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Hi my name is Angel, that's my real name. I'm a young adult now, I've had this advice column for years, but I made another one under the name anq3l_xo when I thought I couldn't access this one. A little bit about myself. I am a student, both in college and high school. I work as a nanny part time. I want to be a lawyer when I "grow up." I believe I've done a lot of growing up in my short life. I have conquered an obsession over drugs and alcohol in the last year and a half. I'm sober now and I wouldn't trade that for the world. I'm happy now. I'm in an absolutely blessed relationship with someone that I truly care about and love with all of my heart. I have been through things that you kids have nightmares about. I have seen, heard, and witnessed a lot of things that would make full grown men cry. I believe that I am innocent now, because I don't live that old lifestyle anymore. I have a lot of experience in a lot of things, and I've always been good at shedding light on dark situations. I come from a broken family, so I have step, half whatever siblings, and I just recently reunited with my real mother after she abandoned me 10 years ago. I have amazing friends today, but it wasn't always like that. I have a wonderful boyfriend and a great relationship with him, but let me tell you, it wasn't always like that. My sister is a drug addict/ alcoholic of the worst type. She's my best friend in the entire world, and I hope this 14 year old girl doesn't have to go through what I went through. I've come to understand that I can't help her, but I can help others through advice and by being of service to people around me. I'm always here to help, leave one in my inbox on this column or my other one, or my email which is listed, and I WILL get back to you. I know what it's like to feel like nobody cares, well I care about everybody. God bless. ~Love Angel

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well i like my bf... kinda the think is i just broke up with him and hooked bak up..... and now i am having second thoughts... what do i do?

stay the hell away from him... you're just gonna end up doing the same exact thing over and over again until you learn, meet new people. You're only young once. Hope I helped -Angel

okay heres the story. my best friend cut really bad at the end of 7th grade(were in 8th now) and over that summer. the school, both friends and the administration, was aware but she never really got any kind of help. seh always carved peoples names who had hurt her or someone who was really important to her. okay this has to coem out to. shes bi so these people are girls. one was a best friend who stopped being friends with her another was a girlfriend and one is an x girlfriend. okay sorry that was kind of irrelevent. but anyway she got a lot better after this girl broke her heart. (i know you would think she would get worse) anyway she only cut maybe three times the whole school year. i stopped really worrying about it. but then in the past week she did it really bad. only me and this other girl who cuts too knows about it. before i always could see how unhappy my best friend was but this time i couldnt really understand. nothing really drastic happened and she seemed to be doing a lot better in recent months. okay heres my dilema. she siad not to tell anyone and if i did she would know it was me and not talk to me again or at least be extremely pissed. and i know shes not lying no matter how much i mean to her. now i want to get her help but i dont know how. i dont know if she can be helped with the additude she has now.
so: do i speak up and if so who should i tell?
what would be the best help to get her?
please give me any ideas. im open to anything. and dont waste youre time if youre going to be an ignorant a** like some people on this thing.

You do need to tell someone, it's better for her. She seems to have some type of depression, which isn't uncommon for people your age. When you're depressed, there are times when you just feel horrible, even if nothing's wrong. These thoughts may be due to an inbalance of a certain hormone in the brain. If it's bad enough, you're friend may even be suicidal. So if you want your friend to end up in an "accident," then keep her secret, otherwise, get help. I would reccommend a counselor, a teacher, a nurse, parent, older friend, someone she can look upto. Hope I helped, and good luck. -Angel

17/F

Ok, so I lost my virginity to my boyfriend the friday before last. I love him more than anything. But the other day he told me that a couple weeks ago he got really drunk and ended up having sex with one of our girl friends who was there. He is really truly sorry. When he told me he was crying hysterically, and kept telling me that he made a mistake. And I knew he was really sorry and felt horrible. We spent a long time crying together but eventually we got through it. He told me everything that happened, and I forgave him. We're still together, but it seems like I can't trust him the same. It's like when I'm not there, I'm scared hes going to do something again. I don't know why I feel this way when I forgave him, and we're actually better than before. How can I get myself to trust him like I did before??
Thanks to anyone who answers.

I've been through the same exact thing, exactly. There's no way that if he'll do it once he won't do it again. I'm sorry, but if you don't want to get hurt, you need to end this relationship. I'm only telling you because it's happened to me and it's really unfortunate. No matter how sorry or great or perfect he is, guys are endlessly testing their limits with their girlfriends. If you really want to jump back into the relationship, there will be no trust and you might as well put him on a leash. I hope I helped, and I hope you do the right thing. Good luck! -Angel

a guy at my school i knw him pretty well...not like BFF but like okay friend way you knw what i mean...well anywho he really likes me and i dont have the heart to say no...he wants to sit by me at lunch! i dont knw what to do im makin my friends surround me....i dont knw if i like him im not sure...how can i keep him away untill i deside

Tell him you need some space, and some time to get to know him, and that you're definitely not saying no right now. Tell him you're not sure about your feelings for him right now, he should understand, and you need to have the heart to tell him, otherwise he will get led on and eventually hurt. Hope I helped and good luck! -Angel

can u get pregnant from giving bloow jobs? swallowing sperm>? help.

never in a million years

There's this friend and she's really annoying because she's always copying me and everything I do. I get something like a shirt and then she goes and gets it and then I say something like a word that I say often and then she starts saying it. It's annoying because that's my word and she always is copying me. I try to tell her in a nice way but she's really ticking me off what do I do. How do I say it to her. Thanks Dr. Angel and you sound cool just ot let ya know.

Hey thanks for the compliment, and no problem for the advice, always here to help. I would say, let your friend know politely, but it's really not that big of a deal that she copies you, if someone copied me like that, [and sometimes it happens] I'm usually flattered. Try to ignore it, think of it as more of a compliment, and if it still really bothers you, then spend less time with the friend, or saying and doing certain things around your friend, or just talk to her, sorry if this doesn't help, but good luck anyways. -Angel

((im the one who has the friend who's mom wont let her hang out w/ me))

i did formally apologize, but she wont accept it. we're only 14 and we cant exactly sneak out easily, and i hadnt been that mean beofre either. we've tried being rebellious, but it isnt working. everyones tried talking to her mom but she wont listen.

Well if nothing will stop you, then don't let anything stop you. If you were trying as hard as you say you are, her mom would give in, if not by now, then soon. But like I said before, it really all depends on how mean you were in the past, give it some time, keep your friendship on the low, and try again. I've been through the same thing before, it's really hard, but entirely possible. Good luck.

I had to be outside today, and I used SPF 50 sunblock but I still got a bad tan. Any way to get rid of it?I don't look Loli-chan-like anymore!

I don't know if there is such thing as a bad tan, and I don't know where you have it, but I would say if it's on your face, wash your face a lot, exfoliate, etc. A tan only lasts about a week if you don't go back into the sun, so that should do it, or by then you'll be used to it. Hope I helped. -Angel

im a female 16 and me & my bf have been on & off for 2 years now we are long distance and it started out as a summer romance at the beach because my family spends the summer up there but turned into love. ok im madley in love with my boyfreind & when i talked to him the other day he said his freind came over and told him he should take this one girl he dated while we were seperated to the prom. i asked him if he was and he said he wasnt going to and he told his freind no but im kinda scared do you think hes still seeing this girl? do you think mabey he was hinting that he wanted to go to the prom and that mabey we should go? please tell me what you think.

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and if you ansewer you should go to prom with him well how how do i ask him really with out asking him flattly cuz im kinda scared just to come out and say it.

be upfront with him, if you don't like the idea of them going together, just try to hint it at him like "so you guys are going to prom together? Is there something going on that i need to know about? Would it be okay then for me to go to prom with (ex-boyfriend's name here)? How did you think I would feel about this?" this should build up your confidence about the topic, and then you could be like, "did you not wanna go with me?" something like that, but the long distance thing is really hard anyways. I'm sorry that you're going through this, but I hope my advice helps! Keep me posted! -Angel

ok, one of my best friend's mom has decided not to let her hang out with me anymore. it's about something that happend a long time ago that she just learned about. it's not that i'm a bad kid or anything, i just used to be really mean, but i've changed alot since then. my friend says she wants us to be able to hang out still but her mom wont change her mind. her mom is also getting moms of other kids in my group of friends to not let their kids hang out with me. my whole world is falling down on me because of this parent and she wont listen to anyone about thins. i dont know what to do.

That's really hard, well depending on how mean you used to be, maybe a formal apology to your friend's mom may be in order. Don't let her win, if you're not allowed to hang out with them, be rebellious, do it anyways, your friends will take part in that as well, if they don't and they don't want to hang out with you, then they're not worth it anways. It all really depends on what you did, but apologizing would definitely be a nice start. Hope I helped, keep me posted -Angel

hi i have a huge problem i feel like everytime i make chicken sadnwhiches it gets soooooo soggey..is this because i am using too much dressing or is it my chicken!?PLEASE HELP ITS MY FAVORITE MEAL!!!

Toast the bread before you do it, and it may be the dressing.. but I would reccommend toasting the bread. Hope I helped -Angel

My daughter is 15 months old. She's off her bottle now, but I can't seem to get her off of her pacifier. Does anyone have ideas to get her off her pacifier?

I wouldn't mind her keeping it, except that it is starting to pull her teeth forward.

cut the tips of the pacifiers off, all of them, she'll go to suck on one and be like "what the heck," and she'll get the concept, just remember to do it to all of them. It really works. Hope I helped -Angel

Hey guys! On my picture trail page, I can't get my pics onto the visitors page. Does anyone know how I can get them on there? I rate high for good and helpful answers. Thnx!! ♥

Go to your picture inbox and click move image, and go through that whole process.

Hey it's that girl who lost her brother.
That's pretty much my name now. Ok i came to you because u helped the most but I still need more. There's something about talking to someone you don't know that's always made me feel better. I can't stand to think of my brother inside one of those hollow graves. When did they ever get the idea to do that to people? The thing is almost my whole life I've been one of those people who wonders. But I've realized that I don't want to wonder, I want to know. Wondering's good, but if you sit on the stairs all day and wonder it's not going to do anything for you. You've gotta search out answers yourself sometimes, and I've tried. I just don't know where to turn, it's like now there's this big brick wall between me and my brother. I have this saying not seeing air doesn't keep me from breathing not seeing god doesnt keep from beliving. Now I know it's true, I know so many things that I wanted to know that I'm about up to my ears with knowlege, and I'm a smart kid. I know none of this was my fault. People talk to me like I don't know. How do they know I don't know. I know. The don't know. They say the do, but they don't not really. I'm the one who lost a big brother not anyone else. It's different for my sister, she was older than him and not really that close to him like I was. Oh, and I'd try the cookie thing but I'd probably burn the house down. It's not that I don't like my family, because I love them to death and that's more than a lot of people can say. Now I know the only thing promised in life is death. I'm afriad anybody I get close to or love is a second away from leaving the Earth, me included. Now I want to do something while I'm here. I want to make a difference, but I can't do that until I find a way to show people how much I do actually care. I don't feel sorry for myself. I've never felt sorry for myself, because I know there has to be a way I can get through this, I just need your help to get started.

This is a really tough situation, and it's hard not to worry about it. Like I said before, don't forget your brother. Death is one of those things that nobody can begin to understand. I know from experience, that going to someone's grave and talking to them actually lessens the situation. You sound like a smart girl and you know yourself better than anyone, so you do what you think is right, but I'm glad you came to me because I try really hard to help people, but my best advice is to go talk to him at his grave, because although he is dead, he is still your brother. Another thing that is hard about losing someone is the trust issue, you may never get over that, I never have, but if you love someone enough, like your family, you just need to accept that they will always be there for you. It's hard now, but later down the line you will realize that not everyone will leave you and that you just need to keep your head up. As for making a difference, do something nice for your family. Take small steps, maybe not making cookies, but plant some flowers in the yard, play board games on a certain night, (we do thursdays) your family knows how much you love your brother too. As for how much you care, go visit your brother's grave, it will make you feel better, write him a letter and give him some flowers, maybe a favorite book or movie of his, it sounds ridiculous, but I promise it will make you feel better. I really just hope you can get through this because you seem like a wonderful girl and you're very smart and I hope you follow your heart and do the right thing. Good luck sweetheart -Angel

Yeah...so my friend is staying at my house for a week because her parents are out of town. But my house is so....BORING! And the TV is broken, so that pretty much stinks. =( Any ideas what we can do??? ITS SOOOO BORING!!!! lol

13/f (both of us)

fun art projects, make up dances for songs, prank phone calls, bake cookies, play pranks on your family, plant flowers. There's plenty of things you guys could do IM me for more ideas sillyangel869 hope I helped. -Angel

Okay i want some songs for this party and i wanted to know if anybody knew any good old r&b songs.. not like oldies but in 90's.. and i want some rap music also from 90's.. i thought of alot of songs but i feel there isnt enough.. so if you can help ill rate you..Thanks in advance!

90's rap and r&b? TLC, some snoop dogg, tupac, but it depends on where you're from, if you look it up on the internet, you will find many more artists and songs than if you ask a bunch of people on an advice site, but IM me if you still need more help. Sillyangel869 -Angel

H3Y even though this question is long please don't pass it over I need help.

Im almost fourteen and my nine seventeen year old brother died about a week ago. I don't want to talk about it and my parents are trying to force me into it. I don't want to talk sometimes, I just want to forget. But theres something inside me that wont let me and thats when I get either angry or sad, but I never find myself in tears. I havn't cried since I found out he was dead. Those were tears of shock. If you were in the middle of an algerbra test and got pulled out just to be told your big brother was hit by a car you would probably cry too. I can't take this anymore. Sometimes I just want to turn him into some distant memory, and other times I want to remember him. People tell me to remember all the good times we had, but that just makes me even more sad to know that we won't ever have those times again. My parents arn't helping either. They're wanting to have another baby. They want to replace him. Plus they have allready started turning his old room into a study for my dad. MY twenty year old sister does nothing but cry and therefore gets all the sympathy. I dont ever cry so people think I dont care, but I probably care more than anybody. I know even though he's dead but not gone it still doesn't help me. I find myself always asking "What if." I can't stand "What ifs" But the one question that I have always promised I'd never ask myself is "Why me" Then I realized I shouldn't be asking why me. I wasnt the one that died. So now I am despising my sister for her constant mourning, because she's not crying for Bryson, she's crying for herself. All I need to know is that if I force myself into crying if it will make the pain go away. And if it won't how can I stop hating the world around me. Because now I'm starting to hate myself. I'm afraid to love or trust anybody again and I can't do it alone.

Everyone that loses someone has love and or trust issues, they may or may not last forever. You really do need to remember the good times you had with your brother and stop asking yourself, what if, because that will make you feel worse about the situation. It's hard to lose someone, but you really need to be strong for them, ask yourself what your brother would think if he saw you the way you are now. You need to be strong for him, and especially at this time, you need to be close with your family, one day, maybe bake some cookies, not sympathy cookies, but just something sweet to let everyone know that you love them and are thinking about them. Little things like that, become closer with your family, you guys are all going through this together, so make the best of it, don't forget your brother. Remember the impact he had on your life, all the happy moments the two of you shared, maybe visit his grave and talk to him about how you're feeling. I hope this makes you feel better, stay strong sweetie. Hope I helped and keep me posted, IM me anytime sillyangel869 -Angel

see,my boyfriend is going to college in nebraska and i live in amarillo,tx.We've been dating for 1yr and 7mnts,but im starting to feel like he's losing interest in me,cause he won't talk much on the phone and i feel like crap everytime i hang up w/him.What could be wrong with him?Should i try dumping the guy,just to see how he would react?But, see he is so pridefull that he probably won't do anything just so it won't make him look like he's the one comeing back to me!!!Would i be risking myself of losing him?I don't want to lose him!

I would say talk to him about how you're feeling, I went through the same thing kind of. Tell him everything you just told me and see what he makes of it. If he sympathizes and tries to make you feel better, then he's a keeper. On the other hand, if he denies it and is offended by it, then shouldn't you be dating someone who cares about your feelings? I wouldn't say break up with him, but go on a break, don't talk for a while, see how it affects him, and just rememeber that some relationships aren't always meant to be. Hope I helped and good luck. IM me if you need any more advice sillyangel869 -Angel

I'm 13 and my brother is 15. He picks on me a lot and sometimes makes me mad but i love him very much. I just wish we were closer. I try to talk to him but he don't talk to me much. How do I get my brother and me to be closer?

Don't let his remarks affect you, maybe you should play the silent game, just ignore him for a while, when he comes to you just tell him how you're feeling, you also have to remember that 15 year old boys have their own agendas, so don't be heartbroken if he turns you down. Hope I helped -Angel

when i go to get a physical for cheerleading, nexy year willl they check to see if im a virgin..and if they do are they alowed to tell my parents???
thanx lotz!!!!
xoxox
leila

They aren't allowed to tell your parents.

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