Hey! Our names are Alex and Adriana. We are both 18 years old and live in Texas. We are best friends and are currently living together. Each one of us has been through a lot and have overcome many obstacles in our lives. We hope we can help you get through any problem(s) you might have or give you some suggestions on how to solve your problem(s). Just remember the best thing you can do in any situation is follow your heart
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Location: USA
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Age: 18
Member Since: June 24, 2005
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I am not big AT ALL, I am very little and I am NOT bragging. I am 13 years old and I'm female, guys don't really want to go out with me because I'm so thin. how do I got more meat on my bones faster than a few mounths or weeks?
P.S. I am 65 pounds. (link)
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Well the simple answer is this; eat and work out. You do not want the weight you gain to be only weight from fat. Muscle weighs for than fat and you will also look healthier. At your young age, it is not necessary to try to put on weight because later in your life it will be very hard to lose if you gain too much too early. So I suggest working out and gaining muscle weight so that you will look healthy and you will not regret it in the future. I hope I helped some =) Good luck
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Ok so, my crush asked me out last night so of course I said yes. I'm new to the whole dating experience, im only 14. I like him a lot, but whenever the thought of going to the movies or something comes up, I automatically make up an excuse to not go. I don't know why. I'm very co-dependant and I would be too scared to go anywhere unless it was a double date or something. He says hes okay with that but I dont know whats wrong with me. I think my main fear is making out. Yea yea laugh, but I guess im just scared to do it. I dont know whats wrong with me and why im so scared to go anywhere with him. I'll rate you high. Thx a bunch (link)
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Hey babe! Do not sweat it. We had a friend that was scared to make out with a boy until she was almost a Sophomore in Highschool. It is completely normal. The best way to get over it is to face your fears. Be the one to suggest to him that yall see a movie. That way you are less likely to back out since you were the first to suggest it. If you are very uncomfortable about the whole making out thing then let him know ahead of time. Or just deal with it as it comes. We would also suggest that if you really think the reason you will not go out with him on a date is because you are afraid of making out then pick a public spot to go to. That way the situation will not occur. Go to the mall or skating or anything that is out in public. Do not feel rushed or scared! When the time comes, you will do just fine. Who knows, you might even be better than him! Goodluck with this boy. Remember if you are not ready yet, do not feel like you have to do it just because your friends have or he wants you too. There are plenty of other girls that have not made out yet and there are plenty of other guys that will respect what you want. Goodluck and have fun being young! We definitely miss those days =/
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will drinking a lot of water help you lose weight? (link)
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If you give up sodas, cokes, juices and other drinks then drinking only water will definitely help you lose some pounds. Drinking lots of water and still eating whatever you want will not help you lose weight though. Hope we helped =)
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hey! well me and my ex boyfriend mike went out for 3 months..i know its not a long time but we talked and dated for like 4 months before that! well anyways we have been broken up for almost 6 months now and we both have went out with other people!i have always asked him if he liked me and if wed ever get back together..well he never would answer the whole like you question but he would always say i dunno if we will ever go back out cause i dont normally go out with ex gfs so i thought ok fine whatever! well i tried moving on ya know and i finally got to the point i thought i was over him! i even had him over like 4 weeks ago..i could kinda tell he had feelings for me cause he would keep asking me for a hug and hed like put his arm around me and he gave me a hickey and we had a total blast together..but it kinda felt like we were just friends so i thought well maybe i am over him but yet i still missed him! so i went on vacation and didnt really talk to him for 2 weeks..the day i get back he ims me and was talking to me and said he liked me so that kinda made me feel good but then i also realied that maybe i wasnt quite over him and he had also asked if he could come over next week so i thought sure! well so the next night we stayed up til 3:15 in the morning talking and he had said he still loved me and always had, he missed me, and itd be great if we eventually got back together but he didnt want that right now and he wanted to keep things slow for right now! then the next night it was a repeat we stayed up til 3:30 and he said he missed me and my picture was his background on his computer and what not! well then things just kinda seemed weird! i just had this feeling it wasnt gonna be a good day but i kinda tried letting it go past me and i wrote his xanga past memories and i told him i still loved him..so i guess that was a bad idea cause he totally flipped and was like omg i cant believe u did that , you know i dont like my friends knowing everything, blah blah blah! so i was like ok im sorry and i showed him how to get rid of it! so then he wouldnt say i love you but he said i miss ya and your pic is still on my background so i was like okay maybe things arent that bad! but he also told me he didnt know if he was going to come over next week now because i made him upset and he couldnt believe i would do that which seemed kinda weird to me! but the thing is i want him to come over cause i wanna see him and talk all of this out in person and i even made a scrap book of us cause i want him to realize how much i really do care! well then theres this girl melissa that has liked him for about a year now! well hes always told me they were just friends and things like that! and the other day i said something how hes always with girls and calls them hun and stuff and hes like i hate when your like this cause you always think i like these girls when really we are just close friends! and i want to trust him but its so hard! and then like today i read his xanga and melissa signed it saying i cant wait to watch fire works with you tomarrow and then it had this quote that was like seduce my body blah blah blah seduce my soul and ill always be yours! and im so clueless on what to think about that! i know they both use to like eachother and they went to a dance together after we broke up and all he ever tells me is they are just close friends but he is with her all the time! and i dont know what to think of it! i just dont know why he would sit there and say all of a sudden out of no where that he loved me and missed me when for 6 months he wouldnt say a word to me! PLEASE HELP ME! by the way you both r really pretty! (link)
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Hey love- We are SO sorry it took us so long to get your question! We could not get the website to work. I hope it is not too late to answer your question. This guy sounds like bad news to us especially if this Melissa girl is in the picture. The first thought that crossed both our minds when you mentioned how he freaked out when you wrote him something sweet in his Xanga was that he did not want OTHER girls to know he was talking to you. Not his friends, but other girls and probably the Melissa girl. If he wanted to be with you, he could. The fact that he is not and continues to put the relationship off proves that he might just be leading you on. If he is, then he is a jerk. We do not care what others say about how guys are more simple than girls, and are not complex...bla bla bla...that is not true. Guys are complex and they play games. He might just be trying to use you and who knows, he could be doing the exact same thing to Melissa. Maybe, you could try to talk to her behind his back and figure out what is going on between them. Did they do fireworks together on the 4th of July? It is already July 6, and since we are late on responding more things could have happened between yall. We would suggest trying your absolute very best to move on. Believe me I know it is hard. However, definitely do what your heart feels is the right thing to do. I had to fight for 5 months to date this guy that I wanted to date SO bad. At the time, he was probably using me, but there was underlying feelings he had for me. He would never let me get over him because he would keep coming back into my life like that boy is doing to you by saying "I miss you" "I want a relationship later"....bla bla bla...you know how it goes. He finally dated me, and we have been together for 2 years. Some things are worth fighting for. Even if there is another girl. Only fight for it though if you feel it is right. If he is talking to other girls and you find that out, then definitely do not let him hurt you like that. The longer you continue letting him lead you on, the more it will hurt. Adriana also knows what I am talking about. She was talking to a guy and got too involved too quick and is still stuck on him but slowly getting over it. We both think you should probably first do some investigating (find out if you are the only one he is talking to). Sit and think about if it is even worth the emotional struggle. Talk to him face to face. Stand up for yourself and how you feel. He should not be allowed to get his way all the time. Do not forget though, there is always hope. Write us back if you have any more questions or to update us on the situation. Goodluck with whatever you decide to do about this guy. Sorry again, that it took us so long to get your question.
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This girl at my school thinks she is one of my friends,but she not.How do I tell her to get away?
Please help me asap.
Shannon (link)
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First, you could give her the hint that you do not want her around by ignoring her. It sounds rude, but she should get the hint. If she does not then that is pretty strange because who wants to be around someone that is ignoring them? Definitely start off by ignoring her hardcore. Do not laugh at anything she says, do not look at her, write her notes, talk to her, or anything like that. Maybe she will find someone else to cling onto. If this does not work then just make comments like "I'm trying to do my work" ...or "I have to tell my friend something, do you mind?" Say the "do you mind?" part with an edge of sarcasm. If she still does not leave you alone then be straight forward with her.
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I have a friend who is a cutter. She has been for as long as I can remember. Lately, we have become best friends and I felt like cutting, too. Not because I have a bad home life or because I have stress in my life or anything like that because I don't, but I think it's because I am best friends with her now. I did cut my legs up pretty bad just 2 weeks ago, but then I never did it again and now they are healed. I keep getting the urges to cut, and then I tell myself not to. But I still can't help but feel so influenced by her to cut myself. A long time ago I used to cut because I liked it, but that didn't last long and wasn't as obsessed with it as I am now. I love this girl with all my heart. She really is a GREAT friend that I had since pre-school, but I need help with trying to stop thinking about the whole idea of cutting all together. I must admitt that I did REALLY like it, but I know that it is unhealthy. But I STILL get those urges and they keep getting bigger and bigger .. HELP !* signed., helpless soul (link)
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Maybe by helping your friend you can help yourself. If you tell an adult about your friend, she can get help and then hopefully that will cause your urges to go down. She has a serious problem and so do you. You do not have to give up your friendship with her. Help her because you love and care for her. Help yourself because you do not deserve to go through that psychological pain. Even though you have no stress in your life, cutting will really ruin you in the long run. I have had experience with this issue when I was younger. I know you might think you do it because your friend does but I honestly do not think that is the case. I think you need to sit down and really think about why you feel the need to harm yourself. I have some tips to help you stop also. First, keep a journal and write down everything you feel. Second, if you feel the need to cut get a red marker and make slash marks with that instead (I know it sounds weird but it works). Third, if you continue to then tell an adult. You should try to help your friend stop and if she refuses to tell someone then you should whether she gives you permission to or not. If she really influences you THAT much and there is absolutely no other reason you do it, and you refuse to tell an adult..then you really need to disconnect yourself from her so you can at least be safe. Try to surround yourself with different friends that can influence you in a positive way. Whatever you decide, I hope for the best for you and your friend. Goodluck
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okay i no this sounds really dumb but what do these 'jobs' mean i know a few but im confused and i need to know what they are like blow job, finger job, etc (link)
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A blow job is when a girl puts a boy's penis in her mouth and moves it in and out. An example is how you eat a popsicle, minus the biting of course. If you ever consider giving a blow job, please we aware of all the sexually transmitted diseases that are out there.
We have never heard of a "finger job", but there is such thing as being "fingered". A guy typically fingers a girl to give her pleasure. Rather than using his penis to stimulate her, he sticks his finger(s) inside of the vagina to pleasure her.
We hope we have given you the information you were looking for.
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ok well yes. i know, its a girl question, but im not sure about it. I have a had my period for about 9 months, but this month it hasnt came it was due on the 21st, but it still isnt here, i have never ever had sex. and i dont know what to do! please please tell me its goin to be okay...i dont need to be pregnet at 14...
thanks
scared! (link)
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It is going to be okay. When you first start your period, for about the first year, it will be irregular. Do not worry, if you have not had sex then you are definitely not pregnant. The only sucky thing will be not knowing when it will show up so just prepare yourself incase you are out somewhere and you get your period. I hope I relieved your stress a little bit =)
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Okay I met an older guy a couple of weeks ago when I was out with friends. We exchanged numbers and he tried calling once... but now that I am changing phones and don't currently have one we don't talk as often. There are a few things he hasn't been telling me.. like court dates and why he still has his old number from a different state..and wants me to bring new friends. Should I plan to meet him or forget about him? (link)
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Both Adriana and I agree that you should forget about this guy. You can find someone better that is honest and will not leave out important information about themselves or try to hide things from you. I do not know what "wants me to bring new friends" means, but I am assuming he wants you to bring other girls around. That is never a good thing. That is like him saying "Hey, hook me up with one of your friends." Rude. I would definitely say forget and move on. From what you said, this guy sounds like bad news. It also seems like you kind of already think that from what you wrote. Follow your instincts. Do not worry, there is way better out there for you! Good-luck. Also, be careful with older guys because they think they can control younger girls.
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I'm a pretty social person, but everytime I want to plan some time to hang out with one of my friends my parents always interfer.They hardly ever let people come to our house because they claim it's messy when all they gotta do is clean it up! Today I wanted to sleep-over my friends house and my parents wouldnt let me go because it was raining, but it wasn't even raining hard!! Everywhere I go, I'm questioned.One time, I wanted to ride my bike around the block and my parents made me come back in 10 minutes when it was only 6:00..They make me so mad!! It's hard for me to show them I'm responsible because they baby me with how they are overprotective and I'm just so pissed off right now!!I want them outta of my bussiness!! Please help!! How do I get them to stop buggin me and let me be able to do stuff with my friends? (link)
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Judging by all your exclamation points you are pretty angry. Calm down, relax, give yourself a facial and bubble bath...do not worry, they cannot baby you forever. First, start by preparing yourself for any excuse they might give you such as "the house is not clean enough". Think about when you want people, or a friend, over and give yourself enough time to clean the house until it shines. That way they will not have the excuse "the house is a mess". If they say that just stare at them and say "Excuse me? I just cleaned." Then make sure the weather is good outside. As soon as you ask them say "The house is clean and the weather is fine so can I have a friend over please. I would really appreciate it." Or maybe try making them feel sorry for you. Put on a sad face and tell your mom how lonely you are because you cannot hang out with your friends since she will not let them come over to the house and she will not let you go over there. Or if you want to spend the night somewhere offer to give your mom the name and number of the person's house that you are spending the night at. They are just overprotective because they care for you a lot. That is way better than having parents that do not care for their children at all. Believe me though it still totally sucks, I know. Maybe you need to sit down and have a talk with them about letting you grow up and giving you more responsibility instead of baby you all the time. Ask them "How am I suppose to make it in the real world if I have parents that baby me and will not let me grow up?" Goodluck with your parents. I hope they understand you.
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my friend is anorexic and i need to persuade her to tell and adult, before i do. what should i say?
thx (link)
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I had a friend, we were best friends back then, that was anorexic and she never told me or her other best friend. She instead told people that she was not AS close too. The fact that your friend told you means that she wants help. Why would she tell you if she did not want help? First, sit down and talk with her. Tell her being anorexic will mess up her body and could possibly kill her. My friend has a very messed up stomach and digestive system because she was anorexic and has to see the doctor a lot now. It is your responsibility now to get your friend help. If you are scared and do not think you can just remember that her life is in your hands. Be careful because if she gets angry and she really does not want you to tell then she might lie to you and say she is not anorexic anymore. Once a person is anorexic it is very hard for them to go back. Anorexia is a disease. Please, talk to her immediately and get her help as soon as you can. The sooner she can get help...the sooner she can get over it. Also remember, no matter what you tell her she will not think she is skinny enough. Do a little research like the one advice columnist suggested and tell her what you find. If she still refuses, take matters into your own hands. It is definitely better for her to be mad at you but have help...than to be friends but be in danger. Goodluck, you might be saving a life.
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How can I show my boyfriend that I REALLY love him, but not by making out? (link)
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You can make him a scrap book with pictures or with things that remind you of him.
You can make him a journal and write down the things yall do together, funny conversations, special events...
You can cook him a dinner
You can pay for the dinner/lunch/or breakfast
You can write him a sweet letter
You can write him a poem
You can tell him
You can give him a massage
You can scratch his head (I love it when my boyfriend scratches my head)
You can call him every night to say goodnight
You can sing him a love song
You can leave him a rose with his favorite candy
Remember the small things are the ones that say "I love you" the most =) Goodluck with your sweetheart
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hi i need to know if pink and black look nice together (link)
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We would definitely agree that pink and black look very good together. Especially if you have a pink and black shirt with some jeans. That's hot! A black dress with pink earrings and maybe a pink purse would look good. We would not suggest pink and black pants. Yes. Go for the pink and black. Pretty in pink. Sexy in black. =)
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How do you know if a guy likes you?
Also, what are some cute/ flirty ways to ask a guy out?
help! thanks! i will rate high! (link)
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If a guy likes you he will:
-stare at you when you are not looking, and then when you look, turn away
-include you in conversations
-be playful with you
-turn red if he is embarrassed around you
-talk to his friends about you
-ask your friends about you
-call you
-instant message you as soon as you get online
-ask what movies you've seen lately and if you want to see one
-tries to help you when you are in need of help
Cute Ways to Ask a Guy Out:
-in a sweet letter, left somewhere you know he (and only he) will find it..or just give it to him
Hmm...that is all I can think of right now. If i think of anything else I'll let you know. =) Goodluck
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well i met my best friend cici this year and we were like unseperatable and we always had the best times together. but there was this girl who doesnt like me and never really did and she was my cicis friend. her name was emily. everytime i went to talk to cici emily would like roll her eyes. and if she was talking to cici at that time and i went up she would leave or say something and interupt. emily was always trying to be best friends with cici and now they are best friends! and cici like whenever we are together she tells me that we should hang out more cause she misses me and its all emilys fault that we never hang out cause she always wants to do sometime with cici. and cici is like tired of her cause she is constently trying to get her attention. what do i do. do i tell cici that i miss her and im tired of emily always trying to take her away or what?
im sorry this is long but i need help i really do. (link)
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Wow. It sounds like this Emily girl is not a good person. You should definitely talk to Cici and tell her that you do miss hanging out with her but you do not feel comfortable when Emily is around because she is very rude to you. If Cici is a true friend, she will understand and respect the way you feel. Tell her that you will always be there for her, if she chooses Emily over you, and that you are sorry things had to end that way. However, if she is a good friend and wants to hang out with you more just arrange times to hang out when Emily is not around. Also, stand up for yourself the next time Emily interrupts you and say "Excuse me, I was talking." Put her in her place, do not let her be rude to you anymore. You might also want to confront Emily and ask her "What have I ever done to you, that could make you act so rude towards me." Anyway, yes definitely talk to your friend and tell her that miss her and you want to continue being friends. Do not let this Emily girl break the bond that you and Cici have. Goodluck
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i met this girl about a year ago and we became BEST friends. like we could talk about everything and never get sick of eachother. shes a junior so it was cool to have someone older to look up to. I said something i wasent supposed to and we were in a fight for 5 months then we finally became friends again. In april and may we were wicked close and everything was good. She even brought me on vacation with her to NC. And now when things are getting better.. shes moving there =/ And the sad thing is when i was there i bought her house with her. Idk what i can say to her to after all the times i screwed up =/ and i dont want her to forget about me when she leaves. In 3 weeks... what do i say?
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Before she leaves you could remind her how much you care about her and that if she ever needs anything to call you, email you, or talk to her online. Then, you could apologize for any mistakes you might have made in the past. Tell her you are going to miss her and that you hope you can stay in touch even though you will no longer live next to each other. I am sure she will not forget about you because most people cannot forget about their best friends. I had a best friend that I had a falling out with during my Sophomore year and she moved away halfway through our junior year. Now, two years later...she came back home, and I first talked to her online and then I saw her and we hung out. Neither one of us forgot the other because we always have that best friend connection. I know that sounds weird but its true. No matter what she will always care for you and you will remain in her heart even after she leaves. You could even tell her that. If you are shy about saying things like this you might want to write her a letter and express the way you feel to her and apologize for the past. Goodluck, and I am sorry your friend is moving away =/
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I really like this guy. I've never had a serious crush on anyone, but with this guy I do. We talk and flirt sometimes, but I think my friend is trying to hook up with him. She even knows I like him. I want to flirt with him on instant messenger, because we barely talk so there is awkward silences. I also want to flirt with him more in person. I don't know who he likes, but I really don't want him to like my friend. What should I do? (link)
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If you do not want him to like your friend then you should take every opportunity you have to flirt online and you might even suggest to him hanging out sometime. When you hang out with him in person, you can avoid awkward silences by talking about anything and everything. Ask him open-ended questions to start conversation and make sure you smile, laugh at his jokes, and look him in the eye while either of you is talking. Let him know you are a fun person to be around and then he will want to hang out with you more. Your friend will not stand a chance! If you are really good friends with this person, you might want to tell her that you like him. She will back off if she is a good friend since you admitted to liking him first. Do not admit to him that you like him until you feel comfortable enough. Good luck!
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ok i really like this guy and we talk online and stuff and we used 2 talk all the time in school and stuff but since schools over i never see him! my friend told him that i like him and he started flirting more and stuff but i dont know if he thought my friend was joking or something. i know i should tell him myself, but whats a good way of telling him without him like freaking out haha. please help cause i need to tell him soon cause i really want him to hear it from me! thanx! (link)
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You should first start talking to him online or on the phone since you rarely see him. Then once you feel comfortable and once he has shown some interest in you, tell him straight forward. If you are shy with guys, like we are, then hint it to him by flirting and making it really obvious that you are interested in him. After that goes on for a while, bring up your friend and ask him if she ever told him anything...maybe having to do with you. He should get the hint! We hope you find some way to tell him though, and it should definitely be from you this time like you said. Good-luck with your guy! =)
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iv been going bak and forth between these 2 guys((dating them)) and i luv them both equally and im jst as happy w/ 1 as i am w/ the other..and going bak nd forth like this...its hurting us all..i jst cant do that anymore..im w/ 1 of them now..but i still rele like the other..i dont kno wat 2 do w/ out hurting them..nd myself..wat should i do? (link)
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We know you have three other answers other than this one, but we are going to go ahead and give you some other ideas just incase someone else has not suggested them. We have a friend that was torn badly between two guys and she sat down and made good & bad list. Divide a piece of paper in half and write "Good" in one column and "Bad" in the other column and list all the good and bad things you can think of for one of the guys you like. Then, get another sheet of paper and do the same thing for the other guy. Our friend did this and then she sat by herself for awhile to think about it even more. Finally, she was able to make a decision. Of course someone is going to get hurt, but it is your life and you deserve to be with whoever makes you the happiest. Even if they both make you happy, there has to be one that is just a little bit better than the other one. When our friend decided on which guy she wanted to be with, she stopped talking to the other one. I know that sounds awful, but it is very neccessary because if you continue talking to the one you do not choose then you might end up getting confused, staying confused, cheating, or anything along those lines. If you totally cut off connection with the one you do not choose then you will not be tempted to start liking him again. Also, get your friends input on which guy they think you should be with. No one knows you better than your friends. We hoped we helped. =) goodluck
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I was recently torn between two guys and now i finally realized that i love my ex. Now that im back with him, we never talk and we never see each other. I love him to DEATH but i dont know what to do...Anyone know what to do?! (link)
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We know you have five other answers other than this one, but we are going to go ahead and give you some other ideas just incase someone else has not suggested them. We have a friend that was torn badly between two guys and she sat down and made good & bad list. Divide a piece of paper in half and write "Good" in one column and "Bad" in the other column and list all the good and bad things you can think of for one of the guys you like. Then, get another sheet of paper and do the same thing for the other guy. Our friend did this and she decided to stay in her room and think really hard about it until she came to a decision. Maybe you will come to find out that you should not be with your ex and you can go for the other guy OR you can just completely find someone new. If you do not even talk to him or see him then we are sure you will be happier without a relationship. Just because you are not his "girlfriend" does not mean you cannot still love and care for him and be his friend. There is most likely someone better for you out there that will fit your schedule and that you would be able to talk to and see more. However, if you really love your current boyfriend and do not want to leave him then definitely talk to him about how you feel if you have not already. Then try your best to hang out with him and call him whenever you can so that you can do your part to make the relationship work. Remember though...it takes two to make a relationship work so if he is not trying his best to keep yall together then its time to move on to someone cuter and better! =) goodluck
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