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to go to the dance or not?!
Ok, here is my situaton. I am a 14/f and in 9th grade. Well, i take a foods (cooking) class and there is this guy AJ who is in my group. Well the other day Garth, also in my group, asked me who I was going to the X-mas dance with and I said no one and that I wasnt even sure I was going. Well, AJ, an 11th grader said he was doing the same thing. He then asked me if i wanted to go with him. He said he would pay for it (It is $35 to go as a couple)and he would pick me up. He also said that he wouldnt ditch me for someone else at the dance b/c I was his date. Well, AJ is a really nice guy but he isnt the most attractive guy if you know what I mean. Also, he is really immature...he acts like a lil kid a lot. Anyway, he said he didnt want to go as boyfriend/girlfriend. Just so he'd have a date. So now, I dont know if he wants go with me b/c he wants to or because he wants a date. I don't know what to do! I dont know if i should tell him yes or try and find another date. My friend Kayla said she was going to ask her friend Bunion if he would go with me. But she said that if he didnt want to go then to go with AJ and then ditch him at the dance just so he can pay and so i'll have a ride. I don't want to do that but maybe i should? I dont know. I dont want to hurt him but i want to go. I told her i wasnt going to go if i didnt have a date b/c I didnt want to pay $20 to go by myself.
Should I go with AJ or find another date? Im confused about what to do! Please help
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If you do go with AJ, please don't ditch him! And if you decided you don't want to go with him, don't go with him. If you ditched him then he might hate you and what akwardness! Maybe find another date or go with the one Kayla has for you. Hope I helped!
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Find another date! Ditching AJ would be so horrible and mean. I'd find yourself another date.
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Dont use a guy like that! He was caring enough to tell you that he wouldn't ditch you at the dance.. and so you shouldn't be rude to him. If you don't want to go with AJ then don't go with him! Why don't you just go with your friends? Or find another date. But don't use AJ just to go to the dance for free and for a ride.. AJ will be so hurt and you'll regret it afterwards.
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It would be very rude and inhumane to use a guy.
Look deep inside of u,u have to really think this:Do I really want to go with him?
You may even do alist of the pros and cons of going out with him to the dance.Think of how u feel and what u want,just try not to hurt anyone in the way,u have to choose what to do,to go with a nice guy,not so handsome,immature,that will pay u the ticket and will give u a ride or to go by urself,or even with the person ur friend is trying to hook u up with.
But,theres a way.Go with him,with one condition:That going together wont stop each other from dancing or being with other people,no ditching.
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if ur not into AJ then dont go with him because u wont have a good time....but if ur not sure then its worth a try...but dont ditch him ....cuz then other guys will look at u as some like mean girl...and im sure that once uve spent more time with him u might not even want to ditch him ....i hate going alone to dances by myself and paying it totally sucks and wenever i doi always wish i had a date there but i dont so i think ud be better off going with him and then if ud rather go with someone else and he hasnt already bought ur ticket then cancel on him ...yea i guess thats mean .....but im not sure how far away the dance is but if its soon then chances are u might not get any1 else to go with
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This is a tough one did you want someone to go with you just to call a date and then go your separate ways or do you want a date the whole night because you really didn't say? But you should think about one thing if you do decide to go with A.J you shouldn't ditch him at the dance just because he doesn't want to go as boyfriend and girlfriend. I mean what is wrong going to the dance as friends? Besides he said that he would pay for the dance and also give you a ride. But if you prefer to go with someone as boyfriend and girlfriend then you should find someone else.
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Ok girl, first of all I was baffled at the fact that you were going to ditch AJ and go with that kid when he told you he wouldn't do that, in my opinion anyone who does that doesn't deserve any kind of date. It will hurt his feeling's and you will lose a friend. You say that he isin' very attractive, well I know tons of kids who are not attractive and have the best personalities in the world! But one thing is that you don't want to seem shallow also, not everyone was blessed with great looks, ya no. And I think that if he is asking you to go with him that means he really wants to go with you. But trust me on one thing, it's better to not go than to lose a friend...
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thats dumb if he only wants a date....id say go w/ him then ditch him lol or find a better guy who rele wants to go wit u to hang n stuff! good luck babe!
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