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Okay... this is going to be long but I REALLY need help. So thanks to anyone who takes this seriously and actually reads it and TRIES to help me.
So there's this boy.
He is SO cute.
He has brown hair, bright blue eyes, muscles... just, the whole enchilada.
Anndd... I have liked him for SOO long.
Since the beginning of this year.
And like, he used to like me but whatever.
Andd... on Valentines day of THIS year, it was 6th period on a Wednesday and I asked the teacher if I could go to the bathroom and so I went and his class is right next to mine. So as I walking back to class, I see AJ [the guy] walking towards me and my heart skips a beat. He is just, TOO cute. And we stopped by the lockers and we were talking or whatever. And he KISSED me. And pretty soon, we were making out and everything was SO great.
He was my first kiss.
I loved it.
And that night, I snuck out for him and got my ass caught and yeahh. Anywaysss...
he told me be liked me and everything. And we were talking about going out.
Well then, there comes BARBIE. She's a wannabe barbie, anyways. Well yeah, she was new to the school and AJ helped her out and now they're going out. wtf. I don't get how he could possibly do that: like me one second and then have a girlfriend the next. Fucking stupid. So anyways, I started liking this kid, Charles. And he liked me a lot and now, he won't talk to me at all for NO reason. And I was all depressed and vulnerable Saturday night [last Saturday night] and AJ started IMing me. [he was sober]
And we were joking around about blowjobs. Like, here's pretty much how the converation went.
AJ: SUCK IT.
ME: haha nahh. I don't feel like it.
AJ: haha well not now nigga.
ME: haha okay.
AJ: maybe tuesday?
ME: i dont know. I may be booked. haha
AJ: mann thats fucked up. haha
ME: haha im kidding.
like, we were joking and stuff and flirting ALOT. And him and his girlfriend were fighting. And he told me that I was prettier and that I would be a better girlfriend. And that she was an ugly whore. And everything. It was like, woah. I couldn't believe it.
So then, that night, he got fucked up on everclear, bars, coke&jack, and bud light. So yeah... I'm surprised he didn't die... seriously.
Anyways,
he was telling me I was beautiful and making me feel really good. And he started asking me to send him pictures of my boobs and I didn't wanna do it. And I didn't but like, I didn't know what to tell him! I was scaredd. 'Cause he's the only guy I;ve ever actually done something sexual with. And then he started asking me to have phone sex and I would finger myself and he would jack off. :/
I thought it was really weird.
'Cause like, I've never fingered myself as weird as they may seem but whatever.
I didn't want to.
And I didn't.
And I told him I liked him and I wanted to do everything to make him happy but I can do that in other ways. And fucking isn't one of them. I could be there for him and make him feel good about himself and just... be a great girlfriend. He's the ONLY guy I wanna be with. Seriously. I can't picture myself with anyone else.
Only him.
I've pictured us together SO many times.
I just want it to happen so bad.
And it never has.
And now, he's completely ignoring me.
And I have no idea why.
And I dont want him mad at me. I wanna at least be friends if not more. But I don't even think he wants to be that.
I mean, he's a major PIMP. He gets ALOT of girls and like, most of them are more than willing to give it up to him. But I'm not. And I think that's part of the reason he's not talking to me.
And I know he's an asshole.
And I've heard a million times how stupid I am for falling for a guy like that. So you don't have to tell me...
I just wish he wasn't like that. Like, I want us to work SO bad. I want to be with him.
He just... i dont know. There's something about him.
I don't know what it is. But anyways, yeah.
I don't know what to do.
I'm not asking for actual advice because seriously, what can you do? I just need some reassuring thoughts. Something to take my mind off everything. SOMETHING. I'll give you credit for even TRYING to help.
Shit, I'll give you credit just for READING it.
haha
I just need SOMETHING.
Thanks guys.
Love yall.
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okay i know im a girl but then i reall want to answer this so here goes...
firstly i think this AJ guy is a total jerk! he doesnt deserve you at ALL. Believe me i'm quite disgustd aftr reading bout how he treated you...n its gr8 that you know that you hav to get over him and ur not *totally* hung up on him... i mean that's half the battle won...I've gone through this before too so i'm jus gonna say this...from far he mightve seemd like the best guy in the world...i know cuz i hav this thing for bad boys...but the way i see it you sorta imagined him to be sweet and funny n all when he really isnt. so uve gotta realise that he's not the guy you imagined him to be...it makes it a lot more easier... n you should talk to this Charles guy...
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Well, you're right, you don't need advice. It's clear that you know what you need to do, which is to get over him. Don't offer him any more sexual favors of any kind, and definitely don't send him any naked pictures unless you want them to end up in his scrapbook next to all the other girls who fell for him and lived to regret it (or worse, on the internet).
He's a player, and a swinger. He is NOT interested in any kind of romantic or exclusive relationship with you, I can guarantee you that. He doesn't see you as a girlfriend; he sees you as a challenge. Once he's "conquered" you, you'll be yesterday's news, just like Barbie.
He's ignoring you now because he's given up. Thank your lucky stars! This guy is NOT any kind of good catch, and he will never be the man you want him to be. You offered love and affection, and he turned it down, because that isn't what he wants and it's not what he will ever give you in return.
Don't pursue friendship with him - he doesn't want it. Don't try to form a meaningful relationship with him - he's not interested. Don't cry over him - he won't shed one single tear for you.
I'm sure he can be very suave and charming, and that's what has your imagination working overtime, thinking of how great it would be with this guy. But start considering the reality of what it would be like - do you really think that your affection (which he is unlikely to return) will be enough to make him stop playing the field? Do you think that he'll stop seducing other girls, or that he'll stop drinking heavily, or stop being a PIMP if you're his girlfriend? Forget the fantasy - think about what it would REALLY be like wondering who he's with when he's not with you, what diseases he could be passing on to you, or whether any given night is the one where he'll drink himself into the ER. You really, really don't need those kinds of worries.
You will get over him in time. You will even wonder what you ever saw in this shallow, indecent man-child. A real man will value your love more than your package. You have a great deal to offer; don't waste it on someone incapable of appreciating it.
Oh, one more thing - you are not stupid for falling for him. Sometimes we can't help the way we feel. On the contrary, you are very smart for not letting those feelings get the best of you when your head told you what was right and wrong. He wanted sex, and you said no - there's a point in your favor. He wanted a nude picture of you, and you did the intelligent thing and turned him down. I think that on the whole, you've been rather intelligent about the whole thing. And now, it's time to harden your resolve, and let him go.
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I know you're having trouble with letting this guy go becuase of how you feel about him but I'm going to put this in the most nicest way I can and that is that this guy hasno intention of being with you as far as relationships go. He already threw you away once for some other girl and now all of a sudden shes a whore etc, etc? If you talked to her about it I can imagine a whole different version of events. He was off flirting with you while he had a gf so what's to stop him doing the exact same thing with you? Absolutely nothing! All his kind words were nothing more than manipulative techniques in a way to try and get out of you what he had wanted but good on you for actualy being able to hold out on them.
If you really want to take your mind off of things then I suggest you go out with some friends and have a good time and keep your options open. As evil as it may sound I can promise you if you ever did hookup with this guy it wouldn't last because he's just not the type of person that will be able to stick to one person too long. As for those pictures of you he wanted - nice work in not sending them. The last time one my friends had got talked into doing that the guy was blackmailing her with them after she tried to tell him to get lost. As revenge he eventually posted all those pictures on some web site together with her cell phone number. :/ Thankfully when I found out I was able to talk to the site webmaster and have them deleted as well as get the guy banned from the site but the fact he's still out there and may have copies of them is not a reassuring thought.
Someone once said to me that sometimes when a door of opportunity closes on us we spend all out time sitting there crying over that door that we fail to see another door opening up behind us. This guy was a nice thought but it's a dead end and very much not deserving of someone like you. Go out and have fun with friends, there are tons of guys out there and even though you think now that there's no one else out there that could be better I can assure you there are, there always are. :]
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I don;t know why you would want guys to answer this. Honestly, just because you've liked him so long, doesnt mean anything. People have crushes on celebritys too, but that doesnt mean if they ever get the chance to go out, that everythign will be perfect. What you imagine in your mind, and what is reality is completely different. I honestly mean that, think about it. In your mind, you two would be perfect, you would hang out, and do fun stuff, but thats just stuff you could do with anyone. There is more to a relationship than physical things. It sounds to me like he wants that. And you are going to get yourself into a dangerous situation if you keep trying to persue him.
As you said yourself he's a pimp, why would you want to be with someone like that?
"Guys pretend to love to have sex, girls have sex to pretend to have love"
I dont know if you've ever heard that before,
but its true.
Girls want love, most girls are way more mature than guys.
So be careful,
and also, be mindful,
if this guy you like already had a girlfriend,
dont interfer with the relationship,
you wouldnt want someone doing that to you your relationship would you?
And if he called his girlfriend all those names, what makes you think he woudlnt turn his back towards you and do that to you?
Since obviously he already did, but leading you on and kissing you, then dating another girl.
You know?
I hope I'm not making you angry,
actually it doesnt matter if I am.
Becuase I am giving my opinion on this situation.
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