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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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13|f

a while ago i was at the Doctor for my inhalers. when i was aprosimatly five i asked my doctor when i was getting my next shot she said when i was 15, and when i was at the doctor a while ago i asked again, and again she said 15 but the very last time i was there my doctor said i need to get two shots. im not supposed to get one for another 2 years ! so, are they manditory? and if they are is there anyway i can just NOT have to get them? their menigitis [sp?] and theres another one i dont quite remember the name of. and my friends said their doctor never said they have to get one. so is my doctor just MAKING me get it? and is there a way i can jsut not get it

Shots are pretty necessary so you can maintain a good health. I wouldn't try to get out of a shot. Just accept it, and think about something else while it's happening. You probably won't even feel it.

23 Male

I got a phone call tonight. Old friend I used to talk to a few years ago. He wanted to talk to me about a friend he has; in particular, his own girlfriend. I like to help out my friends, so I said I would help.

He mentions a name to me. It rings a bell, because it happens to be the same name of my girlfriend, but I don't tell him that. A few minutes into the conversation I find out it is the same exact person we are talking about. I keep my big mouth shut.

They've been dating for a few months. I feel a deep hurt on the inside: we've been dating a few years. I find out the problem he is having and do the best I can to help him as a friend. I act as if I know her just as a friend and nothing more. This leads him to tell me more and more about them. I'm not reeling it out of him, he's just letting it all out. Should I confront her about this? She avoids the topic when I ask about him and my friend asks about their future. What is going on here, why does she avoid things, and do I need to tell her and possibly break things off?

The girl you love is cheating on you with an old friend, and has been for months. Why would you stay with her? Everyone deserves a second chance, but she's had a complete double life during your relationship. She can't be trusted, and if you give her a second chance, she'll probably just do it again.

Confront her, if she says nothing, tell her what you found out, & break up with her. If she can't be honest & faithful, then you can't be her boyfriend. Simple as that.

something happened with my boyfriend (ive been dating him for almost 3 years) and his dad and now he's moving to his mom's house in indiana (i live in illinois). what can i do to not be so upset over this? i'm afraid he's going to forget about me and leave me for someone else.

I know how you feel. My boyfriend's a soldier & he's currently in Iraq. When he wasn't there, he was at a base in North Carolina. I live in New York. It's hard for me. If you've been dating your boyfriend for a long time, and you really love him, then trust him. If you think he's gonna leave you for someone else, you have no trust in him. Trust, honesty & communication are three of the main things you need to keep a relationship going, besides love, of course. I'm pretty sure in the three years you guys have been together, he doesn't want anyone else. If he did, he would've left you a long time ago. You're with him, and he's with you. Be happy with that.

As for distance, just keep in touch. Talk as much as possible on the phone, write letters, email, IM whatever you need to do, do it. I'm sure your relationship will be fine. If you guys are under 18, then I suggest you get jobs so when you guys turn 18, he can come back up there, or you can go down there & get an apartment together. =)

ok soo there's this boy who likes my friend.. and he told me that he's going to ask her out tommorow since its valentines day tommorow... well he's always flirting with me.. like he'll tickle me and hug me.. and my friend told me that she doesn't like him.. and he probobly likes me... but im not sure.. and im confused.. i've never had a valentine/ boyfriend so yah...

so what should i do? i need an answer a.s.a.p.

If he told you he was gonna ask her out tomorrow, do you think he's telling the truth or is he lying. If he asks you out instead, his motive was just to make you think something else so it'd surprise you & make you happy. Or maybe he is just gonna ask her out & he's too friendly/flirty. Anyways, if he asks you out, take things slow & don't do anything you don't wanna do. =)

Ok my mom is in her 80s and I am in my 50s. STORY: I buy jewelry that is 99 cents (rings, bracelets, necklaces and pins) that look expensive. Every one including my mom have told me all the jewelry I buy is beautiful and they cannot believe I only spent 99 cent. Tonight my mom and I were discussing the jewelry and I told her that I cannot believe how I can get jewelry this cheap that look beautiful and how it looks as if I brought them at Lord & Taylors, Nordstrums. She turned to me and said; But you cannot get that at Tiffanys; This bothered me and I told her she does not have to be negative. She said; Well they arent real stones, I mean they look like you can get them at Lord & Taylors, Nordstrums, Bloomingdales but Tiffany only sells emeralds, diamonds, etc.; I called my friends and told them the conversation and they told me that all my mom is saying is that the jewelry is beautiful but they are not real stones. MY QUESTION: DO YOU AGREE WITH MY FRIENDS. Thanks.

I agree with myself when I say these questions need to be banned. They're so damn stupid.

my sister really likes a boy in school but the one bad thing is that he does drugs and my sister really does not no right from wrong even though she is 14 and yet she still likes him and she thinks that if she is with him 24-7 then he will become clean but he has told her that he has quit 3 times and all 3 times he has let her down, and now she has become a total bitch to everyone around her includeing me and her best friend for 9 years this is total bull shit please help what should i do and say to her to get her to relize the truth and that a person is resopsable for what they do not her and that if she wants him clean then leave him alone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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uknown bro

Your sister's young, and like you said, she doesn't know right from wrong yet. She doesn't know what she's getting herself into. There is NO way for you to explain it to her, she's not gonna understand. This is one of those situations where you gotta let your sister learn for herself. You can't hold her hand all the time & baby her & protect her. Let her grow up, and let her realize what you're trying to teach her. If you just tell her, she's not gonna get anything out of it like she would if she was to learn for herself.

what excatly is a closet freak?

How long does it normally take a guy to cum while your giving him a blow job? Thanks

It depends on the guy.

13/F
ok.so i love my mom to death and i want to get her something special for v-day. i only have $10.Any ideas that are great but around that price range. and please dont tell me to go get a job because i cant get one that quick.

Get her some chocolates or a cute teddybear. Or you can get her a funny card. =)

I like this boy that rides my bus. He is kinda my friend right now. He and I are alike because he is what other people consider "emo" and i am to. so we are friends. but not even good friends becuase i dont no that much about him. so my friend bob says to me joe wants to talk to you. so i say ok and joe comes up one seat so he can talk. then he starts to like choke himself with his braclet thingy and i say "what are you doing" he says "have you ever seen someone die?" and i say "no" then i say "why are you choking yourself" and he doesnt answer then finally he says "thats between me" and i say "your suicidal" and he says "yeah" and i say "why" he says "bcause" then he finally tells me and it was bcause like everyone he knew dies. and then he says "why do you (he was talking about why do i cut my self) and i say "josh" then he gets this look on his face like josh? thats all and i say "he makes me sad" tthen he says "so just forget about him" and i say "i can't" then i have to get off the bus bcause its my stop. so WHAT should i do? hes the only one that nos. and i am the only one that nos hes secret. but like WHAT now? he might think i am wimp bcause my reasons are so LOW compared to his. what do i do? (sry that i wrote it like a script i didnt no any other way to explain)

So you cut because of a boy who makes you sad, and he's suicidal because that's all that's been surrounding him for his life? You guys need to see a counselor, and if you like him, keep talking to him. Eventually you'll start to be closer friends & you guys will go out. =)

So theres this boy. I met him almost a year ago and like him ever since then. He says he knows that i like him, but i dont think he really knows how much. The problem is that he went out with one of my good friends and i help him with everything with it. After they broke up a few months later we hooked up a few times, and i thought he liked me, but he told my best friend that he liked me for like a few days and he doesnt know now. But the problem now is that he's going out with another one of my friends, but acts like he's going out with me or something else..

i dont know what to do now.
help?
advice?

i dont know what to think anymore!

Talk to him about it because he's the only one who can give you a straight, honest answer. He's the only one who knows what goes through his head, so you're better off talking to him for yourself instead of having a friend do it for you. Just talk to him about it, see what's going on, and if he isn't interested, then forget about him.

The truth is, I'm a virgin.
13/f
But whenever i see a hot guy i think to myself "damn, if i got the chance i'd have sex with him." or i might back out in the end...
and it scares me because one day i will get the chance..
and want to do it..
HELP!!

Honestly, if you're a virgin, and you've never done anything sexual with more than 5 guys, you're not a slut. If you're just thinking about it, that doesn't make you slutty. You just can't control your hormones.

i've liked this guy for awhile, and this weekend i was convinced to ask him out and i did (my friend had asked him if he'd say yes and he said maybe, and in his world maybe could mean anything). i asked him out and then instead of answering he invites me, my friend, and his friend into an aim chatroom and starts ignoring me whenever i asked him to answer the question cause he was taking it as a joke. and today, i look at my phone 5 minutes before school ends and he was calling.i couldnt answer till the bell rang and by then it had gone to voicemail. i called him back after the bell and he answer but no one was talking, i heard a bunch of wind. i asked him why he called online today, and he didnt answer. what does this mean? hes a really confusing person. and dont tell me to get over him, bc that wasnt the question.

Keep trying to talk to him. If he keeps being weird, have somebody else ask him what his deal is.

Ok so I know I have asked before but I am freaking so I am going to ask again. My boyfriend and I have dry humped but fully clothed. (Him: boxers, cacies(sp)Me:Pad,Underwear, jeans or korderoy pants.)Well my period hasn't come but it should be anyday now.(I think I am having light cramps but not sure) I am a bit late. I have never had intercourse. Is there anyway that I might be pregnant if he has gotten a quater sized wet spot on on his pants but he never like...ejaculated?
Help..
~ELI

The only way you could possibly be pregnant is if his penis entered your vagina. Since you had dry sex, there's no harm done. You're fine, so stop worrying.

heyy, im a 15 (nearly 16) year old girl. im having baddd problems with both my boyfriend and my Friends. i know the expression "Chicks before Dicks" but that isnt working. i dont hang out with my friends as much i'd like to. and i hang out with my boy every weekend (his grandma lives across the street and he lives 30 mins away) so every time i make plans with my friends on the weekends he cant help but to get upset. i love spending time with him, but i need friends, you know. i dont know if i should break it off. i've been with him for 9 months now. i've been trying to work it out but it's not working. my friends dont like him either. they think he is trouble. bhe is also one of my best friend ex.

You should never care what people think about you, your boyfriend, or anyone else. Let people talk. Let your friends think what they want about your boyfriend. If you love him, stay with him. Don't dump him because of something this simple. Spend time with your friends during the week. And have the weekends for your boyfriend.

Latelyy, ive felt really like... sadd. Like i feel like i just want to cry or something. But reallyy, there is no reason. Ive been havin a really good weekend and have had a lottt of funn, theres nothing wrong.. I seem to get this way a lott, like theres periods i just feel really sad for no given reason, I was diagnosed with mild to medium depression, but i thought i got past that. This summer was rough, the one person i look up to, my dad, i actually saw him wackin off to another women over the comp and we lost our whole relationship throughout the wholee summmerr.. didnt talk or look at each other, and i was scared of him.and everynight i would remind myself of my dad cheatin on my mom, and i was the only one who knew but i couldnt say anything or they would get a divorce that would be even more hard. My best friend who is older than me, was extreme suicidal, i delt with calls every other day of him sayin I OD'd and im gonna die i love you.. me and this kid spent day and night together the whole summer. At the beginging of the year i started high school, lost alll of my best friends because of this girl who turned them against me... My neighbor died, we were so close.. i lost my first boyfriend i was actually in love with. My best friend talked to a FAKE guy over long distance relationship.. come to find its a girl we know that is one of our friends cousins, she went out with him for 9 monthss! We got calls every now and then sayin he killed himself, we were really close... then we realized that he was fake...

Ive been better, ive gotten myfriends back,my dads relationship with me has been better, hes stopped--atleast i think. We never talked to that fake person again.. my friends still suicidal, but much better... im over that guy, found another not together but talkingg. My neighbor is gone, and yess i miss her. but Things have gotten better and as of 2007 startin ive decided to put it behind me.. But theres this moments when i flash back, remember all that shit.. whenever i get like thiss.. and it makes me sooo anxious and scared..

I cried myself to sleep everynight of 2006 almost.. sounds weird but i just cant cry anymore, i just feel really sad sometimess, and it puts me down.
any clue or advice to whats going on, im sick of feeling this way

I'd talk to someone about it. Talk to a really close friend or a counselor. You need help & you may think you're happy & everything's fine, but it's not. If you're still flashing back to horrid times, life isn't as great as you made it out to be. If you'd like, you can talk to me. I know what you're going through in almost every aspect of the things you listed. Just leave your sn in my inbox, and I'll IM you. I'd let you IM me first, but I've got privacy on my AIM, so no random person can IM me.

My dad doesn't let me have a boyfriend. But for the past (almost) year my mom has let my secretly go out with my boyfriend. Now I have been with my bofriend for almost a year. My mom doesn't know we've kissed (although she almost caught us once). Around the 5th month we did some sexual things that i'm not proud of and actually regret.
I told him and we've talked about it, and he is ok with it, and we haven't done anything like that ever since. Recently i have been feeling extremely guilty because i have always told my mom everything, except what my boyfriend and i have done. The thing is that if i tell my mom i will lose my boyrfriend adn her trust, and if i dont i will feel guilty. I feel so guilty that when i am at his house i get depressed, i want to leave and i feel as though i am alone. I don't know what to do.

If you love your boyfriend, let him know that you guys cannot be together until it's okay. Let him know how you're feeling. If he really loves you, he'll understand. As for your mother, if your guilt is eating you up, talk to her about it. I'm sure she'll be happy you came clean & won't be so upset about it. You could've just disobeyed her & not have told her at all.

Well I don't know. You see, i'm 13. This boy has been my best friend for about two years and we've been together for a year. It's nice and everything. We are real close and know almost everything about eachother and everything. He's different from the rest of the guys i've gone out with. Don't think I am a slut or anything but we are both comfortable being naked around eachother. He trusts me and I trust him. No, this is not my first relationship. Anyhow, he's always there when i need him. Well, he's actually a nice boy and won't take advantage of me or anything like that or trying to get me to have sex with him. I know i'm young and yes i am still a virgin. Most of you are probably thinking "teen love dont have sex with him" Of course i'll be on birth control and have a condem and everything but i'm not sure if i should give up my virginity so young. So what do you people out there think about the whole situation?

If you're having doubts about it, then you shouldn't go through with it.

i am a 17 year old chick and i lost my virginity to a good friend on the weekend...this is really lame but i think i love him. i have been really good friends with him for a while and i asked him out and he rejected me but then we ended up hooking up and now he kind of just ditched me. because he isn't sure if it feels right. he didnt use me.

Anyway, being really rash and without thinking about it i told him i hated him and to get lost...so he did. but now i want to give him the chance to explain and to let me know what happened. things just don't add up. im sure he wasn;t using me, but then why did he do it?? i am so confused and all i want to do is talk to him, my question is, how long do i leave it?? its hard to stay away and i miss him, but does he need time to think and stuff! help me guys

Both of you need time to think. Stay away from each other for a while, and eventually you're start talking to each other again.

so i've been with my boyfriend for almost a month. the thing is we're SUPER shy around each other. we're in the same class but we're trying to keep out relationship on the down low since a lot of people like to talk in my class. anyways only a few people know about us together, me, him, 2 of my friends, and his sister. everyday afterschool i walk to to store with him, my friend, his sister and my other friend. the thing is we can't help holds or even hug each other goodbye cause one of my friends who go to the store with us know that we are going out and if she finds out she would tell EVERYONE. keeping our relationship a secret is working but it's getting us NOWHERE! we hardly even talk to each other and it's kinda annoying how we're too shy and stuff. so how can we get closer together? thanks a lot!!

If you really like your boyfriend, you won't care what people think. People are always gonna talk, and run their mouths. Give them a reason to, honestly. Be however you wanna be with your boyfriend & don't worry about what people have to say.

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