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I want a social Life!!!
I'm a pretty social person, but everytime I want to plan some time to hang out with one of my friends my parents always interfer.They hardly ever let people come to our house because they claim it's messy when all they gotta do is clean it up! Today I wanted to sleep-over my friends house and my parents wouldnt let me go because it was raining, but it wasn't even raining hard!! Everywhere I go, I'm questioned.One time, I wanted to ride my bike around the block and my parents made me come back in 10 minutes when it was only 6:00..They make me so mad!! It's hard for me to show them I'm responsible because they baby me with how they are overprotective and I'm just so pissed off right now!!I want them outta of my bussiness!! Please help!! How do I get them to stop buggin me and let me be able to do stuff with my friends?
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Well what they're really showing is that they love you alot and they want you to be safe. But what I would do is try talking to them and explaining to them about how you're not a baby anymore and you're grown up and more responsible. Which is another thing- show you're a responsible kid, so that whenever you ask you're parents to go somewhere, they know you'll be responsible and let you. Or.. do they trust you? Because maybe if they don't, you should try earning some back ( I don't know if you ever did something bad and they found out and stopped trusting you..?)But whenever you do ask to go out, you're parents will probably want to know:
-where is this gonna be?
-will there be a parent/s there?
-what's their number so that I can call them?
-what time will you be back by?
-that they want you to call them every few hours or something
-who you're all going with ( incase they don't know them, they probably won't let you go... )
and I'd just answer these questions to your parents before they even ask, cause once again, that shows you're being repsonsible and finding out everything and that also means they know where you're going to be, and that if you call you're all right and stuff.. hope I helped!!
Love,
MELii
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Hi there. Just because your rents are overprotective doesn't mean they don't want you to have fun. They're doing that to protect you 'cause they love you and if something happens to you, well then, think about what's gonna happen after that. You're a big part of their lives, and they want you to be. Try talking to them and ask questions. Lots of questions, it helps. You're not the only one since they were your age once. I'm pretty sure they know what they're doing. It might not seem reasonable to you at first, but know that whatever they're doing, they're doing it for you.
I hope this helps.
Kay
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..well you need to talk to your parents..You need to ask them if there is any reason for them not to trust you..If they have a reason not to trust you than you need to try and earn ur respect back..And you need to tell them you are not a baby anymore and you need to be able to do things and that they need to trust you..they have to understand you need to b independent..And you just need to tell them how you feel..Hope I helped`
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Well sometimes parents can be a little bit over protective but really all that means is that they love you and they want to make sure nothing happens to you.I would talk to them and ask them if they could lighten up on you a little bit.
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Hey, my parents are pretty much the same way but..on a lower level, lol.
Try the following things, its what i would do!
1)Write them a letter! Its sooo much easier then face to face confrontation, i promise!
2)Do something that can show them that you're resposible..I.E. Clean up the house when they do not ask you to, also if you want friends over how bout cleaning the house up yourself?
3)Show them how important it is to you that you gain your trust. They are obviously overprotective about you because they care about you so much, so they will care when you tell them how bummed you are about not having more trust.
Good Luck
Theresa♥
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For one thing if they are on your back then you must have done sumthing wrong to make them lose trust in you and if you did do something wrong then your complaint is showing that its SO HARD to get parents trust back, the Best thing to do is work really hard to Gain your Parents trust it may be hard but once you get your parents trust back then they'll let you do things like spend time with your friends
If the Above wasnt true then i dont know that to tell ya but to try to gain your parents trust
Good luck
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I understand completely how you feel. I'm a firm believer that you can't truly understand something unless you've experienced it... Trust me, I've been there before. My parents used to be controlling and overprotective of me before I confronted them about it. I'm also a social person, but it was hard to be social when my parents didn't allow me to go out often. First, know that your parents are only strict because they love and care about you. You should take matters into your own hands and compromise with them. Show them that you can be trusted and you're capable of making responsible choices. Confront them in an assertive manner and tell them exactly how you feel, in an appropriate manner. This will show them that you're respectful and independent at the same time. This might be hard, because you're standing up to your parents, so be prepared to back up your opinions. Tell them that you would like to have a social life and that you're mature enough for them to trust. Casually bring it up first at a comfortable time so you can take note of their reaction. If they don't take it well, it'll help to have someone who is understanding there with you. Perhaps a sibling or a relative. First, tell them how you feel about their strictness. You need your independence and freedom. Also, explain to them what you would like them to do. Don't expect too much from them. They might loosen up once they see that you had the courage to confront them. The again, they might get irritated with you. I can't tell you exactly what will happen. In my situation, I told my parents that I could be trusted and backed that up with how well I do in school. If you're doing well in school, that obviously means that you pay attention and you're responsible, right? The rest is up to you now. Just remember to be open-minded with what your parents have to say, but also emphasize on your perspective. Good luck!
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Well first of all I have parents like that too, How old are you?? im 18 and my parents always since i remember try to baby me and they still do but all you gotta do is do things on your own and your parents slowly will see that and will trust you. Like i said im 18 years and they still try to baby me and it came too much one day that ran away from home, that way i taugtht them that i will do something for my freedom. Everyone is an individual and deserves to have own life. If all possible instead of doing a stupid mistakes like i did like talking bad, running away which will make it worse talk to them......i hope i helped and let me know how it all went but remeber think before you act!
Edith
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Judging by all your exclamation points you are pretty angry. Calm down, relax, give yourself a facial and bubble bath...do not worry, they cannot baby you forever. First, start by preparing yourself for any excuse they might give you such as "the house is not clean enough". Think about when you want people, or a friend, over and give yourself enough time to clean the house until it shines. That way they will not have the excuse "the house is a mess". If they say that just stare at them and say "Excuse me? I just cleaned." Then make sure the weather is good outside. As soon as you ask them say "The house is clean and the weather is fine so can I have a friend over please. I would really appreciate it." Or maybe try making them feel sorry for you. Put on a sad face and tell your mom how lonely you are because you cannot hang out with your friends since she will not let them come over to the house and she will not let you go over there. Or if you want to spend the night somewhere offer to give your mom the name and number of the person's house that you are spending the night at. They are just overprotective because they care for you a lot. That is way better than having parents that do not care for their children at all. Believe me though it still totally sucks, I know. Maybe you need to sit down and have a talk with them about letting you grow up and giving you more responsibility instead of baby you all the time. Ask them "How am I suppose to make it in the real world if I have parents that baby me and will not let me grow up?" Goodluck with your parents. I hope they understand you.
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