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she doesnt know its ABUSE
my friend is getting abused by her boyfreind but she doesnt know it. i can tell, because she says "i called him an a$$hole and then he slapped me., but i forgive him because you know, if he called me a b***** i would slap him" or how she says "me and him had sex, i didnt really feel like it but i mean i am his girlfreind, i kinda HAVE to". and how he can check her phone atleast once a day. She just says its him making sure that noone is calling her that could harm her. Oh please the only harm that she has is him. What should i do? Ive told her a few times its considered abuse if he hurts her in anyway, and forcing her to have sex, even if shes his girlfriend, is rape. And checking peoples phones to make sure they arent calling anyone or texting anyone they shouldnt is basically violation of trust and privacy. She just won't listten. and won't report it. WHAT SHULD I DO? Hes even starting to not let her hang out with me and her other friends
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I was trying to deal with the same situation with my best friend. Everyone told her he was no good. She married him anyway. His excuse to her for his treatment of her was that she signed a marriage certificate which made her his property. She even said that he was wrong for trying to controll her.
She almost divorced him, but changed her mind.
Unfortunately, unless your friend gets the courage to leave him like she (in her heart)knows she should do, she will probably stay no matter what anyone says. Don't give up on her though. She is not married and has no kids with him, unlike my friend.
There still might be time. Have her talk to someone who has been there before. Remind her, but don't become nagging or she might stop listening.
However, if he becomes severely abusive call the cops. Your friend will be angry with you, but she will be alive and he will hopefully be in jail.
Beware though, find out the laws of your state first, because in some states she can choose not to press charges.Hopefully someday that will change.
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see its one thing if she knows it abuse and GETS THE HELL OUT OF THE RELATIONSHIP..but shes letting him hurt her like that..definately report it! one day things can get out of hand and he can hurt her ...realllyy bad.
report it to a guidance counselor or something..she needs to get out of that relatonship
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f that man.. hes a loser. if you can't get it through your friends mind, she's probably just blinded by [what she thinks is] love. reeeepooorrrrtttt ittttt!!! to a trusted adult.. depending on what kind of parents you guys have, tell them. or a school guidance counselor. or any kind of official. because that is definitely abuse.. wow he's a jerk. try your best to convince her of this. i'm sure it will eventually get through to her. if not, simply report it = good luck babe ♥
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why dont you go to a guidance counselor or something because it might not be that serious for the police or somebodies parents just yet. just talk to a counselor and tell them whats going on and mabye he/she can tell you what the next step is.if he continues to not let you hang out with her be like dont you think its weird how he doesnt like you hanging out with me? and see what she says i hope i helped
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Take the liberty to report it yourself. If your friend is being abused, help her. She won't do it herself, so you've gotta do it for her. Yes, she'll be mad for a while, but the abuse will stop & she'll eventually find someone who'll treat her like a queen.
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You should get proof and take it upon yourself to tell the police. maybe video recordings of there fights. because you know its legal to video tape someone for proof, but its illegal (w/o warrent) to audio record for proof. Or tell her parents that she is getting abused by her boyfreind. MOST likley they can stop it. No one should have go through that, not even the meanest person you know.
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