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this is mostly.. to people.. 18+ just because i believe yall may have more experience with things like this but all opinions are welcome.. okay i've been on birth control for about.. a month and a half.. and well me and my b/f recently started having sex.. with a condom as well.. we had sex tonight and the condom broke he had already ejaculated and was "pulling out".. and realized it was broken.. do u think i could possibly get preg... my BC pills say to use a back up method of birth control for the first 7 days but i've been on it like i said a month and a half.. so give me ur opinions.. should i be worried???? (link)
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Good choice using 2 methods ANYWAYS, (Obviously one method failed you already!)
It can't hurt to use backup. In this case, the backup failed, but you've still got "Plan A" or the pill to rely on.
The pill is reliable, and I'm sure you'll be FINE, but i do think you're making a good move using condoms too.
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Okie dokie...well maybe someone can help me on this one. I've liked this guy for hmm man I don't even know how long. It's just been a long time! Well I know I've always liked him I don't know if he has always liked me but sometimes he says he stops liking me because I don't talk to him enough. But then randomly he starts to like me again. I try to talk to him more when he says this because I don't want to loose him but then I give up and try and forget about him and not talk to him and stuff but that is when he starts to like me again. This has happened so many times before it's almost predictable that he will come back but I always am scared he won't. The time he just liked me he got me so attached. He told me that he has always loved me and he is always like I'm in love with the greatest thing. The times before he didn't even tell me he loved me!! So I don't know. I miss him so much. I don't think it would help if I talked to him about that because I have tried and he gets mad at me and says YOU NEVER CALL ME ENOUGH OR TALK TO ME and then I tell him I try to but he just doesn't listen. So is there anything I can do to get him back besides saying the same things I have? Thanks :) (link)
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Typical.
Men (Okay... not just men, but people) Naturally want what they can't have.
Whenever you make yourself available to him, he backs off. The whole "You never talk to me" Thing is obviously just an excuse, you said it yourself. You DO try to talk to him.
If he meant what he said, and if he really felt you weren't talking to him, he would more clearly see the times when you ARE trying. (MAke sense at all???) If he's concerned you DONT talk to him, the few little times you do would mean that much more.
The bottom line is this: Everyone, (Sorry, but men especially) Want a challenge. When you make yourself too readily available, you're no longer a challenge, and he doesn't want anything to do with you.
This guy obviously just isn't that into you. (Please read the book! Liz Tucillio and the Greg guy from Sex and the City - its wonderful for all women!)
My advice is to move on to someone who IS that into you! Into you enough he doesn't want to play those games.
There's LOTS of them out there.
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When ever i babysit for this one family, they never pay me until weeks later. Im kinda shy to ask for it..but what should i do? (link)
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It's hard to ask people for the money they owe you when you feel like you're lucky to have the job in the first place, but think of it this way: They're lucky to have someone who is reliable and available to watch their kids. People don't leave their children with just anyone, so obviously they are quite happy with you.
I'd go this route: Next time they call you to babysit, say yes, and then say "This is perfect, I wanted to go to the movies this weekend (Or whatever) And didn't have the money." They'll understand then that you don't babysit becuase ou have nothing better to do, you babysit BECAUSE YOU NEED THE MONEY. They'll get the hint.
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Ok, well I met this guys 3 weeks ago, and we both liked eachother a lot! I felt like I knew his hole life honestly I could of wrote a book on him. In that week we would kiss and make out and the sort and he sort of stuck to me in my heart, well last week on monday we decided to be friends, it was better for him, and I wanted to make him happy, so I agreed, later that day I cried my heart out and the next day too, but never in front of him. We give eachother lots of hugs and we talk on the phone a lot too and i Help him out with his love life too, and I feel like a jelous tention. As much as I wanna be friends, I wanna be a little more too... WHAT SHOULD I DO! (link)
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Tell him you are willing to give him the space he needs, but ask him if your waiting game is going to do you any good in the long run. No point in watching the pot... it'll never boil.
Personally speaking, some of the closest people in my life started out romantically, but sometimes there comes a moment when you realize, "Hey, relationships come and go, but friends stick around. I like this person too much to risk losing them." And you decide that friendship is the way to go.
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There's this guy that I'ved like for about a year or so now and he's told me that he's liked me to. We've hung out outside of school a lot and everything went great. I really love who I am when I'm with him. He's such an amazing person and I love spending time with him. The only problem is that lately he's been distancing himself from me because he's afraid to get hurt. When he told me that I seemed to distance myself from him so I didn't fall even harder just incase it didn't work out. I still have really strong feelings for him and we talk all the time, I'm just not sure on what I should do. I've told him how I feel. I think I really love him. Should I lay it all out on the table and tell him everything I think about him and the way he makes me feel or should I just give him his space until he figures out what he's feeling? (link)
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I think you need to ask him that. Ask him if he wants space, or ask him if he wants an explanation.
tell him you do care about him, and it's not your intention to hurt him.
Also, point out to him that there is a chance here that you might get hurt, too. Thats what a relationship is. It's a risk. f he's not willing to risk getting hurt for what might be absolutely wonderful, is he willing to spend the rest of his life alone... just because he's afraid of a little pain?
Its gonna happen. Everybody gets hurt. Whats important is what happens between the times you are hurt.
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ok i have this friend lets call her cassy..shes like my bestfriend now..but when i met her i hated her cuz she always trien to steal my bestfriend at the time..and now that i hanged with her alot i think shes pretty cool..and we do alot together..well the other girl my old bestfriend (Hannah) always seems like to compete against me to get to her..and when ever me n cassy hang out she gets like jelous..i really just dont kno wut to do ne more..i mean i feel bad for cassy..wut do u guys and girls think i should do? thanks so much! (link)
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This comong from a girl with lots of friends, been through similar situations, and knows that it sucks:
You've got to all hang out together. AT THE SAME TIME!! I know its tough cause you feel like its a competition, but if you agree that each time you go out with Cassy you'll invite your other friend to come along, too... eventually she'll start inviting you,too... and everyone will know you're now a "group" instead of just a "pair." The competition is over, and you'll all have a lot more to do.
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okay... I'm a fourteen year-old female in my freshman year of high school. I'm also an advicenator, but I suck at giving good rational advice to myself. Now here's the problem: I have trouble talking on the phone, even with friends, but especially with guys I like. I have lots of self confidence and I'm really talkative online and in person... but the phone? I will admit that since I've moved I've become more shy, but I've always had this phone issue. I know that often in conversations I use things around me and improvise... so it's harder on the phone. What should I talk about? Why am I *nervous*? Any advice at all would be much appreciated because I have no clue how to not to be like this and I know this guy is going to call my sometime... I'll rate or comment if you want... thanks! (link)
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Here's the thing.
Phone conversations *Especially with boys* Are highly overrated.
Personally (And also backed by the comments of male friends) Men like a woman who is (Read: Acts)
Too busy to spend a lot of time on the telephone. You've got better things to do. (And also this leaves him wondering what those "Better things" are!) If you state near the beginning of the conversation that you're busy (Casually, like "I'm just in the middle of something, but, whats up?") Its gonna force him to get to the point: Asking you out so you can be your lovely and animated self in person. Then when you respond and "have to go, but you'll talk to him really soon." It's not awkward. he already knows you were busy.
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Hey, i was wondering if you guys coulg give me your own opion on this...
what do u think about big age differences between people? like what is the highest age difference you can go out with. Hope i make sence here. you kno like auston ketcher and that peoson hes dating how shes way older then him.
thanks
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It depends how old you are.
If you're like, 13, the appropriate higher age is like, 15.
But if you're 25, Giver' on the 30+ range. Make any sense?
Basically, if you are both legal, go for it.
If you're school aged, I'd say 2 grades, 3 tops is the limit.
I've been wrong before, just my opinion.
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Ok, i was at sonic and a really hot girl brought the food out to me. Ive never seen her before in my life, but i got the nerve to ask he for her number. and she actually gave it to me. Ok now im stumped. What do i do? Should i call her n ask her out, or what? help plz. (link)
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Hmmmm.
Should you call her?
In a word... Uhhhh, YEAH...
If she was interested enough to give you her number, she obviously wanted to hear from you. If she doesn't, she'll think SHE did something wrong.
But if you dial her "number" And a pizza joint picks up, It wasn't meant to be. Order a medium.
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ok well.. i am going out with this guy... hes really great... we have had a few problems but we are totally awesome now... so ne way... we have been going out for a little while now and i really really like him... we have gone pretty far and are started thinking about have sex... we have always talked about it even before we were together and i kind of want to but i am afriad of regret.... i hate regreting things and im worried that if we have sex i will regret it... the thing is, before we did everything we have i thought i would regret it but i totally dont... is it just a 'virgin thing'?? i trust him completely... im just scared im to young (14) although (and i swear im not bragging) i am way more mature than the 'average' 14 year old... (if it makes a difference he's 16) i guess im asking all those 'non-virgins' out there... do you regret it? and do you wish you had waited? what do you think i should do? please answer!!!
...claire (link)
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Claire!
I remember what it was like to be fourteen, and I do think that you sound quite mature for your age. the fact that you know that you might regret that big step shows that you have maturity and that you are considering your feelings in the future.
My personal thoughts on the situation is to wait. Once you have sex with him, things will not be same between you two, and I think that you would regret it. Sometimes once they get what they want, they have a way of dispearring!
Make your own decision, but that's my advice!
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