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should i have sex?
ok well.. i am going out with this guy... hes really great... we have had a few problems but we are totally awesome now... so ne way... we have been going out for a little while now and i really really like him... we have gone pretty far and are started thinking about have sex... we have always talked about it even before we were together and i kind of want to but i am afriad of regret.... i hate regreting things and im worried that if we have sex i will regret it... the thing is, before we did everything we have i thought i would regret it but i totally dont... is it just a 'virgin thing'?? i trust him completely... im just scared im to young (14) although (and i swear im not bragging) i am way more mature than the 'average' 14 year old... (if it makes a difference he's 16) i guess im asking all those 'non-virgins' out there... do you regret it? and do you wish you had waited? what do you think i should do? please answer!!!
...claire
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Personally, I don't think you should have sex. At 14, your body is not ready for such a thing, even if you have went through puberty, and even if you are more mature than other people of your age. Also, how long is "a while now"? I lost my virginity at 16. Regret? Yes and no. It's different for each person though. I truly think you should wait. If you guys love each other and really do have a comitted relationship, he'll understand and wait.
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i regret it....its really not worth it....its "expected" lyke after u do it...if u do it once ther gonna want more and ther gonna say well u did it once do it again...and ur gonna feel lyke u ahv to do it all the time...and idk..its really scarey bc u start freakin out and tihnkin ur pregnant and stuff...and its jsut alot of stress to me it wasnt worth it.....a few mins of pleasure isnt worth the results...i mean u could end up pregnant and stuff even with a condom...but if u feel ready then thats up 2 u...ut im just telling u wat i tihnk
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Wait. 14 is to young and the guy, i think, just wants some. This sounds mean but if people find out you did they'll the think the guy's awesome and you're a slut. I'm sure you're not, but kids are cruel.
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Honey I'm in your exact position right now. I've been with my boyfriend for 6 months on monday (yay!) and he's 16 and I'm 14. I still feel like I'm too young and that we aren't mature enough to be making that kind of decision. We're both still young and we have a ways to go on growing up. My advice for you (since this is what I'm pretty much doing now) is to wait a little longer. I too feel that I am more mature than a normal 14 year old. The only thing is you have to really think to your self if it is the right thing to do. Think of all the pros and cons involved in making that decision. My friend lost her virginity at 13 (yes young I know) it was honestly the biggest mistake of her life. She wishes that she had known the guy longer and that they had been closer. From the way your question sounded, you sound scared. You have to wait until you KNOW you are ready, physically, mentally, and emotionally. I think that losing your virginity at 14 isn't the best age, but then again I was planning on doing it too (I'm 14 as well) I decided I'm not going to. Friends of mine have done it before and regret it because it ruined their relationship because all it was was sex sex sex and nothing else. They said that they missed the sentimental things about having a relationship, just the hugging and the kissing and laying down and relaxing together. It all depends on YOU though, not what anyone else's horror stories were about having sex for the first time. It's all about YOU. Are YOU ready? Do YOU want to do it? And are you ready to have the responsibility of having sex? Losing your virginity IS a big deal, most people don't think it is but they're wrong. You can't get that back once you've done it. Do you love him? Does he love you? Can you trust him? Can he trust you? Does he respect you? You have to really think about that. Don't do anything that you're not ready to do! Hope this helped. Good luck hun.
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i don't regret it, but i was 18. you are only 14, and even if you say you are "way more mature than the average 14 year old", in my mind, you are still not mature enough to handle the possible reprocussions of sex. if you have any doubt in your mind that you might regret it, then i would deffinatly wait. it seems like girls these days are just rushing to have sex, like it's some kind of race or something, or like if they don't do it now, it'll never happen or something. but trust me, it's no race, and there will be plenty of opportunites for you to have sex. now this could just by my point of view, but i would highly suggest against having sex for the frist time (no matter how old you are) until you are older, and when you are in a relationship with someone you love. that way, you don't have as much to worry about, such as the possible consequences of sex, or of him leaving you after because he got what he wanted. but, if you honestly and truely feel ready, then no one's stopping you. just be safe. hope this helped.
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You are just fourteen well don't you think that you should wait until you are older and really sure that way you won't have any regrets and besides you might meet someone else that may be the one. So why don't you think about it if you do it and then you meet another guy don't you thing that you would have some regrets if you give it to the wrong guy. Because you said it so yourself you have had problems and you don't know you might have some after you do it. I hope that I helped you but if not you can visit me at my website.
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Well Claire, I think that if you really, truly trust this guy than you should go for it. Because if he liked you as much as you say than he should be happy with anything u say. Never speed up to things too, plus, you can have pleasure without having sex. But if you feel comfortable around him and you feel like he's "the one" then go for it! I can't tell you that you won't regret it but I can tell you that protection doesn't always work so be careful if you so, but most of the time it does just make sure he's right for you before you do anything with him. Hope I helped! =)
-Bianca
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Claire!
I remember what it was like to be fourteen, and I do think that you sound quite mature for your age. the fact that you know that you might regret that big step shows that you have maturity and that you are considering your feelings in the future.
My personal thoughts on the situation is to wait. Once you have sex with him, things will not be same between you two, and I think that you would regret it. Sometimes once they get what they want, they have a way of dispearring!
Make your own decision, but that's my advice!
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