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confusing phone "issue"
okay... I'm a fourteen year-old female in my freshman year of high school. I'm also an advicenator, but I suck at giving good rational advice to myself. Now here's the problem: I have trouble talking on the phone, even with friends, but especially with guys I like. I have lots of self confidence and I'm really talkative online and in person... but the phone? I will admit that since I've moved I've become more shy, but I've always had this phone issue. I know that often in conversations I use things around me and improvise... so it's harder on the phone. What should I talk about? Why am I *nervous*? Any advice at all would be much appreciated because I have no clue how to not to be like this and I know this guy is going to call my sometime... I'll rate or comment if you want... thanks!
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its definently a challenge 2 talk on the fone and keep a good convo goin. just find something interesting thats goin on in ur house or ask him/her wuts goin on in their life. i usually have a lot 2 talk about because of recent situations at school. but i dont think it is nervousness, it is just lack of topics. think about fav's or weekend plans. hope i helped ya!
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Here's the thing.
Phone conversations *Especially with boys* Are highly overrated.
Personally (And also backed by the comments of male friends) Men like a woman who is (Read: Acts)
Too busy to spend a lot of time on the telephone. You've got better things to do. (And also this leaves him wondering what those "Better things" are!) If you state near the beginning of the conversation that you're busy (Casually, like "I'm just in the middle of something, but, whats up?") Its gonna force him to get to the point: Asking you out so you can be your lovely and animated self in person. Then when you respond and "have to go, but you'll talk to him really soon." It's not awkward. he already knows you were busy.
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Welps...you should just be yourself on the phone...I used to be like that too when I moved but I got the hang of it and talked for hours and it was like WOAH like that and I got the guy too...So just be yourself...and have fun at the new place you live at and LIVE LIFE....hope it helps...and Rate me!!!
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wow you sound just like me 2 years ago when i was a sophmore in highschool! i had a HUGE phone phobia, except with my two best girlfriends. other than that, i couldn't speak on the phone for the life of me. when my boyfriend and i started dating, we would talk on the phone occassionally, and it would always only be about 5 minutes long, and mostly silence. i hated it, and wanted to get better at it. so what i did was i made a bet with my best friend. i said that if i talked, like actually talked on the phone to my bf for 15 minutes, she would do something embarassing at school the next day. and it worked! i got up the nerve to call him, and was able to talk for 15 minutes. what i did was just pretended that i was talking face to face with the person. talk about your day, ask him how his was, talk about random stuff that happened. if you don't know him well, talk about movies, books, music, school, stuff like that. once the conversation gets started, it should be easy! just don't worry about it, and say whatever comes to mind. good luck, and i hope this helped!
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I go through the EXACT SAME THING. I'm not really as nervous talking on the fone to my friends, but when I'm talking to a guy I like, I get so nervous that there's going to be one of those akward "silent moments" that there ends up being a bunch. On the computer and in person it's no big deal to me what-so-ever. I think it's just becuase you're talking to someone you really like, you don't want to say something stupid. You might not ever get over your fear of talking on the phone with someone you like, I probably won't either. But overtime it gets better, and pray that he's a conversationist. Thinking of things to talk about like a good subject that you could go talking about forever is good. Also, try not to be distracted by other things, it makes it completly harder. and don't forget that most of the time he's probably feeling the same way.
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