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k, well i kinda guess i need someone whos already been in middle school to answer this..

when you were in middle school, were all the major slutty kids the most popular? like girl wise? & does that mostly change in highschool? because, i mean some of them are my friends & are actually cool, but some are just annoying & guys tottaly use them. but like, i once joined into that, & then for the most part regretted it. but like you always will here these stories about who made out with who & who did what. & then i dont know it makes me feel out of the group. but like i dont know..

im just wondering does it get better? (link)
hey

i've been in middle school for 3 years (it's april & i'm graduating in june). we had different cliques. the prettiest girls were the populuar ones, and slowly the evolved into slutty / popular. the "ghetto" girls were the slutty ones, always having sex. the skaters drank.

i dont think it changes much in high school. i mean the biggest change was from 5th to 6th grade... everyone got social classes. & in high school you'll be with pretty much the same people. some people in high school said that the popular girls turn into the slutty ones, the slutty ones turn into the really really slutty ones, like the prostitutes (ha, jk) & a new line of pretty girls evolve and become the new popular girls.

gossip & drama = a part of middle & high school. gotta deal with it. i ignore it by hanging out with people i truly like & care for. i've made lots of friends outside of my school who i dont have to worry about them being cool or not. i also dont really go on aim that much anymore for the risk of getting sucked into the supermassive black hole of gossip, drama, lies, tears & boys.

in high school, however, the groups DO change a little bit. you stop caring about the people who you never liked & mistreat you, & meet new people who you like. everyone dresses differently, not just abercrombie & hollister. you grow close freshman, sophomore, & junior years. and then you go off to college after senior year. it hurts, losing a lot of your friends. but you stick with them.

overall, it does get better if you want it to.

i hope i helped & dont hang with kids who mistreat you.


whats a good way to get the dirt out under your nails? (link)
hey

take an old, soft-bristled tooth brush & under running water, "brush" the area under your nails with a little soap. another good way is to (while washing your hands) "scratch" your other soapy hand & all the soapy will go under your nails & after you wash it out it'll be all clean. or you can try sticking your thumb nail under your other nails, but this doesnt remove everything.


Is it wierd to call a guy babe? cause i was talking to him online(nd we were flirting, he's really hot and i plan on hooking up with him), and he was like, g2g love you, and i didnt know what to say so i was like, ttyl babe.

is that wierd? (link)
hey

no of course not! it's just like "sweetie" or "hon" or anything else! it's totally not weird & some guys think it's hot.

it's totally fine to call a guy babe or baby. it's really flirty & cute without being " slutty " know what i'm sayinn

k i hope i helped :]


i'm starting to get love handles, is there any way i could possibily get rid of them? (link)
hey

i used to have love handles & this is what i did:

stand up straight & face forward with your arms to the side.

put your hands up & your feet apart like youre about to do a jumping jack.

bend over to your right, without bending forward. if there was a side view of your body, it should be a straight line (you shouldn't bend forward.) this targets your left love handle, stretching it out & turning it into muscle. do as many reps as you want, doing 25 each rep. if you do this for a few weeks, you'll realize taht they are slowly going away.

yoga also REALLY helps with love handles. you should consider taking a class, maybe on the weekends or something. yoga isn't just for love handles, actually, but for all parts of your body. it's a great mind-relaxer & stress-reliever.

i hope i helped :)


is there anything i can download where i can download music for free and put it directly onto my ipod. thank you (link)
hey

you can use limewire (www.limewire.com - free version unless you want to pay for it) to download the songs, but you need iTunes to convert the limewire songs to your iPod. if you want to manually put the limewire-downloaded songs onto your iPod WITHOUT iTunes, youre going to need some cable & a person that's technically capable of doing that.

i dont know if your question was just to look for somewheere to download the songs for free (cause iTunes gets expensive) or if you didn't want to use iTunes to move the songs onto your ipod, but i answered both up there.

i hope i helped & good luck :)


Well. Me and my boyfriend of (9 months.) have a serious jealousy problem. No big. It's just that he doesn't go to my school, and he doesn't want me talking to guys, and it's okay cause I don't want him talking to girls. He wants me to prove it to him that I don't talk to guys. He wont believe any of my girl friends, cause he doesn't like any of them. Oh well. I don't hang out with them anyways. But, anyways. He wont believe if people tell him I don't. I just need a way to prove it to him. I'm sorry this doesn't make any sense. I know it doesn't, but I need advice. I need for him to trust/believe me! Help please. :] (link)
hey

well first of all, he should believe you when you tell him the truth that you dont talk to other guys. i also find it a bit weird that he won't let you even TALK to other guys! like i think he should allow you a little room to breathe with a few guyfriends. explain to him that if you do, ever, for any reason at all, decide to cheat on him, it will be YOUR loss. not his. he will feel a lot better when you say that so you & him can both relax.

listen, i know how you feel about him talking to other girls, but doesnt it bother you even the slightest bit that he won't even let you talk to other guys? i mean you guys should trust each other & be honest. think about it. if he ever kisses another girl, you shouldn't be the one who's upset. look at it this way: youre a wonderful, beautiful smart funny girl & a guy mistreats you. his loss, right?

you can also convince him by showing him your inbox for your email address, your cell phone (text messages, calls), and other gadgets you might have like a sidekick, blackberry & what not. if he insists that you give him your password for your email address or myspace link, or something completely outrageous that bursts your "personal stuff" bubble, you should definitely tell him that he should trust you when you tell him the truth.

we all feel a little concious when our boyfriends talk to other girls, so maybe put a limit like, "up to 5 good guy / girlfriends & no hanging out at each other's houses" or something. some sort of groundrule for both of you.

i hope i helped :)


Well. Me and my boyfriend of (9 months.) have a serious jealousy problem. No big. It's just that he doesn't go to my school, and he doesn't want me talking to guys, and it's okay cause I don't want him talking to girls. He wants me to prove it to him that I don't talk to guys. He wont believe any of my girl friends, cause he doesn't like any of them. Oh well. I don't hang out with them anyways. But, anyways. He wont believe if people tell him I don't. I just need a way to prove it to him. I'm sorry this doesn't make any sense. I know it doesn't, but I need advice. I need for him to trust/believe me! Help please. :] (link)
omg, even married couples talk to guys/girls. ya'll need to calm down. if one of ya'll DOES talk to someone else, it's because you've found someone better.


Ok how would I wear my trench coat on of I'm wearing a sweater with a hood? Do I stick the hood out? Leave the hood on underneath the trench coat? (link)
hey

well, there are pros & cons for each:

with hood sticking out:
pros: comfortable
cons: looks weird

with hood inside the trench coat:
pros: looks good
cons: uncomfortable; may stick out

so it's up to you. depending on how thick the hood is (if it's just like... an abercrombie knit with a hood, those are really light-weight and can fit easily into your jacket. but if it's like, a sweatshirt, then it would be uncomfortable, and may even stick out & look weird. but you can always wear your hair (depending on how long it is) to cover that up.

if the hood is the same color as the trench coat, no biggie! you can stick it out if you feel better. & you have to put the hood on anyway if it's like, raining.

i hope i helped! :]


My best friend is a guy, who is 16. I'm a girl who is 16. We are very good friends, but for some reason at least 2-3 times a week he'll do something that really upsets me. Usually I never tell him & just let it slide by, but these past few weeks I've been telling him. The things I get mad over are little & stupid, & completely ridiculous to get angry/upset over, but I can't control it, and I just do.

How can I basically coach myself to maintain calm, or atleast not get mad/upset at SMALL things?

THANK YOU! (link)
well if you think it is a problem that you need to solve, confront him about it...ask him to try not to do those things that upset you anymore and if for some reason he does...tell him to tell you when you are getting too mad so you can have more control over the situation. If he is your true friend like you say, he will understand :-) GoOd LuCk!!!


I've licked this guy 4 a LONG time and he i don't even know if he likes me but I really I don't care any way were in 7 th grade and he got yelled at and he cried and I'm into manlyer guys and everyones makeing fun of him I don't know what to do some peps. r jokeing at me 4 likeing him they keep asking me if I like manly men (as a joke) but I don't know what 2 do?

please help,
(link)
Well you like who you like for one, but also, mabe you should re consider who you TRUELY like...i hate to say this, but dont you want the WHOLE package in 7th grade...I mean someone you truely feel attracted to? If you truely like him then i say go for it! :-) But sometimes we all just need to take some "me-time" GOOD LUCK!!!!


http://z.about.com/d/beauty/1/0/I/E/Long5.JPG

how do i get that kinda eye makep? i want to transform my eye like that when i do my make up but i dont know the color of eye pencils or shadows tools or how to apply it on... thank you! (link)
hey

this is what you'll need to get that look:
- a black, liquid eye liner
- a black, pencil / stick eye liner
- black / gray / white trio eye shadow
- a q-tip
- black mascara
- eye shadow brush

first, start with a clean face. make-up is like art. you have to start out clean & fresh if you want it to look the best :] moisturize your face & apply a light foundation. pull the outer corner of one eye with your non-dominant hand with your eye closed. slowly pencil in the line right above your eyelashes. it should be very thin. next, take the black / gray / white trio eyeshadow. take the white eyeshadow and apply it right under your eyebrow. then, take the gray eyeshadow and apply it along the crease of your eyelid. the black eyeshadow should be applied very lightly. just line it across your lid & dont over do it. take the black mascara & put two coats on the top & one coat on the bottom. make sure you move the mascara tip to the left & right to get extra volume. lastly, you should apply the liquid eyeliner. it's the same thing with the pencil / stick eyeliner. pull the outer corner of your eyes & slowly yet carefully line across your upper lid. end with a dramatic curl on your outer corners. optional: apply the pencil / stick eyeliner on your bottom lashes. make sure you dont put it in the inner corners of your eye! use the qtip to slightly smudge the liquid liner, or to clean up mistakes :]

the look is called a smokey eye, & can be very dramatic. it's usually a night-time look.

i hope i helped & you can find all those things at a simple drugstore. there aren't any specific brand names. and it also depends on how much money youre willing to spend. here's some more tips:

http://www.expertvillage.com/interviews/applying-eyeliner-videos.htm
http://beauty.about.com/od/allaboutyoureyes/ht/smokeyes.htm ♥


is it bad to finger yourself while your taking a bubble bath?

and how do you know if your having an organism? (link)
hey

it's not BAD technically, but i wouldn't suggest doing it for the possible risk of getting an infection. do not ever insert your fingers into your vaginal 'hole' while exposed to soap, bubble bath products, etc.

trust me, if youre having an orgasm, you'll know. it's like... for a few seconds you don't feel anything except pure pleasure. your body has like, a spaz and your vajayjay feels like it's going to explode, pretty much.

here's a site to help explain it:
http://magazines.ivillage.com/cosmopolitan/experts/carnal/qas/0,,638353_646980,00.html

i hope i helped ♥


Hey what I want to know is how I can make my boyfriend horny. No I am not being a tease because he told me he loves when I do it but I don't know how I did. I don't want to ask him because I kind of want to suprise him. Also I can't really dress in "sexy clothing" and I don't talk dirty. No strip teases or lap dances either. But can you give me some information on places where I can touch or kiss or something that will turn him on.

Thanks sooo much! (link)
hey

i dont know how far you guys have gone / want to go in the relationship, but my suggestion is...

when youre making out, start taking off his shirt. continue making out while you start to SLOWLY unbutton his pants. slowly start kissing down his chest & stomach and lick the area right before his pants / pubic hair / boxers start. make sure you do that and like stick your tongue a little bit low suddenly and that will make him craaazzyyyy!

let him fondle your breats, etc. and do everything really slowly & sometimes suddenly. like i gave an example of above.

i hope i helped ♥


ok so i have been looking around on myspace and i see all these pics of posers and/or just pics people have there url or sumthing like typed on it i was wondering how i can write stuff on my pics please help me i dont know how to do it (link)
hey

this is what you do...
you can either
- copy & paste the picture into microsoft paint & then start at step 1 [note: once you paste it, you can't move it around, change the size, etc. you have to do all that beforehand]
or
- open paint & go to "file" - "open" & open the file & then go to step noe.

step one: on the left pane, there are two rows of 8 buttons each. on the second column, fourth row down, there is a little black capital "A." when you click it, your cursor will turn into something along the lines of a cross. you have to make a text box on the picture you want. you do this by using the cursor & making a box precisely where you want the text to appear.

step two: after you make the box, a blinking cursor appear & you can start typing whatever you want! to view the text toolbar to change the font, etc. just go to the standard toolbar (with file, edit, view, image, colors, help) and click "view" - "text toolbar"

a few things you have to keep in mind
- when you make the box, the background color of the text will be white. (you can change this- read ahead) if the picture you are using is a solid color, you can change the background color of your text to the background color of your image. you can do this by clicking on the little paint can [ 2nd column, 2nd row.. under the rectangle / square ] and making it that color.

i hope i helped! ♥


What is a good lanuage to take in high school that isn't like impossible to learn.
I DON'T want to take spanish though, because everyone takes that. (link)
french is AWESOME! and easy!


I heard people twease there pubic hair? Does it hurt? (link)
nah, it'll hurt the first time but after that it won't. just do one hair at a time and squeeze the skin around it while you're doing it. it's better than shaving because it takes a long time to grow back and it doesn't irritate the skin. but RIGHT after you twease it, it will be a little red, but only for a few minutes. anymore questions..just ask.

oh, and i forgot to say- you could put lotion on the area afterwards to make it smoother and it'll help. that's what i do. :)


i have a dell..if i download limewire will it put any viruses on my computer? i have virus protection and everything but will it? (link)
hey

no. a lot of people have limewire & it does not put a virus on your computer.

& if it does, you always have virus protection against it so you never have to worry.

you can also always delete limewire permanently from your computer by going to the control panel - add / remove programs - "limewire" - remove.

i hope i helped! & dont worry. i have it and i didnt get a virus. ♥


My best guy friend Luis asked me out today. I was extremley shocked when I read,''Don't tell nobody but will you go out will me?'' He asked me while I was on the computer. I don''t know what to do now. I mean like if I say no then it might hurt his feelings and I'm afraid he might not ever talk to me again, but if i say yes then he might dump me, and I don't want that. (link)
hey

well, do you like him? if not, say no but say we can still be friends. & mean it when you say that. dont just ignore him afterwards.

if you DO like him, then go for it! if youre a good girlfriend he totally won't dump you. if he's a jerk who's not worth your time, he will dump you. going out with someone is taking a risk that they'll dump you. but if you guys have a good relationship then he mostlikely wont!

dont worry about what he wants right now. this is about what YOU want. think about what you will gain or lose by going out with him. for example, friends, social class, etc. if you say no and he never talks to you again, he wasn't worth your time anyway. dont worry about him.

& dont be scared of messing up the friend / relationship. if you and him were truly friends, you will stick together in any form & shape.

i hope i helped, and good luck with luis! ♥


there's this song that i've heard so many times that has "let me clear my throat *cough* *cough* *cough* ol dirty" what song is that (link)
"let me clear my throat" by DJ Kool


Ok so my dad just bought a used laptop from his friend its imp thinking pad.(that's the brand) I want to know if that's a good brand? Like will it last a while. Also, it says that the laptop battery isn't good. So my dad wants to buy it a new one because it would turn off in like an hour when you would charge it for the whole night. How much would it cost to buy it a new battery?. Please help me and answer these 2 questions. Thanks in advance! (link)
hey

i used to have one. it crashed several times. & honestly, i treat my stuff with good condition. it stayed in the same spot for like a year & i would always turn it off at night & everything. it probably won't last over a year, no matter how careful you are.

a new battery would cost $100 - $200 [ http://www.amazon.com/IBM-laptop-battery-Li-Ion-92P1102/dp/B0007UVYJO ]

a better brand laptop [ & unfortunately a more expensive brand but worth the money ] is a mac. very durable, lasts a long time, & rarely gets viruses.

i hope i helped!




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