I like fairies (thus why I am wearing fairy wings in the picture). Good grammar rocks, too. It doesn't have to be perfect but I get frustrated when people completely disregard it. I like every color except pink. I hate the wind. Sometimes, I carry around a little teddy bear I found at an antique store. His name is Robert. I dress very eccentrically. It's not unusual for me to wear a prairie dress one day and a Mod dress (think Austin powers) the next. I don't dye my hair, or wear much make-up. I think it's sad that no one puts any emphasis on natural beauty anymore. I think it's a good thing to be open and educated about sex and other issues that are considered taboo. I have a hard time seeing where homophobics are coming from.
Basically, I'm just some weird teenager in Arizona. If I haven't scared you off already, feel free to drop me a line. -Danielle
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my mom really pisses me off. She always says something and then denies saying it. A few weeks ago she said I could get whatever I wanted for my graduation present, as long as its not too expensive(meaning over about 3$00 or so). I finally found what I want. A digital Camera. I showed her the webpage and now shes saying that she never said I could get a graduation present, when i KNOW she did! it makes me so f*kin mad! (sorry for the language) What should I do? (link)
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The tape recorder thing mentioned earlier sounds like a good idea. Just try to do it so she doesn't see it...haha. Another good thing would be to wait until she does it again. As soon as she does it be like, don't say stuff like that mom. You'll only deny it later. Call her on her BS as soon as you realize she's starting it, because it's obviously not effective to do it once she's actually denying it. When I was 13 my dad would start fights with me and manipulate me a lot. He would get really intimdating and it wasn't until I was 15 that I started standing up to him, but that actually made him stop afer a while! If you show your mom you're onto her and show her you can keep up with her, maybe she'll realize that you're not a baby she can toy with anymore. Good luck!
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hey, im a pretty small girl lets say about 90 pounds. im 13 and by no means am i anorexic or bulimic. everything on my bbody is fine and proportionate with my body size .. expept my thighs. my lowe legs are fine its just that when you go half way up my thigh the bottom part is fine and the top is huge. its mostly on my inner thighs at the top half but its a little on my outer too. if there anything that i can do to reduce the flabb there? (link)
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Losing inner thigh "flab" is about one of the hardest things to get rid of. For example, my boyfriend eats extremely healthy food and has been a cross country runner for at least a few years, and he just this year lost all of that inner thigh.... and that's with miles and miles of running almost every week. I would say you pretty much just have to run a lot since you begin to drop weight everywhere when you do, but don't expect quick results.
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I have had what seems like a blister, sore,boil on my labia. It hasn't really gotten any worse. It hasn't really drained or crusted or anything like that. Doesn't even itch. It's only sore now cause i tried to pop it. Any idea what this is? It showed up right after my mestral cycle. Please help. I don't have insurance so i can't go to the doctor and i am not sure what to do. I'm freaking out cause it could be a STD, but it's not following the symptoms of herpes.
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Go to Planned Parenthood and get tested and a consultatation. I think if you express a need for financial help it will be worlds cheaper than going to a doctor. When it is a question of your health, it should become top priority. Try to save money to take care of yourself and try to cut down spending on other aspects... because sometimes those things can get really bad when they're not checked out, and then you'll really be wishing you had saved up that money.
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I was wondering if any good concerts are coming up.
My taste, The thunderbirds are now, Art brute,the pixies, ween,the new pornographers, the residents,b-52s, sonic youth , wesley willis, oh yes richard cheese.... those are a few thank you
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Umm...well, it kind of depends on where you live. If you lived in the LA area, good concerts are always coming up, but if you live in, say, Wyoming, you're shit out of luck probably. Why don't you google the bands you like and see if and to where they're touring? Also, google for venues in your area and look at the venue calender. They will most likely at least have a list of who is playing..
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My teacher at school really gets on my nerves. For one thing he always asks me why I'm late to class when there always the same kids that are late before me, so why doesn't he harass them. Also, my boyfriend walked me to class and I gave him a hug. As you can guess he was all over me on that to. I see people doing a lot worse than that at my school. If anyone can tell me how to get this guy off my ass it will be much appreciated. for any advice I'll rate. Please hep me!!! (link)
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Wait, I'm a little confused. If there are people who are late to class BEFORE you, as in they get there before you do, how would you even know whether he gives them shit? You weren't there to see it, is what you implied. If I misread that, then you should have written it a bit more clearly.
He harrasses you because it's really not that hard to be on time to class. Maybe I'm a square, but why don't you just make it easier for the both of you and come to class on time? I know that's not what you want to hear, and you'll probably give me a 1, boo hoo. But it's kind of stupid to bitch and moan about someone pulling your chain when you could so easily fix it yourself. You're just too stubborn to admit you could help change this because you want control over that teacher. Trust me, that teacher has been through more than you could ever imagine at your age (or mine) and is smarter than you think. Why don't you just give the poor guy the benefit of the doubt, stop being a snotty nosed little brat, and go to class on time? Maybe he'd be able to respect you and your little boy toy's huggy time a bit more if you showed him a bit of respect back. :)
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Why is sex a sin? I know that its not a sin if your jewish, so why is it when your cathlic? (link)
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I'm pretty sure it's a sin if you're Jewish OR Catholic. Here's the thing. Catholicism is a very guilt based religion. Many organized religions are based off of depriving oneself of pleasure. The religions basically guilt trip people if they indulge in pleasure too much. I think it's BS.. sure, people cross the line with sex and then I suppose if you believe in all that sin stuff it would go into "sin" territory, but the act of sex itself with good intentions and the privilege not abused is not a sin at all. It brings enjoyment to our lives and helps us to express love, and most of all enables us to procreate! I think people who worship a God who would be stupid enough to create sex and then tell us that all of it is a sin are wasting their lives on something that's not worth it...because that would be one hypocritical god.
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so i really liked or maybe liked this guy, and my best friend now likes him too. she knows im like in love with him, but shes putting in her profile, mikey i love you, in pig latin thinking i wont be able to understand it.. mike said he would never go out with her and i heard she was telling him not to go out with me and to go out with her.. and i know he doesnt want a gf right now. what am i supposed to do if they do go out? (link)
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Act detatched. If he says he doesn't want a girlfriend, then your friend putting the moves on him all of the time will start to annoy him and push him away. That way, when he does decide he wants a girlfriend, he will be less likely to choose her because she was making such a fool of herself. Just try to be a good friend to him without getting in his way too much and see what happens.
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ok this is kinda gross but yesterday when i got home from school i had to go to the bathroom really bad and i was kinda constipated.. and then when i wiped there was really little blood..but then when i went to sleep, on my underwear was a lot of brown..so idk if it's my period or what ? it didnt really look like it, idk though
could it of been my period or no?
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Yes, you got your period. What comes out doesn't always have to be bright red like the blood you see on a cut. Many times it's a browner substance instead. I suggest investing in some midol and pads, as well as learning how to use tampons. Tampons make life sooo much easier. You could also check this site out. www.divacup.com (It's supposedly a much healthier alternative to tampons and about as easy to use)
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A friend of mine told me that she heard that if you have a light period, then you will have a harder time becoming pregnant when you are trying to conceive! So if your period lasts for 2 days while other girls have it for 7 days, you will have more trouble becoming pregnant! Does anyone know if this is true, or is it just some kind of a myth? Just wondering... I thought it was kind of interesting. (link)
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I'm almost positive that's a myth. There are so many factors that contribute to fertility... like overall health and genetics. For instance, I'm sure a young girl with light periods is much more likely to become pregnant than a 40 year old chain smoking, coffee addicted woman. It really all just depends on the individual woman, but light/heavy periods probably have little to nothing to do with it.
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i have a girlfriend and we have done smooches and physical contacts. but she isnt ready to do sex. tell me what shud i do to make her do so with me?????? (link)
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Buy her a vacuum cleaner.
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THIS IS NOT A QUESTION OF FAITH
I have considered myself asnostic for a few years now. I have faith more in the people I know and everyone, then some silly religion with it's own agenda. I also believe in a greater god, but mostly for comfort, to hate, and to thank. Anywho, this coming fall I am going to have to make a decision of getting confirmed by the Catholic Church. I am not so sure that I should do it. I know that it would make my mom happy, but I feel like I am just flat out disrespecting Catholicism to follow their ways even though I don't believe it. I don't really care if I am found out, I am not like an in-your-face religion hater, but still, it would kill my mom. So, my question is, should go through with it for my mom, or not?
THIS IS NOT A QUESTION OF FAITH, I DON'T BELIEVE IN CHRISTIANITY, PLEASE TO NOT TELL ME OF THE GLORIES OF HEAVAN, JESUS, AND WHAT NOT (link)
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I was baptised Catholic when I was small and had my first communion and all of that, so I had the choice to be confirmed. I, like you, am not a huge fan of organized religion. I started to feel that way sometime soon after I went into my adolescence.
I would say to not bother doing it. You'd basically be living a lie. By letting yourself get confirmed, you're wasting your time and everyone else whose involved's time if you simply just don't believe in Catholicism. It's an insult to yourself to go against your beliefs like that, and it's an insult to them whether they are aware or not.
Just try to be gentle about it with your mom. Sit her down and tell her that you know it would make her really happy if you did this, but that your heart just isn't in it and you feel you are old enough to decide for yourself now. Hopefully she'll understand.
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okay i am in a new relationship with this guy that i have known for about half a year and we work together and we just started dating, officialy. wed been on a few dates before and all but anyways i was just wondering i know us girls seem to think about guys like crazy! haha but i was just wondering do guys think about us girls as much as we think about them? im just curious if he ever thinks of me too. lol. i know i sound dumb haha but opinions are great. question is do guys think about their girls as much as we think about them? (link)
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It really depends on the person. I know some guys who think a lot about girls, and others, not at all. Similarly, I know girls who think about guys a lot and girls who hardly think of them.
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Okay, so I was dating this girl and we were makin' out and stuff and she took off her pants and I looked "down there" and there was nothing. No hair at all.
Is she a slut? am I goin' to get warts or HIV or somthing?
I rate 5s (link)
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Something like hair does not determine if someone is a slut... that's silly. It's just personal preference.
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If this is a song.. name it for me i'm dying to know what it is..
"I'll carve your name in my bullet, so you'll be the last thing that goes through my head"
Please and thanks in advance (link)
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It sounds like that Fall out boy song... sugar we're going down. I can't be sure though because the singer really sounds like he has marbles in his mouth...so all I can really get out of it is "bullets." haha
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ok well i'm in 8th grade and for the end of the year trip we're going to a waterpark and like i wanna wear a bikini but i'll be soo self conscious in it. i'm like 5'5" and about 102 pounds or around there but i really wanna gain a few more pounds because my ribs like stick out and it looks weird. i'm not like super skinny and i mean, i eat, like A LOT. lol but i like don't gain weight. soo my question is, what can i do to gain maybe like 3-5 pounds by june? but healthy. thanksss. (link)
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Go to your doctor and make sure you don't have a problem with your lymph nodes...(what regulates your metabolism). I have an extremely skinny friend who is on meds for it. He/she can tell you the healthiest way to gain weight, even if you don't want or don't have to take medication for it.
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I'm 15 and and overweight for my size/age. I weight about 150 at 5'8.
Anyways, I got my period (and breasts) in about grade 7. I wore a sports bra from grades 7-8, and a regular bra from grade 9 to 10 (current).
At night of course I don't wear one, or if I'm home alone.
My breasts seem to hang down a lot, as if they have absolutely no support. They aren't up and perky like pictures I've seen, and when I asked my friends they told me that theirs were as well (one of my friends even showed me). What exactly is wrong with mine, why are they so droopy? They are only 34B, so it's not like they are huge or anything. How do I fix them? I just want them to look normal. (link)
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HAHA... that first person has no idea what they're talking about. I'm actually underweight and have droopier boobs than most people my age, too. It's a little disconcerting sometimes... I'm a 34C, which I suppose could be considered large, but I've seen D's without implants whose boobs are still way perky. It could be genetics, or it could have been something I did wrong. Maybe I didn't wear enough support early on...whatever it is, it doesn't matter now. I will say this though. Despite my insecurities about my breasts, no one has ever insulted them... whether it was a friend of mine or a boyfriend. They actually think it's cool that they look a little different from the average teenager's looking-up-at-the-sky's boobs. There's really not much you can do (unless you want to drop a bunch of $$ on plastic surgery, which is a total waste of time in my opinion) except just try to learn to love yourself. Realize that this is what you're going to have and that worrying won't change it. You could always look at the bright side of it, too, which is what I tend to do. I remind myself "well at least my boobs aren't terribly small or terribly big"...which I think would pose a worse problem... I'd rather not have back problems because of a large chest, thank you very much. Good luck with everything.
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Hey, so i've been going out with my boyfriend for about 8 months and we just recently have becoming open with each other and talking about our past relationships and what we have done with people, and i'll admit i hav hookedup wit a decent amount of people..and whenever i mention a guys name he asked me if i have hookedup wit them..and i keep telling him what happened and i think he gets uncomfortable..so when he asks if ive' hooked up wit a guy next time i mention a guys name, shud i just say no or tell him truth, i do think honesty is the best policy but it seems to be making him more upset..so what shud i do? (link)
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You don't necessarily have to lie.. but first of all, you should just ask him. See how he feels...and if you're right... then you don't have to go into graphic detail about what you've done with each guy. You could just say..yeah I kissed him once.. but that doesn't matter now because I am with you and happy with you... maybe he just needs reassurance that he's just not another guy on the list. (obviously he's not if you've been with him for 8 months but being reminded can be nice).
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i hate my body. i feel so out of place around my friends, my 2 bestfriends have big boobs like b and c, i can barely fit into an A, and my 16th birthday is in 2 weeks, summer is coming and i will look so stupid in a bathing suit, a padded bra will do something in a shirt but not in a bathing suit, i dont want people talking about me, my self confidence is low enough, i dont know what to do (link)
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I have friends that are really flat who, despite that, still get a lot of compliments about their looks and guys who like them. Some guys actually prefer less of a chest! It's normal to not be so comfortable with your body but there's no reason to be so stressed out... no one's going to be truly grossed out or offended by your smaller than average chest, and if they are, they're not your real friends anyway. If you still are really worried about it by the time summer comes around, you could always wear a shirt over your swim suit and say it's because you burn really easily. Hang in there, being small won't always be seem so horrible, not to mention you still have time to grow. ;)
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This question has been asked alot, but mine's a bit different. I need a dress for my 8th grade dance, it needs to be nice, somewhat dressy, bun not like, dressy dressy like a prom or anything.. if that makes sense =\
Any websites with cute AND affordable dresses? (link)
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Here are dresses at one prom web site for under $100. I know you said you don't want too dressy, but some of these dresses really are more semi formal, especially since they're cheaper than the average prom dress. Not to mention... semiformal dresses can definitely be worn to more than just an 8th grade formal, so even if you splurge a little bit and spend, say, $90, you'll probably still get good use out of it.
http://www.promgirl.com/shop/dresses/promdresses-under-100
This is my personal favorite, and they have it in about 4 different colors: http://www.promgirl.com/shop/dresses/viewitem-KT160737
Also, department stores can carry some pretty cheap dresses (unless you're going somewhere like Neiman's...but mostly I mean Macy's or something of that nature).
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Ok. I have REALLY straight hair. How can I get like curls, (preferably like bigger curls to make my hair just look wavy).
Preferably people who have the same type of hair, but I'm willing to hear any ideas at this point. (link)
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Whenever my friend curls my hair (since I don't do it enough to know how to do it myself) she puts a lot of gel and hair spray on the section she is about to curl and then puts the roller in. It takes forever but it also makes it stay...which is somewhat of a miracle for how heavy and thick and straight my hair is. To get it to be just wavy...maybe you could do that with a little less gel and hair spray and leave the roller in for not as long...
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