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My friends have always said I've been good at giving advice, so I'm trying this so i can help more people. Dont get mad if I'm bad at this pleease. =Plittle info:
age: 16
sex: male
grade: junior
sign: aquarius
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my mom really pisses me off. She always says something and then denies saying it. A few weeks ago she said I could get whatever I wanted for my graduation present, as long as its not too expensive(meaning over about 3$00 or so). I finally found what I want. A digital Camera. I showed her the webpage and now shes saying that she never said I could get a graduation present, when i KNOW she did! it makes me so f*kin mad! (sorry for the language) What should I do?
Yeah, both my parents tend to do that too. : P I don't think there's much really you can do about it.. just like either have a witness around or get some things she says in writing or something like that hahah.
Any other questions, feel free to inbox them. ~Andrew
i need help!!!!!it was just recently my birthday and my boyfriend got me the most beautiful gift. soon it will be his birthday and im not sure on what to get him because im not really sure what a good gift for a guy would be. i love him so much and i just want it to be perfect. any ideas? they are very much appreciated.
Well cologne usually isa good idea for guys.. especially one that you really like & picked out for him. or some sort of scrapbook/project thing that could be more personal? or just frame a favorite picture of you two.
Any more questions or anything, leave it in my inbox please. hope i helped! ~Andrew
does anyone know any good workout that will shape my whole body in like 2 weeks i want to go from 150 pounds to 110 by summer and i need good workout ideas, for my thighs,stomach,arms,back. please help ill rate 5's
I'm sorry, but that is definately not really smart. Losing 40 lbs in 2 weeks will not only torture your body, but you'll most likely gain it back just as fast, if not faster. Even if you eat & excersize a little better than you did before the two weeks.
But If you want to thin down/tone up, drink a lot of water, eat salads/vegatables whenever you can, and keep your diet consistent. Eat a bunch of small meals throughout the day instead of a few big ones. Don't eat for about 3 hours before you go to bed. Carbs, like breads, = bad. A little is fine, but too many will make you gain weight bad. Eat something in the morning to start your metabolism.
Oh and lift weights too. Not like bodybuilder type things though. Just do small weights, but do more of them until you're tired out, It'll tone you up more than build bulky muscle.
Sorry this is a little long, but if you have any other questions, feel free to ask. i'll try and be more brief if you want. : P
~Andrew
ok well i like this guy alot and were friends and my friends think he likes me. my one friend says whenver she says my name in english[thy guy i like sits behind her] she says his head like turns like he wants to hear my name. then my other friend says that when i talk to her in social he always stares at me. i really like him and i want him to like me back but i dont know how to find out are thyre like signs or should i have my friend ask him who he likes. please help ill rate 5's.
Hm.. well if he actually does those things, then I'd say he probably does like you. But I'd say if you really want to know, the best ways to see if he does like you are to either:
A) Tell him you like him yourself. This is definately the most straightforword.. and if he's intimidated, it might not even give youa straight answer right away. but most guys actually like it when the girl makes the first move.
B) Yeah, get your friend to ask him. You might be better off getting a friend that he won't suspect is asking so they can report back to you.
Any more questions or anything, feel free to leave them in my inbox. : ) ~Andrew
I like to act, but I forget my lines sometimes! But I am good at not breaking character and putting emotion into the plays! Should I?
You should most definately be in one. If you like to act, even whether you're good at it or not, you should always tryout. If you're not that good at memorizing lines, then start out asking for characters that don't have too many. you'll eventually get better at it, and be able to improvise more and more the better you know the scenes in plays too.
any more questions or anything, leave it in my inbox! Hope I helped. ~Andrew
my subject basically says it all.
Does anyone know what foods to eat when you're trying to eat healthy and need to eat stuff that increases your metabolism? I've heard grape fruit and green tea, but what more?
Well, apart from certain foods, excersizing and how you plan your meals regulate your metabolism too. A good amount of excersize, and more regular, small meals throughout the day increase your metabolism, as opposed to a few big meals.
As far as what foods, there aren't really any that specifically increase your metabolism, sorry. Some foods require more energy to break down, which could result in it, but.. theres a 'catabolic diet' that has mainly those foods, you can do a google on that if you'd like.
hope i helped.. any more questions, feel free to leave it in my inbox! ~Andrew
Okay, so there's this guy, he is SO cute, we've been friends all this year. And I fell in love with our friendship.
Silly as it sounds. But I like him, ALOT! He sometimes calls me at night, and one time, he wanted to meet me at the mall and watch a movie. (May I add, he doesn't know I like him.)
Okay, during school, my very close friend, talks about my crush ALL THE TIME. It kind of bothers me cause she says all this stuff like, "Oh, he keeps poking me in the arm, and told me it was a 'Love Tap'" I got pretty sad when she told me this. (Also, may I add, I told her I liked him before she even told me this.)
Last night, she told me that she 'kind of' likes my crush! To be honest, I wasn't surprised since she made is OBVIOUS!
But the problem is, she's ALOT prettier then me. She went out with more guys then I have. And most guys ask her out and everything. I'm just scared that maybe my crush might fall for her, and forget about me. I'm just scared if he DOES ask her out, that she's going to say yes.
I don't know what to do. My crush doesn't know I like him, and my friend likes him. I don't know what to tell my friend how I feel about this. I don't want to ruin our friendship. But it's really killing me. It gets me really mad, knowing that ALL the guys I thought is cute, or had a crush on, she happen to like them as well.
I don't know what to do anymore. Please help.
Sorry for this to be so long. But I need advice.
Thanks, I rate high! =]
Ok, well.. unless you want to have to just deal with it, you probably have to talk to one of them.
Your best bet to get to the point would be to talk to him.. let him know you like him, either by straight out telling him, or flirting more with him. Just be careful, if your friend comes off a little stronger, which from what you said, it seems like she does.
Or, you could talk to her.. let her know that its bothering you how much it seems like she steals away the guys you like, and that you really care about this guy, to maybe just let you try and have something with him first. She should understand.
Any more questions, feel free to leave it in my inbox. ~Andrew
well i need major help
-i don't know what to do because my parents dont except me and i dont kn ow how to make them
-i have been grounded for 3 weeks because i didnt go to tutoring and they did it purposely to ruin my social life
-they even told me that they were taking my social life away.
-my friends are starting to know
-i feel like someone could shoot me and no one would care
-i used to hate school and love to come home, but now i would rather be anywhere than at home
-my mom makes me tell her about my feelings and then she goes and tells all of her friends
-i cant trust anyone now, not even my parents
-how can i make my life just a little better?
i will rate high and i need answers soon!
xXxheartbrokenxXx
Well.. honestly, what you're going through, at least about 90% of teenagers go through. I say you should try and talk to your parents, especially if you even used to like coming home to your family. but don't get too discouraged if you still don't get anywhere.
Just remember that while your problems aren't unimportant, because to you i know they are, they're things that most everybody goes through. You're not alone, or nearly alone in feeling this way, really. About your mom making you tell her things.. telling her things will help open things up between you. but tell her that it bothers you when she tells other people about it. your problems are yours, and you can share them with who you want, not for her to share as she wants.
If you want to make your life better.. just do things that make you feel good. remember to still do your schoolwork and that, but either have fun with friends, or, when you're grounded, do some hobbies.. draw, write, listen/sing to music, make music, make models.. just find something to keep you entertained and occupied. at the least it takes your mind off of the bad things.
~Andrew
i am a 15year old vergin and my period have suddenly stop.the last i saw it was in january.i would like to why and how can i bring it back.
Hmm.. well this isn't exactly my forte, but I did some research on it for you. =P
Well. if you're sure you're not pregnant, which can happen even if you havent quite "had sex", but you've still done stuff.. then theres a couple different things that could be happening.
One problem could be stress.. but if you've been missing it for about 2 or 3 months, its probably something other than that. What's apparently going on is your ovulating regularly.. which could be the result of weight change, heavy excersize, or especially if you're taking some sort of medication.
I've looked at a couple sites and they've all said that if you miss more than at least 3 periods, you should talk to your doctor.. its very possible its not serious, and could fix itself, but if you miss your 4th too, i'd probably get it checked out.
Sorry if this is too long. : P
What do you get a guy thats like obsessed with dirtbikes for valentines day? were going out but im shy around him and i dont think hes getting me anything but i want to get him something, so help please. nothing too cheesy.
well first off, if you're going out, and he's not getting you something for valentine's day, then theres something wrong with that boy's head. =P sorry, but yeah. but dirtbikes isnt exactly valentines day stuff, you could give him like a little part that he needs or something like that. you could probably also give him some traditional v-day stuff though, it still shows you care whether its cheesy or not. =P
well my mom and her boyfriend got in this huge fight like and it started to get physical and like it was really bad because my mom was crying and like my mom b/f just like did it right in front of me and i just thought it was the most horrible thing that anybody has done to her. then i told my frined what was wrong because she asked me and she told the counselor but she didnt use my name and the counselor said that i should talk to her but i/m not sure if i should. so is it a good idea?
i think it is a good idea. if your mom is in an abusive relationship, or even if it was only once, then you both need to talk about it. she should either get out of the relationship or get help, because if he is abusive or can be at times, then its no good at all for her, or you, especially if he does it in front of you.
well um i cut my self once or twice and i am really depressed today and i did not cut myself yet but i want to but i know its bad and i need another way to help. because i am so lost i just don't know what to do. thanks
well first off, please don't cut yourself again, at all. anytime you're feeling bad just think about the good things in your life, or if for some reason you can't, find another outlet. what works for me is to go listen to music, sing/scream along to it, get all your energy out. it's best to find music and lyrics that fit how you're feeling and why you're angry or depressed. if that doesn't work, just lie down, breathe, and try to go to sleep. you'll most likely feel better when you wake up. but cutting is not a good way to deal with things, it's just a quick fix that you'll regret a lot after you do it, or even while you're doing it. it helps some pain now but brings a lot more in other ways, and it hurts other people too, that really care about you.
I've always been super shy. I don't really talk to anyone ever. Usually when I'm around my boyfriend I really open up and talk to him. But lately I guess I've started getting kinda shy around him and I really don't know why. Is there anything I can do to help me get over this stupid shyness?
it might be hard at first, but pretty much just stop caring what other people think of you. worrying about what other people think of you is a big reason as to why people get shy and don't say things that they want to. be more outgoing and say stuff when you usually wouldn't, and people will find you more outgoing so it'll be easier to open up more.
my mom and her b/f fight constantly and to me i dont see the point of even living w/ her cuz its the same as it was when i was younger. Plus i HATE my moms b/f im not really sure why but i always get this feeling like i should hate him and i've had that feeling every since i met him 5 years ago. should i confront him about it or try to find away to ease that feeling?
-depressed
i guess one answer would be to go and live with your dad, but i don't know if you'd be able to or if it'd be the same there. but you might have the feeling that you should hate your mom's boyfriend because it's like he's trying to be your new dad, trying to take your real dad's place. but he really isnt, he just wants to be able to help you like a father might, not take his place. you should never keep your feelings bottled up, you do need to talk to someone about it. if you can't to your family, then you should at least to your friends.
i have a friend that likes me but i dont exactly like him and he like touches me and i don't want him to. But he's my friend and all and i don't know how to tell him to stop so should i tell him?
well if you really don't like him that way, then you need to let him know that he should stop. if he's your friend, whether he likes you or not, he'd understand if you dont have feelings for him.
ok there's this guy who likes me but i don't like him back. He will not leave me alone no matter how much i tell him to. He's really bugging me because he always says these things that i don't like and i keep telling him to leave me alone but he just doesn't so how do i get him to stop?
well if you have a bf or a good guy friend that could go kick his ass, then ask them if they can go scare him. not necessarily go beat him up, but let him know they could and you'd get them to if need be. if that doesnt work, then you can either just basically ignore him, get someone to make it fully clear that you dont want to talk to him, let alone go out with him. if you cant ignore him or do that, then i guess just ask an adult or someone, tell them that he's really bugging you and it's becoming obnoxious, and ask them to please get him to back off. we dont want any stalkers, now do we? =P
i KNOW everyone always asks about weight loos plans and everything...so now its my turn to ask..hehehe. anyways im 15/f, 5'8 and a half and weigh 155, i want to get to 140. any advice?
thanks so much
one thing that works really well is to not eat 3 hours before you go to sleep. anything you eat between then would just turn to fat instead of get fully digested and go through your body correctly, because you'd be sleeping and it doesnt have time to got hrough your body right.
i cut myself all down my arm and i'm afraid that a teacher is going to ask me what happened now should i tell them the truth or lie?
well it all depends on how you wanna deal with it. you can either wear long sleeves for the rest of your life (not a good idea by the way) or you can let them know what happened. if its a teacher you know you can trust, go to them at a time when the two of you can talk. if you really dont think you can trust them, you could lie, but chances are they might not believe you. even if they act like they do believe you, they still might know youre lying and that shows a lot more distrust to them. it's best to find someone, hopefully an adult, that you know you can talk to, and go talk to them.
hey!
My name is Tami and i'm 13 ... i used to have a bff and i always thought that her older brother was cute. Last year we got in a fight so we arent friends anymore ... but today i saw her brother in starbucks ( i haven't seen him in like over a year). I said hey to him but either he didnt hear me or didnt know who was saying hey ... but when i was leaving her was like hey Tami omg you look so much older and did a little smerk ...
does that mean he thinks i'm hot?
thanks for the help
tami
well, it kinda depends on the kinda guy he is, like if hes a player and a flirt then it might not mean much of anything. but also if he's not so much the flirty type, then it could mean he thinks youre hot and want to talk to you more. but i think it's worth it to talk to him some more, and see if he wants to hang out. that way you can get to know him better and see if he flirts a lot and acts like he likes you. but you should be somewhat reserved, at least at first, because if he ends up not liking you and you get a huge crush on him, it could hurt a lot in the end.
ok sorry this might be long!..i will rate if you read..!!
ok i'm 16 and my boyfriend is 18...well lately weve been haveing some problems...1st off theres this girl *stacy* that he talks to and says it's his best friend well stacy's cuzin keyed my car while stacy was standing right there and it really bugged me cause stacy didnt stop her...well a couple days ago my boyfriend had called me and i told him i would call him back because i was getting in the shower...well when i got out i called him for an hour none stop and by the time i got ahold of him it was time for me to get off the phone with him...well turns out he was on the phone with Stacy..so i told him to call me back at 10 well i got tired of waiting so i called him well then at 10 the phone rings and it's this girl Molly yeah i really don't like this girl it's his "best freind" and she already caused some problems before in the realstionship thats why i don't like her anymore((she lives in maryland))((we live in georiga)) well anyways it pissed me off cause he got off the phone with me to talk to her...and said some bull crap like well i don't want anyone mad at me so i was like so you would rather have your girlfriend mad at you then her...
well he knows i don't like him talking to her or any other girls and it really herts...and then my mom was on the phone with stacy's mom ((talking about them keying my car)) well stacy's mom had told my mom that my boyfriend had gone over to stacy's house and has been calling stacy...well that really pissed me off beacuse he kept that from me and never told me...stacy's mom told my boyfriend not to come to the house or call stacy any more...but my boyfriend told me that stacy calls him...also i don't know if this will help but we do go to differnt schools and his going off to college next year
sorry that it's so long...but i just don't know what to do about all this...i will rate you for reading
it sounds like this guy might be too much of a player if he's got these girls that are all his 'best friends'. you need to talk to him and if he tells you he does things with them, then he does. if he tells you he doesn't, it's all just how much you trust him. but he might very well have these friends as just girls, and maybe even they like him. but that doesnt mean he likes them. he might only see them as friends and never really even thought about anything more with them.