understanding, he'll change is ways and try to settle their differences
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well it is friends 1st and it seems like u did put her b4 anyone else so thats good. it seems like to me shes just jealous bc she thinks sooner or l8er ur gunna want to stop hanging around her and more with him.. i dont think u did anything wrong, i think ur friend is overreatcing and she needs to get over it =) so just tell her that u love both her n ur bf and ur not gunna break up with him just bc he cussed @ her.. my friends bf cusses as me all the time its no big deal. let it all out hun n speak ur mind to that so called friend of urs!
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