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"I Love You"
I've been dating my boyfriend for 5 months, and I'm a big believer of not telling someone I love them until I really get that gut feeling. (I find it means so much more.)
He, to the contrary, has dated girls that are the exact opposite and say 'i love you' from day one; he was accustomed to saying it to me before I could tell him the same.
So 5 months have passed, and I really felt ready to tell him I loved him.. and I did. He was so happy, and I think he realized how much more it meant to him because I waited.
Here's the problem: now he never says it to me. I almost feel like he's scared to say those three words now that he knows I really mean it. Is this why he is hesitating all of a sudden? What's going on? (It's not fun to finally say i love you and not hear it back when he was the one saying it first)
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maybe he was just throwing those words around and maybe now he sees how serious it is maybe he aint sure or maybe hes scared your best bet is to talk to him about it good luck
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That is strange but as you said it could just be the fear that you 'really' are in love with him when, before with all those other girls, all those words were was just that -- words.
Those three words are very much abused nowadays. People say them without meaning them, to manipulate others with and often than usual saying them without knowing what they even mean. Maybe he didn't realise their true meaning or what it meant to say them until you actually said them back when you was ready to and felt was the right time. He could possibly going through the same dilemma himself - questioning whether what he said was what he had actually felt before or not.
So it could just be a matter of time before he does say them in which case you'll probably just need to wait it out as he had done with you. On the other hand, if it's a deep concern to you, then you could always talk to him about it at some point and ask him about it and how come all of a sudden he never says it.
I'm a lot like you though when it comes to telling someone you love them. I've never said it to a gf unless I actually felt it was how I felt about them and even then I said it when I was ready to.
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