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I had this one REALLY close guy friend, Jason, who I had been friends with for three years. Recently we told eachother that we have stronger feelings than 'just friends.'
Since then nothing had happened between us and I was okay with that but I REALLY wanted to kiss him. So last night we were at a party and when he arrived I kissed him. It was shortlived since it was just a 'hello' kiss, but it was our first (and last?).
Five minutes before this I told one of my best friends, Ann, that I liked Jason a lot. Ann has a boyfriend.
Just after I kissed Jason, so did Ann. We had been drinking (Jason hadn't) so I thought it was kind of funny and she only kissed him on the cheek.
About thirty minutes later Ann, who was NOT drunk, said 'Jason, I want to kiss you' so she kissed him on the cheek again. As she was pulling away Jason started to make out with her and they frenched for about 30 seconds. I was shocked but blew it off. I was SO turned off by what Jason had done and he looked at me right after he did it. I don't know what was going through his head.
I quickly left the room and tried to forget about what I just saw. I was shocked that Jason would do that.. and shocked that Ann would too since she knew I liked him.
Once it came time to go back to my house (Ann was sleeping over), Ann and I were saying bye to everyone. Then Ann went up to Jason and they french kissed and it was obvious that he likes her now. I couldn't even look at him, nevermind say bye, I was disgusted.
Should I ever talk to Jason or Ann again? Right now I am telling myself not to be upset (since that never helps anything) but I need to make a decision. I don't know if I should even continue to be friends with Jason. Plus, Ann cheated on her boyfriend by doing that but Jason doesn't know she has a boyfriend.
If I stop being friends with Jason I will probably lose 20 friends since he is always hanging out with them and I won't want to be there if he is. And he is usually the one to invite me to be with them. I have a lot of other friends since I'm one of the 'popular' girls but I really like being with them (I get straight A's but that gets boring so I like to party and drink with them.)
I am thinking of forgetting of what Jason did and if I run into him at another party I could be like Ann and make out with him and then he could like me again.
Sorry that this is SO long, advice is greatly appreciated so thank you so, so, SO much. :)
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Ok I am going to anwser your direct question, but first I must say this. Why the heck are you drinking at 15? I'm glad your a smart girl, but be careful that you don't ruin things for yourself by haning out with the wrong people and doing bad things.
So I'd have to say, don't give other people power over you. If you like your other friends that hang around them,you should still see them weather ann and jason are there or not. Be bigger than they are.
Also, just because they acted like slutty idiots (eh..no offense?) does not mean you should. If you think making out with Jason will make him like you..then why the HECK would you like him. A guy should more intrested in you than the pysical stuff (though that is also important) Do not lower yourself to earn the "attraction" of a guy who sounds like he doesn't deserve you. Hope that helps!
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Ok so honestly you should NEVER let a guy come between your's & ann's friendship cause its girls before guys theres no questions asked. But I think you really should talk to her about this & tell her how she hurt you by making out with him & expecially RIGHT IN FRONT OF YOU & she knew you liked him. I mean if she was drunk completely different but since she wasnt she obviously knew what she was doing & could control it. & Remind her about her boyfriend. Cause cheating is never okay. No matter what the situation. If she truly liked her boyfriend .. she wouldnt wanna be making out with some other guy. She'd only wanna kiss her boyfriend & only her boyfriend. But dont be like her & just make out with him to get him to like you again. Cause honestly thats not a way to make someone like you. & When it comes to Jason talk to him about it. Ask him if he truly likes Ann & ask him why he does. Cause if he doesnt have a good enough reason he truly doesnt like her. He may just think she likes him cause she made the move on him since Jason doesnt know Ann has a boyfriend. So if he doesnt have a good reason .. he probally just likes her because he thinks she likes him. & Also maybe you should tell Jason that she has a boyfriend. But maybe Jason only wanted it to look like he liked her, but he really likes you. Boys are werid like that. Well I hope I helped ; need anything else drop one in my inbox <3
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i dont think you should lose your friend ship with Ann over a guy you should talk to her about it and find out why she did it. tell her it hurt your feelings a little. remind her of her boyfriend. and with jason. you should ask him if he just said he had feelings for you or he ment it. be like at the party the other night you sure didnt show that you had feelings for me since you were all over my best friend. try to find out whats running throw their each of their heads. good luck
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First of all dont be like your friend Ann and make out with him to get him to like you.
I would be more mad at Ann than Jason if it were me. You told her you liked him and she obviously knew that. Also she cheated on her boyfriend. Explain to Ann that you are upset by the fact that she made out with jason considering the fact that she know you liked him. The fact that you were drinking really doesnt matter thought because you said neither of you were drunk so ann obviously knew what she was doing when she kissed him. Just let her know it upset you and that you would like an appology.
As for Jason... Pretty much all guys are pigs and will kiss any girl that kisses them. which is probably the case with him.let jason know that ann does have a boyfriend at that she doesnt like ihm in that way. but do it in a way so that you dont sound jealous. Then just see where the relationship goes from there.
HOPE I HELPED!
Kait♥
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