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Smoking
My best guy friend, (I'm 16/f, he's 16/m) smokes almost everything besides cigarettes with his 2 other friends. I know his two other friends, and care for them, but not as much as him. I've known him longer, and look up to him in a way, and when he smokes I don't understand why. I think he should know better, and I just have always thought he was smart enough to not do it. Well recently he asked me why I only care if he smokes and no one else? I explained to him what I said above, and he just didn't seem to get it.
Am I wrong for caring so much about it? (I don't get mad at him when he does it, I just tell him that it's not something I like and why he does it and all the stuff I said above)
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no your absolutly not wrong for caring so much. i my ex does some drugs and i tell him how much i care and i don't want him to be hurting himself and i don't think he understands very much either...
i would take it as a compliment but then again if someone told me that i was wrong for having sex with my boyfriend or something and that i shouldn't do it i would kind of be like hey i knwo you care but i know what i'm doing... you know?
i think it's because he's cocky and thinks he's invinsible but one time he's going to get hurt and he'll know what you mean... but hopefully he will get the point before anyting bad happens
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I wouldn't think of it as a compliment I think I would actually find it really sweet that someone would care so much.
Thing with anything nowadays is people has this attitude that you only live once. Everyone, literally everyone, knows the amount of harm smoking does not just to the person smoking but those around them too but it doesn't matter to them becuase as far as their concerned their only going to live once so why not live life doing what they like. There's others on the other hand who smoke because it helps with stress. Nicotine is drug and with some people it helps them relax. Then there's others who just like smoking. :/ I don't personally understand a lot of the reasons why people do it (he may even feel he has to do it to fit in, I don't know) but at the end of the day unless he really wants to stop - he won't.
I've been trying to get one of my best friends to stop for a long time but he just wont and didnt realise how much harm it was doing to him until recently when he started suffering a lot of chest pains. Another of my friend started smoking again and now can't run for more then a few mins without tiring himself out completely. It's not nice to see but if this is what they want to do it's their choice really. All you can do is be there and show you do care and don't like what they do to themselves. Most of my friends used to not smoke around me because they knew I hated it but now I've pretty much chilled out about it a lot more. If they want to smoke I leave them to it but that doesn't stop me lecturing them about how bad it is. ;]
To answer your question more directly no, I don't think your in the wrong at all for caring. Hopefully one day he will understand what you are trying to say or where you're coming from. Judging from what he said as well though he may have been expecting you to say something else. Just dawned on me the way he asked why you only care if he smokes and no one else he may have thought maybe you feel something more about him than just a friend? Not sure if its the case or if that's what he might have thought but it could be a possibility.
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