i have constant suicide thoughts and know i must be checked into a hospital i went to crisiskids.com or whatev. and they didnt understand im seriously considering this. im 13 years old, female. i feel like im not wanted here, and no one even cares anymore. i constantly fight with my mother and father and sisters. how can i get the medical help i need before i seriosly kill myself.
I know life can deal a bad hand sometimes and although you and your parents always fight it doesn't at all mean they don't care about you. I think the first thing you should do though is, when you're in school next, is to speak to the schools counselor about how you are feeling. They will be able to help you deal with things further and suggest on where to go nd what to do from there. If your school has no counselor or you're not sure if your school does or not then speak to a teacher at your school about you wanting tospeak to a school counselor as soon as you possibly can (if at all posible that very day becuase it is very important). If you stress how important it is they will help you to do that and they may even ask what's going on so if you feel comfortable about talking to the teacher about it you should do that. Either way you'll be able to get some help.
Trust me people do care even when it starts to look like no one does. You just have to hang in there. If you feel you need to talk then I'm always around on the net so by all means feel free to get in touch as it might help.
If you really feel you can't wait until you're at school next though then you should immediately and now call up someone who can help you. There's the National Suicide Hotline (USA) who you can call on 1-800-784-2433 (visit their website for additional numbers sorted by states as well as information on them at http://suicidehotlines.com/) or if push comes to shove then call 911 and tell them that you need some help and explain what's going on and how you feel. Just don't let this eat away at you and push you into doing anything rash because as I said, there are people who care about you and who don't want anything to happen to you.
Let me know please how everything goes if you can - will just be a comfort knowing you're okay.
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ok so me and my best guy friend are friends with benefits. we had a big fight about 2 weeks ago and we just started talking/screwing around again. he only talks to me online, through texts or when we're alone. im kind of confused why he does this, he used to talk to me all the time no matter where we were. are all friends with benefits relationships like this or just mine? dont tell me to stop being friends with benefits with him. we both tried doing that but we have this strange connection where we cant keep our hands off each other. how do i get him to talk to me in public
Nope not all are like this and it almost seems like he is ashamed maybe, to have contact with you around other people or that ifhe did it would lessen his chances of atttracting other girls. I'm not really sure because it could be anything but you may want to actually ask him what is going on.
Also, eventually you will need to put a stop to it or at least be able to control yourselves. What's going to happen if you find someone or if he finds someone - will you both just stop being around each other completely in the fear youll jump on each other? Or carry on anyway? There's other things too but it's pretty hard to actually explain here in writing but I thik the best thing to do is ask him what's going on because if he can't even talk to you in public then I don't really see much of a foundation here for a friendship at all.
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14/f
Okay, well, I know people get these a lot, but I really need help. I have friends, people that I think I can trust. They tell me things and I do not say anything else. I do not trash talk people I care about. I may say something neutral but never anything against that person.
I was talking with friends K and L. K was telling me one of our other friends, F, was probably making something up about her school life because she asked the people in the Jr. High if they ever talked to F and they said no. L agreed and said "J was mean to her though, we all know that." I replied with "Maybe J told her all those people were mean to her and she believed it, that was why she said it."
Well, the next day I find that F is angry at me for something. I try to ask her, but she is very stubborn and refuses to talk to me (though I've told her time and time again she has to TELL me when someone says I did something wrong). So apparently L said something about what we were talking about the day before. And I have a feeling it's a lie because who would get mad at what I really said.
Now this has happened before. People have told F something and she'd gotten pissed off at me, and I tell her what really happened. I'm a very emotional person (hormone problems) and that day I realized that I am sick of apologizing and trying to make things right with her. If she can't trust me when I do nothing wrong, or when she can't see two sides of a story, then I shouldn't have a friend like that. Same with L, who for some odd reason has confidence issues. You say something in confidence and suddenly its turned around and said to someone.
I started to fidget and get mad (I got so angry I started biting myself and scratching to stop from crying in class) and I just told them "I'm sick of this" and left the class with teacher permission. I've told the story to my mother, father, grandmother, counselor, and nurse who caught me on my way home (the counselor sent me home because I started crying uncontrollably). Then when I got home, I saw that F left me a message.
"Hi, uh, C. Yeah, L told me what you and K said about me and frankly I don't appreciate it. Don't call me again, because I need true friends."
Trust me, I was PISSED. Not only does SHE know L twists things around but she's accusing me of doing something on a message and not bothering to ask me about it. I wanted to say something back, but I don't so that.
Mom says that I should just forget them. But I want something not rude to say back to them to show that I don't like what they said about me. This is all I want. The story was to get a better feel. This all has happened before, and frankly I'm damn sick of it. And I want them to know it without sinking to their level.
But nothing too sweet and apologetic sounding.
Can anyone give me that?
I'll be honest with you and say that I had got a little lost in the story about what happen... are they saying that they don't trust you or something?
Trust is a very fragile thing - takes a long time to earn and can be lost in the blink of an eye. I had a couple of friends just like you who I trusted a lot until I found out they had both been talking about me and about things I had told them incomplete confidence to other people. The funny thing is I had told each of them different things so when everyone knew both those things it was very obvious who had been talking (since I knew and one of them knew). They lost my trust that day and I have never spoken to them about anything like that ever again. I tolerate them as far as talking to them goes and I keep things civil but that's about as far as it goes - they'd never earn my trust back again.
I think when people said to forget about them they are right - you don't need friends like that at all. If you need to say something to them then jus say what what's on your mind. That if they were real friends thay'd have ome to you to talk to you about it instead of just pointing fingers at you and then alienating you. They obviously have no idea what friendship and trust is about and with the number of times it's happen you're not willing to put up with it anymore - you deserve better friends than that.
That might be a good thing to say or at least something like that. At the end of the day you don't even need to say anything but I really don't think you'll have any problems finding some really good friends out there with how you are. :] Just dont let those two get to you - they ain't worth it.
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my sweet sixteen is coming up real soon. I am having a bunch of my girl friends spend the night. What are some things we could do so its not boring. please help!
any really scary movies we could rent!?
ii rate high!?
Hmm, movies... I've found some of the older movies to be the best when it comes to scary stuff because nowadays it's always thesame crappy teenage slasher flick where some psycho for some reason or another decides to start slashing people up.
Here's a few you may want to watch and although old (and hopefully none of your friends will have seen these already) they are some awesome movies.
* The Thing (John Carpenter's 1982 version NOT the black & white version).
* The Grudge (USA version with Sarah Michelle Gellar - not really that old but I found it to be one of the best recent ones when it comes to scary).
* Dawn Of The Dead (2004)
Those are the only ones I can think of off the top my head - sorry. As much as I love horror I can never seem to find many movies that are actually scary, hehe.
As for other things you can do, if one of your friends has a PS2 with a karaoke game on it (or even the dance mat game on it) those can be pretty fun... not that I play them or anything. :P
Have an awesome sweet 16th, happy birthday for then. :]
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i havent been able to eat how i normaally do for the past 2 days. like i havent been hungry. when i have been hungry, i see the food my stomach starts to hurt. help?
This happen to me when I wasn't able to nor did I want to eat for a while (3 days for me) because I knew if I ate I would be sick but it was partially my own fault because of the big get together with my cousin and letting him pour my drinks and a few becoming many and before I knew it we had gone through a large bottle of gin each (and I hadn't even eaten that day).
The thing is if you continue not to eat your stomach will just hurt more because there's no food there for it and it needs food to convert to energy for you to keep going (just like a car needs fuel). I would suggest trying something little in a small quantity at first. Maybe some toast and see how you fare with that. Once you actually get some food inside you your stomach may loosen up a little bit so you can start to eat normally.
On a side note I would also not hesitate to go visit or call up the family doctor for advice since he/she would be in a better position to advise you on this than I. I didn't because I knew why it was happening to me and what I was doing (if I had eaten anything prior to when I had then I would have ended throwing it up and rest assured I learnt my lesson from that experience but in my defence that was the first and only time I've ever been totally wasted). With you it may not even be the same thing and could be something else so just to be on the safe side seeking medical advice from your doctor wouldn't hurt.
Hope you manage to eat soon.
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Okay... this is going to be long but I REALLY need help. So thanks to anyone who takes this seriously and actually reads it and TRIES to help me.
So there's this boy.
He is SO cute.
He has brown hair, bright blue eyes, muscles... just, the whole enchilada.
Anndd... I have liked him for SOO long.
Since the beginning of this year.
And like, he used to like me but whatever.
Andd... on Valentines day of THIS year, it was 6th period on a Wednesday and I asked the teacher if I could go to the bathroom and so I went and his class is right next to mine. So as I walking back to class, I see AJ [the guy] walking towards me and my heart skips a beat. He is just, TOO cute. And we stopped by the lockers and we were talking or whatever. And he KISSED me. And pretty soon, we were making out and everything was SO great.
He was my first kiss.
I loved it.
And that night, I snuck out for him and got my ass caught and yeahh. Anywaysss...
he told me be liked me and everything. And we were talking about going out.
Well then, there comes BARBIE. She's a wannabe barbie, anyways. Well yeah, she was new to the school and AJ helped her out and now they're going out. wtf. I don't get how he could possibly do that: like me one second and then have a girlfriend the next. Fucking stupid. So anyways, I started liking this kid, Charles. And he liked me a lot and now, he won't talk to me at all for NO reason. And I was all depressed and vulnerable Saturday night [last Saturday night] and AJ started IMing me. [he was sober]
And we were joking around about blowjobs. Like, here's pretty much how the converation went.
AJ: SUCK IT.
ME: haha nahh. I don't feel like it.
AJ: haha well not now nigga.
ME: haha okay.
AJ: maybe tuesday?
ME: i dont know. I may be booked. haha
AJ: mann thats fucked up. haha
ME: haha im kidding.
like, we were joking and stuff and flirting ALOT. And him and his girlfriend were fighting. And he told me that I was prettier and that I would be a better girlfriend. And that she was an ugly whore. And everything. It was like, woah. I couldn't believe it.
So then, that night, he got fucked up on everclear, bars, coke&jack, and bud light. So yeah... I'm surprised he didn't die... seriously.
Anyways,
he was telling me I was beautiful and making me feel really good. And he started asking me to send him pictures of my boobs and I didn't wanna do it. And I didn't but like, I didn't know what to tell him! I was scaredd. 'Cause he's the only guy I;ve ever actually done something sexual with. And then he started asking me to have phone sex and I would finger myself and he would jack off. :/
I thought it was really weird.
'Cause like, I've never fingered myself as weird as they may seem but whatever.
I didn't want to.
And I didn't.
And I told him I liked him and I wanted to do everything to make him happy but I can do that in other ways. And fucking isn't one of them. I could be there for him and make him feel good about himself and just... be a great girlfriend. He's the ONLY guy I wanna be with. Seriously. I can't picture myself with anyone else.
Only him.
I've pictured us together SO many times.
I just want it to happen so bad.
And it never has.
And now, he's completely ignoring me.
And I have no idea why.
And I dont want him mad at me. I wanna at least be friends if not more. But I don't even think he wants to be that.
I mean, he's a major PIMP. He gets ALOT of girls and like, most of them are more than willing to give it up to him. But I'm not. And I think that's part of the reason he's not talking to me.
And I know he's an asshole.
And I've heard a million times how stupid I am for falling for a guy like that. So you don't have to tell me...
I just wish he wasn't like that. Like, I want us to work SO bad. I want to be with him.
He just... i dont know. There's something about him.
I don't know what it is. But anyways, yeah.
I don't know what to do.
I'm not asking for actual advice because seriously, what can you do? I just need some reassuring thoughts. Something to take my mind off everything. SOMETHING. I'll give you credit for even TRYING to help.
Shit, I'll give you credit just for READING it.
haha
I just need SOMETHING.
Thanks guys.
Love yall.
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I know you're having trouble with letting this guy go becuase of how you feel about him but I'm going to put this in the most nicest way I can and that is that this guy hasno intention of being with you as far as relationships go. He already threw you away once for some other girl and now all of a sudden shes a whore etc, etc? If you talked to her about it I can imagine a whole different version of events. He was off flirting with you while he had a gf so what's to stop him doing the exact same thing with you? Absolutely nothing! All his kind words were nothing more than manipulative techniques in a way to try and get out of you what he had wanted but good on you for actualy being able to hold out on them.
If you really want to take your mind off of things then I suggest you go out with some friends and have a good time and keep your options open. As evil as it may sound I can promise you if you ever did hookup with this guy it wouldn't last because he's just not the type of person that will be able to stick to one person too long. As for those pictures of you he wanted - nice work in not sending them. The last time one my friends had got talked into doing that the guy was blackmailing her with them after she tried to tell him to get lost. As revenge he eventually posted all those pictures on some web site together with her cell phone number. :/ Thankfully when I found out I was able to talk to the site webmaster and have them deleted as well as get the guy banned from the site but the fact he's still out there and may have copies of them is not a reassuring thought.
Someone once said to me that sometimes when a door of opportunity closes on us we spend all out time sitting there crying over that door that we fail to see another door opening up behind us. This guy was a nice thought but it's a dead end and very much not deserving of someone like you. Go out and have fun with friends, there are tons of guys out there and even though you think now that there's no one else out there that could be better I can assure you there are, there always are. :]
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Ok well I want to delete this picture but when I click delete something pops up that says:
Cannot delete: It is being used by anotherperson or program. Close any programs that might be using the file and try again.
Well nothing was even opened and it still wouldn't delete. It's really annoying me and I tried it a couple more times and the same thing happened. help?
First thing to try if the picture file is in a folder, is click on the picture and if the picture is in a folder where you can see the preview of the picture in the left of the window wait until the picture appears in that window (so you can see what the picture is before you actually open it) and then hit the delete key to try and delete. The preview can take longer to happen if the picture is large in size and the reason for the message is usually because your system is reading the file to show you the preview (and to add it to the folders thumbnails database which by default on XP is usually on).
If this is not the problem I would suggest shutting your computer down and then after the reboot you try and delete again. This usually works but if it still doesn't then I suggest logging into safe mode and then deleting it from there (when you reboot hit F8 until the boot menu appears and then select to run in safe mode from there).
Hope that fixes the problem.
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is there an actual answer to the riddle in alice in wonderland? "Why is a raven like a writing desk?"
Im pretty sure its made up but I really wanna know the answer! Its been bugging me for years.
The answer to the riddle, from Alice In Wonderland, is that it has no answer. Apparently, from what I had been able to find out, Lewis Carroll (the writer) had been bugged about the riddle so much that in the preface to the 1896 edition of his book he wrote the following:
Enquiries have been so often addressed to me, as to whether any answer to the Hatter's Riddle can be imagined, that I may as well put on record here what seems to me to be a fairly appropriate answer, viz: `Because it can produce a few notes, tho they are very flat; and it is never put with the wrong end in front!' This, however, is merely an afterthought; the Riddle, as originally invented, had no answer at all.
Additional Info: In 1976 Carroll admirer Denis Crutch pointed out that in the 1896 preface quoted above, the author had originally written: "It is nevar put with the wrong end in front." Nevar is raven spelled backward. However, said joke did not survive the ministrations of the proofreaders, who, thinking they understood the author's intentions better than the author, changed nevar to never in subsequent editions.
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okay, so i'm 5'8 and weigh around 160. my body would be much better if i didn't have flabby arms and a bulging stomach. is there any way i can get my body back into shape for this summer?
The only way you will get is by working hard at it. Exercise together with a good balanced diet (this doesn't mean starving yourself - this means just eating healthy) will be a very good start and should work wonders but bare in mind everyone works in different ways so you may see results quickly or it may take time but rest assured you will see results. :]
I would recommend joining a good gym if you are able to as they would be able to advise you on the type of diet that is ideal for you as well as an exercise routine that would help you get your body how you want it. The gym I am a member of is an expensive gym (or so I'm told) but they are VERY good for the price with having decent equipment and facilities as well an excellent staff who know what they are doing and are knowledgable in advising what routines to do for maximum results.
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me and my b/f are 15/16 and we are totally commited to each other and we want to have sex but we are scared because we don't know how
So my 1st question is
1.) How do you know when your ready?
2.)How do you give a guy a blowjob that makes him wanna scream?
I can't really comment on the blowjob part because I've never really liked blowjobs anyway but I would imagine the ideal way would be to ask him what it is he likes and doesn't like when you are actually doing it. Just remember that like any other thing the only way to get better at it is to go by trial and error and by getting to know each other better and by finding out what each other like and dont like. So it will take time - just don't expect everything to be perfect and for everything to go perfect the first time becuase it may not happen this way. Saying that though don't feel bad either bacause as I said - it just takes time and practice. :]
As for knowing when you are ready - generally you just know deep down when you are. If you have to ask other people how you will know when you're ready then theres a strong chance that you just aren't ready. Also, bare in mind being ready doesn't just mean ready to have sex it means taking responsibility as well. I assume you will both play it safe and use protection but bare in mind that even condoms can split - you both have to be prepared for that and the resulting consequences and such.
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120/f/14
im going to go on a diet & all these websites are saying to eat breakfast & i never do because i try to save calories or whatever. but anyways.. my question is what is the quickest, best things to eat in the morning that dont have many calories or fat? thank you!
Breakfast is supposed to be the most important mean of the day which is probably why all the websites are saying not to avoid it. I've never thought to look up why it is but I have been told by everyone who I had spoken to before (when I first started my healthy eating phase) said breakfast is really important.
I don't really do calories as I found it rather annoying so instead I stick to just eating healthy and it's been working fine. For breakfast ideally you'll want something filling but also low in fat and that which is not junk. I stick with a wheat based cerial with milk and fruit (instead of using any kind of sweetner). I usually slice up a banana to go on top of it and a couple of strawberries as well which all go together well and are indeed filling. Use low fat milk if you want and if you can stand the taste (as opposed to full fat milk) and have either a hot drink (I usually drink green tea) or a glass of freshly squeezed orange juice to go with it.
As I said I'm not sure about calories but it's all healthy and this way you're not avoiding the most important meal of the day.
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Ok, this is sort of long. Female/17. I had OCD when I was young and took medicine for it for 8 years. I guess I still have it but I don't notice it anymore and it isn't noticable to anyone else either. At this point it is pretty much nonexistant. Anyway, when I decided to stop taking pills last year i felt fine, but i've noticed one thing: i get depressed a lot easier. So I don't know whether or not I have depression because it comes and goes pretty fast and i usually don't act depressed around other people, but it's there. My question is, what can I do to feel happier and better without taking pills or getting professional help? I don't believe pills are necessary unless you're a threat to society, so I know i don't want to take them ever again. Any advice would be good.
It's hard for others to tell you what you can do to feel more happy becuase we aren't you. Things that make me happy may not be the same for you so the real question here that you should be asking (and the person you should be asking is) what is it that makes YOU happy?
Regardless as to what it might be just remember than if you do feel it is getting the better of you then to seek some professional help in the matter. You may not become a danger to society but my immediate concern would be you becoming a danger to yourself since depression can be a very bad thing to go through. Is it something specific that makes you feel depressed? If so then maybe finding a way to change whatever it might be could be a step in the right direction. Even just talking to people could help you either deal with it or at the very least take your mind off of things to make you feel better.
Almost everyone goes through depression (I have myself as well). Thus far though I have dealt with it pretty good I think and just like you with and around friends I was okay because my mind was always distracted with other things. I knew I can't keep avoiding my own issues forever though (which are the catalyst for the depression) so I found the best way is to face and resolve it so it's no longer a negative shadow hanging over me. There's the odd occasions when I still do get depressed about little things but that's something I guess that happens with everyone and it usually subsides as quickly as it came, as it does with you really.
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I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months, and I'm a big believer of not telling someone I love them until I really get that gut feeling. (I find it means so much more.)
He, to the contrary, has dated girls that are the exact opposite and say 'i love you' from day one; he was accustomed to saying it to me before I could tell him the same.
So 5 months have passed, and I really felt ready to tell him I loved him.. and I did. He was so happy, and I think he realized how much more it meant to him because I waited.
Here's the problem: now he never says it to me. I almost feel like he's scared to say those three words now that he knows I really mean it. Is this why he is hesitating all of a sudden? What's going on? (It's not fun to finally say i love you and not hear it back when he was the one saying it first)
That is strange but as you said it could just be the fear that you 'really' are in love with him when, before with all those other girls, all those words were was just that -- words.
Those three words are very much abused nowadays. People say them without meaning them, to manipulate others with and often than usual saying them without knowing what they even mean. Maybe he didn't realise their true meaning or what it meant to say them until you actually said them back when you was ready to and felt was the right time. He could possibly going through the same dilemma himself - questioning whether what he said was what he had actually felt before or not.
So it could just be a matter of time before he does say them in which case you'll probably just need to wait it out as he had done with you. On the other hand, if it's a deep concern to you, then you could always talk to him about it at some point and ask him about it and how come all of a sudden he never says it.
I'm a lot like you though when it comes to telling someone you love them. I've never said it to a gf unless I actually felt it was how I felt about them and even then I said it when I was ready to.
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What's the difference between cum and pre-cum?
Honestly, I do not understand this concept whatsoever.
A simple google search later...
Ejaculate (also known as semen or "cum") is a milky white fluid that shoots out of the penis, usually during orgasm. It contains hundreds of millions of sperm, as well as seminal fluid from the seminal vesicles, fluid from the prostate, and fluid from the Cowper's glands.
Pre-ejaculate (also known as "pre-cum") is seminal fluid that seeps from the tip of the penis during sexual excitement, before ejaculation happens. Pre-ejaculate may contain sperm from a previous ejaculation. Both pre-ejaculate and ejaculate can carry sexually transmitted infections.
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Why after a death do you have to cover the mirrors in the house and can't go in for like a week?
This is part of a very old susperstition. I managed to find a large amount of information for you regarding this which Ihave pasted below as well as the website where I had obtained the information as you may find it quite an interesting read. :]
The Victorians had a lot superstitions associated with death. When there was a corpse in the house you had to cover all the mirrors," it was believed that mirrors reflected your soul and at death the soul of the loved one was near so many ominous things could happen:
• To see your reflection in a mirror is to see your own soul, (which is why a vampire, who is without a soul, have no reflection.)
• If a couple first catch sight of each other in a mirror, they will have a happy marriage.
• Any mirrors in a room where someone has recently died, must be covered so that the dead person's soul does not get trapped behind the glass. Superstition has it that the Devil invented mirrors for this very purpose.
• It is bad luck to see your face in a mirror when sitting by candlelight.
• Before mirrors, in ancient societies, if you caught sight of your reflection or dreamt of it, you would soon die.
• Someone seeing their reflection in a room where someone has recently died, will soon die themselves.
The origins of covering a mirror are rooted in the Jewish religion and their respect for the dead when sitting Shiva:
It is proper to cover the mirrors (with sheets, or fogged spray provided by the funeral home) in the shiva house for the following reasons:
• During shiva, a mourner is striving to ignore his/her own physicality and vanity in order to concentrate on the reality of being a soul.
• A mirror represents social acceptance through the enhancement of one's appearance. Jewish mourning is supposed to be lonely, silent; dwelling on one's personal loss. Covering the mirrors symbolizes this withdrawal from society's gaze.
• Prayer services, commonly held in the shiva house, cannot take place in front of a mirror. When we pray, we focus on God and not on ourselves.
• Physical relations between a husband and wife are suspended during the week of shiva, and thus the need for physical beauty is removed.
Source: http://www.sandiego.org/article/Visitors/665
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for english, we had to write a reflective essay on 10 minutes of our life. usually, we do peer editing in class with all of our essays, but this time, we dont have enough time to. this is where you guys and gals come in =p. i would lovee to hear your input on it, good and bad. if theres anything that i should add or take out or change, ect. let me know. and also if you see any comma errors or words spelled incorectly, anything grammar related, please let me know also. thanks a ton!
heres the essay-
I took a deep breath. Pushing off with my right foot, I began down the hill. As I started to build speed, I knew this wasn’t a good idea. Squeezing my eyes shut, I put my foot out on the ground to try to stop myself, but nothing could help me at this point.
I was on the ground before I knew it. Still not sure of what had happened, I looked down at the ground, hoping to see my feet still firmly planted in the same position on my friends skateboard. But this wasn’t the case. A sharp pain suddenly shot through my arms and legs. My whole waist went numb. I couldn’t will myself to get up off the cold, hard pavement. My whole body ached. It felt like there were pins and needles poking into me everywhere. In the distance, I could faintly hear someone’s voice yelling. I soon figured out that it was my friend’s voice, calling out to me. “Kara!” I heard. “Are you ok!? What happened?”
I tried to make since of it all, but it was still a huge blur. “Two arms, two legs, and a head,” I thought. “Alright, I’m ok.” I just needed to get up, hop back on the skateboard, and everything would be fine. Reaching down towards to pavement, I placed my hands, palms down, on the ground to push myself up. As soon as I did this, a surging pain shot through my hands. I quickly withdrew my hands up, like a small child touching a hot oven for the first time. Sneaking a quick peek at my palms revealed a crimson red that left me feeling nauseated.
The fact that my friends brand new skateboard, his prized possession, was nowhere in sight suddenly hit me like a ton of bricks. This realization momentarily made the pain I had been feeling fade. Frantically, I surveyed the area, but it was nowhere in sight. Finally pushing myself up from my position on the ground, I began to search more thoroughly. I looked in every possible place I could think of, but still nothing. The skateboard was nowhere to be found. Just as I started loosing hope, my friend came running up from behind my neighbor’s car, with his skateboard tucked safely under his arm. I don’t think I had ever been as relieved as I was that moment.
This feeling was quickly washed away, though, as pain sharply reminded me what had just happened. I then hobbled up the monstrous hill that I had just taken a tumble down, and retreated into the safe warmth of my house.
I think it is safe to say I’m not the best skateboarder in the world, but everyone takes a fall or two when learning something new. If I try to see myself skateboarding again in the near future, it sends shivers up and down my spine, although I definitely want to try again someday. “If at first you don’t succeed, try and try again.”
thanks again everyone! i really appreciate it.
Awesome piece of work, I really liked it. :] It's almost poetic in a way - life has it's tumbles but we always get back on our feet and try again. ;]
I only spotted one little mistake as far as spelling goes and that was in the following line:
I tried to make since of it all, but it was still a huge blur.
The word "since" should read "sense".
Thanks for sharing the essay. :]
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When can you tell that a person has crossed the line from use to abuse,are there any sure signs that something that used to be for fun and recreation has become a dependency,and how can you set limitations to make sure that your use doesn't turn into abuse?
I think depending on circumstances and exactly what you refer to has a big part in this question.
Referring to illegal drugs the line between use and abuse is very narrow and for the most part probably very blurry. If using drugs was okay (as opposed to abusing them) they wouldn't really be illegal in the first place unless they were being abused? Using a drug just to make yourself feel happy, or as a means of escape from reality and whatever other reasons people have - these are all forms of abuse, not use. Using E tablets in clubs for example to enhance the night knowing full well that it could kill them - that's to 'safe' use, that's abuse. At least from my perspective anyway.
The so called recreational drugs (weed and such) can be a bit of both. I think, as with anything be it illegalor legal drugs, when a person becomes dependant on them (like when they NEED/HAVE to smoke it and will do anything to get more) that's when they have crossed the line from a user to becoming dependant and abusive of that drug.
I'm not really sure how you would be able to tell but I would think if you are around the specific person enough you would probably just notice the difference in them and their addiction right away. Always wanting to have/do it, becoming irritable or angry when they can't, wanting to borrow money topay for their addiction. All these would probably be signs of abuse/dependency.
Hope I was able to help a little.
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Ok, well last weekend my band took a trip to san antonio and i hooked up with someone. i'm 14/f and a freshman and he's 17/m and a junior. On the bus ride home (about 5 hours) we sat together and shared a blanket, cuddled, held hands, leaned heads on each other, etc. And he did sit with another girl earlier on thr trip but he never acted like that with her. When it was dark I had my head in his lap and we started kissing and making out for the rest of the way home which was about 30ish minutes. It's been three days and he hasn't really taked to me much. He's in my first period class and lunch. He kind of talks to me during first period but only noticed me once in lunch. And after school I'll be standing in the hall and he walks right past me without even looking at me. I like him, but I don't know if he likes me because it's not really seeming that way right now. And I don't to be the naive little freshman who thinks there's a relationsihp there that's really not and follow him around and be annoying. Several of my friends have told me just to forget about him and find someone else, and believe me, I've tried, but for some reason I just can't. But does anyone think that he might like me? And if it doesn't seem that way how can I forget about him? Thanks!!
To be honest it seems to me that no, he doesn't feel about you the way you feel about him. Judging by the way he's been acting I'd say it was just a one off thing (maybe a bit of fun) for him or something? I wouldn't put it past that considering his age as well as the way he's acting with you now/afterwards.
I think you're friends are right - just move on. Waiting around for him in this way isn't healthy and if I'm right you will come across as more of someone who's desperate than anything else (which I'm sure is something you don't want). If you like him then you could try tell him that but I just think they way he's been acting so far (if he really did like you he's have put a lot more effort in which he hasn't) I don't know if I can say he does feel that way about you and think you may deserve at least better than that.
You can never forget about someone because it's just not that easy to do and if I could tell you how you can forget about him - believe me I'd be a God! And extremely rich having a solution like that. ;] Forgetting him will just take time but as your friends said - find someone else or at least don't block out the possibility of finding someone else. There are a LOT of guys out there and you can always find someone better - always. I think you at least deserve someone decent and so far he doesn't seem to be up to scratch when it comes to be deserving of someone like you.
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My best guy friend, (I'm 16/f, he's 16/m) smokes almost everything besides cigarettes with his 2 other friends. I know his two other friends, and care for them, but not as much as him. I've known him longer, and look up to him in a way, and when he smokes I don't understand why. I think he should know better, and I just have always thought he was smart enough to not do it. Well recently he asked me why I only care if he smokes and no one else? I explained to him what I said above, and he just didn't seem to get it.
Am I wrong for caring so much about it? (I don't get mad at him when he does it, I just tell him that it's not something I like and why he does it and all the stuff I said above)
I wouldn't think of it as a compliment I think I would actually find it really sweet that someone would care so much.
Thing with anything nowadays is people has this attitude that you only live once. Everyone, literally everyone, knows the amount of harm smoking does not just to the person smoking but those around them too but it doesn't matter to them becuase as far as their concerned their only going to live once so why not live life doing what they like. There's others on the other hand who smoke because it helps with stress. Nicotine is drug and with some people it helps them relax. Then there's others who just like smoking. :/ I don't personally understand a lot of the reasons why people do it (he may even feel he has to do it to fit in, I don't know) but at the end of the day unless he really wants to stop - he won't.
I've been trying to get one of my best friends to stop for a long time but he just wont and didnt realise how much harm it was doing to him until recently when he started suffering a lot of chest pains. Another of my friend started smoking again and now can't run for more then a few mins without tiring himself out completely. It's not nice to see but if this is what they want to do it's their choice really. All you can do is be there and show you do care and don't like what they do to themselves. Most of my friends used to not smoke around me because they knew I hated it but now I've pretty much chilled out about it a lot more. If they want to smoke I leave them to it but that doesn't stop me lecturing them about how bad it is. ;]
To answer your question more directly no, I don't think your in the wrong at all for caring. Hopefully one day he will understand what you are trying to say or where you're coming from. Judging from what he said as well though he may have been expecting you to say something else. Just dawned on me the way he asked why you only care if he smokes and no one else he may have thought maybe you feel something more about him than just a friend? Not sure if its the case or if that's what he might have thought but it could be a possibility.
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Ok i have head aches every day. There not really bad or anything but i get the seriously EVERY SINGLE DAY. i havn't really done anything about it, and i havn't really told a doctor. So i guess i'm asking should i? There really not that bad, and nothing is wrong with me, but i was wondering if you guys think that i should?
Yes, talking to your doctor might be a good idea since they have been occuring on a regular basis. They may just be related to stress- or not. Either way though your doctor will hopefully have an answer as to why they are occuring and hopefully have a way to put them to a stop so I advise you see your doctor.
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