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Help. Jealous.
Well. Me and my boyfriend of (9 months.) have a serious jealousy problem. No big. It's just that he doesn't go to my school, and he doesn't want me talking to guys, and it's okay cause I don't want him talking to girls. He wants me to prove it to him that I don't talk to guys. He wont believe any of my girl friends, cause he doesn't like any of them. Oh well. I don't hang out with them anyways. But, anyways. He wont believe if people tell him I don't. I just need a way to prove it to him. I'm sorry this doesn't make any sense. I know it doesn't, but I need advice. I need for him to trust/believe me! Help please. :]
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Jealousy isn't good. The main thing in a relationship should be trust, your bf should trust you to be able to talk to guys and not lead them astray or do anything that would reprimand your relationship. But you too should also trust your bf to be able to do the same with girls. How can you possible be in a secure, steady and realistic relationship when you are so confined to another person's rules and regulations of who you can talk to... I suggest you have a nice long talk with your bf and sort out what you do and don't trust in each other... Its okay to be jealous sometimes, but jealousy shouldn't restrain you from talking to other guys... If you are unable to trust each other in daily life, you may never be able to trust and depend on each other when it matters most.
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I suggest you seriously sit him down and just tell him that hes the only one for you in this point and time. Tell him if he doesnt believe your friends, and doesnt belive you then thats not nice. Evidently he has a trust issue. Isn' it upsetting you that he doesn't believe you? Talk it out with him. Hope I helped! Happy Spring.
-Brina
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hey
well first of all, he should believe you when you tell him the truth that you dont talk to other guys. i also find it a bit weird that he won't let you even TALK to other guys! like i think he should allow you a little room to breathe with a few guyfriends. explain to him that if you do, ever, for any reason at all, decide to cheat on him, it will be YOUR loss. not his. he will feel a lot better when you say that so you & him can both relax.
listen, i know how you feel about him talking to other girls, but doesnt it bother you even the slightest bit that he won't even let you talk to other guys? i mean you guys should trust each other & be honest. think about it. if he ever kisses another girl, you shouldn't be the one who's upset. look at it this way: youre a wonderful, beautiful smart funny girl & a guy mistreats you. his loss, right?
you can also convince him by showing him your inbox for your email address, your cell phone (text messages, calls), and other gadgets you might have like a sidekick, blackberry & what not. if he insists that you give him your password for your email address or myspace link, or something completely outrageous that bursts your "personal stuff" bubble, you should definitely tell him that he should trust you when you tell him the truth.
we all feel a little concious when our boyfriends talk to other girls, so maybe put a limit like, "up to 5 good guy / girlfriends & no hanging out at each other's houses" or something. some sort of groundrule for both of you.
i hope i helped :)
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omg, even married couples talk to guys/girls. ya'll need to calm down. if one of ya'll DOES talk to someone else, it's because you've found someone better.
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Personally, I'm not for the jealous type of guy. It kinda makes me mad and feel like I can't breathe. That's why I dumped my boyfriend about a month ago. His jealousy drove me insane. Most of my friends are guys because girls are just too much drama & too backstabbing. Guys are more fun, laidback & they're not bitches about anything, so I like hanging out with them more. Anyways, I had a picture of me and my guy friend on my MySpace, and he flipped out. I ended it about a week or two later.
While jealousy is healthy for the relationship, it also can cause tension, discomfort, and stress between the two of you. If there's too much jealousy, you need to get some help & work on those issues. In MY opinion, I think there's too much jealousy into your relationship. You can't hang out with who you wanna, and neither can he. Relationships are supposed to be trusting, and loving. I know you don't want other girls all over him, and he doesn't want guys all over you, but there is such a thing as being "just friends" with other people while in a relationship. My belief is that if I can't hang out with whoever I want while in a relationship, then the guy I'm with can't accept me since he can't accept who I'm friends with.
But, I don't think you should have to prove it to him. Just tell him straight out you don't talk to other guys, and that if he doesn't believe you, then that's his problem, but it's the truth. He might get mad since that's the way you'd have to put it, but it's the truth, and he needs to hear it. Same way you need to hear it. If you guys can't trust each other to have friends of the opposite sex, then you really don't have a relationship at all. Relationships are trust, love, honesty & good communication. You can have 3 of those, but without the other, your relationship just does not work.
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