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don't know what to do ......:(
I've been with my boyfriend for like 1 year and sometimes I just can't stand it. I'm just so jealous. everytime I see his ex girlfriend, I get jealous. she is super gorgeous and cute like a kid and he's a kid at heart and I can see why they went out. I'm so jealous of the relationship they had. but sometimes I still feel like he doesn't love me like he says he do. when I think about it,I just feel so heartbroken and lonely. I can't break up with him cuz I love him. I just don't know what to do anymore.
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He is just using you. If he cheats on you now,he will cheat on you after you get married. You shouldn't date anyone unless you are willing to marry them. YOU may think this sounds old fashioned but you should just be friends with a guy and not date alone. Then,if you both fall in love then get married and have sex. If I had it to do all over again, I would have never gone out with a boy alone. A lot of boys take advantage of girls. The best thing to do is take a friend with you. That way you won't have to worry about what he might do. The bible says to abstain from sex before you are married. It can mess up your marraige if you don't follow the rules of the bible. Take my advice. You'll have to answer to God one day.
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Sounds to me that you feel very threatened by his X girlfriend. This does place a major facotr on your own personal self esteem issues. Do you feel as if their is some kind of competition between you and his X? Often times we feel overwelmed by being faced with actually knowing or seeing someones X. It does bring alot of self doubt, and you find youself asking, why is he with me? Communication and honesty is a must. I think that you feelings of lonelyness and heartbreat are based on your fears that your boyfriend is still interested or still may have some feelings for his X. This is actually very common with alot of people, so do not feel alone on this issue. I can tell you this all relationships are different for every couple. Do not compair what you have with your boyfriend to anything your boyfriend and your X had. They will differ almost always. Dont base your feelings on those kinds of past issues. When he says he loves you, but you dont feel as if he really does love you, I am almost sure that he does love you. The thing about all loves is that they are differant and can feel differant. You can have a love for your animal, you can love somene as a friend, you can love a favorite food. All variations of love, they are all true but on what level. I will make a suggestion, pretend like you know nothing of his X, what she looks like etc. Take all that knowledge and information and put it aside. Then look at what you and your boyfriend have without the X comming into play at all. I will also tell you this, you will never feel truely loved by anyone until you love yourself first. Work on what you have and dont fear the whats IFS. The what if questions will kill any good relationship when you cant let something go. It will drive a person to leave, or do something dumb. I hope this helps and I wish you the best of luck.
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These feelings are not good. It is normal to get jealous of past relationships. But to focus on them constantly and bring yourself down is not good. You say you feel alone and that you feel heartbroken. You need to ask yourself some serious questions. Why do you feel like you don't measure up to his ex girlfriend? Why do you think he is dating you? Why do you feel he doesn't love you? I am just curious why you are so insecure about your relationship. Has he ever cheated on you? Have you ever cheated on him? Has he ever lied to you about something serious? Have you ever keep serious secrets from him? These issues can cause a major rift in your relationship. You need to try and figure out what parts of your relationship have caused you to feel this way. Think back to how you guys met. What was it about him that made you guys start this relationship? And also, talk to him about it. Let him know that you are having issues. Communication and honesty are very important! His input will help you feel less alone and will also help you understand how he is feeling. Maybe he feels the same way in some areas of your guys relationship! Write me back and let me know if you need anymore advice!
PS:) Sorry that you rated a one. Truth hurts hun so good luck with your jealousy issues. Don't ask for honest advice and expect people to say what you want to hear. That is what bugs me about people like you. You rate by what you want to hear, not by what advice is truly GOOD advice. I've been through A LOT more in my life than you ever will endure, so I have way more experience in this department. I am not going to answer your question like all the other people that you rated a five soley based on their similar answers of "your pretty, your this, your that..." If you honestly need people that you don't know to make you feel better about yourself then that is retarded.
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There is no reason for you to be jealous. If I were you, I'd make sure my relationship was 10 times better than what he had with the other girl.
Honestly, if this is how you feel, jealous and alone, then you need to make sure you are everything and more of what his ex is. Obviously he thinks you're better if you've been together for about a year. If anyone should be jealous, it should be her because he has you.
Don't be jealous, jealousy only makes things much worse and she's not worth your time.
If you think she's "cute", tell yourself that your cuter, and know it. If you think she's pretty, tell yourself your prettier and embrace that. Don't let an ex ruin you.
Do fun activites, like have him come over and play some fun board games and pop some popcorn and watch a movie. Or plan a movie with him and look absolutely cute. Just have fun and I can guarantee that he'll think your 20 times the girl she was.
I hope this helped!
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