a column for heartbroken girls and guys...I totally have a lot of experience in stuff like this so dont be scared to ask =) mwaah
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i broke up with my boyfriend last week for some odd reason and he asked me back this weekend. i felt really bad but i needed him back. i feel like hes the only one for me and hes my key to happiness. i really do love him. though, the first day he asked me back we did say we love each other. and we had a good conversation. we talked and had fun and laughed and got along really great and had a lot to talk about. before we broke up we didnt really talk as much and we fought a lot. but we said we loved each other a lot :\ haha. i love him so much. but when we talk, the love is there, just we dont really say it as much as we used to. should i give it time until we start saying it a lot again? and how can i have our good conversation stay, while having lots of love at the same time?? like i wanna talk about video games with him but in the same conversation say hes adorable and i love him to bits? hmm that is an idea. but usually we used to fight ..but say we love each other haha. ok so yeahh. to make this not very much longer. i need
good conversation that rolls along
lots of talking about loving each other like we used to
not as much fighting as we used to.
soo yeahh.. how do i get back the talking of love? and soon.. i dont want our relationship crumbling from dullness. please please please i bed you.
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you're gonna have to be careful...like you said if you just let it be it will all crumble away to dullness...so ya give it some time but not too much...the way i see it he doesn't know how he stands in your opinion right now and is probably a bit scared of losing you again. He's probably being careful and trying not to push it. so it's up to you to make the first move. here's an idea - when you're somewhere provate and you're having a conversation at the end of the talk just brush his hair lightly out of his eyes and mumble i love you as if you were just saying it to yourself. if he doesn't respond look at him with these cute eyes and say dont i get one, too? he's sure gonna say it after that :)
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When you love someone, do you love them for the way they make you feel? It seems like an obvious answer. I'm possibly misquoting here, but there is a quote that goes something like:
"Love is the realization that someone other than oneself exists". But if you really think about it, it could lead to an interesting debate... (link)
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ohmygod...this is a huge topic isn't it?
so what i know about love is that there are two types of love:
The Full On Crush: when you fall in love with a person you barely know because of the passion between the two of you. when you fall in love with someone because of who you think they are not because of who the really are. when you fall in love because you're basically in idea with the idea of being in love. when you cant get him/her out of your head but that's only cuz he/she's exciting...
The True Love: when you fall in love with someone truly and completely. when you aren't just not bothered by his/her bad qualities but when you see them as clearly as his/her good qualities and accept them with all of it. when you love with heart, soul, mind and body and not only do you know that you'd die without them, you die a little bit inside when you even try to imagine it.
someone once said:
"You like someone when you think he is as funny as Woody Allen, as wise as Albert Einstein and as sexy as Brad Pitt.
But love is when you *know* someone is as wise as Brad Pitt, as funny as Albert Einstein and as sexy as Woody Allen, but you love him anyway..."
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13/f ~ Much help needed
Ok, so my best guy friend and I have gotten together 2 days ago. He was always kinda shy even when we were just friends, but when we IM each other its like we can talk about anything, ever since we got together we have been talking for almost 3 hours, on AIM, but we don't seem to have that kind of convo in person. What kind of topic starters could we talk about in person.
Secondly,
He is shy but I want to hold his hand or hug him so much, (I am not really wanting to kiss him until we can have a good convo in person.) but I don't know if I should make the first move or if I should wait for him, should I say something about it on AIM, or not? Help please!
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do what i did...when i was talking to my boyfriend on day i just lightly brushed his upper arm and flicked some imaginary lint off his shoulder...keep doing this until your comfortable with it...then if he doesn't respond (which i'm sure he will) just put both arms on his shoulders and rest your head on his chest...thats sure to make him hug you! good luck!!
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Okay... this is going to be long but I REALLY need help. So thanks to anyone who takes this seriously and actually reads it and TRIES to help me.
So there's this boy.
He is SO cute.
He has brown hair, bright blue eyes, muscles... just, the whole enchilada.
Anndd... I have liked him for SOO long.
Since the beginning of this year.
And like, he used to like me but whatever.
Andd... on Valentines day of THIS year, it was 6th period on a Wednesday and I asked the teacher if I could go to the bathroom and so I went and his class is right next to mine. So as I walking back to class, I see AJ [the guy] walking towards me and my heart skips a beat. He is just, TOO cute. And we stopped by the lockers and we were talking or whatever. And he KISSED me. And pretty soon, we were making out and everything was SO great.
He was my first kiss.
I loved it.
And that night, I snuck out for him and got my ass caught and yeahh. Anywaysss...
he told me be liked me and everything. And we were talking about going out.
Well then, there comes BARBIE. She's a wannabe barbie, anyways. Well yeah, she was new to the school and AJ helped her out and now they're going out. wtf. I don't get how he could possibly do that: like me one second and then have a girlfriend the next. Fucking stupid. So anyways, I started liking this kid, Charles. And he liked me a lot and now, he won't talk to me at all for NO reason. And I was all depressed and vulnerable Saturday night [last Saturday night] and AJ started IMing me. [he was sober]
And we were joking around about blowjobs. Like, here's pretty much how the converation went.
AJ: SUCK IT.
ME: haha nahh. I don't feel like it.
AJ: haha well not now nigga.
ME: haha okay.
AJ: maybe tuesday?
ME: i dont know. I may be booked. haha
AJ: mann thats fucked up. haha
ME: haha im kidding.
like, we were joking and stuff and flirting ALOT. And him and his girlfriend were fighting. And he told me that I was prettier and that I would be a better girlfriend. And that she was an ugly whore. And everything. It was like, woah. I couldn't believe it.
So then, that night, he got fucked up on everclear, bars, coke&jack, and bud light. So yeah... I'm surprised he didn't die... seriously.
Anyways,
he was telling me I was beautiful and making me feel really good. And he started asking me to send him pictures of my boobs and I didn't wanna do it. And I didn't but like, I didn't know what to tell him! I was scaredd. 'Cause he's the only guy I;ve ever actually done something sexual with. And then he started asking me to have phone sex and I would finger myself and he would jack off. :/
I thought it was really weird.
'Cause like, I've never fingered myself as weird as they may seem but whatever.
I didn't want to.
And I didn't.
And I told him I liked him and I wanted to do everything to make him happy but I can do that in other ways. And fucking isn't one of them. I could be there for him and make him feel good about himself and just... be a great girlfriend. He's the ONLY guy I wanna be with. Seriously. I can't picture myself with anyone else.
Only him.
I've pictured us together SO many times.
I just want it to happen so bad.
And it never has.
And now, he's completely ignoring me.
And I have no idea why.
And I dont want him mad at me. I wanna at least be friends if not more. But I don't even think he wants to be that.
I mean, he's a major PIMP. He gets ALOT of girls and like, most of them are more than willing to give it up to him. But I'm not. And I think that's part of the reason he's not talking to me.
And I know he's an asshole.
And I've heard a million times how stupid I am for falling for a guy like that. So you don't have to tell me...
I just wish he wasn't like that. Like, I want us to work SO bad. I want to be with him.
He just... i dont know. There's something about him.
I don't know what it is. But anyways, yeah.
I don't know what to do.
I'm not asking for actual advice because seriously, what can you do? I just need some reassuring thoughts. Something to take my mind off everything. SOMETHING. I'll give you credit for even TRYING to help.
Shit, I'll give you credit just for READING it.
haha
I just need SOMETHING.
Thanks guys.
Love yall.
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okay i know im a girl but then i reall want to answer this so here goes...
firstly i think this AJ guy is a total jerk! he doesnt deserve you at ALL. Believe me i'm quite disgustd aftr reading bout how he treated you...n its gr8 that you know that you hav to get over him and ur not *totally* hung up on him... i mean that's half the battle won...I've gone through this before too so i'm jus gonna say this...from far he mightve seemd like the best guy in the world...i know cuz i hav this thing for bad boys...but the way i see it you sorta imagined him to be sweet and funny n all when he really isnt. so uve gotta realise that he's not the guy you imagined him to be...it makes it a lot more easier... n you should talk to this Charles guy...
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Okay theres this guy I've liked all of grade 7 and he's in my class and we flirt CONSTANTLY.We had this friends with benifits thing once...(less than doing it more than making out).he's in the popular click I'm...not but I have lots of friends.the guy I like's friend said to him if he goes out with me he'll never talk to him again.
Anyways after out F.W.B. thing the whole school found out while he was at camp...so he got back today nad was PISSED well we fixed it up...he's not mad as long as I tell everyone it's not true I got dared to say it.So I agreeed to.cuz he'll lose his friends cuz they're really superfishal.
I am 99.999999999% sure he likes me.I've asked him out (it was after his friend told him not to go out with me.) he said no...now I can get his friend to tell him he can go out with me...should I ?? Should I ask him out ? ?!?!?! I REALLY like him and trust him.He didn't tell anyone it was all my fault...
Love,
CONFUZZELED (link)
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look sweetie i'm gonna be frank...if he's anything like an of the popular guys in my school then you're right...his friends WILL give him a hard time if he goes out with you...but what matters is if he's brave enough to go through with that for you cuz i know me n my bf went through the same thing except I was the one my friends were giving a hard time...n well i realized i really loved him so i decided to ignore my friends and be with him...and now its been three months and my frnds hav sorta calmd down but its not totally fine...i don't think it ever will be..but what i'm saying is ask him out in private...if he says yes then yay for you but if he says no my advice is to lay off him. i mean it mite be hard to get over him n stuff but its tons better than going out with sum1 who lets their friends run their lives...go for it
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so basically i was making out with this guy and he said that i kiss differently than any other girl, like i use a lotta tongue. now idk if thats a bad thing or what. like we didnt stop after that and he was still into it but still. i just know that when i pulled away i kinda sucked on his lower lip for a second. we just kinda werent clicking i guess..am i a bad kisser or wat?
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hey maybe when he said that you kissed different he meant it in a good way like you made him feel better than the others rite? n he dint stop so dont stress...
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