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Well my really good friend doesnt like my new friends what should i do? she always talks bad about them.

Sit your good friend down and just ask her why she doesn't like your new friends and tell her "I really like my new friends and you would too, you just have to give them a chance and get to know them first" Say something like that. And have a sleep over at someones house so they can all get to know one another. And just tell your good friend that your new friends are really nice and that she would like them. Just tell her how you feel. Good luck

xoxo Kourtney

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me and my BEST FRIEND EVER went to pre-school together and thats how we met. we go to different schools, different dance places, and just about everything else diff except for our moms work together. we were born 2 days apart (mine december 18th and hers december 20th) and if we were standing next to each other u would think shes my little sister. im a head taller than she is. in the summer we do a lot of stuff together bc we used to belong to the same swimming club... but she moved so now she goes somewhere closer to her house. when we get together we have a such good times. i just feel that were growing apart though in some ways. shes inviting me over less and stuff idk what to do should i just hang out with her more or just dont worry about it?

Thats a long time to know your best friend and you can't just put that friendship down the drain. You should call her up and tell her how you feel, tell her what you just told us. Just make plans with her and hang out with her a lot more and that you miss hanging out with her. She should understand because she is your best friend. So just call her up and just be like "Hey, we should hang out because we're not hanging out that much and I really miss that." And then just tell her how you feel about it and what you just told us. Good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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hey i no that this has been asked alot but i really want to no if i am overweight. i am a 13 yr old girl that is 5'7 or 5'8 and i weigh around 120-130. is this considered overweight or normal?

Hey. You're pretty tall for you age, but you seem really skinny for being that tall! So, I would say you're normal.

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ok well there is ths girl and i have liked her for a while and i finally told my best friedn that and then he went and asked her out and now the girl found out what happened and how my best friend did that and now she is askin me stuff like would i ever get wit her if they broke up im jus confused as hell

some 1 please tell me wut 2 do

If you like her, try to hook up with her. That was wrong for you BEST FRIEND to do that to you and he probably doesn't even like her he's just trying to get you mad or something. So, do it right back to him, but that is if you like the girl. Only go out with her if you like her. When you two are talking (you and the girl) just be like "I told him that I liked you and he went to you and asked you out, that was what I wanted to do because I really like you and I wanted to hook up with you" And just tell her how you feel and that you like her and you want to know if she likes you too and if there is a chance you two could hook up. Hope this helps, if you still need help just leave a message in my inbox. Good luck!!

xoxo Kourtney

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I've got the hots for a guy named (lets just call him Bob) Bob. He seems like the perfect guy when we talk online, but when we meet in person he acts really shy. I'm pretty sure he likes me too, and we're both 15 if that helps. Why do u think he acts so different online than in person, and do u think he's worth my time?

He may like you, but he might be the guy who gets really shy when he talks to girls he likes. When you two are talking on the internet, just be like "How come you're so shy when we meet face-to-face?" And then if you want you can tell him that you like him and just be like "And I also like you and I just want to know if you like me too?" Just tell him how you feel and ask what you can do that won't make him so shy when you two meet face-to-face again. Hope this helps and good luck!

xoxo Kourtney

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me and my boyfriend are 13, he has these 2 friends who i am also friends with and i get on with them really well and i am good friends with them. is it ok to be close friends with my bf's mates? i don't fancy them or anything so is it ok?

Yea, its okay to be friends with his friends!! Then, you know his friends like you and you don't have to worry about them talking bad about you to your boyfriend. So, of course its okay to be friends with your boyfriend, just don't flirt with them! lol

xoxo Kourtney

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Okay I am 14 years old and going out with a guy that is 16. we love eachother to death but then i started talking to this other guy and he is really cool too. we have a lot of similarities and i sorta think i could start liking him. what should i do? i love my bf so much i dont wanna like another guy.

Love is sometimes hard to find, so I would stop talking to that guy because you said you love your boyfriend, and you guys must have similarities too if you love him to death. So, stay with your boyfriend and just stop talking to that other guy and then maybe down the road you can just be friends with that other guy you thought you had feelings for. Hope this helps =D

xoxo Kourtney

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The worst thing in the WHOLE WORLD just happened to me! My dad said we are moving to Dallas, about 6 hours from where I live. If I didnt have the friends and BOYFRIEND I do now, then I would be fine but me and my boyfriend are VERY serious! I cant leave him, I would die, literally. I've cried so much already and I keep telling my boyfriend it's not for sure yet. If I do move, should I stay with my boyfriend, break up with him? I could still see him twice a month and on holidays.. is that enough? I am so in love with him and I cant even go 2 days without him... HELP ME PLEASE!!

Aww I'm sorry hun! Since you two are in love, I think you should stay with him because you two are in love and you guys are serious. See how it goes and I mean its not like you can't see him either. See how it works out. Just tell him "Its not for sure if I'm moving yet, but if I do, I think we should still try to work it out because I will see you twice a month and on holidays, I know its not a lot, but its worth giving it a try, and I just want to know what you think about that? Do you think we can handle a long distance relationship?" Just say something like that and just how you feel about it all. Hope this helps, if you still need help, just leave a message in my inbox. Good luck!!

xoxo Kourtney

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I really doubt that im pretty. im more of a freind to guys then a girl freind and my last boyfreind told my that i was ugly. here is a description, guys, answer this too!!! age-13
blonde, blue eyes, round cheeks, big eyes, creased chin, 5 feet tall, 107 pounds, rather large hips, a cup breasts, light skin- i dont look like a tooth pick! and also (question for guys and girls) what do you think makes a really pretty girl?

You sound like a really pretty girl. And, you rather have a guy go out with you for your personality, then just your looks anyways. What makes a girl pretty? Really, its her personality and how she treats people and stuff, etc. That makes a girl really pretty and same for guys too. You rather have a guy go after that then your looks, because if they just go after your looks, then you only get hurt! But, don't ever let a guy tell you you're ugly, because you sound pretty.

xoxo Kourtney

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I just cant seem to get over my ex girlfriend...i know first loves are the hardest to get over, but im still really really really into this girl..and its been a year, i miss everyting about her, but its jut not gonna work out again between us.....what should i do?

Love hurts, I hate love sometimes. =( I'm sorry. But, are you sure its never going to work out again? I mean, if it's meant to be, then you two will get back together, maybe not today or tomorrow, or next week, but later down the road it may be. But, all I can really say is to get her off your mind, you have to go out and live your life and have fun. Go out with new girls (but don't be a player lol), go to partys, the mall, friends houses, anything that is fun in your neighborhood, because when you're having fun, you get things off your mind, don't you? But, when you do meet a new girl, don't get scared and freaked out (since you're still in love with your ex). And don't compare her to your ex girlfriend because that'll get you know where and it'll just make you think of your ex girlfriend and you don't want that. But, first, are you really sure it isn't going to work out, I mean after all you're in love! Did she say hey buddy its not ever going to work out again! But, if she didn't, maybe you should call her up or something and just tell her how you feel. I know that sounds so dumb. But, its love!!! But, you should try saying something like "Hey, I know we haven't talked in awhile or hung out or anything, and I know its been a year, and trust me its been long, but I still miss you and still see those feelings for you and I just want to know if you still feel them for me too" Say something like that and just tell her how you feel. But, if you know it'll NEVER work out, then go and try to have fun like I said. I hope this helps, if you still need help, just leave a message in my inbox, I'll try to help you!

xoxo Kourtney

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ok i idk wut to do. i think i like my best friend. and i kinda know he likes me. but theres this other guy i kinda like to. i think i like the first guy more cuz i always wanna talk to
him. but idk. please help

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Whenever you like two guys, its always tough huh? lol. But, you have to follow your heart, I can't tell you who to like or who to go out with. You have to decide. But, try thinking of all the pros and cons about each guy. Which one makes you laugh, makes you happy, smile, treats you well, etc. Whatever you like in a guy, which guy do you see your dream guy or whatever in? But, I think you should go with the first guy because you said you like him more and you always want to talk to him, and you know he kind of likes you too. So you're on a good start. lol. But, just follow your heart and do what I told you (the pros and cons, etc.) Good luck! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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this question is kinda complex...but im gonna try and make it as simple as possible...Basicaly i see myself as getting less and less attractive by the day lol, and im getting the idea that the girls are thinking the same thing. See, i used to be pretty damn popular and liked by the ladies, and i still am, but its waring off, and im not getting the attention i used to, which is fine, but im wondering.....is a girl gonna loose interest in me based more on my looks getting better or worse...or are they gonna stick around for my personality????? Thanks, adam

Hey Adam. I'm sure you're real attractive, but wouldn't you rather have a girl go out with you for your personality and not just your looks? Personally, I don't go out with a guy just because I think they're hot, they have to make me laugh and have a good personality, etc. And if girls aren't being friends with you or whatever just because they don't think you're attractive, then they aren't the kind of girl you want to go for anyways or the kind of girl to be friends with. You rather have a girl like you or be friends with you by your personality. Hope this helps! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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Alrite I have blonde hair and it is so boring. I want to dye it....I have tan skin and light brown eyes...do you think that i should get it dyed browner or wut? I need help

Instead of just like going to brown right away, try putting some brown and some other colors in there first and see how that looks and maybe that won't be so boring. But, if you don't want to do that, I would do like a lighter brown first and then maybe eventually going darker. But either way, I think it'll look good =D Just experiment with your hair =D

xoxo Kourtney

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ok...i went out wit this one guy..for not that long but i still have feelings for him...should i c if he has feelings for me too..or just forgwt about him and move on....what should i do


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I would see if he has feelings for you first before you did anything (like moving on). I would get ahold of him and just be like "I know we went out once before and it wasn't too long, but I still have feelings for you and I just wanted to know if you still have feelings for me too?" Just say something like that. Just tell him how you feel! =D Good luck!!

xoxo Kourtney

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how can i help my best friend through a really tough breakup?

Breakups err they can be so tough. But, when she wants to talk about it, then talk to her and be there and listen. But don't mention him at all unless she does! But, have her spend the night at your house, or you spend the night at her house, and rent tons of movies, and eat ice-cream and candy. And just make it like an all girl weekend. And then like the next day, take her to the mall and go shopping (if you guys like shopping) because that sometimes gets things off your mind. Don't introduce her to guys right away or say "WOW he's hot" or "Who do you like", that might just get her a little mad lol. But, I would definatly be there to support her, because thats all you really can do. Thats what my friends did, whenever I wanted to talk about it, they were there to listen. She'll appreciate more once she's getting over the breakup more! =D Good luck!!

xoxo Kourtney

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Ok. I know 2 ppl who when they are around me act like they like me but they really hate me. They don't want to be mean to me and tell me to my face they just like to talk to me behind my back. Should i try and talk about them or just tell them off or ignore them?? Plz help me!!

Don't tell them off because then they'll just hate you more. If they talk about you, then they're not your friends. I would just ignore them and they'll get the hint finally. And if they ask why you're ignoring them just be like "Well, I didnt' think you guys liked me because you guys always talk about me." But, I would ignore them, you have other friends who are your true friends, stick to them!! =D

xoxo Kourtney

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i like this guy and he gave me his phone number. but i am too nervous to call him cause i LIKE HIM ALOT! now my friend and i were looking at the number and now we both think that this number is a fake. it just doesnt look like a home phone number or even a cell. and this guy is the kind to play pranks on everyone. u see he wrote this in everyones year book. and i think it isnt a real number. so should we call it? or just leave it alone. it is really bothering us. it racks our brains. !!!
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I would call it. If its real, just talk to him "Just be like hey whats up its ______" and just go from there, if its fake, no big deal, just laugh at it. I mean after all its finally off your chest wether its fake or not. =D

xoxo Kourtney

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I'm miserable.See over spring break i met this kid lets say his name is Jake..and over the past 4 months we've been talking every day.I most likely wont be able to see him again until next summer.The real problem is i like everything about Jake* and he likes me too..we're like perfect together.But he's at camp right now so i haven't been able to talk to him and i miss him like crazy.ne ideas on how to pass the time..n also could u help me try n get over him..ive tried but no guy ever compares.please help asap.

admin. plz don't delete. ;-(..

thankz guys.

Aww I'm sorry you're miserable, its okay though!! =D To get the time to pass by faster, is by having fun and going out to places, like the mall, friends house, whatever you like to do for fun. And the way to get over him is you can't compare EVERY guy you see to him. That'll just make you keep liking him over and over and over. So, when you see a guy, don't automatically think of that *Jake* guy because then you'll never get over him. You have to have fun and in order to meet a guy, try going to the mall, the pool, the beach, anything that would be filled with guys. And just go up to them and be friendly and ask for there name and stuff and if one of them catches your eye, slip them a note and be like "You're hot, call me" and give them your number. Hope this helps and good luck! Have fun! =P

xoxo Kourtney

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ive liked this guy for a while now but im not sure if he likes me . weve talked a few times but he never realy expressed or showed any emotions. i dont want to just qive up on him and move on . . please help

Try talking to him and just be like "I'm not sure if you like me, but I like you and I just want to know how you feel about me because I didn't want to just give up if you do actually have feelings for me" Just say something like that, so it gets to the point that you like him and you want to know if he likes you also! =D Hope this helps and good luck hun!!

xoxo Kourtney

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how can i meet cool guys at camp? and how can i get them interested in me?

I went to camp! lol. Its fun, because I went with all my friends. What we did we were really outgoing with everyone and the guys thought that was so cool, like in the morning they even waited for us haha =D But, if you have girls that are friends, just do what I did lol. Just walk up to them and introduce yourself and ask for there name too. And just be really flirty and laughing a lot and smile and just be outgoing and always be yourself around them too. Guys will love that ;) Good luck and have fun!!

xoxo Kourtney

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