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ugh my mom pisses me off
my mom really pisses me off. She always says something and then denies saying it. A few weeks ago she said I could get whatever I wanted for my graduation present, as long as its not too expensive(meaning over about 3$00 or so). I finally found what I want. A digital Camera. I showed her the webpage and now shes saying that she never said I could get a graduation present, when i KNOW she did! it makes me so f*kin mad! (sorry for the language) What should I do?
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The tape recorder thing mentioned earlier sounds like a good idea. Just try to do it so she doesn't see it...haha. Another good thing would be to wait until she does it again. As soon as she does it be like, don't say stuff like that mom. You'll only deny it later. Call her on her BS as soon as you realize she's starting it, because it's obviously not effective to do it once she's actually denying it. When I was 13 my dad would start fights with me and manipulate me a lot. He would get really intimdating and it wasn't until I was 15 that I started standing up to him, but that actually made him stop afer a while! If you show your mom you're onto her and show her you can keep up with her, maybe she'll realize that you're not a baby she can toy with anymore. Good luck!
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My mom does the exact same thing, and boy does it really piss me off too. She lies often then dennys it (I do the same thing, probably where I got it from) Im about ready to buy a tape recorder and seriously record what she says. I've already tryed talking to my mom and dad about it but he never brings it up again and my mom keeps doing it. But seriously, try the tape recorder thing. Maybe it'll open her eyes to how much she does lie.
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That sucks big time. I've never gone through this, but I know of some parents who do these kinds of things to their kids. Some suggestions are:
Giving her a taste of her own medicine--Basically do the same thing too. But I'll warn you that I can't guarentee such perfect results. But being the person that I am, it's probably what I would do. Just do the same back. Say you're going to do something and then say "I never said that". It might not be a good choice, but honestly, its would I would do.
You can also sit down and talk to her and explain what she's doing and talk to her about it. Get her when you're both in a good mood and then say "Hey mom, I really need to talk to you." and just CALMLY explain how you feel. Other than that, theres not much you can do but I hope in the end everything works out for you.
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I know how you feel. I have the same problem. It sucks doesn't it? Well, there isn't much you can do, because most likely your mom won't quit her habit of denying what she says.
Here are two choices that I think would be the best things to do. You'll have to choose what you think will suit you better.
1. You could sit down with your mom & tell her that you were 100% sure she said that you could get a present. Explain to her that all of your other friends are getting gifts (even if they arn't) so it would only be fair for you to get a little treat. Tell her this is a huge event in your life & it would be nice to be rewarded. Just open up to her, but don't push the topic so much or beg, because that will just make her even more angry.
2. Ask your dad or another family member to get you a present. I'm sure atleast one person in your family would agree to get you a gift, even if it wasn't what you were looking for. But if you feel uncomfortable asking someone to buy you a gift, then purchase it yourself. If you don't have the cash you could always walk dogs, baby sit, or have a bake sale to earn the money.
Maybe your mom is really getting you a present, but she wanted it to be a surprise so she just said she's not getting you one. It may be unlikely but you never know. :)
Hope I helped, & if you want me to explain anything with more detail, just ask away. :)
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My mum does that as well, it gets me so angry, just like you, I'm not really sure what you should do, but maybe if whenever you want to ask your parents important questions like "can i go to ..... etc.?', make sure you have a friend or relative with in the room. I think a relative is better because if it was a friend then if your parents deny it and a friend says that your mum did say it, then your mum might not believe your friend. So make sure you have a relative with you.
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You should tell her to write it down like a "contract". So when she denies it you could show her, and make her sign it.
Good luck!
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Yeah, both my parents tend to do that too. : P I don't think there's much really you can do about it.. just like either have a witness around or get some things she says in writing or something like that hahah.
Any other questions, feel free to inbox them. ~Andrew
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