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She likes the guy I like.
Okay, so there's this guy, he is SO cute, we've been friends all this year. And I fell in love with our friendship.
Silly as it sounds. But I like him, ALOT! He sometimes calls me at night, and one time, he wanted to meet me at the mall and watch a movie. (May I add, he doesn't know I like him.)
Okay, during school, my very close friend, talks about my crush ALL THE TIME. It kind of bothers me cause she says all this stuff like, "Oh, he keeps poking me in the arm, and told me it was a 'Love Tap'" I got pretty sad when she told me this. (Also, may I add, I told her I liked him before she even told me this.)
Last night, she told me that she 'kind of' likes my crush! To be honest, I wasn't surprised since she made is OBVIOUS!
But the problem is, she's ALOT prettier then me. She went out with more guys then I have. And most guys ask her out and everything. I'm just scared that maybe my crush might fall for her, and forget about me. I'm just scared if he DOES ask her out, that she's going to say yes.
I don't know what to do. My crush doesn't know I like him, and my friend likes him. I don't know what to tell my friend how I feel about this. I don't want to ruin our friendship. But it's really killing me. It gets me really mad, knowing that ALL the guys I thought is cute, or had a crush on, she happen to like them as well.
I don't know what to do anymore. Please help.
Sorry for this to be so long. But I need advice.
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a similar thing happened to a friend of mine... she would tell this girl the guys she liked and suddenly the girl would like the same guy...you should tell her how you feel and if she is a good friend she'll back off, if she doesn't, shes obviously a bad friend and you shouldnt tell her stuff anymore. i encourage you to be flirty and drop subtle hints to the boy. because you've been friends so long he may only think of you in a friendly way but with guys, when you start acting flirty around them, they start to see you in a whole different light. GOOD LUCK! hope i helped(:
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Dear Reader,
It seems to me that your friendship is already in danger. Her liking all the same guys as you is a bad trend, that could get you into serious trouble. You really just need to talk to your friend and explain how you feel. Don't beat around the bush, just be striaght forward with her. Matters of the heart are never better left unsaid.
As for your best friend being prettier then you, that is simply a matter of opinion. And even though this sounds lame, if you let yourself believe that then others will too. Besides most of the guys that I have talked to have said that looks take the back seat to good conversation and personality. I know it's easier said then done but if you take the innitiative to ask him on a date or to hang out with you sometime it will really impress him. Guys appreiciate the forwardness, and usually find it really hott. Besides you already have the upper-hand because you've built a friendship with him.
Talk to both of them, everything will work itself out from there.
What's meant to happen will happen.
~Kambrey
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This happened to me, too, (glad to know you aren't the only onr?) except the guy we both liked happened to be my best friend's boyfriend. Confusing, huh? So I told my best friend and she goes, "Him or me?" It was all I needed to decide that friends are always before guys (and, plus, I was like bestfriends/still am best friends with the dude too). Whatever you decide to do, always remember that guys come and go, but once a friend is lost, it is hard to get a friend who can take her place. Imagine how you would feel if they went out. Well, she would probably feel the same exact way if you ever went out with him. The best thing to do is forget about the guy.
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wow having your friend like the guy you like just completely sucks. but if this girl really is your friend then you should talk to her. if you tell her how you are worried that he might ask her out then she might stop talking about him. if you told her that you liked the guy before she started liking him then you should get first dibs! lol that sounds really bad, but i'm serious. if you liked him first then she shouldn't take him from you. if you just sit her down and tell her all of this she should understand. if she doesn't listen to you, then you should just continue staying friends with this guy. but don't become obbsessed and call him all the time, that could get annoying for him. oh and when your with the guy NEVER talk about your friend. you don't want him to think about her when he's with you. i know that sounds stupid, but trust me the less you talk about other girls, the more he'll think about you.
i hope you get the guy <3 Good Luck!
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I have been in this same situation many a time and am happy to give my advice from them.
In the past, i have tried different approaches and have dicovered the best way is to make sure your friend knows you like him, i know you said she knows, but tell her again. Ask her that if this guy ever asks her out, would she consider saying no. If the answer does not suit your needs. Then ask her which she prefers: her friendship with you, or a quick fling with this guy? That should get her.
I know you said that you dont want to ruin your friendship and nag or anythign, but it is the best way to go about it, the question above should stump her, and if she is worth your friendship she will choose the correct answer.
Just an add on, this guy, would you prefer him to find out you like him from rumours or through you? Just a thoguht, but if you like him enough, you will tell him you like him in THAT way but dont tell him your mate fancies him, jeep that hush!
And about the prettiness, i won a war with this friend of mine over a boy a few weeks ago, and if your guy is worth it then he will decide between you and your friend (if either) through personality, not looks.
He isn't worth it if he decides on looks and not personality and your mate isn't worth it if she puts a quick fling before your friendship.
A hint of advice on a related subject, make sure you be yourself around him, i know as it was a freindship beforehand you probably are, but dont change now.
Another pointer, he might not want to go ou twith either of you, remember, there are 2 friendships he could lose over a relationship with you or your friend.
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Ok, I am evil and bad, so keep that in mind.
It is up to him who he chooses. He has seemed to show interest in you, so get him before she even has a chance. You liked him first. You have 'dibs' so to speak. Stop telling her about him and go for him. She has all these other guys anyway, right? She didn't have to pick yours. Ask him to a movie, and then tell him you like him. You can sit back and hope that he doesn't fall for her, or you can be proactive and go after what you want.
If she gets upset. Tuff cookies. All is fair in love and war and you were there first.
Tell her to go ask her other friends who their crushes are and like them instead. If she has a chance to be with him, she will. Trust me. Been there.
But, I am evil and bad. I think you should go for him, at least you won't feel like you sat by and watched her take him.
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Try to make more plans with your crush. You should tell him how you feel.
For your friend, you should tell her you don't want to talk about him. Maybe it will make her stop or just remind her that you liked him before she did.
The thing is.. to avoid your friend liking your crush... Don't tell them anything. Once you point it out they realize they are someone they could go out with.
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Ok, well.. unless you want to have to just deal with it, you probably have to talk to one of them.
Your best bet to get to the point would be to talk to him.. let him know you like him, either by straight out telling him, or flirting more with him. Just be careful, if your friend comes off a little stronger, which from what you said, it seems like she does.
Or, you could talk to her.. let her know that its bothering you how much it seems like she steals away the guys you like, and that you really care about this guy, to maybe just let you try and have something with him first. She should understand.
Any more questions, feel free to leave it in my inbox. ~Andrew
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hhhmm this is a tough question! well if your so scared that your crush is gonna ask your friend out why dont you ask your crush out first??? and by the way the look is'nt everything that counts! and yeah i know you dont wanna do that but i really would just tell your friend that you like him A LOT and your friend only KIND OF likes him whatever :-) and maby you can just ask her if maby she could find someone else or something when she's soooo pretty thats not a problem right? and if she's really your friend she'll understand but the best thing is just ask him first and it sounds like he likes you so i dont think he'll say no!!
good luck =)
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oh my gosh! this happened to me. like... exactly. haha tell your friend that for once you want to like a guy without having her barging in on it, and you just want him to like you back. make it a deep sentimental conversation, lol. just talk to her and tell her how much it'd mean to you if she'd 'backoff' just a little bit. don't try to make it in a mean way though cause then she'll just get pissed and think you're trying to control her... that's what happened with mine. but yeah just talk to her, and eventually it'll get through her head. hope i helped :)
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