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im in track. i had my first real track meet with all the schools in the district today. im in the middle range on speed so its average. i was running a relay i couldnt grab the baton but i did like almost 2 seconds running. then i was running and a person on my team who i do not get along with at all. said 'you suck' to me i said 'fuck off' so then our relay team got disqualified while running. then her relay team won. WTF. we are on the same track team but our track team for only these 2 relays was split in 3 four on each team were together all the other events. arent teams supposed to be rooting you on. im gothic im shyer speaking out like that but rather loud usually. im glad i only said fuck off because i would probly start a fight only with her but we were at track with alot of refs. i usually dont let anyone get to me other than her. everyone knows we HATE eachother. how do i stop this for tomarrows meet? i know shell say something again what do i say with out getting disqualified i will not ignore her? im in track with no friends doing track. i dont care what most people say about me just HER and you suck isnt even bad at all. i would use many of the worse words or punches. what do i do next meet tomarrow. this is only one thing she did to me ill get her back. she seriosly is a slut even her friend says that. i say had sex recently or whod you make out with today. she had sex the first time at 10 YEARS OLD. and still is. were 13

I think that you two should talk things out with your coach there as a moderator. You're right, it's one thing to just dislike each other, it's quite another when it starts affecting how you do as a team during competition. Since she didn't really do anything that awful, I think that this can be solved if you can come to some kind of agreement. I'm not saying that you're overreacting or anything, you're not, I'm just saying that it's not like she threw a rock at you while you were running or put super glue in your shoes. She just said something that was cruel and inappropriate. People do that all the time and it isn't hard to fix. All she (and you) have to do is just keep your mouths shut. There's no reason why you two can't both be on the same team and not bother each other. So yeah, work something out with your coach. Good luck. :)

It is a criticism of many population ecologists that the pattern of population increase and subsequent crash of the deer population would have occurred even if the bounty had not been placed on the predators.

In my science class we are supposed to say whether or not we agree with the sentence above. One problem, what does it mean? I dont get it.

I'm not exactly sure. Deer don't really have predators other than humans, but I think I know what it's getting at. I would say just talk about whether or not you believe that deer populations would increase and decrease as drastically as they do if they weren't hunted. If you can, call your teacher or someone in your class and see how they interpreted it. Good luck!

does anyone have a trick for not thinking into little stupid stuff? i always tend to do that and i blow it out of proportion so it ends bad. it shouldn't have been anything in the first place but it's like i make it into something. i don't know i just need any help! thanks

I listen to music. It usually makes me relax and calm down about things. Music keeps your mind occupied so that you can't really think about stuff. Reading, if you're into that, can do wonders too. I know that music and books aren't always at your disposal, though, so in those circumstances, I try to sing a song in my head and that usually works out pretty good. Another great technique is trying to make yourself smile. Any way you can. Have a friend do something stupid or tell a joke, remember something funny that happened earlier, anything. If you can smile, things are really put into perspective. Good luck. :)

16/f. At the beginning of June I broke up with my bf. We were together five months. It's been eleven months and I'm still in love with him. And I can't tell him. He's my best friend. But I'm tired of all of it. He is always on my mind, every day. I can't sleep right, or eat. I am constantly in a bad mood, especially around the time of when it should be our anniversy and when it is the date we broke up. I've tried to move on, and I can't. I've thought of getting together with other guys but I know that isn't fair to them because I'm in love with my ex, and I realize I don't like them like that. But I'm tired of it all, and I want to move on. I've tried before, but unsuccessfully. But I have to now, it's too much. It is screwing things up, I can't concentrate in school, on my homework or anything. I need a break from him for awhile, even though he is my best friend. How though? It's hard to ignore him, but I have to. What can I do to get him off my mind and begin to get over him? How can I ignore him?....

You'll always have a soft spot in your heart for your ex, but you're right, it's getting to be too much. My advice: date someone else. If somebody else likes you, it's more unfair to them that you're not giving them a chance than that you still have feelings for your ex. If you tell that person that you still have feelings for your ex, they will understand and it will be okay. Don't make decisions for other people about what's fair or not to them. Give them the choice. Let them decide what's fair. It would only be unfair if you didn't tell them.

Even if you date someone and it's not that serious at first, it's okay. You're 16. This is the time in your life when you're supposed to be dating people and trying things out. You don't have to be in love with someone to date them. The love can come out of dating them and if not, you move on. I really, really, really encourage you to date someone else. It'll do a whole lot of good. Good luck. :)

Well I have a friend we will call her Brittany and I have a boyfriend we will call him John well John was msging Brittany on myspace and I was having Brittany ask him if he really did like me and if he was starting to fall inlove with me. Well John said he did like me and yes he was starting to fall inlove with me. Well then he told her that she was hott and she said well i've got a boyfriend and your dating my best friend he goes oh well im just playing and then he said but i'd do anything with you but don't tell my girlfriend (which is me). Brittany said ugh excuse me thats something to say to her BEST FRIEND... Well he knows I have his myspace name and password. My friend Shell told me about him saying that to Brittany. And I got on his myspace in Class and checked it. and he did say all of that to her.

Now wouldn't you think if he really did like me, that he wouldn't be flirting with my BEST FRIEND. what should i say to him. I mean I just want to talk to him about it. If it leads to breaking up then it does. but yeah

I need some help!

Well, I would think that if you liked him you would talk to him yourself instead of having your friend do it for you. If you actually talked to him about how he feels about you and how you feel about him he will connect to you. If you have your friend have intimate conversations with him all the time he's probably going to start liking her because to him, it looks like she cares about his feelings a lot more than you. All of this can be solved if you stop talking to him through your friends and talk to him yourself. Now for your current situation. Ask him about what he said. Don't let him know that you checked his myspace, just tell him you heard it from someone, which you did. Don't accuse him of anything, just ask him and see if he lies about it. If he lies, you're going to have to make a decision of whether or not you can continue trusting him. If he doesn't lie, let it go. Who cares if he thinks your friend is hot? He's not dating your friend, he's dating you. He thinks you are hotter. :)

What is a close friend? how close do they get with each other?

are these close friends or too close?

Gina was siting on the chair, as Rosie came up and sat next to her. Rosie lean her head on her shoulder and hummm with a sigh.
Rosie grab her arm and held it like a hug.
when they walk together Rosie embrace Gina's arm and held her hand while leaning her head on her shoulder.

if Rosie does that to Gina once in a while are they close? or why doesnt Gina ask Rosie "why are you doing that?" why doesnt Gina tell her to stop?
are they too close friends?or becoming more than friends?

I define "close friendship" on an emotional level. If you are emotionally close to a friend, that makes them a close friend. Deep conversations or going through hard times with a friend makes them a close friend. Rosie and Gina aren't necessarily close friends, they are just intimate people. Intimacy is an action, not an emotion. If you're thinking that Gina and Rosie may be lesbians, don't make that assumption just yet. This kind of intimacy doesn't mean that they are close sexually. They're just hugging and holding hands like kids do. This kind of thing is very annoying to me too because I'm not an intimate person at all. If it really gets to you say something. Be nice about it, but if it makes you uncomfortable ask them to stop.

I think I might be pregnant. I also think I am too early along to get a pregnancy test.

However, my breasts are sore.

So here are my questions (they are all related so it's cool they are in one topic):

How long after conception can you take a pregnancy test?

How long after conception do your breasts get sore?

Can sore breasts just be a sign that I am about to be menstrating? I usually don't have very many symptoms, but I took something with hormones so maybe it is just worse premenstral symptoms?

Any help is appreciated

EDIT: Poor word choice by me, sorry. By "first sure sign" I meant "first reliable sign/symptom". Until you have missed a period, don't try to attribute various ailments or observations to pregnancy. A missed period is obviously not a sure sign that you are pregnant. Even a home test is not. Only a test conducted by a doctor has 100% accuracy.

Home pregnancy tests will work 2 weeks after conception. The first sure sign of pregnancy (other than a test) is a missed period. Other symptoms will appear after that, probably about a month to 6 weeks in. The soreness could definitely be a result of the hormones you took (I imagine it was an emergency contraception pill?) as these hormones can make your premenstrual symptoms stronger and commonly make your period come sooner than usual. So, if it has been 2 weeks, take a pregnancy test. If not, don't worry just yet. Worry won't get you anywhere. It will only make your perceived symptoms of pregnancy worse. Good luck. I hope that you get the results that you want. :)

Hi, i'm 14 years old, female.

this one's reaaallly long. just to let you know in advance.

i used to go to a small middle school. everyone there has known eachother forever and everyone was very cliquey and i had a good amount of friends, but a group of "popular" girls completely despised me. i never knew why. my friends said it was because they were jealous of me but i really have no idea. i don't see whats to be jealous of. but anyways, they hated me and made my life hell. i managed to be friends with all the "popular" guys though, without being a slut. and dated a few of them. (maybe thats why the girls didn't like me?)but there were always rumors about me that those girls had started. so a couple guys i dated thought i was a slut. and that's why they were with me. i really liked them a lot and got hurt pretty badly a few times. it was odd too, because usually i'm really good at reading people and sensing out what's on their mind. i think sometimes though, i let what i want to sense get in the way of what i really sense. i used to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, not because i was really that gullible but because i wanted to believe them. ever since those failed relationships, i've had a lot of trust issues.

this year however, i'm at a new school (we moved across the country for my dad's job) and i LOVE my school. it's HUGE (like 600 kids per grade) and i'm friends with almost everyone in my grade. i get invited to every party, i always have tons of weekend plans, i don't have any enemies, and a lot of guys like like me. a few girls i'm friends with described me as "that girl you hate out of jealousy until she wins you over. then you're still jealous of her, but love her too much to care"
it's the weirdest thing ever.

people are always saying i'm 'gorgeous' or 'perfect'. i'm not either. at all.

i hate the way i look most days. i'd say i'm average at best. i don't see whats so great about my personality either. i guess i'm a good listener? idk i just try to be nice to people and pretend i don't care what anyone thinks about me.

i care what they think. so much. too much. it's not healthy. and even though i don't have any enemies here, those girls from my old school practically stalk my myspace and like call my cell phone and IM me all the time just to be mean. i've only told my bbf how much what they say hurts me.(bbf = boy best friend)when the girls are talking to me i just outwit them and pretend i find their pathetic attempts to bring me down amusing-- like i know i should.

so yeah there's that issue with those girls and then there's the fact that i don't trust anyone. the lack of trust thing i think has lead to me feeling lonely.. because i never let anyone in all the way. i hate that i always silently question anything anyone tells me.

no matter how many friends i have, no matter where i am, i always feel alone. always. and i know i shouldn't, because these people are REALLY there for me.. only i won't let them be.

i'm so afraid to get hurt again.

ok so now that you have the background information [I TOLD YOU THIS WAS LONG ;]here's my current situation:

i'm determined to prove to myself that i can be in a good relationship that actually means something. therefor, i want a boyfriend- SOO badly. i've dated only one guy at my new school and he cheated on me. it was in the beginning of the year before i had so many friends. and yet, i still reaally want a boyfriend. my biggest problem with that though is that i don't know how my lack of trust will affect the relationship. i really want to be able to trust someone. anyone. people tell me things like "you could have any guy you want" but that's not true. i've liked plenty of guys i couldn't have.

i just want a nice boy who really cares about me. that's all. !@#$%ing middle school relationships.

but anyways, theres this guy i have a crush on now and i think he's genuinely a nice guy. he could totally be a player if he wanted to be but he's not, at all. my bbf is pretty protective of me, and he said he'd approve if i wanted to date my crush. so that's a good sign. and it seems like the guy feels the same way about me.

just one problem with that, he has a girlfriend. but she's breaking up with him soon. and i think he knows it. and doesn't care.

ok so if anyone has any opinions or advice on any of the essay-length "question" i just typed in here, i would greatly appreciate it.

thanks y'all (:

First, block those girls from your old school that are being mean to you. There's no reason for you to have to listen to their stupidity. If they call, don't answer and delete their messages without listening to them. They'll stop calling eventually.

You seem like such a great person. You're really nice and humble too. Your situation at school now seems really good. I know how it feels when people say all this great stuff about you when you know that you're not THAT amazing. This will pass once you're out of high school. Don't worry about it for now. If people want to be nice let them. It's not like you're letting it get to your head or anything. :)

Next, it's completely normal to want a boyfriend as bad as you do, but don't let a boyfriend, or the lack of one, define who you are. It seems like you view your whole life as being worse than it is because you don't have a boyfriend. Just relax. Want a boyfriend, don't need one.

As for the guy that you like, let it be known that you like him now, before he breaks up with his girlfriend. That way you won't have to worry about a different girl catching his eye before you get the chance. Then, wait for the breakup before you do anything more. Don't act any differently around him than you have. A good strategy though, would be to always be there. Don't stalk him or anything, but make it a point to walk down a hallway that you know he is going to be walking down too. It'll keep you on his mind if he sees you all the time and heard that you like him. After a week or so, start talking to him more, but don't do too much too quickly. You don't want to seem desperate and he still has feelings for his last girlfriend that he'll have to get over at least a little bit before dating again. Basically, put yourself out there and wait for him to make a move.

It seems like you have a pretty nice life. It's normal to feel alone when you're a teenager. Those feelings will pass. Feeling alone is much different from actually being alone. You're really lucky that you have so many people around you that like you even if they do go a little overboard with it. As you grow, even though some friendships will fade, the ones that you keep will get stronger and deeper.

If you take one thing away from my advice, please cut off communication with the mean girls from your old school. There was a group of girls that used to be mean to me all the time too and once I started avoiding them, things got a lot better for me. It will feel really good to block them. Good luck. :)

Hello, I've never been in a pagenat before and I am in one TOMORROW!!!! Please give me some advice on what to do and what not to do. I've done my research, I got my clothing ready for (talent, causal, and evening). I'm just waiting for tomorrow! I want to win so bad!! Please give me some advice!

If you have everything prepared, there's nothing you can do except have the right attitude. If you have the right attitude, you have a much better chance of winning. Want to know what attitude this is? It's confidence! Be confident without being cocky. You're smart, sexy, and you are going to win. It's just a simple fact of life. You don't have to boast or say anything or act like you're the best because you don't have to prove it to anyone. You already are. If you can believe that you will win, it will come true. Good luck! :)

Where can I go and see wich programms start running the minute I open my computer and change them?

The answers before me were very good and I'd just like to add something. Pressing "Control-Alt-Delete" will bring up your "Windows Task Manager". Click the "Processes" tab and it will tell you everything that is running on your computer at that time. The names are abbreviated so if you're not sure what something is, type the "Image Name" into a search engine and you can find out easily. Most processes can be cancelled manually from opening at startup by looking at the options for that program and unchecking a box or something, but you can always click "End Process" to shut down a program right from the task manager too. :)

hi id like to know if any of you had been to ILSC in toronto or Global village , i nedd to know cause im goig this summer and i'd like to know wich of them has more people or younger students, AND MORE students thanks hope you can help me

You're not going to find people on this site that know the specifics of certain places, but I'm going to do the best I can to help you out. Here are the websites for the two centers in case you haven't looked at them already.

http://www.ilsc-vancouver.com/
http://www.globalvil.com/

You can compare the programs and if you can't find the information about demographics that you want, I'm sure there's a number that you can call for each one. My guess is that they will be happy to give you that information. I know that everything on the website and all the information that you are given by people answering the phones will be sugarcoated, that's probably why you are asking here. The centers aren't going to tell you the negatives because they will want you to go there. My suggestion is to visit each center. You can get your own sense for what kind of environment each is. In my experience with choosing what college to go to, I found that it was best to trust myself over anybody else. Remember too, that no matter which one you pick, it'll probably be equally beneficial to you. They're probably not all that different. I hope that I was able to help you in some way and I wish you the best of luck in making your choice! :)

I need revenge. what kind of revenge can i do if my boyfriend is talking to another girl? whats something to make him jealous? whats the best way to make him jealous? answer all those questions please!

Ummm slash his eyes out? Seriously, why would you want to hurt him, he's your boyfriend! If you don't like him or his habits break up with him. That being said, you're going to have this problem with any guy you date. So, actually, he's not the problem. You are. You need to change, not him. You can't prevent your boyfriend from talking to other girls. You really can't be this jealous. Do you talk to other guys? Of course you do. Even if you don't have any male friends, which I can't believe that you don't, if a guy in your class asks you a question about a homework problem you aren't going to just run away from him because he's not your boyfriend. Maybe your boyfriend is just a nice person. Ever think of that? Just because he's talking to her doesn't mean anything is going on. EVEN if he likes her, who cares? He's with you. He likes you more. You can't control all of his feelings, just the feelings he has about you. If you are overly jealous, making him feel bad about talking to other girls is only going to make him dislike you. It's not going to make him dislike the entire female population. He looks at other girls as people. You should too. Let's pretend for a minute that you stay with this guy through high school and college and end up getting married to him. He gets a job working in a law office and is given a female assistant. He's not allowed to TALK to her? Come on. You need to be able to trust the people you date if your relationships with them are going to work out. If you can't handle that he is talking to other girls, you aren't mature enough for relationships in general. Don't get me wrong. It's natural for it to bug you that he's talking to other girls. It bugs everyone, even me sometimes, but I can handle it. My guess is that you're relatively young and haven't had enough experience with relationships to learn how to handle something like this. This is your opportunity to learn how to handle it. So, my advice to you is either break up with him because you can't handle it, or stay with him and learn how to handle it. Good luck. :)

I'm going to college soon and I have scholarships for tuition, but how do you get scholarships or your future college to pay for room and board?

OHHH I almost forgot...most colleges offer free room and sometimes board if you are an RA. RA stands for resident assistant. It's not too much work, see if you can get involved with that!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Resident_assistant

Ask the financial aid office at your college. If there is anything that you could get or apply for, they will let you know. Remember though, not everyone can have everything completely paid for. There's only so much money to go around and it's given to the most needy. There's no way to get a scholarship if you're not eligible for one. If you aren't eligible and you don't have the money to pay for room and board, just take out a student loan for it. The financial aid office can help with that too. Currently I am paying for everything with student loans. For awhile I was really scared about doing this. It was the only way that I could afford to go to college, but I was so worried about my future and having to pay off all of these loans. I'm not worried anymore. Two years ago my boss talked to me about his experience with college. He stayed in college for 10 years (because he fooled around too much) and paid for a huge chunk of it with student loans. He's now very successful, is married with 2 kids, and isn't under any more financial stress than anybody else. Student loans really are the way to go if you can't get federal loans or a scholarship. Good luck! :)

18f/ Can you make a relationship work if you are not compatible. Like you view relationships completely different from one another. Can you make it work if you're really in love???

Honestly, no. Compatability is just as, if not more, important in a relationship than love. Love can grow. It can be created and destroyed. Compatibility is either there or it isn't. The divorce rate today is so high because people believe that love can conquer all and they stay in relationships for love and companionship. They base their relationships entirely on love. Truth is, there's more to relationships than just love. You can find love elsewhere. There are probably about 50,000 people in the world that you could have a very happy future with. People don't really differ that much from each other. Love just grows from opportunity. You will have other opportunities for love in your life. Not only that, but the love will be just as strong if not stronger. When you are not compatible with someone, you can't love them fully. Love is just an emotion, it's not a force. Basing your entire life on emotions is very dangerous for your wellbeing. It's like basing a relationship on happiness. Sometimes, you're just not very happy. What happens when that love changes or goes away, what are you left with? In those times in your life when you don't feel love for that person, you'll have nothing and your relationship will eventually fall apart. You're 18. I think you're mature enough to realize all of this because you asked the question at all. You're just looking for a way to avoid having to let go. You can't avoid it. It's hard letting go, but it's the right thing to do if things can't get worked out. It's better to let go now, than 10 years down the road when you're married and have children to worry about.

what fast food, mcdonalds, subway, taco bell, any other one there is.. is the healthiest? i haven't eaten fast food in a long time since i eat healthy now but which one is best? is subway really healty or is tehre some kind of trick

It's not what restaurant you go to, it's what food you get there. A burger is a burger and it will be just as unhealthy no matter where you get it from. Some fast food restaurants have a wider selection of healthier foods than others, but a sandwich from Subway and the same sandwich from Quiznos are the same sandwich! They aren't going to differ that much from each other in how healthy they are. Subway, yeah it is known to be a healthier place to eat than other fast food places, but again, it depends on what you get. It's only known for being healthy because it doesn't offer cheeseburgers and french fries. For example, if you order a bologna sub with mayo and cheese, that's not very healthy compared to say a salad from McDonalds. McDonalds has a bad rap for being extremely unhealthy, but lately, they have added some really great things to their menu. I would say that they offer a bigger selection of healthier foods than any other burger joint. As for places like Quiznos and Subway, they generally offer healthier foods than at McDonalds, but again, there are things that you can get there that aren't nearly as healthy as a salad or chicken sandwich from McDonalds. In my opinion, I think that the healthiest foods are actually at Arbys. Their Market Fresh sandwiches are not only really good, but better quality than anything you may find at Subway or Quiznos. Just remember that it doesn't matter where you go, it matters what you order. :)

There are 33 days of school left, and I have to either sign up for my 8th grade year to go to the same school... or the one I've been trying to go to all along. Let's call my current school A, and the other school, B.
I've heard from my brother's best friend's dad to always stay with my parokial education because it will get me a more successful future and job. But... I'm at the point where I either choose the school that's healthier for my relationships, or my future. Now, since one of my best friends transfered to B last year and I miss him so much I really want to go there. Plus I HATE 2 of the teachers at my current school, A.
I have my two best friends at the school, A. And I'd really miss them. But lately, I've been feeling so neglected by them. So I'm leaning towards B. Whenever I leave them to go get ready for class while I'm getting my books, they'll start talking with or about me. When I come back, they'll both be laughing hysterically -and it seems like fake laughing sometimes- and they won't stop until I come back. Then they both fake stone faces and I ask what was funny and they're like, "Oh, nothing."
Like recently at gym, they were talking and I went up to them and was like
"What's bothering you?" to Lindsay because she was acting upset. And she's like, "Oh nothing. You would just lecture me... so... " I never lecture her and she's always asking me for advice. Dunno what her problem is. I missed the dance last Friday, and she started talking about it and she looked at her arm and then my other friend Kristen said, "Hey yeah, she didn't want you to see what happened to her arm because she thought you'd make fun of it." And I'm like, what the heck? I would never do that! And she knows I'm not that type of person. And then right before class she told me she hates rich people. And I'm rich. So I'm totally leaning towards B... but then again, let's not get too far into my social life with this please.
Anyways,
I've been friends with one of them for almost a year and the other for NINE YEARS. I can't throw that away and it'd be hard to go to a parokial highschool after 8th grade in a public school.

Which school should I GO TO!?
A or B?
I'm so confused.
And someone I love goes there.
He's one of my BEST FRIENDS BUT I DON'T KNOW if he feels the same way!
I know I shouldn't transfer because of that but I have to take some risks in life if I ever want to get together with him.
13/f
What should I do?

Make the decision solely on which environment you want to be in. School B will NOT get you a more successful future and job. It's high school for crying out loud. It doesn't matter what high school you go to at all. If you get decent grades, you can get into just about any college that you want. Even if you don't, you can always get into a college and transfer to the one you want after a semester of doing well there. It matters a little bit what college you go to, but honestly, it really doesn't matter what college you go to either! Just as long as you get your diploma you'll be just fine. It seems like you kind of want to go to school B. I would encourage that. It's always great to get a new start, especially if there's someone there that you know well that would help you out in the very beginning. It's not like you'll never see your friends from school A again. You'll still have them as friends and you'll get the chance to meet a whole bunch of new people and make even more friendships. Don't worry about how your friends have been treating you lately. It's just normal drama that happens in every close friendship. It will pass. Don't make your decision based on how they are treating you now. I wish you the best of luck and remember, it doesn't make any difference what school you go to. Just go where you want to go for social reasons. Good luck! :)

Yesterday night i threw up. I'm not really sure why but it was really terrible.

Ever since then, i haven't really had much of an appetite. It makes me feel kind of sick to look at certain foods. SO i haven't really eaten much today at all. Some goldfish, ginger ale, and a soup at hand.

It's giving me a really bad headache not eating very much, so i'm really just looking for some light, non salty foods that will still fill me up without making me feel sick. Thanks.

You probably have a headache because you are dehydrated. Make sure you are drinking a lot. Actual water and juice will do the best for you instead of soda and stuff. It's hard for me to sit here and figure out what will make you sick or not, but whenever I was sick I could always eat rice cakes. If you get the right kind they can be pretty good. I believe they are usually found in the bread isle. They are really healthy for you and should fill you up pretty good. The goldfish and soup were a good choice if that all went down well. I hope you feel better soon!

Hi im 13/f and i thought you would be a good person to ask a question to:)

Well at first i really liked my crush and thought he liked me too. he would talk to me all the time, flirt, stare at me, ect. and this all started in Nov. then about last month my friend said that she told him so i got all scared and didnt want to talk to him because o he doesnt like me and i made a fool out of myself. well anyways all of a sudden he started talk to me. he would always try to since i stopped talking to him. he tried to sit with me(this all happened in one day), he was flirting, and then he was messing with me at lunch and at the end of the day al the stuff we do. So things went back to normal and then i decided that things went better if i didnt talk to him first all the time and playing hard to get and i still do but its kinda a reaction (ill get to that soon). so then on he would always talk to me first and we would stare everyso often and flirt ect. then about last week i found out he asked out his ex again and she said yes. my friend and i were walking up the stairs and all the girls came up to talk to himand were like, "O she said yes!!" and he was really quiet about it. then they all left and once i heard everything i was completely filled with rage! he started to quicken his steps so he could talk to me(he does that alot.) he was like, "Hi Brianna (from Behind)." i didnt bother to turn around and respond. so he kept going. "Brianna? dont you wanna talk to me?" i said no. he asked what did he do ect and i just didnt want to talk to him. he hurried to get his stuff and left his friends and was chasing after me to talk to me. he was asking,"What did i do, i didnt even mock you today (this thing he does to me. flirty thing only to me suprisingly when i say something or do something and it just makes me laugh). i just said dont talk to me, dont bug me ect. after that things havent been the same. i cant get myself to talk to him. or its just not the same. he chased me the next day and asked me what was up the other day and i said i was just tired. then i said sorry and we started flirting but its jsut wasnt the same you know. i watch him and his so called "Girlfriend" and they never even talk. they dont do anything. then last Thursday i kinda experimented and went in the same direction he was and walked infront of him so he could see me and all of a sudden i heard his footsteps and he was like flying down the steps and i turned around and he was cutting through people and then the next minute he was right there and we were talking. then the next day he did the exact same thing except that time he just came up to me and just smiled at me and i asked what was the smile for and he started walking backwards to his class smiling at me. so does he like me?? i dont think his friends or anybody convinced him to ask her out. they never talk at all and its all so confusing. he also told me once that he liked seeing me sngry. what does this mean. hope you can help me since you are older with much more experience. thanks

Wow, this guy really baffles me. I wonder what he is trying to do. He obviously likes you. He obviously has no fun with his current/ex girlfriend. Hmm. Maybe he's trying to make you jealous? I really have no idea! Great question! In any case, I have some of an idea on what you should do about all of this. Ask him what's up. A good place to start would be to ask him why he likes his current/ex girlfriend and why he decided to date her again all of a sudden. It shouldn't be too weird of you to ask because you seem like you're pretty good friends with him. Whether he explains it to you or not, at some point he'll probably ask why you want to know. That's a great time to say something to the effect of "well I thought that we had a kind of connection there for awhile" instead of the normal "oh I was just curious". Then you can talk briefly about some of the feelings you have for him. Let him know how much fun you have with him and how much you like spending time with him and being around him. Just be totally honest. You'll be laying yourself out on the line a little bit, but if he's really as clueless as he's acting or even if he is playing some weird game with you, at least you will know that he knows exactly what you feel and will be able to do what he will with that knowledge. All you can do is put the idea in his head. It's up to him what he does with the information, but it'll definitely give you a good chance of being with him in the near future. Thinking that someone likes you is much different from knowing that they do. Right now, he thinks you like him. If he knows that you like him he will like you all the more. When you know for sure that someone likes you, you become very interested in them yourself. It's good to feel loved. If his current/ex girlfriend is just a boring blob and he has no connection with her, revealing your feelings like this could get you really far with him. Good luck with this guy, he's a really hard one to figure out!

My phone has water damage because it accidentally went through the wash! I'm so miserable! Anyway, I'm wondering if I can get an upgrade earlier than the due date...real early. My upgrade time is in December and it is only May! Do I have to wait until I get an upgrade or is there another idea I can do so I don't have to wait that long!
Thanks!!! Oh yeah, I have T-Mobile and my phone is as Motorola Razr v3

You can't get an upgrade. You may have to buy a new phone at full price. :(

Cell phone companies are known for screwing you out of money. In these types of situations, they tend not to leave you a way out. That's how they make most of their money. They get away with it because they put all of this in contracts that you sign.

There is some hope though. If you have an old phone you can probably switch back to that one for the time being until December. I know that Verizon will let you do that, I would imagine that T-Mobile would too.

I hope that you figure something out! Good luck.

ohkay, well on the left side of my upperback and sholders, its been hurting since january or febuary, it hurts so so so so bad, like somone stabbed me in my sholderblade.and i can barley laugh, i cant sneeze or cough, it hurts
whats wrong?
please help

You will need to have a medical examination by a professional to know what's wrong. See a doctor as soon as possible. Back injuries are very serious. If it's not taken care of soon, you could have back problems for the rest of your life. Good luck.

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