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Okie dokie...well maybe someone can help me on this one. I've liked this guy for hmm man I don't even know how long. It's just been a long time! Well I know I've always liked him I don't know if he has always liked me but sometimes he says he stops liking me because I don't talk to him enough. But then randomly he starts to like me again. I try to talk to him more when he says this because I don't want to loose him but then I give up and try and forget about him and not talk to him and stuff but that is when he starts to like me again. This has happened so many times before it's almost predictable that he will come back but I always am scared he won't. The time he just liked me he got me so attached. He told me that he has always loved me and he is always like I'm in love with the greatest thing. The times before he didn't even tell me he loved me!! So I don't know. I miss him so much. I don't think it would help if I talked to him about that because I have tried and he gets mad at me and says YOU NEVER CALL ME ENOUGH OR TALK TO ME and then I tell him I try to but he just doesn't listen. So is there anything I can do to get him back besides saying the same things I have? Thanks :)
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Typical.
Men (Okay... not just men, but people) Naturally want what they can't have.
Whenever you make yourself available to him, he backs off. The whole "You never talk to me" Thing is obviously just an excuse, you said it yourself. You DO try to talk to him.
If he meant what he said, and if he really felt you weren't talking to him, he would more clearly see the times when you ARE trying. (MAke sense at all???) If he's concerned you DONT talk to him, the few little times you do would mean that much more.
The bottom line is this: Everyone, (Sorry, but men especially) Want a challenge. When you make yourself too readily available, you're no longer a challenge, and he doesn't want anything to do with you.
This guy obviously just isn't that into you. (Please read the book! Liz Tucillio and the Greg guy from Sex and the City - its wonderful for all women!)
My advice is to move on to someone who IS that into you! Into you enough he doesn't want to play those games.
There's LOTS of them out there.
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he sounds like he is only interested in you when you are not interested in him. i don't know how old you are, but most teenage guys/girls are like this (i am one, and i see all my peers doing it lol, probably me too). Anyways, he could either be that kind of guy, or one who really is confused. i think you should just try and take a break, see what he does, and try not to be too attached to him (be friends, look for others, etc.)
good luck!
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ok umm you were on the right track to begin with... talk to him and just keep in touch with him because he is probably really confused about this whole situation also... so i say just keep in touch with him and do the same things you were doing because even if you two don't end up hookin up you will still make a friend out of this whole situation...make sense... and it sounds to me like the two of you get really close and then start drifting apart because the sparks don't fly (dumb saying, i know)... and then after the two of you stop talking he tries to attempt and save it by telling you he likes you...i think i understood what you were saying... ok here is my advice... this next time around talk to him and keep talking to him AND DON't GIVE UP... because us guys like to know we are important... AND start talking to him knowing that you two are only gonna be friends...as hard as it may sound... but start to become friends and start hangin out and doing stuff together and then after a while start making your move on him and see if it will work...(and maybe try talking to him about dating, BUT only if you want to)...and hey if your love life falls through you still have a good friend.. so anyway i know my answer was long winded but i hope i helped
hope i helped
kev
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