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turned off.. when interested ?
im 15/f turning 16 in about a month. i think i have a serious problem, well serious for me hah. so i will think that one kid is like the hottest kid ever, and then once he shows interests me, im turned off completely. like i'll get really excitd for the first couple of days talking with him, but then after that i just get not interestd anymore. this has happened in many occasions before, and it's not like i DONT want a boyfriend, because i do ( i dont fear commitment or anything). it really weird, but like i would feel more comforatble if a guy was just like, hey lets hook up, instead of like, hey lets hang out so we can get to know each other. whats wrong with this?!
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Just so you know, I'm EXACTLY the same way, like, word for word. And as much as I'd like to say I have an answer to why you're like this and why I'm like this, I honestly have no idea. I guess it's somehow the excitement of wanting what you can't have.. Eh, I probably didn't help, haha, but just know that you're not alone
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You say you dont fear commitment, but in this case I think you do. Maybe you find the whole "hanging out and getting to know eachother emotionally" idea a little weird. Maybe you are not used to that so the idea of it turns you off. I was this way for the longest time. I didn't want to hang out with a guy I liked because deep down the idea of just hanging out and getting to know eachother felt weird and awkward to me. Maybe try it out with the next guy you like and just get used to trying something new. I am sure hooking up was strange for you when the idea first came into play.
~Sherah
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A lot of people go through this. You just aren't interested. You get bored easily. You need to set your priorities & see what you really want. If you are truly interested in him as a boyfriend, you won't become bored so fast. Try being his friend first though & see how it goes from there. A lot of people go for the chase & once that's over, they move on. Don't think too much about it though. You should give him a chance as your friend & talk to him about it.
-hope that helped!♥
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