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my bf/bff is shy!
13/f ~ Much help needed
Ok, so my best guy friend and I have gotten together 2 days ago. He was always kinda shy even when we were just friends, but when we IM each other its like we can talk about anything, ever since we got together we have been talking for almost 3 hours, on AIM, but we don't seem to have that kind of convo in person. What kind of topic starters could we talk about in person.
Secondly,
He is shy but I want to hold his hand or hug him so much, (I am not really wanting to kiss him until we can have a good convo in person.) but I don't know if I should make the first move or if I should wait for him, should I say something about it on AIM, or not? Help please!
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do what i did...when i was talking to my boyfriend on day i just lightly brushed his upper arm and flicked some imaginary lint off his shoulder...keep doing this until your comfortable with it...then if he doesn't respond (which i'm sure he will) just put both arms on his shoulders and rest your head on his chest...thats sure to make him hug you! good luck!!
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Awww well i don't know if this is going to help but i'll give it a go anyways.
Well my boyfriend and i we were both shy but we were on im/msn and we talked about it this is what we said
Me:I want a hug =[
Boyfriend: Aww so do i
Me: Next time i see you i want a hug !
Boyfriend:LOL mypleasure
It's just a hug lol im sure he wouldn't mind it if you see him just say "Do i get a hug ?"
And i'm sure he'll hug you because you two just starting going out you will both get used to eachother and i'm sure he won't be so emabrrassed.
Allot of relationships at the beginning are like that.
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i have been in your possisition many times.
this guys isn't very manly or he would be able to carry on a convo in person. but i can tell you he likes you ALOT because the only reason he can't confront you and talk to you is because he is nervouse.
and you should take things slowly.
continue talking on IM, and AIM, and maybe he will gradually feel more comfortable with you. when you are together just bring up common topics, that he likes to talk about, and that will get him going.
and dont say anything to him about wanting to hug him. he'll make the first move when he is ready.
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Well,,this is definetly typical..at least thats what Ive heard,and if the guys shy,Maybe youre the one having to make the first move.And on AIM you should ask him if he feels uncomfortable with things like that.And then ask him if he feels uncomfortable talking to you in person because you guys just started going out.And if he never talks to you in person..try starting the conversasion.He prolly wants to talk to you..he just doesnt wanna mess up and say some embarrassing thing and make you hate him or something.And dont think of him not talking to you that much in person of him being ashamed of you or something stupid like that...He prolly REALLY likes you,and like I said..he just doesnt know what to say.
And sorry I really dont have any good conversation starters..besides asking how his day was,,and 'what's up.'
Sorry I dont have anything really that clever about starting a conversation.:[[
Lol.
Have a great day..
And GOOD LUCK.:]]
:]]PEACE.
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As far as the talking in person goes, don't worry about it. Just say whatever you feel like saying; let it come naturally. Don't plan out your conversations. Secondly, if you want to hold his hand or hug him, do it. Asking about it over AIM is okay too, but if you want to build up your relationship in person as opposed to over online, you should just go for it. Also, good choice about waiting to kiss him It's a much better idea to become friends before you start kissing; there's no need to rush things.
*EDIT* Talk to him about telling his parents, but as long as he eventually plans on telling his parents you are going out, don't worry about it. Go trick or treating with him and just see how things play out.
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