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hey! well me and my ex boyfriend mike went out for 3 months..i know its not a long time but we talked and dated for like 4 months before that! well anyways we have been broken up for almost 6 months now and we both have went out with other people!i have always asked him if he liked me and if wed ever get back together..well he never would answer the whole like you question but he would always say i dunno if we will ever go back out cause i dont normally go out with ex gfs so i thought ok fine whatever! well i tried moving on ya know and i finally got to the point i thought i was over him! i even had him over like 4 weeks ago..i could kinda tell he had feelings for me cause he would keep asking me for a hug and hed like put his arm around me and he gave me a hickey and we had a total blast together..but it kinda felt like we were just friends so i thought well maybe i am over him but yet i still missed him! so i went on vacation and didnt really talk to him for 2 weeks..the day i get back he ims me and was talking to me and said he liked me so that kinda made me feel good but then i also realied that maybe i wasnt quite over him and he had also asked if he could come over next week so i thought sure! well so the next night we stayed up til 3:15 in the morning talking and he had said he still loved me and always had, he missed me, and itd be great if we eventually got back together but he didnt want that right now and he wanted to keep things slow for right now! then the next night it was a repeat we stayed up til 3:30 and he said he missed me and my picture was his background on his computer and what not! well then things just kinda seemed weird! i just had this feeling it wasnt gonna be a good day but i kinda tried letting it go past me and i wrote his xanga past memories and i told him i still loved him..so i guess that was a bad idea cause he totally flipped and was like omg i cant believe u did that , you know i dont like my friends knowing everything, blah blah blah! so i was like ok im sorry and i showed him how to get rid of it! so then he wouldnt say i love you but he said i miss ya and your pic is still on my background so i was like okay maybe things arent that bad! but he also told me he didnt know if he was going to come over next week now because i made him upset and he couldnt believe i would do that which seemed kinda weird to me! but the thing is i want him to come over cause i wanna see him and talk all of this out in person and i even made a scrap book of us cause i want him to realize how much i really do care! well then theres this girl melissa that has liked him for about a year now! well hes always told me they were just friends and things like that! and the other day i said something how hes always with girls and calls them hun and stuff and hes like i hate when your like this cause you always think i like these girls when really we are just close friends! and i want to trust him but its so hard! and then like today i read his xanga and melissa signed it saying i cant wait to watch fire works with you tomarrow and then it had this quote that was like seduce my body blah blah blah seduce my soul and ill always be yours! and im so clueless on what to think about that! i know they both use to like eachother and they went to a dance together after we broke up and all he ever tells me is they are just close friends but he is with her all the time! and i dont know what to think of it! i just dont know why he would sit there and say all of a sudden out of no where that he loved me and missed me when for 6 months he wouldnt say a word to me! PLEASE HELP ME! by the way you both r really pretty!
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Hey love- We are SO sorry it took us so long to get your question! We could not get the website to work. I hope it is not too late to answer your question. This guy sounds like bad news to us especially if this Melissa girl is in the picture. The first thought that crossed both our minds when you mentioned how he freaked out when you wrote him something sweet in his Xanga was that he did not want OTHER girls to know he was talking to you. Not his friends, but other girls and probably the Melissa girl. If he wanted to be with you, he could. The fact that he is not and continues to put the relationship off proves that he might just be leading you on. If he is, then he is a jerk. We do not care what others say about how guys are more simple than girls, and are not complex...bla bla bla...that is not true. Guys are complex and they play games. He might just be trying to use you and who knows, he could be doing the exact same thing to Melissa. Maybe, you could try to talk to her behind his back and figure out what is going on between them. Did they do fireworks together on the 4th of July? It is already July 6, and since we are late on responding more things could have happened between yall. We would suggest trying your absolute very best to move on. Believe me I know it is hard. However, definitely do what your heart feels is the right thing to do. I had to fight for 5 months to date this guy that I wanted to date SO bad. At the time, he was probably using me, but there was underlying feelings he had for me. He would never let me get over him because he would keep coming back into my life like that boy is doing to you by saying "I miss you" "I want a relationship later"....bla bla bla...you know how it goes. He finally dated me, and we have been together for 2 years. Some things are worth fighting for. Even if there is another girl. Only fight for it though if you feel it is right. If he is talking to other girls and you find that out, then definitely do not let him hurt you like that. The longer you continue letting him lead you on, the more it will hurt. Adriana also knows what I am talking about. She was talking to a guy and got too involved too quick and is still stuck on him but slowly getting over it. We both think you should probably first do some investigating (find out if you are the only one he is talking to). Sit and think about if it is even worth the emotional struggle. Talk to him face to face. Stand up for yourself and how you feel. He should not be allowed to get his way all the time. Do not forget though, there is always hope. Write us back if you have any more questions or to update us on the situation. Goodluck with whatever you decide to do about this guy. Sorry again, that it took us so long to get your question.
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