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Hey, so i've been going out with my boyfriend for about 8 months and we just recently have becoming open with each other and talking about our past relationships and what we have done with people, and i'll admit i hav hookedup wit a decent amount of people..and whenever i mention a guys name he asked me if i have hookedup wit them..and i keep telling him what happened and i think he gets uncomfortable..so when he asks if ive' hooked up wit a guy next time i mention a guys name, shud i just say no or tell him truth, i do think honesty is the best policy but it seems to be making him more upset..so what shud i do?
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Honesty is the best policy, but honesty doesn't mean full disclosure. Don't give him the gory details. They are none of his business. The details of any of your 'hookups' are only important to you and the person you were with.
Beyond that you might want to tell him you rather not talk about it because it is clearly making him upset. Talking through the issue might be all you need to do for him to realize he is being silly obsessing about the past. He is the one you want, those other guys are behind you.
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Hey i would keep telling him i mean he nows hes not the first one. if he cant handle the truth then thats his problem but make sure you reassure him that he's your boyfriend now and your not gonna cheat on him or do anything that he doesnt want you to..like make him feel comfortable with you
hope you feel better
-tawny
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If he can't handle the truth, he shouldn't ask.
That's what you should tell him.
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He'd be more upset if he found out you were fibbing.
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You don't necessarily have to lie.. but first of all, you should just ask him. See how he feels...and if you're right... then you don't have to go into graphic detail about what you've done with each guy. You could just say..yeah I kissed him once.. but that doesn't matter now because I am with you and happy with you... maybe he just needs reassurance that he's just not another guy on the list. (obviously he's not if you've been with him for 8 months but being reminded can be nice).
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