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I've been with my boyfriend for like 1 year and sometimes I just can't stand it. I'm just so jealous. everytime I see his ex girlfriend, I get jealous. she is super gorgeous and cute like a kid and he's a kid at heart and I can see why they went out. I'm so jealous of the relationship they had. but sometimes I still feel like he doesn't love me like he says he do. when I think about it,I just feel so heartbroken and lonely. I can't break up with him cuz I love him. I just don't know what to do anymore.
These feelings are not good. It is normal to get jealous of past relationships. But to focus on them constantly and bring yourself down is not good. You say you feel alone and that you feel heartbroken. You need to ask yourself some serious questions. Why do you feel like you don't measure up to his ex girlfriend? Why do you think he is dating you? Why do you feel he doesn't love you? I am just curious why you are so insecure about your relationship. Has he ever cheated on you? Have you ever cheated on him? Has he ever lied to you about something serious? Have you ever keep serious secrets from him? These issues can cause a major rift in your relationship. You need to try and figure out what parts of your relationship have caused you to feel this way. Think back to how you guys met. What was it about him that made you guys start this relationship? And also, talk to him about it. Let him know that you are having issues. Communication and honesty are very important! His input will help you feel less alone and will also help you understand how he is feeling. Maybe he feels the same way in some areas of your guys relationship! Write me back and let me know if you need anymore advice!
PS:) Sorry that you rated a one. Truth hurts hun so good luck with your jealousy issues. Don't ask for honest advice and expect people to say what you want to hear. That is what bugs me about people like you. You rate by what you want to hear, not by what advice is truly GOOD advice. I've been through A LOT more in my life than you ever will endure, so I have way more experience in this department. I am not going to answer your question like all the other people that you rated a five soley based on their similar answers of "your pretty, your this, your that..." If you honestly need people that you don't know to make you feel better about yourself then that is retarded.
I really want to know if anyone has ever tried a seyonce, or saeonce howver you spell it. lol. :P
Because i want to do it with my best m8 at halloween and i want to so much but im sooo scared that i will never be able to sleep peacfuly again! please help!? this is serious. i get freaked out easily!
A séance is a spiritual attempt to communicate with spirits. This is something that has been widely debated through out history. Based on the facts that attemps to contact spirits through séances was found to be fraudulent, because the supposed "mediums", that claimed to have special "psychic" powers to help contact the dead, were actually fake and were just using illusions to create this effect. So basically they were like Ms. Cleo. They were just creating this illusion to make money. I have tried a séance when I was 15. I am not easily amused and I did not think it would work either. And the other girls that were with me in the cemetary were all nervous and scared. They claimed that heard and experienced things, but I did not hear or feel anything. I think it all depends on the person and the setting. Of course if you are nervous, unsure, and the setting is in a dark, spooky cemetary you may think you hear things. But in reality, from my experience and from actual facts, séances are not actually a proven experience and I personally do not believe in them. So relax, there is nothing to be nervous about! :)
ok so this guy and i were messing around and we ended up having sex. well he didnt have a condom but im on birth control (yaz). but im also on antibiotics which affect the birth control. so one of his friends was coming so we stopped cuz we didnt want anyone to know. so he didnt cum but could i be pregnant because i have been really tired and i've started to feel sick.
i just want to know if its possible to get pregnant if he didnt cum
Yes, you could be pregnant. Pre-cum happens during all parts of sexual intercourse so you can still be pregnant. Being tired and feeling sick are signs, but they can also be symptoms of other things so don't over react. Your antibiotics could be causing your body to react differently, causing nausea. Also, consider how long you have been on your birth control. It can take 3 to 6 months for your body to get used to the doses of hormones, so you may feel the side effects of this, which may be similar to signs of pregnancy. Other common signs are breast tenderness and swelling (which does not feel the same way it would before your period. Your breasts will be VERY tender and hurt to the touch and the swelling is very noticable as well. This sign normally happens with one to two weeks of being pregnant.) The last and major symptom is a missed period. Before your period go to a drug store and purchase the "5 days before your missed period" Pregnancy Test. This is the most effective and will let you know before you miss your period.
ok so my boyfriend did a lot of stuff with a lot of girls about 5 or 6 years ago...when we weren't together. About 2 or 3 weeks before we started dating he did something with this other girl that I was and still am extremly jelous of, because she liked my boyfriend the same time I did but he chose me (him and I have been together 2 and a half years and we are getting married in october) I didn't know that he did anything with this girl until he and I were together for about 6 months ( around the time we started to have sex) but last night and a few other times I just had the worst feelings and images. I sometimes just zone out and picture him with her and I can't get it out of my mind. I know he doesn't like her and I know the reason he had sex with her wasn't the most romantic...but I hate the feeling that I felt.
I guess I am asking if anyone has ever had that happen to them and what way did you find the best to get rid of the feeling.
To simply answer the question, yes. Everyone has had those horrible images before. You don't like knowing that the man you love has once loved other girls and has slept with other girls. I am engaged and am getting married in two years. I have these awful, visual images too from time to time. It always crosses my mind whether or not my fiance thinks of his exes and the time they spent together. Reality is, everyone thinks of their ex once in a while. It is human. My way to get over this is to focus on what is happening now.
Remember, YOU are with him, not her. YOU have been with him for two and half year, not her. YOU are his fiance, not her. He is sleeping with you and wants to marry you. She is just a memory to him, and chances are, she might not even cross his mind. So don't let this girl bug you. Another thing to look at though, is to make sure these feelings of jealousy are just you over-thinking his past relationships, and nothing more. Make sure that you are not getting jealous because you don't trust him. Trust is the most important thing to have in a relationship, so make sure you trust him 100%.
I promise these icky pictures in your mind will go away. You may not have been his first, but at least you know you will be the last woman he will every be with! You just have to stop thinking about her and start realizing that you are better than her. He chose you over EVERY girl he has been with. He chose you to be his WIFE. So all those other girls can't compete with that! :)
do gys like it when we laugh at their jokes? even if its corny?
also what are they thinking when us girls laugh at their jokes?
or should we just keep it to ourself and laugh on the inside to make us girls seem "SANE" and not all laughing so we cann look cool
whats the advice i hope you get the question thanks
Well generally speaking, everyone likes to be funny. When you say a joke, you would rather people not laugh after the punch line or laugh? Simple... you would want them to laugh. If people didn't laugh, you would feel embarrassed for cracking the joke.
So this is how I am when it comes to laughing about a joke. If a guy cracks a joke, regardless of if the joke is corny, I always atleast smile and slightly laugh. It is just a courtesy.
So basically, everyone, guy or girl, likes to have there jokes laughed at. It makes them feel good about themselves. Guys will generally joke around a girl because they like one of the girls, and wants to impress them by being funny. Every girl likes a guy that can make them laugh, right? So guys especially want a laughing response when they are joking around with girls because of this.
So my advice to you... Keep laughing. He likes it. You don't have to crack up and start rolling on the floor with laughter, but atleast smile and slightly laugh. Hope I helped!
~Sherah
the first time i almost had sex was two weeks ago. my boyfriend and i decided i was ready, so he tried to put his penis in, but it didn't go. it hurt when he tried to push it in too. so we just gave up on that. i've had my period since i was 11, so i don't know why it didn't go in. he's really tall and skinny, so his penis is quite thin too. helpp?!?!
Losing your virginity can be painful. But dont be nervous, its not so painful! If it was then why would so many people have sex :) Just relax. Dont get nervous about the pain. Just give eachother time to do some foreplay. It is absolutely key when having sex for the first time. This will help relax you and get you both more in the mood. So don't rush right into sex. Have him take his time and when you feel that you are lubricated enough for sex, give it a try. If it is still not going in then have some lube handy. Make sure the position is right too. That can make a huge difference too! Don't try any crazy positions yet. Go for the simple, classic missionary style. It's a great first timers position. So the key ingredients are: Foreplay, Lube, & Position! Best of luck!
~Sherah
PS: Don't stress about things not being perfect. There will be plenty of time to keep trying. It only gets better :) So just let the moment happen.
My boyfriend is absolutely wonderful, cute sweet, charming. He jsut really likes my stomach, like to jiggle it and rub it and stuff.
I do have a bit of a belly, but really I'm average.
Anywho, I know I'm not super skinny, but my boyfriend always says things like "Aw your belly is so cute"
And he always is trying to get me to eat, and wear tighter shirts. I just think it's weird, how can he can like an untoned stomach?
There is NOTHING wrong with a man that loves you for who you are! My boyfriend always tells me he loves my stomach and my chubby toes, which ironically are the two parts on my body that I do not like at all. He always lifts up my shirt and tickles my stomach and blows raspberries on it and gives me foot rubs. At first it made me uncomfortable, but now I realized he really DOES like that about me. So just get used to the idea and relax! Remember... There are TONS of girls that would love to have a guy that loves every part of them :)
~Sherah
Hi, I'm an 18 year old female. My boyfriend and I have been sexually active for about a month now and all has been fine except for the fact that my boyfriend hasn't come even once! I've thoroughly enjoyed sex and he says he does too but...obviously not. So tonight I asked him about it and he says that he seldom ever comes during intercourse unless a condom is not worn. This makes sense to me, it would obviously feel better without it. He said that in NO WAY was he asking me if it would be alright for us to not use a condom during sex...but I would obviously like for both of us to enjoy sex. What are some equally safe alternatives in contraception to condoms? Has anyone else ever seen this problem in a guy? Any advice on what we can do?
Thanks, everyone!
Well many guys have this problem because wearing the condom can desensitize the guys feeling during sex so he doesn't feel as much pleasure, thus not allowing him to come. So the only way to allow him to not use condoms and still protect against pregnancy is to use birth control and also use the female versions of birth control, like VCF, female condom, or also a suppository-like birth control that has spermicides and goes to work after 10 minutes of entry. All these are available in the same aisle as condoms so you can purchase them everywhere. The only problem is that you will not be protected against STD's so make sure to regularly get tested. Hope I helped and if you have any more question regarding this subject or anything else message my inbox and I will be happy to help you.
ive been bisexual for as long as i can remeber and i reciantly moved adn ive been wonderin if i should tell my friends that im bi, but i really dont want them to be like omg your bi im not talkin to you any more. so whats your opinion for chics who are bi? do ya like em or hate em, what..... thx in advance
Well I have a friend who is bi so it doesn't really bother me. She only told a few of her closest friends because she had a fear of being accepted or people thinking of her badly. So if I were you, I would only tell the new friends that you totally trust and let them know you do not want others to know until you feel ready to tell them. Most people are more accepting of girls being bi, especially after the shows airing on TV like Shot of Love with Tila Tequila, so no worries. If they are your real friends they will accept you for who you are.
im 15/f turning 16 in about a month. i think i have a serious problem, well serious for me hah. so i will think that one kid is like the hottest kid ever, and then once he shows interests me, im turned off completely. like i'll get really excitd for the first couple of days talking with him, but then after that i just get not interestd anymore. this has happened in many occasions before, and it's not like i DONT want a boyfriend, because i do ( i dont fear commitment or anything). it really weird, but like i would feel more comforatble if a guy was just like, hey lets hook up, instead of like, hey lets hang out so we can get to know each other. whats wrong with this?!
You say you dont fear commitment, but in this case I think you do. Maybe you find the whole "hanging out and getting to know eachother emotionally" idea a little weird. Maybe you are not used to that so the idea of it turns you off. I was this way for the longest time. I didn't want to hang out with a guy I liked because deep down the idea of just hanging out and getting to know eachother felt weird and awkward to me. Maybe try it out with the next guy you like and just get used to trying something new. I am sure hooking up was strange for you when the idea first came into play.
~Sherah
17/F
So yeah. I'm friends with a lot of boys in my school. Girls have never really liked me, so I surround myself with boys. I have about 20 good guy friends. All of my guy friends and even some guys that I'm not really friends with always make sexual references towards me. Anything that has to do with anything sexual, they'll bring me into it. They call me a slut, a whore, a hooker, whatever. I know they're joking around, but why do they do it? It's always me. It's always been me thats been called the slut or the whore.
The thing is, I am in no way a slut. I've kissed two boys in my life. They know that. I know I'm not skanky. But why do they say all these things to me? They all always watch me eat at lunch too, especially if I have a banana or something haha. Does this mean that they like me? That they think of me in that way a lot? What does it mean because its been confusing me for a year. Any input would help. Just so you know, it doesn't bother me emotionally. They're not taunting me or anything, it can just get annoying.
Well since all your guys are friends they may be saying that because they think of you as one of the guys. Guys will call other guys they are friends with pussies, bitches, faggots, etc. as a joke. So maybe that is their joking names towards you. Or it could be that they like you. Kind of like when you are in second grade and the little boy in front of you always makes fun of you or pinches you.... and then you find out three years later that they had a crush on you. so I guess might like you too. It's just a guy thing either way. I got called a slut by all my guy friends in high school. I asked one of them why they did it and they said it was just a joke. Then after I graduated I found out he had liked me for most of high school. So it could be a combination of the two. If you want to know then ask one of your close guy friends. Tell him it doesn't really bother you but you just wonder why. Hope I helped!
~Sherah
My problem is simple. My girlfriend is always pertending to be a lesbian with her friends (in front of me!) . They arent making out with each other and i know that they are definetly not real lesbians (or bisexual). I think that they are just trying to make me jealous. What should i do? By the way, im 14 years old and so is she. Now, im not saying that it isnt amusing to watch, but, i want her to give me some public attention, too. What should i do?
Sadly, she is just trying to make you attracted to her because most guys think lesbians are hot. But this is something she will grow out of.. hopefully. It's called maturity. Me...I NEVER acted like that when I was 14. Just because although guys find it hot, they don't want their girlfriend to act like that. It's just hot when it isn't their girlfriend. So you can do one of three things. Ignore it and hope she grows out of this immature little phase, talk to her in private and tell her that it kind of annoys you that she acts that way and ask her why she acts like that which may cause some unwanted drama, especially if she gets offended and acts immature, or you can try and show her you find her sexy, a.k.a. Public Displays of Affection(PDA). Kiss her when she is near her friends, tell her how gorgeous she looks and how hot she is, etc. This may show her that you find her hot and she doesn't need to do that to get your attention. Hope I helped. Let me know what happens :)
~Sherah
well okay im a 16/f and i live in katy,texas my name is nikita. well in my computer applications class there's this girl named nelma karina. & she black but doesn't act black at all and she acts really white. and she's really popular at my school i guess you could say. and she's really loud and gets a lot of attention. well anyways, well she told me that her and this other girl jessica rodriguez are both in cosmetology class and are doing this project where they pick someone to give a makeover. well she asked me if i wanted to do it becuase she says alot of people talk about me and say im messy and start drama. and i'll agree i've done some bad things and have said stuff about people becuase when people talk about me i get mad. and she said she wants to help me change that as well as my look. well i asked my friend jackie if nelma and her other friend jessica are in her cosmetology and she said no so nelma lied to me about that. and she wants me to take pics of myself to see what i need to imrove and pt on weight because im so skinny. and im not sure if she's really doing this as a cruel joke since she lied to me. and i really want to know should i do all this?? please help me!! asap!!!
DO NOT do it! If you think its a trick then it probably is. Trust your intuition. And who gives makeovers to random people anyway? Seems like a joke to me. If I were you I would go up to her and tell her to go give herself a makeover.
How can someone go from being very popular to totally unpopular, to the point where people don't talk about them anymore ? What do you have to do to become very unpopular?
Well being "popular" when it comes to high school just means you are a prep and hang out with all the kids that party, are considered "fashionable and pretty, and whose parents have money. Or you have sex with a lot of guys so I guess that would make you "popular" with the guys lol... Bad joke :) Anyways... Do either of those definitions seem cool to you? Good, because they shouldn't. Point is... Who Cares If You Are POPULAR! It doesnt matter at all. Will it make you money, get you a job, further your education and future? No... So being popular does not matter and should not matter.
Now that that is over with, onto the answer to your question. To become as you would say "unpopular" you might have made one or two friends mad, so they started telling their friends and so on and so on. So eventually everyone came up with bad ideas about you and stopped talking to you. That is what rumors do. And another idea for thought... Most popular people DO NOT have real friends, because real friends do not manipulate, spread rumors, and back stab friends. So take this opportunity to find out who you really are, find good real friends, and focus on more important things in life than popularity.
Hope I helped and best of luck!
~Sherah
hey wats up i allways trusted your advice sherah so maybe you can help me out cause every one else is tryin to get me put back in jail i dont wanna go back i just did 3 months for gettin set up by a so called friend im sitten here tryin to change my old life my past every thing just leave it behind and i get set up the dude robbed his aunts house and now hes tryin to get me sent to prison i dont know wat to every one is tellin me to go and take him out i mean go mess him up and im not like that no more shoot since you last saw me i allmost had a lil gurl ive changed alot and im only trusten your advice on this he told his ex ol lady who never met me before thats imma worthless peace of shit and that i deserve wat i got when he was the one that was caught in the house by the cops i was drinkin and pretty much passed out in his jeep when the cops came sherah i dont wanna seem like a stalker promise just neeed the advice i dont know wat to im facen 10 years cause of him and i learned my lessons when i got locked up you find out who your friends are and how much they really care about ya but if you can help me out ttul kyle
Kyle,
I dont know how exactly I am supposed to help you. You are almost 20 years old and you have been in trouble with the law since I knew you when I was 15! You dont need anyone telling you what to do with your life. Its your life. You are an adult, even if you dont act like one, and you make your own choices, which seems to be always bad ones. You aren't a child. You know the difference between right and wrong so when you know something is wrong or a bad idea, DONT do it. Its as simple as that. One day you will learn from your mistakes and hopefully turn it all around. But that is all on you. You have said for 5 years now that you were "changing" your life. And look at it... Its not any better. You are still in trouble with the law and you are probably going back to jail. I am not Dr. Phil or a magic genie. I cant say "POOF" and make all your problems go away. Just like how drugs and alcohol only mask the problems, not take them away. Hopefully you have given up drinking and drugs, as that will only add to the problems you already have. Basically I am telling you that it is your life. Do with it as you wish, but seeing that you are heading back to jail, I think you need to do a major evaluation of your life. Figure out what causes your problems with the law. Is it the people you hang out with? When you come up with the answer then work on the solution. That is all I will tell you. The rest is your choice. Hopefully for once you will make the right one. Best of luck.
PS:) Please, PLEASE stop messaging from now on. I am not meaning this in a cruel way, but listen... I havent talked to you in probably 3 to 4 years. And the reason is because you are nothing but drama that I dont need. When I am through with someone that means I am done completely. Plus I have just been through a divorce so I dont need your drama. I hate drama queens. I dont like people who live and breath drama. So please deal with your life appropriately as you seem fit. You dont need me telling you anything obviously since I havent talked to you in 3 damn years anyway. Just have to decency to leave me alone from now on. I have one crazy ex already down my ass that I have a restraining order against, so please dont become the next one. Thanks. And again... Best of luck.
i'm 14. a freshman. i have brown hair and brown eyes. kinda light skinned. any make up ideas that'd actually look good? make up tips will also be helpful! thanks so much! :)
Well to bring out your brown eyes you should wear a dark brown colored eyeshadow. After applying the brown color add a dark purple color to the outside corners and lids of your eye. From there add a light brown colored shimmer above your eye lids. The light brown shimmer will help spice up your light complexion. Almay makes a eyeshadow that is perfect for this. It has all three colors and even has a picture on the back of the eyeshadow container to show you where to apply each color. The one for you is the Almay Intense i-Color Eye Shadow Trio for Browns. This eyeshadow trio has two shades of brown and a deep purple color. The light and deep brown shades enhance the brown in your eyes. Here's a picture of what it looks like:
http://pics.drugstore.com/prodimg/149377/200.jpg
http://www.beautysensation.com/images/WIDESETeiyes.jpg
To help your eyes stand out even more add a dark brown or black eyeliner to your lower lids. Make the line very thin though. Then apply some mascara and some light pink colored lipgloss and you are good to go!
Sherah
16/f.
Ok well, i want to get my hair dyed/cut but i have no idea what to do,i want to do something different,my hairs been light brown with lighter highlights for..my whole life.i want a change. heres my picture :
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hah,ok. i was thinking darker..any ideas you think will look good on me. what hair cut should i get? also what color to dye my hair? pictures would help. thankss!
Well you have an oval shaped face and a high forhead so lucky you! You can pull off practically any haircut. Since you want to go darker I would go for a shade that is about 2 to 3 shades darker than your natural haircolor. Then I would add some lowlights and some highlights, but scatter them all over and make them natural. So the lowlights would be about 2 shades darker then the color you dye your hair, and the highlights would be 2 shades lighter. You have red pigments in your hair so I would go with a more carmel colored highlight. Now for haircuts I would suggest side sweep bangs for you. That look you could pull off easily and it changes your look completely. Since you have had long hair, I would suggest cutting it to about shoulder length and have it layered randomly (tapered all over the place). It will add more volume to your hair. With this kind of hair cut you can still put your hair up because it won't be too short and you have millions of different hair styles you can try with it. Hope I helped hun and if you have anymore question note my inbox and I will be happy to help :)
~Sherah
hey! i was the person who asked about the boy who liked me last week...and he was like:" can't say hi?" ..LOL
well, i haven't seen him for the past 3 days. and monday is THE LAST DAY OF SCHOOL!!!! so if there's a chance i don't seem him..should i just move on? because i don't know if he has a myspace. and basically i don't know anything about him.so what should i do?
Sorry it took me so long to reply. I was on vacation. Well if giving him your number and getting his is too direct, then give him you aim sn or myspace link and ask if he has one too. That approach is less of a big deal then the whole number thing. So dont worry hun. He will talk to you. I promise. And he wont turn down chatting with you. Like I said before, he went up to you to talk, so he obviously likes you. So no fear of rejection here! Best of luck!
~Sherah
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for like a year and 3 months, and I really love him, but lately we have been arguing a lot! and it's not like once a week it is probably everyday. and it is over little tiny stuff. and i just dont know what to do anymore. do you have any suggestions? I know it is a kinda stupid question i would just like somebody else's opinion.
thanks. :)
Hun, what you need to do is sit him down and really find out what these fights are all about. Usually when stupid mindless fights happen, it means there is a bigger, undiscussed problem that keeps being swept under the rug. So talk to him and tell him you are sick of the stupid little fights between the two of you and that you want to make things better. After that, ask him if anything about your guys relationship has been bothering that he hasnt told you. And you also should think if there is anything unresolved that is bothering you too. When you fix the real problem these little fights will go away. I promise. Ive been through the same thing. Best of luck hun.
~Sherah
Very Straight Hair--Wont curl
Have tried Moouses and Gels-Dont work
Havent tried Curlers or Curling shampoo yet
What should i use that is easy and will DEFINIELTY make my hair curl?
Grad is coming up and im in desperate need
Not just for this occasion, where i could just get a perm, but just for whenever
Any suggestions are greatly appreciated!
Well what you need to do is put gel in your hair right out of the shower when it is damp. You need a gel that adds more texture to your hair. The more texture your hair has the more hold it will have for curling. After than get a curling iron, not a silver one, but get one that is gold plated and ceramic. They are hotter and work sooo much better. After each curl you do use a hairspray that has a strong hold and spray the curls down. Hope I helped hun :)
~Sherah