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Boyfriend and Friends trouble
heyy, im a 15 (nearly 16) year old girl. im having baddd problems with both my boyfriend and my Friends. i know the expression "Chicks before Dicks" but that isnt working. i dont hang out with my friends as much i'd like to. and i hang out with my boy every weekend (his grandma lives across the street and he lives 30 mins away) so every time i make plans with my friends on the weekends he cant help but to get upset. i love spending time with him, but i need friends, you know. i dont know if i should break it off. i've been with him for 9 months now. i've been trying to work it out but it's not working. my friends dont like him either. they think he is trouble. bhe is also one of my best friend ex.
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I say this guy's gotta go. If he won't let you see your friends, that's a red flag right there that he's trying to control you. He probably won't let you see your friends because one of them is his ex and he's worried that she'll try to get you to dump him. I'd agree with your friends on this one. He does sound like trouble.
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dump the guy, u need some space, and not having any other friends just ruins the relationship. you gotta be somewhat independent. otherwise it wont work out in the long run
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Talk to both your friends and your boyfriend about it.
Start with your guy. Make sure you let him know that you love the time that you spend with him, but you miss having a little time with your friends too. If you really care about this boy, don't break it off unless you're completely sure that he's directly interfering with your friendships (or something else). You say that your friends think he's bad news, and your best friend did date him, so figure out why they're saying this. It could be simply because they're jealous of the time you're spending with him that they used to spend with you. But...they might know something about him you don't. Listen to your friends; they can usually see what we are blinded by when we are in love.
Another idea; hang out with both your boyfriend & your friends in a big group. This will allow you to spend time with both, although it might cause some conflict between your friends and guy, as it sounds like they don't get along. Be careful of this; if it seems like it will cause problems having your friends and your boyfriend in the same room, skip the group date and hang out with your friends & boyfriend separatley.
And finally, you should always confide in your friends about how you're feeling about the situation. You definetely all need to spend a little girly time together every once in a while, and it sounds like you miss hanging with just the girlies. Don't let your guy get in the way of great friendships. Make plans to have a girls' only day; go to the mall or have a sleepover. Call them on weekends just to see what's up. Don't drift too far from your friends, as long as they are true to you.
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If you really like your guy, don't break it off. Love is always worth it. And so is friendship.
Communication is key. Talk to both your friends and boyfriend and work something out. Balance out your time. Let your guy know you need time with the girls and let the girls know you need some time with your guy. Besides, if you skip a weekend with your guy, seeing him the next weekend will make it so much more worth it. Like not eating your favorite food for a while makes it taste so much better.
Hope that helped a bit!
-DearAbby92
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You should always find time for your boyfriend AND your friends. Try and hang out with both of them together. Like one day you could go to the mall together. Don't listen to what other people say about your boyfriend either. If you love him and he loves you then that's all that matters. Just make sure that he is what you want, and that he doesn't get you into any trouble and that you both are safe and happy! :D
-AJ
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You should never care what people think about you, your boyfriend, or anyone else. Let people talk. Let your friends think what they want about your boyfriend. If you love him, stay with him. Don't dump him because of something this simple. Spend time with your friends during the week. And have the weekends for your boyfriend.
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