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I'm a pretty social person, but everytime I want to plan some time to hang out with one of my friends my parents always interfer.They hardly ever let people come to our house because they claim it's messy when all they gotta do is clean it up! Today I wanted to sleep-over my friends house and my parents wouldnt let me go because it was raining, but it wasn't even raining hard!! Everywhere I go, I'm questioned.One time, I wanted to ride my bike around the block and my parents made me come back in 10 minutes when it was only 6:00..They make me so mad!! It's hard for me to show them I'm responsible because they baby me with how they are overprotective and I'm just so pissed off right now!!I want them outta of my bussiness!! Please help!! How do I get them to stop buggin me and let me be able to do stuff with my friends?

Well what they're really showing is that they love you alot and they want you to be safe. But what I would do is try talking to them and explaining to them about how you're not a baby anymore and you're grown up and more responsible. Which is another thing- show you're a responsible kid, so that whenever you ask you're parents to go somewhere, they know you'll be responsible and let you. Or.. do they trust you? Because maybe if they don't, you should try earning some back ( I don't know if you ever did something bad and they found out and stopped trusting you..?)But whenever you do ask to go out, you're parents will probably want to know:


-where is this gonna be?
-will there be a parent/s there?
-what's their number so that I can call them?
-what time will you be back by?
-that they want you to call them every few hours or something
-who you're all going with ( incase they don't know them, they probably won't let you go... )


and I'd just answer these questions to your parents before they even ask, cause once again, that shows you're being repsonsible and finding out everything and that also means they know where you're going to be, and that if you call you're all right and stuff.. hope I helped!!





Love,
MELii

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Sometimes i come to think that im a loner. Its summer time now and i just sit home and do nothing, or im with my boring family. Im friends with the popular group, or the "it" group in school. Whenever i ask them if they want to do something they say they cant or make up excuses. I dont know what im doing wrong. How could i get them to actually want to hang out with me?

Well it seems the popular group aren't very good friends. I mean if they're your friends, then wouldn't they WANT to hang out with you and not make up excuses? .. so I'd try to find some new friends...or I'd try confronting the popular kids about it. Next time you try to hang out with them, and they say they can't just confront them about it and ask what's going on, and if they want to seriously be your friend or not. Hope I helped!!





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MELii

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i usually dont have confidence issues like this, but i needed some help, lol.

i`m going to a new high school this year, with mostly new kids. i want to try out for the football cheerleading squad. tryouts are in late july. anyway, i don`t know why, but i`m having confidence issues about it. i`m not sure what they expect of us, i`m afraid i`ll screw it all up, and i`m afraid i`m going to embarrass myself since i haven`t done cheerleading in such a long time. should i just go for it, or forget it?

i`m also shy to tell my family and friends that I want to do it and i don`t know why because really looking at it its not a big deal. i can dance and stuff, but like i said i don`t know what they expect. ugh, can someone give me some guidance?

Whenever you go to tryout, what they mainly expect from you is:

-gymnastics ( if you know any )
-being loud
-cheerful and happy
-knowing the cheers
-have a good rountine ( and doing dance really helps that, cause if you don't do gymastics, that still shows you're flexible and such...)

and I would just tell your family, because if you have any older sisters or anything, maybe they can help you out.. and if it's no big deal, then I'm sure your family will support you 100% =)
hope I helped! and good luck!! =)






Love,
MELii

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heyy i really liek this kid but he goz 2 a different school and i really like him at should i do?

Well if you guys live near eachother then I suggest going out with him, because then he would be in a near area where he can like come over your house or vice versa, and you could still see eachother on weekends. But if he lives like 5 hours away, then I don't think I would because then you'd hardly see eachother...hope I helped!!




Love,
MELii




p.s. A half hour is probably fine too. My friend's dating this girl that lives like.. 55 minutes away from him.. so long-distance relationships are possible, as long as you see eachother.

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I have a really mean sister Of course I am the youngest she is always yelling at me and being so mean she always is calling me idiot and she says i am retarded and it is getting on my nerves and she is acting like she is the boss of me I cant do or say anything with out getting yelled at by her what should i do i need some help on getting my sister nicer

I would just ignore her ; because that's all older brothers and sisters job is to piss us younger ones off. Haha unless there are those rare siblings that are nice to eachother.. which is the next suggestion. Do you act nice to her? Because if you're arguing back, I'm sure that's not going to make her very happy..but just mainly ignore it. Hope I helped!!





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MELii

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I'm girl thats 14 and going into 9th grade, but I'm dating a guy thats almost 17 and going into 11th grade. A couple days ago he told me that before he met me, he made out with pretty much all his friends that are girls, and he misses that because he doesn't see me everyday so hes tempted to do things with them. He asked me if it would be ok if he did stuff with them. and still did things with me too, in other words, have friends with bennefits instead of a relationship. I said no because I didnt want to be his piece of ass, so I told him it was over. Now hes asking me to take him back, and I know I shouldnt but deep down I really want to be with him. what do I do!?

Well it's good that you defended yourself, and broke up with him if he just asked you to be friends with benefits..but if you still really want to be with him ; then maybe you should go out with him.. but just lay down the rules about how it's you, and only you. But then again, it would be REALLY hard to trust him, whenever he already gave you that thought of him getting tempted to make out with other girls and stuff, and those temptations would probably come back. So.. I'd suggest not going out with him. Hope I helped!!





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MELii

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Ok i am the same one who said she was raped and didnt know how to tell her parents because I was to scared...well see the thing is i am to scared to do that because the guy who raped me was my 18 year old cuzin and he said he would kill me if he found out I told anyone and well since hes my cuzin he will find out that people know very quickly even if he just finds out i told someone i was raped he will find a way to kill me...i really have no clue what to do and I am so freaked out...plz help
thanks

you definetly HAVE to tell your parents! Let them know! Because you don't have to worry about him threatening you..because he'll have his ass in jail!! And I mean..THATS YOUR COUSIN! That's just so wrong in so many ways. I'm so sorry you went through that experience, and I hope everything gets better for you. =)





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MELii

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I dated a guy for a few months last year. Things moved way to fast and I found out that I really didn’t like who he was, he was lazy and sports obsessed and treated me like a child. The last straw was a very racist comment he made. I broke up with him almost 6 months ago.
The problem is he still calls me, sends me text messages and insists he wants to talk to me for ‘closure’ and to ‘explain himself’ or just to hear the sound of voice agian. I don’t even like the guy, he kinda creeps me out and have no desire to speak to him ever again. Do I owe him this? Or is okay to just keep saying that I don’t want to talk to him and want him to leave me alone?

I think that you should just tell him to leave you alone, because that it a little creepy and it seems kind of obsessive there which is kinda weird..and even if you did talk to him and start maybe hanging out with him again, he'll probably just go back to being lazy,sports obsessed,and treating you like a child, so really, there is no point to talking to him again. And also because you don't like him! And also racist comments, are very rude! And I wouldn't want to hang out with a person like that!..Hope I helped!!




Love,
MELii

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if anyone has a xanga i need help!
does anyone know how to get that little bar where you can download all these songs so you can choose the music you listen to instead of one song?
thanx i rate high

You mean a playlist? Well there is this site that I know that is a really good..
http://www.xanga.com/home.aspx?user=help4y0u
and then if you look around on the site, there should be something that tells you about music playlists and all you have to do is copy the code down, go to your xanga look & feel, and then go to Custom Header and paste the code in. If you need any help with how to get the music and put the music in, please IM me. But I thought it was easy to figure it out. Hope I helped!!





Love,
MELii

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my friend is anorexic and i need to persuade her to tell and adult, before i do. what should i say?

thx

I would just be like,"____, you're my friend and I care about you alot. I mean I know your body, your privacy butbeing anorexic is not the way to solve anything. Have you seen how Mary-kate Olsen and Lindsay Lohan looked in the magazines? All boney and stuff? And I don't want you to look like that.. and it's very bad for you! You're starving you're body! And I'd seriously suggest telling an adult.. because if you won't ; I will. If you're not going to do it for yourself.. please..do it for me, and everyone else that cares about you and your health." Or something like that. And then I'd suggest listing her some places where she can go and get help!! I hope everything works out for you and especially your friend =) Hope I helped!!





Love,
MELii

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I'm thinking about using Veet (the hair removing stuff). Is it bad for your skin?

OMG don't even touch that stuff!! I wanted to buy it ; but my friend bought it before I did and I asked her to tell me if I should get it ; and she called me telling me how it burns and stuff and she said it didn't even get all of the hair off...but she said it especially burned. So I would suggest not getting it...but maybe her skin just might be differently reacting then to what yours could..so..I don't know ; but I wouldn't even try it if it had someone's skin burn..hope I helped!!




Love,
MELii

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There is a boy I think likes me, but I cant tell.Here are some things he has done or done for me:Starring(for a very long time now),saving me from from being embaressement,and muble somthing when I pass by.Do you think he likes me?what are some ways to tell?And how can I make him just tell me?

I am so confesed

P.S his friend smiles at me.Plese help me:)

From what it sounds like, it sounds like he does =) some other ways to tell are if you're in a group of people talking, try to notice if he's kinda just talking to you or trying to see if you laugh at his jokes..and maybe try flirting with him sometime and see if he flirts back...but heres the number one way to know: ask one of his best friends, cause I'm sure they'd know who he likes...hope I helped!!





Love,
MELii

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My Golden Retriever named Katie is 13 going on 14, i havent gone through a pet dieing experince my question is there any way to prepare myself in case my dog dies anytime soon? Katie's my First Dog and i love her sooooooo Much i would hate it if she died this Year Month Week Day
Can You Please Help Me Prepare for the Sadest Day of my Life???!?!??!?!?!?

HELP i'll RATE HIGH

Wow, that's old.. =O But what I suggest to do is to just give her extra extra loving and attention, and make possibly her last year a awseome one and just spend as much time as you can with her and look at the bright side of things.. she's 14! That's more than most dogs normally live.. so you got to have more time with her than most of owners get too =) It'll hurt alot, but slowly you'll get through it..and you kinda just have to face the facts. Sooner or later, they're gonna pass on.. I know it sucks to think about.. but you kinda just have to realize that it's gonna happen someday... I have my two first dogs.. and every year whenever they get older, that just makes me think of them dying quicker =(.. they're 7 and 8...=( but slowly I'll get through it.. and who knows? Maybe you'll get another dog that you can love just as much as you did Katie. Well I hope that Katie lives for a loooong time and that you can pass through it =) Hope I helped!!





Love,
MELii

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Hey... ANOTHER field hockey question... well since i hope to try out for the team next year at school which starts in like 2 months I want to get in shape. I was wondering what i can do to be in shape and at my best when playing the sport.. i was thinking maybe swimming laps in my pool.. or i dont really know.. anyone who has any tips i dont care what sport you play but a field hockey player mite help more.. idk ... thxx!

Well I would suggest maybe signing up to a gym ; put if you don't wanna spend money then just work out at home ; run laps around your neighborhood...do crunches and sit ups and maybe buy weights and stuff.. swimming laps would help too. And if you have any other friends that do field hockey then you should practice with them so you can work on your moves and still kinda work out at the same time. Hope I helped!!



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MELii

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im 14/f and i have never had a boifriend. i am really outgoing around my friends but whenever i'm around guys i get shy especially around guys i like. and it seems like all the guys at my school only like the sluts and nobody else.. what are some ways to get to be better friends with more guys and how to not be shy around them? thanks.

Well what I would suggest to do is that whenever you're around the guys just take a breath and calm yourself down a little ( which is how you can prevent the redness on your face too ) and just listen to them talk for a bit and whenever they say something that you can relate to just start talking to them about it.. it's a little easier to talk to them whenever you have friends around cause it eases the tension and then you can have backup if you were ever to do something stupid. But just start slowly getting into the conversation with him, and be funny and stuff and then before the night is over maybe just be like," Well tonight was fun... hey can I have your number/screename so I can talk to ya again?" or maybe he'll ask for it =) Hope I helped!!





Love,
MELii

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does anyone know any shampoos/conditioners that make your hair like really silky??? i use pantene but my hair like got used to it and it doesnt work very well anymore... 5 for good answers...

Well do you straighten your hair, because if you do Thermasilk is a really good one.. I also use V05 and that seems to work really well too. And even if you don't, they just work really well haha.. hope I helped!!





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MELii

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I have really long hair and I like to keep a defined hairline. When I was at a water park recently, I got a really bad sunburn on my head where it's parted. Any ideas on what I can do to make it feel better at least? I mean, how much can you do for a sunburn on your head?

My friend has it right now so haha I can definetly help you with this one.. um.. there's you can do really but wait for it to go away.. and whenever you go out, I'd suggest wearing a hat or something so you don't get it even more sunburnt. And also, don't scratch you're head in public, cause then it will peel.. haha.. and I know you don't want that!! Hope I helped!!





Love,
MELii

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How can I show my boyfriend that I REALLY love him, but not by making out?

Maybe you can buy him a gift ; it doesn't have to be all fancy-schamncy and high-priced.. more sentimental.. like maybe something that reminds him of the first time you guys met or kissed or something.. and just maybe write " I LOVE YOU " on the present or just do other stuff.. like cuddle with him alot, hug him, hold hands alot, and just show him you care.. and just tell him you love him =) Hope I helped!!




Love,
MELii

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I used to be really close to this guy, but then we went through this misunderstanding where he thought i had said something that i didnt, and now he hates me. i tried making things right with him, and i even had a friend ask him what was going on. he said that he was sorry for making me feel bad but didnt want to be friends with me or aquainted with me at all. what should i do?

lonely

I'd just.. leave him alone. I know that will be sad.. but obviously if he doesn't want to be friend or aqquainted with you at all.. then there seems to be no solution.. don't push it on him...he's making his point pretty clear.. I wish there could be a solution ; but I can't seem to think of anything.. =/.. hope I helped..




Love,
MELii

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I'm not sure if this is in the right catagory but I'll ask my question anyway. I want to know what every single color jelly bracelet means. I want to know in the simplest way you can explain it. I would be happy with a website that I can take reference to if you don't want to fit the majority of colors into your answer. Thanks in advance!

13/f

Well my friend has wanted to know that too ; and what she did was she looked online.. theres sites everywhere...I'd say search " Jelly Braclet Meanings " or something like that. All I know is that black means sex, and whenever the bracelt's broken, you have to sex with them =P Or it means how many times you've done it.. don't wear alot now...hahaha!! Hope I helped!!




Love,
MELii

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