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i need serious help sorry this is long... but thanks to anyo


Question Posted Monday February 12 2007, 8:38 pm

Latelyy, ive felt really like... sadd. Like i feel like i just want to cry or something. But reallyy, there is no reason. Ive been havin a really good weekend and have had a lottt of funn, theres nothing wrong.. I seem to get this way a lott, like theres periods i just feel really sad for no given reason, I was diagnosed with mild to medium depression, but i thought i got past that. This summer was rough, the one person i look up to, my dad, i actually saw him wackin off to another women over the comp and we lost our whole relationship throughout the wholee summmerr.. didnt talk or look at each other, and i was scared of him.and everynight i would remind myself of my dad cheatin on my mom, and i was the only one who knew but i couldnt say anything or they would get a divorce that would be even more hard. My best friend who is older than me, was extreme suicidal, i delt with calls every other day of him sayin I OD'd and im gonna die i love you.. me and this kid spent day and night together the whole summer. At the beginging of the year i started high school, lost alll of my best friends because of this girl who turned them against me... My neighbor died, we were so close.. i lost my first boyfriend i was actually in love with. My best friend talked to a FAKE guy over long distance relationship.. come to find its a girl we know that is one of our friends cousins, she went out with him for 9 monthss! We got calls every now and then sayin he killed himself, we were really close... then we realized that he was fake...


Ive been better, ive gotten myfriends back,my dads relationship with me has been better, hes stopped--atleast i think. We never talked to that fake person again.. my friends still suicidal, but much better... im over that guy, found another not together but talkingg. My neighbor is gone, and yess i miss her. but Things have gotten better and as of 2007 startin ive decided to put it behind me.. But theres this moments when i flash back, remember all that shit.. whenever i get like thiss.. and it makes me sooo anxious and scared..

I cried myself to sleep everynight of 2006 almost.. sounds weird but i just cant cry anymore, i just feel really sad sometimess, and it puts me down.
any clue or advice to whats going on, im sick of feeling this way

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christina answered Monday February 12 2007, 9:35 pm:
I'd talk to someone about it. Talk to a really close friend or a counselor. You need help & you may think you're happy & everything's fine, but it's not. If you're still flashing back to horrid times, life isn't as great as you made it out to be. If you'd like, you can talk to me. I know what you're going through in almost every aspect of the things you listed. Just leave your sn in my inbox, and I'll IM you. I'd let you IM me first, but I've got privacy on my AIM, so no random person can IM me.

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DearAbby92 answered Monday February 12 2007, 9:33 pm:
Im so sorry for your losses. I am also happy this is a better year for you, but obviously, you cannot just move right past these issues and struggles you have been through. It seems as if you have physcially delt with these problems, but not mentally. These things are still in your head, still paining you.

How to get over it? It's not an easy thing. There is no sure way to deal with it. But talking about it always helps. Confront the people that caused you pain, and just talk through it. Tell them exactly how you felt, and that you just have to get this off your chest. Let it go.

Write in a journal. If you can't talk to these people, like the friend you lost, you can pretend to. Have conversations and say exactly what you want too. Write down how you feel, how you felt, and what you want and don't want. If it's in your head, put it on paper.

Talk to a professional. A guidance counselor, a therapist, even a trusted teacher. An un-biased person is always easiest to talk to. Someone who is trained to help you.

Maybe you've fallen back into depression. Relaspes aren't uncommon. Check with your doctor. Get the help that you need. This is the time to take care of yourself, honey. Don't let other people's troubles harm you.

I wish you all the best, and if you ever need to talk, drop me an email. I am ALWAYS here for you.

-DearAbby92

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coconutcatastrophe answered Monday February 12 2007, 9:30 pm:
i'm so sorry :[

well obviously many horrible things have happened to you and i'm sure many people would be depressed for awhile. as for the flashbacks your having, well i can definetly relate to your problem, although my problems aren't as bad as yours i still have those times where i get really sad. you need to talk to someone and let all of this out. thats what i did and it really helped me alot. if you don't have anyone to talk to you are welcome to talk to me because i have a similar idea to what this feels like (if you want my email/AIM send me a message in my inbox) school counselors are a second choice too. although they can be hard to talk to because usually for me i like to talk to someone around my age.


hope everything goes well.

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