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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.


I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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I was just watching the new episode of the hills and heidi gives spencer a second chance to proove himself and to build a trust. shes been going out with him for more than a few months..well

ive been going with my boyfriend for 5 months and hes been flirting with my ex best friend (from middle school) for about 2 months and me and her just became friends again, so she decided to tell me that hes a scum bag. so then i caught him flirting with this girl in school whos know for being 'easy'. and he denies he said anything sexual, but she even told me he was saying that he wants to see her on girls gone wild and for her to strip for him. I really really love him, but watching the hills made me see me and heidi are in the same prediciment, *except her boyfriend you can tell is a scumbag, my boyfriend is really nice...* but she gave him a second chance, but i want to know, should i give him a second chance. we've been not together for 2 weeks, and he really wants to get back with me, espiecally before feb. vacation...Should i give him another chance, or should i go on and find another boyfriend, maybe not as nice or cute, but one that doesnt flirt with others...I'm sooo confused!

I wouldn't stay with him. He broke your heart when you found out about him flirting with other girls & the things he's said to them. So if he's done it before, there's a high chance he'll do it again. You can't trust him. Find someone you trust, you like & someone that'll treat you like a princess.

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Can I get help on creating a screen name for an e-mail address. Or can give me a site that doesn't have an offensive name generator? I can't think of any good ones. I come up with stupid screen names.

Try something with your name or something that you like. Or, leave a list of things you like in my inbox, & I can try & get a few names for you. =)

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I've been dating this guy for 3 months. The first day I met him, I already knew he just broke up with his ex. I don't think I was that interested in the beginning, but he somehow grows on me.
The other night, he was in a bad mood and all the sudden telling he's not over the ex yet. I think back to my head, I knew that the whole time when we are dating. (come on, who can honestly to say they get over the ex in a month?) However, my feeling still hurts, hurts even more than I thought would be.
I want to tell him how I feel, but if I did, I know I would never talk to him again. This will be over. (which I don't want to.......)

What should I do?

Tell him that if he still has feelings for her, then it's not fair to you that he's with you. He should've gotten with you when he was over here completely. Talk to him about it, tell him how you feel & risk your relationship. Stay friends. As soon as he's over her, he might just get back with you.

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I am a high school freshman, female, 14yrs old. I recenetly decided to take summer school classes and cram my senior year of high school into my junior year, so I will only have three years of high school instead of the usual four. Do you think this is a bad idea? I mean, I will never be a senior (no senior prom, which I can live without) and everyone says high school is the best part of anyone's life but i really do not like my high school and how do I know I will like college better? Do you think this is a bad idea? Thanks in advance...

Everyone has a different experience in high school & college. I think what you're doing is a good idea. You get a head start in the real world, while most people don't. The idea of it is actually pretty smart. And you have a prom in your junior year, so it's not like you need senior ball.

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why an ice cube floats in water?

Ice is less dense than liquid water.

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I just got over having some type of illness, but now the whole side of my left face aches. its my head, jaw, and ear. i thought it was my teeth and my gums too, but now i realize that it was just my jaw that is making it feel that way. It is weird, because when my head was hurting before, it ONLY hurt on the left side... not the right. I have never had that happen before, but its the same with my ear and jaw. My ear feels like there is water in it, like when i talk..it kinda sounds distant or something. And my jaw just.. hurts bad. it is hard to chew

See a doctor, because that sounds insanely weird.

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I am 20/male in college. In one of my classes there is a girl that I like that sits across the room. Every once and awhile we will make eye contact for a few seconds but neither of us really smile. So how can I tell if she's interested or not? And how can I approach her if we sit on opposite sides of the room? I think we are both really shy and might just be in some sort of standoff or something.

Well, if you can't talk to her before class, say hi to her after class. Compliment her, smile at her. Become her friend & if you think she's interested back, ask her out.

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I am a 14 year old male who has been masturbating since 13, and it was a bit weird because when i finished, the stuff that came out wasnt white, it was like seethrough or grey, is this normal?

There is a chance she might be pregnant because there is precum. It could be normal, everyone is different. If you're worried, see a doctor. And next time, protect yourself. If she stresses about it, she might not get her period at all. So tell her she should relax, and have no worries. Things like that can put her period off.

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this question is kinda for girls only.

ok so this is kinda gross but lately i have been discharging alot, i usually do but not this nuch.

why is this happening?

It's normal. You're probably gonna get your period soon.

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i feel really dumb asking this but what is dry sex?

Having sex with your clothes on.

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okay so i have had a period for a little over a year now and ive only had 4 or 5 periods.im on it now and the last time i had one was augest. it runs in my family for this to happen but its never been this bad for my mom or grandma. my periods get REALLY REALLY heavy i mean i have to change every hour to HALF hour!!! its crazy and my cramps are really bad too. i usually dont get periods for about 3-5 months. and when i do get them there really bad. my mom doesnt really have the money to take me to a doctor but shes going to hopefully sometime this week but i was just wondering why am i like this? i know its not THAT unusual for people. what can i do?

Well, you just got it a year ago. For the first couple of years, your period is gonna be irregular. It'll show up & leave whenever it wants. I would see a doctor though. Get on some birth control so the cramps aren't so bad & so it's not super heavy.

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my friend is getting abused by her boyfreind but she doesnt know it. i can tell, because she says "i called him an a$$hole and then he slapped me., but i forgive him because you know, if he called me a b***** i would slap him" or how she says "me and him had sex, i didnt really feel like it but i mean i am his girlfreind, i kinda HAVE to". and how he can check her phone atleast once a day. She just says its him making sure that noone is calling her that could harm her. Oh please the only harm that she has is him. What should i do? Ive told her a few times its considered abuse if he hurts her in anyway, and forcing her to have sex, even if shes his girlfriend, is rape. And checking peoples phones to make sure they arent calling anyone or texting anyone they shouldnt is basically violation of trust and privacy. She just won't listten. and won't report it. WHAT SHULD I DO? Hes even starting to not let her hang out with me and her other friends

Take the liberty to report it yourself. If your friend is being abused, help her. She won't do it herself, so you've gotta do it for her. Yes, she'll be mad for a while, but the abuse will stop & she'll eventually find someone who'll treat her like a queen.

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ok 18/m
shes 17
going out 4 months
then she tells me she loves her x
we break up
2 days later she comes back cryin sayin she made a mistake blah blah blah
wants me back blah blah blah
doesnt want him or ne1 else blah blah blah
i ask her if she has even kissed any1 else. she says no
i say ok
we get back together
Then i find out through trusty lil myspace that in those 2 days she fucked a 20 year old and lied about it.
Confronted her. She admited it. Shes crying over it. Shes givin me all the "im so disgusted in myself, i hate myself for it blah blah blah"
i cant take this pain anymore, every time i look at her i break down cuz i picture her and him.
But i also cant walk away from her. I love her.
And i also cant go on a break with her, becuase im to afraid of what she will do if shes not with me cuz i cant trust her whatsoever anymore. HELP

If you can't trust her, then you shouldn't be with her. You love her, but you've gotta walk away from her no matter how much it hurts.

Besides, why would you wanna stay with her? You're picturing her & some other guy, she lied to you about fucking some other guy, and then when you confronted her, she broke apart like an old statue. I wouldn't wanna stay with her. I'd dump her, and leave it at that. Just be friends with her, but can you even trust her as a friend? Think about it.

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How do you handle jealousy in your relationships. Not freindships, because i get jealous of my friends all of the time, but i handle that (sorta) but how do you handle jealousy with your boyfriends...i just dont know how...suggestions anyone?

If other girls flirt with him, & that's the jealousy you're talking about, then look at it this way: If he wanted to be with them, then he'd have left you already. He obviously wants to be with you, so you shouldn't worry so much. You're with him, they're not. If anything, they're jealous.

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this boy well boyz want me to give them head but im scared im going to get herpes or something..what usally happends if u suck a guy off

There's a chance you could get herpes. If you're scared to do it, don't wanna do it, or don't think you should do it, then don't. Don't feel like you HAVE to do it, or that you NEED to do it to pleasure that person. If you don't wanna do it, then don't. If you're scared to do it, then don't. And if you feel like you need to do it, then don't. Do it because you want to, not because you feel like you have to.

If he gives you shit about it, kick him in the balls. You don't have to do anything you don't wanna do.

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I'm just looking for some opinions here. Do you think giving head is a bad idea? I've always thought that blowjobs were gross and should be left to the sluts, but some of my friends are trying to convince me differently. I just don't want to be labeled as a whore amongst the guys.

Any opinions would be helpful. Thanks.

Giving head because you're being pressured into it isn't good. Giving head because you feel like you NEED to do it to PLEASE someone isn't good.

Give head because you wanna do it, and because you WANT to please someone. If you don't like the idea of giving head, then stick to your morals & live by it. Don't give head if you don't wanna do it. You might change your mind, you might not, but if you don't wanna do it, then don't. Let people say that you're prude or whatever they're gonna say, but look at it this way, you don't have a bunch of cocks in your mouth, correct?

Stick to your morals, do what you think/know is right, and tell people to fuck themselves if they've got something to say about it. =)

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this is really gross im not going to lie. My vaginal area has been giving off a really bad odor since yesterday. Im not dirty i shower everyday and i dont have sex with dirty people, im a virgin. Not only does it give off realy bad odors but it leaves stains in my underware that are slightly yellow mostly white and a little bit gewey and clumpy. I will be completely honest becasue i need someone help on this i i was fingered by my boyfriend yesterday and i think it might be becasue of that but hes not dirty and im not either. Whats wrong why am i producng this and how do i stop it from happening? Please help me and thank you

Discharge is completely normal & you can't stop producing it, or stop it from happening. You need it, actually. It's a sign your period is coming & every girl has it. If you don't want it to go on your underwear, wear a pantieliner. =)

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I am about 5`1 orr 5 feet im really short and i weight 105 pounds is that fat? also im 14 and i wear double zero`s in jeans and extra smallss..its just that like my sister is 26 n she looks big and weighs about the same as me? but i look MUch smaller.

You're not fat. You're a perfect weight for your height, and I'd kill to be your jean size. I wear a nine. =(

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has anyone bought the new cd? i want to get it soooo bad but i havent heard anything from it so i wanted to know if its worth going out to buy. thanks

Well, I don't have it, but I heard from a friend that it was really good.

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I just took one in the internet, it was timed and it only consisted of 40 questions.
I got 110.4.
is this good, or bad?
avarage?

can some one give me the ruberic breakdown of the scores to average/belowaverage etc?

110 is about normal, I'd say.

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