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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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i dont like my boyfriend. hes sweet and really nice, but i dont love him.

i dont know if i can break up with him though because first of all he really loves me, and second of all he is my best friends cousin and they are really close.

i dont want to break his heart and i dont want to hurt my best friend. to make it all even worse is that all his relatives know about us and support our relationship. =/

15/f

how can i break up with him without hurting anyone and without losing my friendship with my friend?

Tell him that you only see him as a friend, and that you'd like to remain that way. If you didn't like him, you shouldn't have said yes when he asked you to be his girlfriend. But I'm sure he'll understand.

i feel like im stupid. yet i won the most awards at graduation than anyone else, and im a straight A student.

my parents make me feel like im worthless, when i get a 95, they don't say good job, they say "why". they only approve of 100s.

when they ask me to do soemthing, i just cant understand them, like if they say "get the paper in the desk" i look everywhere and i cant see it, and then they point out that it was in the shelf UNDER something (yeah, like i can see that) and they say look more carefully or something.

my dad is always saying i'm disorganized, when i have a folder which files all the papers from my different classes in different categories and my clothes are in color order.

today i took my dog outside for a walk but everywhere outside is ice so he lifted his feet and i didn't even realize that he was cold and his feet were freezing while he stood on the ice, until my dad came and yelled at me and told me to pick him up, and my mind just went blank. i stood there looking at my dog, and i just went blank. i didnt realize it until he yelled at me a second time.

[my parents are not abusive or verbally abusive, they just scold me like any other parents]

what is wrong with me, and what is wrong with them? what can i do to improve these problems?

You're not stupid. You're just a teenager. Your parents just want what's best for you, and they think 100's are best. Just try your hardest, and tell them that's all you can do. Your parents love you, and they're doing what they do for your own good. Don't beat yourself up over it. You should be happy you don't have my grades. My parents called me a disappointment. I'm failing.

my parents were married in late may and my sister was born in mid december. my sister was born right on time. did my parents have sex before they were married?

Your mom was two months pregnant when they got married.

what is street smart and is it possible to be street smart in the suburbs

Being street smart is being able to survive on the streets on your own. You know where everything is, how to get by, how to protect yourself, what to do in certain situations. Everything.

come to think of it
what is book smart?

When someone's book smart, they can memorize stuff really easily, they never forget what they read, they get good grades & they're actually pretty helpful when it comes to helping someone else.

i am 21 and i still didnt get my period!!! it's really weird can anyone help me out? *stephanie

You might wanna see a doctor about that because something could be wrong with you. You should've gotten it by now.

I need some good teen friendship quotes.

not like by ben franklin or from the bible.

Check this site:

www.wittyprofiles.com

I'm in high school but there are no gay or bi guys. The school is pretty uptight about that stuff. Is there any other way I could meet another gay guy?

Form a Gay-Straight Alliance at your school. I realize your school is uptight about that, but they need to loosen up & that could be the perfect way. There might be gay guys in your school, and you'd never know because they're probably shy, too straight to come out, or afraid that they'll be bashed. But if they join your club, you'll know who's homosexual, bisexual & heterosexual. That's a good way to meet them. Or just use MySpace.

location, location, location. what does that mean?

It means location should always be precise, and it's super important.

Me and my friends really like Fall Out Boy but I think I'm the only one that likes them for them , not just cause Pete it cute.So this guy wants to give their cd to one of us and I really want it but I know he isn't going to give it to me but I really want it! I also don't wanna get all mad at my friend if she gets it or something but I want this "contest" to atleast be fair but my friend doesn't agree with me. What should I do to agree with me or atleast be fair about this thing?

If you or your friends don't buy the CD, then you won't really appreciate it like you would if you'd have bought it. Depending on where you go, that CD could be about 10 dollars. The most I'd say is about 17. Just go out & buy it. If you don't wanna buy it, then have your friend rip it to her computer, and burn you a copy. But you'd be better off going out & buying it. You'd be supporting the band. =)

my brother is 15 yrs old and still likes Spongebob! is there any possible reason for this and how can i get him to stop watching this show? i know that sounds mean, but seriously..

So what if he watches spongebob? I'm 16, my brother's 21, and we watch The Backyardigans together. We also watch The Wonder Pets. Those are shows for little kids like toddlers & preschoolers & whatever. But there's nothing wrong with watching it. If he likes watching it, then let him. How would you like it if he told you that you should stop watching one of your favorite shows? You'd probably be pretty pissed, right? Exactly. So leave him alone, let him watch what he wants & mind your business. He's 15. I think he's old enough to make the decisions about what he watches on TV.

i hate asking my parents 4 money because thell lecture me about it and i never get the money.
so i want to know im a 13/F and i want to get a way to get money. doing chores isnt gonna get me anywhere. they dont give me money for that. and they wont give me an allowence. so yeah. do you know of anyway that i could get money?.

Have a yard sale, sell things on Ebay. Babysit, deliver newspapers. Help neighbors complete tasks around their house if they're not capable to do it themselves. Be a dog walker.

i dont mean to offend, but what really is caucasian? is it ok to call people that? i think i heard that there were three original races: mongloloid, negroid and, caucasiod or something like that. people say there are "white people" "black people" and "asian".. like umbrella terms for the many ethnicities that make them up. asian - pakistan, indian, chinese, cambodian, filipino, japanese, korean, etc. i mean, what is oriental? i heard that was offensive too. uhh and where would latinos go then? are they white??? and egyptians? im so confused. white - german, english, etc. black - african americans or Jamaicans or Haitians??. what is creole?

what is
nationality
ethnicity
race

A caucasion is a white person. It's better than calling someone "white."

Latinos are nowhere NEAR being white. And they never will be. They're hispanic decent. Egyptians are Mediterean or African. Anybody from Asia is Asian, obviously. An Indian person counts as an Asian. Russian people count as Asian & Europe since the country is so big it's in both continents. Anybody from Europe is French, Italian, English, etc. Jamaicans & Haitians would count as carribean people. As would Puerto Ricans, or Costa Ricans. Mexico & countries like Honduras or Panama count as Central Americans, and people from Chile, Belize or any country in South America are South Americans.

Nationality is pretty much what country you're from. Ethnicity is like, Chinese, or Puerto Rican. And race is just your skin color. It's pretty simple.

how important are extracurriculars and stuff, really?

They're pretty important. You could be the best student ever, have the best grades & apply to all the colleges in the world, but without any extra curricular's, you probably won't get in. They stand out on a job application & a college application. If they know you've been active during your school years, they'll want you because it shows that you're a hardworker, & that you're responsible. So, I'd say they're pretty important for a job app, and a college app.

is it bad to get the hpv vaccine when your already sexually active?

Nope. Go get tested, & then get the vaccine.

why does .."my two cents" mean?

It means you're putting input into a conversation. It's pretty much your opinion or thought on something.

Back in November, I met this guy at a party, and I felt like I connected with him right away and we grinded. However, we were having a random conversation about hook-ups and he said he doesn't hook up because he doesn't want his parents to find out. I'm depressed, whatever. But he asks for my number and screen name and we talk. He calls me more often than I call him. Recently, we've been talking even more and I still like him. Now flash forward to Saturday. A mutual friend pulls me aside and says something along the lines of "I think he likes you, but he's weird. You have to take it slow. But when he mentions you...you can just tell." And I get the sense that he likes me too, as does everyone else. This mutual friend wants to "torture" him by telling him that he spoke to me without telling him what I said. So...what should I do? Should I wait for him to ask me out or say something myself or just wait?

Keep talking to him, but don't wait. Ask him to go to the mall with you, or to see a movie. Or to go out for coffee or lunch. Ask him out if you want. It'll be easier on him, because he seems shy in promoting a relationship.

13/f
ok, a couple weeks ago i went to a party in miami.
i used to live there so i knew a few people there.
but there was this one guy that i didnt know.
and i was dancing with him all night.
before me and my friend left i made out with him.
EVERYONE knows about it.
even at his school.
im going out with him now.
and he was the first guy i ever made out with.
but, do you think im a slut?
thanks in advance :]

Nope. It's not like you go around & give head to every guy you see, or makeout with just anyone. You're dating him now so it's not a big deal.

From the age of five until the age of fifteen, I was seriously depressed. I didn't function normally and I attempted suicide frequently. I got help and for the last couple years I've been making constant progress--but that's created a new set of problems. The friends I once had to depend on to save me from myself don't know how to deal with me as a happier, healthier person and friends I've made more recently don't understand when I have an occasional relapse and can't be the bouncy, happy girl they're used to. I'm afraid that I'll end up completely alone and that I'll end up backspinning to the way that I used to be, but I don't know of any way to make people understand the changes I'm making. Any suggestions?

Wait, your old friends want you to be your old self? If they want you depressed constantly & attempting suicide all of the time, they're not your friends. And as for your new friends, they're probably never going to get it. They don't know what you've been through, or how your life has been because they've never experienced it for themselves. So you can't explain it to them, or make them see what's been going on. They're just going to have to accept you. If they can't do that, they're not your friends, and they never were to begin with.

well im just wondering what would you say if you won an award, ANY award, what would you tell your fans on the stage who to thank what to say and all that lol just wondering you can name whatver award and tell everythig thanks i just wanna hear

Well, you'd thank your fans for all of their support, everyone you've worked with, your parents, friends, family & God if you believe in it. Basically, thank anyone you'd like to thank.

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