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Mom And Boyfriend Trouble
My dad doesn't let me have a boyfriend. But for the past (almost) year my mom has let my secretly go out with my boyfriend. Now I have been with my bofriend for almost a year. My mom doesn't know we've kissed (although she almost caught us once). Around the 5th month we did some sexual things that i'm not proud of and actually regret.
I told him and we've talked about it, and he is ok with it, and we haven't done anything like that ever since. Recently i have been feeling extremely guilty because i have always told my mom everything, except what my boyfriend and i have done. The thing is that if i tell my mom i will lose my boyrfriend adn her trust, and if i dont i will feel guilty. I feel so guilty that when i am at his house i get depressed, i want to leave and i feel as though i am alone. I don't know what to do.
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Honestley I would not tell your mum i doubt she would trust you, if you regret it and have stopped yourself that is better than her stopping you. Sometimes there are things you have to keep to yourself cos if you tell your mum it may not be pretty.
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well just sit ur mom down and talk to her tell her what happened and that you wish it could have waited and let her know how you feel
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Think about it like this, your going to regret it either way you do it.So if you tell your mom, your not gonna have your boyfriend but you'll have her trust,but if you dont tell her you dont have her trust but you still have your boyfriend.
But hey think about it, if you dont tell her then she'll always trust you and if you tell her what you did , she might not trust you as much as she used to.
Everyone makes mistakes and has regrets and some of them are more personal and I think you learned your lesson .
But honestly , i think shes done somethings she regrets and didnt tell you, so consider that.
But if you do decide to tell her, think about your options, but that would be good that your honest.
Hope I helped.
--Kendra
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If you've been together for amost a year then the chances are that your mom probably knows or at least guessed that you guys have kissed. You don't have to tell your mom, maybe you just need to talk to someone else you trust. A friend maybe? Or if you really do tell your mom everything nd your that close then maybe she'll understand where your coming friend. Although I don't know your age. If your younger than 15, than maybe it isn't the best thing to tell your mom if you really want to keep your boyfriend. In the end it's up to you.
Just ask if you need more advice! Good Luck!
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I don't think you need to tell your mom what you've done. that's your sex life... i don't think she told her mom about hers, know what i mean? as long as you know it wont happen again, i think its ok to keep to yourself. buttt if the guilt is killing you... go to confession (if your religion does that... you'll feel better) or write in a diary or just tell your mom. <3
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If you love your boyfriend, let him know that you guys cannot be together until it's okay. Let him know how you're feeling. If he really loves you, he'll understand. As for your mother, if your guilt is eating you up, talk to her about it. I'm sure she'll be happy you came clean & won't be so upset about it. You could've just disobeyed her & not have told her at all.
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