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VISIT MY WEBSITE AT http://www.freewebs.com/abl90/index.htm !!!Hello. My name is Ashley. I am 17 years old with 2 sisters and 3 half sisters.. I love giving advice. All my friends come to me with their problems. I'm almost ALWAYS right when it comes to advice. Unfortunately, that does not include myself. If I have a problem, I'm usually clueless so I may have a few questions here and there but mostly I'm here for the readers. Hopefully someday I can be an advice columnist for a newpaper.
Please take the time to read, it can help a few of you:
So far my life has been really complicated, sure, I do have a great life, an amazing fiance, a wonderful chihuahua, yes she is my baby, and a pretty good family I suppose. In reality, I guess most everyone has a complicated life. In my life, I have been in the most depressed state to where I literally wanted to kill myself, but it never came down to it, it is all a test, not for anyone else but for ourselves, to see how strong we are, we all have hardships in our lives but we have to look at the good and remember that there ARE people who care about us, no matter how down we are. All of you can live a good, happy life, you just have to try and give it your all and remember you bring your own happiness.
For those who have LOST:
I have lost only one person in my life.. My brother, he was only my half brother, and I never knew him. He died at 47, he had 3 amazing sons who had a great life going for them and a beautiful wife. He killed himself on October 21 of 2004. I regret every single day that I didn't know him, nor did I try, I blame myself even though I shouldn't, that route goes both ways. Sure I could have tried to see him, but he could have to. The thing is, you should try with everything in you to know your family and to love them. I would give up a lot to see my brother for one minute to ask him why? Would didn't he think about anyone else but himself? And now I'll never get that chance. I went against God and all my beliefs and even tried to contact him through a Ouija. God forgave me but I didn't forgive myself. I just hope with all my heart that he forgave my brother as well.
Thank you everyone.
If you ever need help, feel free to contact me at skyyisbloo@aol.com and please title the e-mail as Advicenators advice and I will try to get back to you ASAP.
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Right well this might be abit of a long one..
Theres this boy i like who is sooo lovely and sweeet and i have only known him a couple of months but we have everything in common and that!
Well a couple of weeks ago i told him i liked him through myspace and he was really ok about it and that and he said that we should talk about it when we see eachtother next
So on tuesday i went out and i see him and was hanging with him all day and he kept cuddling me and stuff
I really really like him buti have no idea if he likes me or not because im too scared to ask
My friends said that he really likes me and he smiles whenever they mention my name and he kept asking them when i was coming out and that when i was grounded and he kept talking about how ' kool' i was
The problem is , how do i find out if he likes me in a like like sort of way . Im soo scared to ask him and hes really really shy aswell
I really need help so PLEASE give advice back xxxx
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I would have to say that he truly does like you. If you shy to ask, just do it nontheless. I've been shy most of my life but now I'm so over that. Being shy is pointless, what is there to be shy about? My advice would be to hang out with him again, more than likely he'll ask you out and you won't have to wonder if he likes you and there won't be those shy awkward moments. So just hang out A LOT and see what happens. Best of luck you doll.
I have this guy friend that lives in another state. I have known him for about 3 years now. We were seeing each other a little bit (dating wise) when I went to visit him last year and we were both into each other but we have never made anything official because of our distance. After I came back home, we still continued to talk and he even told me he wanted to see me again when I could visit next. Well I got busy this summer and we haven't spoken in a few months. I recently have been trying to get a hold of him, but it is wierd. First, I emailed him asking him if he still used the email address. I waited a couple weeks but no response. Then last week, I called him and got his voicemail, then I called again and he picked up the phone and I said, "Nathan?" and then he goes, "I'm sorry but you have the wrong number." I called him from my new cell phone so I immediately assumed he didn't know it was me because he didn't know of the number I was calling him from. So I called him for the third time and got his voicemail again, but I left a message. I waited a few days, and still I got no response. Then a couple days ago, I texted him asking him if he got my message, and again, no response. I'm wondering if he is blowing me off. It is hard for me to believe he is, because that's just not how he is. I mean, he's 24 years old and really mature...so I don't think he would be deliberately doing it, but in the back of my mind, I suspect that maybe he is. And I'm really confused that he told me I had the wrong number, because I am confident that it was him who picked up the phone. I don't know what the deal is. I want to call him again, but I'll feel desperate. I didn't do anything to get him mad at me either...so I don't know. Should I try to contact him again?
My advice: don't try anymore. You may like him, but the guy needs to come to you. If it really was him, he'll come around. It may also be that he has a girlfriend and doesn't want anyone to get in the way or distract him. I'm sure he's moved on obviously, you should too. If he wants you back, then he'll call you. Otherwise, just hook up with someone else who is good to you.
OK well there is this girl i have known for four years now and me and her have been to hell and back as far as problems, people and everything else. Well right now she is going out with someone she met off the internet and well they been arguing alot lately. I been staying over at her house since like last thursday. Well in the weeks time i was over there me and her have had sex 4 times. I with another girl in the pic and 3 of them it was just us. I have wanted to go out with her for so long now and she told me if things dont work out between her and her b/f she pinky swears she will give me my chance. we both love each other and would do anything for each other. I was wondering if since me and her kinda like had sex 4 times if thats a good sign of us maybe hooking up.
Well, what you should consider is that she cheated on him.. she may cheat on you. You've known each other a LONG time and have been friends. Friends do tend to have feelings for one another but the thing is, it ruins your friendship if ever you should break up. I dated one of my good guy friends once.. Haven't talked to him since. Hell, he didn't even talk to me when we were going out, it was so awkward. I hated it and now we have no contact whatsoever and live right down the street from each other. If you truly think your relationship will last, then go ahead and date her but unless your willing to lose a good relationship if it does not work out then don't. The sex thing, pretty interesting. The cards are in your favor if her and her bf are having troubles. Good luck.
Thanks for the great advice. There is a little more to the story, though. I would love to get back with my ex. But it was a whole year ago when it ended. He broke up with me about 6 weeks into the relationship because I smoke. Something he knew from the start. Didn't fall for him yet, so I was like, ok, whatever. He called a few days later, apologized, told me he misses me, blah blah blah. We got back together. About one month later, he started being different, kind of depressed and indiferent, and talking about joining the navy. This attitude started right after I went with him to dinner with his two families (divorced parents - two dif occasions, one weekend). I didn't feel like I really hit it off with either family. They are wealthy, I am not. The next week I asked him what was wrong, was it me or something else. Told me he didn't know, maybe it was that he didn't get accepted to med school, or maybe it was me, and he wanted time to think about it. I gave him time. I didn't call him for a week. Then he called me to go pick out wall paint with him. On the ride back to his apt. after choosing the new paint color for him he was being really mean. He even admitted he only kept me around for my good style taste (giving him style advice on paint, drapes, clothes....)! Ouch! He didn't even invite me back up to his apt when we got there. I gave him a hug, I was crying, I told him how much I like him, and that he needs to make a decision on where we were going with stuff. Never heard from him again... Maybe I should have called him, but I felt that I left it up to him to call me, so I never did. I've seen his dad and step mom since, and they were totally cool and friendly! What the hell happened?!
Well, first of all, you've got to understand that he does NOT respect you. If he did he never would have acted the way he did. My ex Robert was the same way. I was just another one of his "girls", which were many. I now unfortunately have trust issues. My best advice: MOVE ON. He's totally not worth it, expecially after what he said to you. That went beyond extremes. It's possible he's scared of a relationship. I have two good friends, rich guy, poor girl, definitely in love and they're engaged. So I wouldn't worry about the money problem, but like I said, he was terribly rude to you. Best thing to do is forget about him and find you someone better. Good luck.
you answered my question earlier and this was it...
So I thought I liked the guy and he sent me a note saying he wants to get to know me because he likes me and I sent him a note back saying I would like to get to know him to. Im not so sure I like him anymore because when ever hes around I feel REALLY nervouse so nervous I cant concentrate on my work or eat. When im around other guys I like im not nervous. I try to avoid him and hes always staring at me and stuff and asked for my number but im starting to think I dont like him anymore. Im in 8th grade and never had a boyfriend and im really ok with that. Actually I love being single and I dont think im ready to have a boyfriend. Is that a bad thing? I think hes going to ask me out soon but I dont want to make him feel bad and I have no clue what to do. And I like this other guy and I liked him for a long time and I still like him better than the guy thats going to ask me out. I dont feel nervous around him or anything. But I like being single because I dont feel all nervous. Is this dumb of me? Please help. I dont want to go out with the other guy now.
I really dont want to go out with that other guy. He makes me feel nervous and hes always like following me.
Did you think I was messing with the other guys emotions? I will feel really bad if I say no when he asks me out but I dont want to go out with someone who I cant even talk to without getting nervous and I would rather go out with someone I can be myself around.
Guys are really weird, they have odd ways of showing their emotions. If you really don't want to go out with him, then don't. Going out with someone you don't like isn't even worth it. However, the story of my boyfriend and I starts with us like hardly ever saying anything, I was the one who talked, or at least tried to. But after a few weeks we were more comfortable with each other, we told each other everything and still do. So you should consider that when making your decision. But the decision is all up to you, I can't make it for you. If you do reject him, don't worry, he may be down for a while but it may be just because rejection is hard to deal with. Good luck. :)
Well, I have decided that I do NOT want to masturbate. But it gets hard to control my hormones. Is there any way to help me keep my mind off of them or control them better? It would really help because I can't get to sleep because of them!
Thank you in advance.
Well, I get the feeling.. A LOT. Funny thing is.. I'm a GIRL! In fact, sometimes it can be better than the real thing. I'm no longer a virgin so it's on my mind constantly. There is nothing wrong with masturbating if you think its funny or wrong. I do it all the time. If you have the urge I think you should do what it wants of you, otherwise you'll just die of the "want". It was in the middle of the night, woke up and was mad horny. But if you really don't want to, uccupy yourself with something else.
i recently had sex with my boyfriend for 4 years and he didn't use a condom like we usually do well i konw i'm pregnant but we broke up and it was really hard for both of us and he lives in mexico so i don't know his number and i'm scared to tell my parents but the catch is i had sex with my best guy friend and well he might be the father so i really need to konw wat to do as well as finding the one in mexico and konwing which is the father and how i can tell my parents and wat i can do as far as adoption?
It will be EXTREMELY hard to find your ex in Mexico. The best thing you can do for now is confide in your parents. They deserve to know. I've had sex with my boyfriend and I haven't told my mom, I don't plan on it but I'm definitely not pregnant. You can't find out who the true father is until the baby is born, they will swab your guy friend and then your child. As far as adoption goes, I truly only suggest it if you either cannot afford it or are extremely young. I once read a story of a girl who became pregnant and her mother made her have an abortion, she cries and wishes that she could change what happened, as well as her mother. If you would like to talk to me privately, feel free to IM me at skyyisbloo. I won't be on much longer but I'm sure I can help. Good luck.
Okay, i have to make a recipie for chocolate chip cookies, using starting off a half pound of flour. From there, i have to figure out all the other recipes. Could someone please help me with this!?
Check out allrecipes.com. It has great recipes and you can request how many you need. It's an amazing sight, I've used it for my consumer science class. Good luck. Any more questions? Feel free to ask.
hey im 5'5 and average weight. im fit and love running. but lately i have gained a little wait on my upper thigs and my hips. my stomach is fine but i look weird with my thighs sticking out! does any one know any excersises/tapes/tricks to make them slimmer.
all advice is apreciated.
thankyou!
You should try lunges. They help extremely in you leg strength and will tone them up. In case you don't know what a lunge is, put one foot foward and bend your knee until it nearly touches the ground, switch your legs each time you do one. Also, try laying down and moving your legs as if in a bicycle motion, it helps too. Good luck, but it is hard to lose weight, believe me, I know. Try cutting down on calories as well. It really helps, no extremes such as annorexia though!
mkay so there's this guy..please dont stop reading i know you are probably sick of these questions but i rly need help..and i rly like him and i want to go to homecoming with him. but he needs to ask me. i dont want to ask him because girls arent supposed to do the asking. we are pretty good friends and all but i want to be more than that. i really want him to be my bf. he flirts with me all the time before first period when we talk for like half an hour and i dont know if he likes me as more than a friend he just kind of acts like it but it could be me wishing he was acting like that. i dont know what exactly my question is but please help! and please dont say just wait, homecoming isnt that far away and if im going with him i have to have sufficient amount of time to get a dress haha. please help and sorry this is so long. (will rate)
Well... If you really think he likes you, I would suggest bringing the homecoming up. By bringing it up, chances are that if he wants to go with you, he will ask you. If he doesn't proceed with it. Don't let the subject change. Even if your shy, try saying I'm so nervous I won't have a date or anything similar. hope I helped. Any more questions, feel free to ask.
I was just wondering, how do you like french kiss? any trick or tips? thanks :-)
haha, good question. I'm an expert at this, I practically taught my boyfriend how to French kiss, now he's great. But anyways, of course the tongue is involved. Once, you've both exchanged tongues, try massaging his tongue with your or moving it along slowy, it's also intriguing if you push a little on his tongue. Also, if he has any muscles, when your in a makeout session, lightly squeeze his upper arms, it's sexy, I do it all the time. Anymore questions? Feel free to ask.
well i like my cousin and he likes me to and i like him because he is really sweet to me and treats me different than other guys. and he lives in mexico and i live in california so as u can see we arent really close cousins. the first time i met him was 2 summers ago and from then we liked each other but we know we can't b together but we want to be together.
wat should i do ?
I would suggest that you just be.. family, nothing more than friends. See, not only would it disgust people, but it would extremely embarass and upset your family. It would be so disgraceful, you family loves you but there's just so much they can take. Not to mention its not legal, unless you both move to Alabama, that was a joke. No offence to anyone.
I have been single for almost a year now after a three month relationship with the best guy ever (We'll call him Anthony)! Lots of guys have asked me out since then, but only one got me to go out with him (we'll call him Andrew). I always tell them to give me their phone number and then I will call them. I really have no intentions to call. Ususally I toss out the number. When I went out with the one guy (Andrew) a few times, all I could think about is my ex (Anthony), and how not like him the new guy is. I know it is over with my ex (Andrew). How can I get over him?
First thing to understand is that it is really hard to get over a guy you really love. I'm in somewhat of the same position, I love my ex, we dated for quite a while but I have a new boyfriend of 3 monthes everything I could possibly give him. I thought about my ex constantly the first month or so of going out with my now boyfriend. I judged and compared them, it turns out my ex was the worst guy out there for me, he was a player and never responsible but my now boyfriend is caring and loves me to death and does everything for me, makes me feel lazy lol, but anyways.. It will be hard to get over him, but I'm sure you can. If he was your first love it will be extremely hard. You should consider talking to "Anthony" about your feelings and maybe dating again will be in the cards.
So I thought I liked the guy and he sent me a note saying he wants to get to know me because he likes me and I sent him a note back saying I would like to get to know him to. Im not so sure I like him anymore because when ever hes around I feel REALLY nervouse so nervous I cant concentrate on my work or eat. When im around other guys I like im not nervous. I try to avoid him and hes always staring at me and stuff and asked for my number but im starting to think I dont like him anymore. Im in 8th grade and never had a boyfriend and im really ok with that. Actually I love being single and I dont think im ready to have a boyfriend. Is that a bad thing? I think hes going to ask me out soon but I dont want to make him feel bad and I have no clue what to do. And I like this other guy and I liked him for a long time and I still like him better than the guy thats going to ask me out. I dont feel nervous around him or anything. But I like being single because I dont feel all nervous. Is this dumb of me? Please help. I dont want to go out with the other guy now.
Firstly, playing with peoples emotions is not a kind thing to do. Even though I think its wrong, I do understand your position
and have learned things from experience. If you don't think your ready for a boyfriend, then don't date anyone, that includes the guy you've liked for a long time. I know that your young and you don't know what is best. But that's why I'm here. If you truly like the long-term guy then you should date him. But remember your hurting someone else's feelings, he's probably as inexperienced as you. I suggest you follow your heart. If you need anything else, don't be afraid to ask.
im in drama and every time i try to do my act, this girl keeps taking over and keeps saying im not doing it right on every little thing. how do i become good enough so she wont say anything, she doesnt only do it to me, she does it to other people and they get mad too. any advice to this situation?
Okay, I would advise you to practice with friends or in front of a member just to perfect it. Also, you should confront her before you get really mad and blow up, I've been in a situation like that and it got out of control. So just confront her and say how you feel about it, if she still gets and attitude then you get one back. She might be jealous of you and the other actors,actresses so she tries to judge you badly, but don't worry about her. But if you have any other questions, dont forget to *Ask Ashley*
today i went to school looking very bad. my makeup was all smeared down my face and my hair looked retarded even tho i straitened it.. i didnt relize i looked so bad til i got home and fixed it and i looked a whole lot better. how do i keep this from happening again?
Simple, check yourself before you go to school And if at the last minute you forget to, ask a family member or a friend. I know how that is. I've gone to school looking like I've been in a train wreck. But just do as I advised and you should do just fine. And remember, if you have any more questions don't forget to *Ask Ashley*
well i really like this one guy but i dont know if he likes me back! i really want to find out, should i ask in person, on myspace, have a friends ask him or what???? im so confused!
Honestly, you should tell him in person. It may be hard if you are shy because that is how I am but I've mostly gotten over that. Start flirting with him and all that good stuff. Let him think you like him. He should be the one to pop the question. If he doesn't ask, then you should consider asking him. Guys are just as shy as girls so don't forget that. And if you need any other advice, dont forget to *Ask Ashley*
Okay. So i really do love my boyfriend. And when i tell him i love him he always says something like "yeah right" or "sure you do" or "babe i know you dont love me" do you think he is just fishing for compliments or really serious. i love him more than anything. how can i convince him of that. please help
-Melissa AKA AFitchyy-
It's possible that he is fishing for compliments. However, you should consider that maybe he is either afraid to say he loves you too or maybe he doesn't at all. Not to discourage you but I know how it is. You should talk to him about it and tell him that you really do love him and that it upsets you when he says those things. Tell him the truth that comes from your heart. And for any other problems, dont forget to *Ask Ashley*
hey.
iam 17 years old. i had sex with a 22 years old ladie,actually she's a college student.
the sex was so fun and she likes me so much, but i heard thats that against law.
so wat u advise me to do:
to abort this relation or continue in secret
and if we were catch who will get in trouble her or me?
tanx for help.
It depends on what state you live in, some its 17 and some its 18. It also depends if your parents allow it. They could charge her for rape/child molestation. She would be the one to get into trouble. If you really like her, I suggest you keep it secret and wait until you are 18 to let the relationship be known. If yall care enough for each other, waiting is just fine.
when do you kiss? Like on a date when you see them? when you say goodbye?
It really depends. If you've been dating them for a while, you may kiss him/her often. However, if you've been dating for a short time, it may take time. When you see them, you may kiss them on the cheek, the same for the end of the date. Don't rush into anything though. It will come at the right moment.