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me and my b/f are 15/16 and we are totally commited to each other and we want to have sex but we are scared because we don't know how
So my 1st question is
1.) How do you know when your ready?
2.)How do you give a guy a blowjob that makes him wanna scream?
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Being ready for sex has many factors. Mainly your moral values.
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1. If you won't regret it afterwards, even if you guys have have a horrible break up sometime in the future, then I'd say you're ready.
2. Bite him really, really hard. He'll definately scream. If you want him to moan though, don't use your teeth, suck in your lips, try to put it in as deep as possible.
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How do you know when you're ready? Well, there's no objective criterion. You just tend to know. One sign is that you don't have to sneak around to do it.
I think you'll have a hard time getting anyone on this site to tell a fifteen-year-old how to give a blow job. You can find it on your own, but I don't think it's ethical to give a minor instructions in sex.
Sabine
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Totally committed at 15 and 16? That is admirable, but be careful in assuming that it will not change. Committments are about meeting obligations that surpass feelings and many times this means that you are under a kind of self-imposed law to do what you feel is right to honor that committment and not do what you really want to do. Does not sound so fun, does it? It isn't and this is why when relationships are tested, most of them fail. Promises are broken and hearts as well. Knowing you are ready for sex is difficult to assess, and it is more likely to discover that you were not ready only afterwards. Girls in general attach more emotions to sex and are vulnerable to being hurt. Guys can be quite detached and have sex with multiple strangers with little thought or feeling. Scary, eh? Would your boyfriend be as committed to staying with you if there were no possiblility of sexual activities? Could he go six months with you with no promise of sex? This would help you know the truth about his committment to you. If you decide to have sex with this guy regardless, make sure you are at least prepared with condoms, spermicide and the knowledge of how to use them correctly and perfectly everytime. Waiting to have sex will make the experience more meaningful and enjoyable for both of you. It is your body and your choice, but the only good and honest advise I can give you is to wait. Holding out until you are at least an adult woman will leave you with fewer regrets and more control over your own sexual life.
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I can't really comment on the blowjob part because I've never really liked blowjobs anyway but I would imagine the ideal way would be to ask him what it is he likes and doesn't like when you are actually doing it. Just remember that like any other thing the only way to get better at it is to go by trial and error and by getting to know each other better and by finding out what each other like and dont like. So it will take time - just don't expect everything to be perfect and for everything to go perfect the first time becuase it may not happen this way. Saying that though don't feel bad either bacause as I said - it just takes time and practice. :]
As for knowing when you are ready - generally you just know deep down when you are. If you have to ask other people how you will know when you're ready then theres a strong chance that you just aren't ready. Also, bare in mind being ready doesn't just mean ready to have sex it means taking responsibility as well. I assume you will both play it safe and use protection but bare in mind that even condoms can split - you both have to be prepared for that and the resulting consequences and such.
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