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The name's Emily.
First off- thanks for actually reading this!
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SAM 14/f
ok well i really like my friend Jesse who ive known since last yr but only recently we've become really close friends. but there are many problems. its a long story:
1st i liked him and i then i told him, he didnt seem to mind, actually he started acting really flirty: like hugs, putting his arm around me, things that you would do with a bf.
But then he told me he had problems with commitment, as in he doesnt want a gf. it was ok with me i didnt really care too much. but then i told my friend ashley that jesse liked me. even though he never said "i like you" i just assumed he did.
the next day he told me he was sorry but he didnt like me. so that really hurt but we were still friends all the same. a few weeks have passed and we started getting closer, like best friends, and he keeps flirting in the same ways as before. out of all his friends that are girls, im the one he seems to care most about. he only wants to hug me sometimes, stuff like that.
but the other day i heard from erika (one of his good friends) that he was always a big flirt with girls and that he doesnt like me. and then we talked about it and he said the same crap as before, about not liking me.
so now im just tired of being confused and so im trying to get over him, cuz its clear that jesse either cant decide wat he wants or just isnt interested....wats ur take on all of this?

thanx a bunch,

SAM

Well I think you're doing the right thing by trying to get over him. He doesn't sound like the kind of guy who would be a very reliable boyfriend. However, there is no need to sever the relationship completly- try to stay friends. Mabye he'll get more mature and you guys can date later. Just don't let him use or abuse the friendship. Good luck!

What do you look for in a guy?

Well if you're looking for a standard there really isn't one, because this is a very personal preference. So I'll just give my opion and I hope that helps!

*Pays attention to you and listens and cares about what you have to say

*Makes you laugh

*Is intelligent

*Is athletic

*Someone who knows you well or wants to

eh I'm haning trouble with this for some reason..hope I helped!

it is possible that a guy likes you if your friend says see you later at school then he says it too, if hes like semi into the popular group and your a normie? cause we chat quite a bit and he asks for help with his spanish homework and all (lol). so.....what shoudl i do? i tried asking him out in 5th grade four years ago when i liked him the first ime but everyone found out....long story. i do'nt want to feel stupid and embarassed again. even though we didn't even awknowledge each other back then.
thanks in advance!

It does seem like he might like you, but he might also just be a really friendly guy. As to what you should do...just keep doing what your doing. Keep chatting and hanging out and helping him with homework. If you all of the sudden start flirting extremely or ask him out, he might get freaked out. Just go for being friends for a start- guys like girls that they are comfortable around.

I have two best friends and now everything is changing between us. We all three have boyfriends. Amy is always like her boyfriend and I never get to hang out with her anymore and when we actually do get to talk it's always about her boyfriend. Andrea, my other best friend is not as bad its just I dont want to lose them. My boyfriend seems to be not interested in me or something. He never calls me to hang out and then always has an excuse. He would rather play videeo games, or cheat on me I guess. (he is known for cheating). But I dont know what to do because if I break up with him then I will be by myself at school with no one to talk to because my friends will be with there boyfriends.

Well you DEFINENTALY (sp?)should not stay in a relationship just because you don't want to be alone. You may feel alone at frist, but it's better than being in an unhappy realtionship. As for your friends...sadly, this stuff happens. All you guys can do is keep making efforts to stay together.Hope I helped!

okay. so my Valentine`s Day Dance is coming up soon *&& i don`t know how i should do my make-up. (like some good products, *& if you could maybe the steps)
I`m trying not to look for expensive things, but if they are it wont kill me lol
i have brown hair and kinda beig-ish skin

thank you! =]

Well, you need to decide on what your wearing, because that effects what colors you use. I could type for days on this topic...so I'll just suggest this really awesome book I have that I got at Barnes and Noble. It's called InStyle, and it has everything, step by step, that you need.
heres a link: http://search.barnesandnoble.com/booksearch/isbnInquiry.asp?z=y&EAN=9781932273557&itm=1

does any body know where I can get clothes just like the ones in Disney Channel's Hannah Montana?
Like her shirts, shoes, and jackets?

thanks

I've actually seen a lot of the stuff they wear at my mall. I can say for certian that I've seen Hannah in clothing from American Eagle and Pac Sun, because I have some of the same shirts!

I have a boyfriend,and were both kind of new at this thing! My parents think Im not quite old enough to date him, but I can be his girlfriend!!! Were also both really shy around each other!!Im 13 And female

What can I do to convince my parents to let me date him?

What can I do to be less shy around him?

PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!

Well middle school relationships are always akward. It's an akward part of life, plus, there's not much you guys can do as far as "dating". Mabye you guys should do stuff like going to the mall with a group of friends. That way it's less akward for you two because it's not just you, AND your parents will be more comfortable.

I'm a female, size 11 shoe, and about 5 foot 8 inches tall. I need some low dress shoes in my size for the winter formal. I am going with a guy who is about 2 inches shorter than I am, and he is scared to death that i'll tower over him. I need to find shoes fast!

I have large feet myself, and I've always been able to find cute (and good quality) shoes in my size at DSW. I wish I had more advice than that..but mostly I just wear open toe shoes to get away with smaller sizes. Good luck!!

hi.(female)
my boyfriend is really anoying and i can't call him (even though i have his number) because i am to shy. My sister says i should wait until i go back to school and everything but i like this other kid ALOT more and i don't want to ask the kid i like out cause i don't want to cheat on the kid i am going out with now. I know it is wrong to cheat on your boyfriend but i really want to go out with the other kid and my sister and mom are no help. PLEASE HELP ME!!-thanks a million YOLIV :)

Hah! Ths one's easy!

I've always felt that it's never right to continue dating someone that you don't like, whether it is for a few days, or a few years. Just make sure that you really want to break up before you do.
I also suggest not breaking up with him over the phone. In person is the best (though hardest) way to go. If you absolutley can't do that then write a note to him that you deliver to him yourself! Don't use any "messengers".
It sounds like it's time for you to move on (just make sure about it!) and if it is, then good luck!

I have naturally curly hair. I strighten it all the time so its never curly. But now that school is almost here and ill have homework ill never have time to strighten it. So is there a shampoo and anything that will make my hair stright without me having to strighten it?

Well, I've heard of a blow dryer that looks like a straightner that supposdley drys your hair straight withought frying it. I've never used one, so I don't know.
But if you have curly hair, you should work it! Put some scrunching gel and some anti friz serum in your hair and let it be curly.

what are some good questions to get to know someone better? because im talking to the kid i like right now and we kinda dont have anything to talk about...
we already talked about favorite food/movie/color and that stuff. anything helps thanks.

Often times you don't learn much about a person unless you become friends. Of course you can have those random "What do you like?" conversations, but to really learn about someone and for them to learn about you, you have to be comfortable with on another. Ask them if they want to go to the movies or whatever, hang out together.

sorry this is probably gonna be really really really long

ok me and my dad have always been really close like i could always talk to him and stuff and for the last like year it has only been me and him living together in a city like an hour away from my sister{shes 16}and also where we used to live.and like a few months ago he came to me with a problem that he may loose his job and that finding another job in his feild in reddeer will not happen we would have to move back to our old city where my sis is {calgary}or to edmonton where his gf is{thats an hour away from reddeer in the opisite deriction of calgary}i was realy upset by this because i love reddeer i was popular and happy and nopt afraid to show who i was like i was in calgary.my dad knew i was upset and felt awful about so a few weeks later he came to me saying his old boss offered him a job {in calgary}i didnt think this was very good because he hated is old job {the never piad there bills or anything}but then he told me he would be getting alot more money and his boss promised my dad that he would basically be the boss my dad seemed to think it was a good idea and so i shutup and didnt whine about moveing or any thing his gf moved with us my sis also moved back in since we moved right aftyer school was out i have no friends yet so i dont have alot to cept the computer i have also been hanging with my sister and her friends so anyway my dad has gotten realy cranky since we moved he says i always argue with him and i cant seem to have a normal convo with everyone has seen his mood swings and no one y and i dont no wat to do o and also the job that he took here got screwed just like i thought now he works somewhere else and i dont know wat to do

You guys have been going through a ton of stressful changes. You can't control how his job is going, but you can control your attitude. Just be positive and nice and obey him, with his problems with work, he certianly doesn't need more at home.
And try to be open about where you've moved, that is a tough ordeal but you WILL make friends if you make an effort.

f/15

I had this one REALLY close guy friend, Jason, who I had been friends with for three years. Recently we told eachother that we have stronger feelings than 'just friends.'

Since then nothing had happened between us and I was okay with that but I REALLY wanted to kiss him. So last night we were at a party and when he arrived I kissed him. It was shortlived since it was just a 'hello' kiss, but it was our first (and last?).

Five minutes before this I told one of my best friends, Ann, that I liked Jason a lot. Ann has a boyfriend.

Just after I kissed Jason, so did Ann. We had been drinking (Jason hadn't) so I thought it was kind of funny and she only kissed him on the cheek.

About thirty minutes later Ann, who was NOT drunk, said 'Jason, I want to kiss you' so she kissed him on the cheek again. As she was pulling away Jason started to make out with her and they frenched for about 30 seconds. I was shocked but blew it off. I was SO turned off by what Jason had done and he looked at me right after he did it. I don't know what was going through his head.

I quickly left the room and tried to forget about what I just saw. I was shocked that Jason would do that.. and shocked that Ann would too since she knew I liked him.

Once it came time to go back to my house (Ann was sleeping over), Ann and I were saying bye to everyone. Then Ann went up to Jason and they french kissed and it was obvious that he likes her now. I couldn't even look at him, nevermind say bye, I was disgusted.

Should I ever talk to Jason or Ann again? Right now I am telling myself not to be upset (since that never helps anything) but I need to make a decision. I don't know if I should even continue to be friends with Jason. Plus, Ann cheated on her boyfriend by doing that but Jason doesn't know she has a boyfriend.

If I stop being friends with Jason I will probably lose 20 friends since he is always hanging out with them and I won't want to be there if he is. And he is usually the one to invite me to be with them. I have a lot of other friends since I'm one of the 'popular' girls but I really like being with them (I get straight A's but that gets boring so I like to party and drink with them.)

I am thinking of forgetting of what Jason did and if I run into him at another party I could be like Ann and make out with him and then he could like me again.

Sorry that this is SO long, advice is greatly appreciated so thank you so, so, SO much. :)

Ok I am going to anwser your direct question, but first I must say this. Why the heck are you drinking at 15? I'm glad your a smart girl, but be careful that you don't ruin things for yourself by haning out with the wrong people and doing bad things.
So I'd have to say, don't give other people power over you. If you like your other friends that hang around them,you should still see them weather ann and jason are there or not. Be bigger than they are.
Also, just because they acted like slutty idiots (eh..no offense?) does not mean you should. If you think making out with Jason will make him like you..then why the HECK would you like him. A guy should more intrested in you than the pysical stuff (though that is also important) Do not lower yourself to earn the "attraction" of a guy who sounds like he doesn't deserve you. Hope that helps!

okay so if anyone knows if i should do this or not..

well i have been thinking about it but i got this scar when i was about 4 & im not 13. its going away so what but its so noticeable & i dont like it. my mom tells me i can go into surgery for it & they will make it gone. does anyone know if that will be painfull. should i just let it stay there. cause its not like really really noticeable only a little.. plesae help me thanks.

If it's not a big deal then you probaly shoulden't go into surgery over it. In fact, I've heard of special lotions that help scars fade over time. I'd try that first!

do you think getting fingered or giving a handjob is to slutty for a 13 yr old? thanks♥

I'm sorry but I do. I personally don't think those things are appropriate unless your married, but that's me. At least wait untill you are older.

I'm getting my nose peirced in like 2 weeks; after that I want my septum peirced. My mom says no but I think I'll do it anyway. Will it be easy to hide? Should I get it done with my nose peirced ; like would it be to much jewelery in one area? Or should I just convince my mom to just let me get septum peirced instead?

I don't understand why on earth you want either of those places pierced. I want to throw up just thinking about it. I'd listen to your mom. At least wait a while and be sure you want to look like that.

How often should I change my razor? I have the pink venus and I shave like 3 times a week. Four at teh most, 2 at the least. But in the winter, I only shave like once a week, sometimes two. So how often should I change it?

Untill it's dull.

For this question I would like somebody who can relate to me. Or somebody who has been in my shoes.
I am having trouble at my public school, I have no friends, my grades are slipping, and I just feel so depressed when I go there. I love sports, especially lacrosse, and I was so afraid to go to practice because these girls who say the harsh things were on my team. I got the opportunity to attending a boarding school about two hours from my house. When I got accepted I was so excited, but then I thought about all the things I was leaving behind, my puppy, my horse, my family. All those things are the most important in my life right now. I could still come home on the weekend sure, but it's going to be alot different. Like I'm not sure if I can bare leaving my puppy and coming back the next weekend and him not even remembering me. I just don't know if I should face public school. Or go to boarding school. Please help! Thanks for whoever does!

Public schools are always tough. There's always people who want to make you feel bad about yourself, but that's just because they themselves are insecure. Try to stay positive, assertive, and friendly. I know it's tough, but you will make friends eventually. Other people can't hurt you unless you let them.

I'm sure things will get better for you at the public school, most kids go through it.

so ive turned 18 most of my friends are in relationships and im not i feel really low sometimes because im not like ugly or anything or fat i keep thinking why do i not have a bf! Ive just never found anyone i could say yeh ive been in love with him,all i keep thinking about is my x and he was very mean to me im still a virgin and im getting old now someone please help! i mean also there was a x i still kind of like but i duno if he still likes me.

I know this sounds cliche, but wait for the right person. There's nothing wrong with not having a boyfriend. It's better to be single and availble for the right guy that to see someone just because you want a boyfriend.

You are not "getting old" at all, that's rediclous. There is nothing wrong with being a virgin, and when the time comes for you, you'll be glad you waited. (Which in my opinion should be after you are mairred, but yeah..)

The only way to know if your ex still likes you is if you stay in touch with him. However, if he was mean to you, don't go back to him just for the reason above. Hope I helped!

ok well..... i am not sure to believe in evolution or religious ways cause i mean if you look at the videos from the eighties like Aha 's "take on me" video ...the women and men look different and i actually believe in evolution because i look in pictures from long time ago and only SOME people look different from present day people and some look like they are from our time..so.. i also want believe that we came from god because we all look different..and we are NOT attracted to EVERYONE...because we all look different right? i believe in both...so..this is so confusing please help lol.. i cant take it!!!!

Well, if God is all powerful then why is evolution challenging him? I don't pretend to be an expert on evolution, but I do that God is real and that he created us. So coulden't that mean that he created evolution? In the bible it says that God created the earth in a week, but what is a week to god? Mabye to him it was as if he just snapped his fingers and plants were there, but to us mere mortals things like that take forever? I think that he could have created all the science behind that.
I just don't see how life could have began withought God. Sure things evolve..but how could life just have been there? And I mean even in the smallest forms. Someone had to start it!

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