HI!!im caramella,id love to give advice for those who need it.You might not always like my answers but i dont care about ratings,cuz if i tell you something you want to hear all the time,and i get rated high and you end up making a big mistake,rating aint gonna solve the problem then.I want to tell you guys to think before you act and look before you leap in order not to make misttakes,if you have made mistakes NEVER regret it,regrets are a waste of time and happiness and wont change what happened,BUT it will give you expereince and teach you not to do it again and refine your future^_^regret over wasted time is more wasted time.
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Alright, so I've liked this guy for most of the summer, but when he actually started liking me, and wanted to start "going out," I wasn't really sure if I wanted to do the same. I mean, I'm going into high school and I guess I don't really want to be tied down by some other guy. So, anyways, I did say yes to him about "going out" and now I think I made the wrong choice. I want to tell him that I think we should just be friend's 'cause I don't want anything to be awkward. Because now that we've started going out (about 3 days ago) he hasn't even called, or talked to me. I'm going to try and tell him that I think we would be better off by not going out and just being friend's, but I don't know how to make it so it doesn't sound mean or rude. I still like him, but I don't want to be "going out."
By the way, I'm a 14 year old girl. (link)
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You should tell him as soon as possible,cuz the longer you keep him from knowing the truth,the longer youll give him hope that he still has a chance with you and then youll tell him later on and bring him down like *BAM*.You wouldnt like it if that happened to you.The sooner you tell him,the faster hell get over this.Tell him that you dont want to go out with him cuz youre starting a new school yea and dont want to be occupied with anything but your studies and your freinds.Theres no NICER way to say it so.If you say it any nicer hell take advantage of the fact that youre being nice and convince you NOT to break up with him,so good luck.
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I getting to know this really fantastically stunning girl,so I really need help from girls or guys on what do I say to keep the conversation going and be funny? for the girls, what do your boyfriends talk to you about? and for guys, what do you say to girls?, it would help if you listed some topics or joke sentences for me.so far I have talked to her about music, school and subjects, and movies.what else is there????thanks a lot for any advice given. (link)
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Well,im a girl.Girls like to be the one focused on.They like it when you ask them questions that gets them to talk more about themselves.Treat her like a princess and make her feel like your attention is mainly on her.
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i`m a 15yr old female,
i started to hang out with this boy about 2 months ago. he is in 2 grades higher than me he drives and i relly like him. tha first day we hung out i started to like him and since that day we havent gone more than 2 days without seeing eachother. But tha thing is he only wants to be friends with benifits.. and i want more. He is also involved with this other girl but they arent dateing she is an ex but they still have sex. I havent had sex with him yet he has asked but i said no. I met a few of his friends and became friends with some of them too. One night 3 of his friends asked me to hang out with them even though the guy i like wasnt there but i wsaid yes anyways. i ended up haveing sex with one of his friends. When the guy i like found out he was mad i`m not to sure why, he said he was mad because i said no to him when he cares about me and knows me well but i said yes to one of his friends that i jut met and didnt care about me. I'm not to sure why i had sex with his friend and won't have sex with him. He still asks me to have sex but i always say no. It might be a revenge thing because the night that i had sex with his friend was the same night i found out the guy i like was still haveing sex with his ex.. now the guy that i had sex with started to call me and ask me to hang out. i like him too but i don't think he knows it. i think he just thinks i like fooling around with him. so im wondering what i should do about this because i think tha first guy i like is just useing me and i don`t even know what to do about th second one. (link)
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Wheres your self respect woman?Dont you see that the guy you like said that he only wants to be freinds??The second guy called because you gave him the chance to have sex with you now hes calling you because he wants more hes all like"this girl will do anything i want so what the hell?"The guy you like asked you for sex first cuz he KNOWS your obssesed with him and will do anything to get to him so hes using you for sex.He got mad because,"aww no fair how come my freind gets to have sex with her and i dont?"Dont worry,the guy you like isnt jelous and doesnt like you.You made your self cheaper than dirt to them guys,its girls like you that gives us good girls the bad names.You should be ashamed of yourslef,is your virginity THAT cheap to you??I seriously think that the guy you like and his freinds all planned this out so they can all have sex with you because they know you would do ANYTHING with ANYONE.
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okay . well my best friend is going out with this kid that i really like and i am going out with his friend & i dont really like his friend at all . and i just started going out with him yesterday , i like him like as a little brother not a boyfriend but idk. i dont want anyone mad at me if i break up with him . what should i do (link)
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This is only YOUR buisness.If they wanna get mad at you they can go to hell.Its YOUR life,not theirs.Does your best freind know you liked this guy before she dated him?If she did then shes not a true best freind.You need to tell her this if she knew you liked him.If she DIDNT know,then its really not her fault and it would be really cruel for you to break them up.Break up with the kid you dont like,before you break his heart by not telling him.You wouldnt like it if a guy YOU liked did that to you.
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I was wondering how long it takes for marijuana to get out of your system. I didn't do it!, but someone I know did. And I am concerned about them. My school does random drug tests too by taking a little tiny piece of your hair. So does anyone know how long? Please actual facts not just guesses. Thanks! (link)
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It takes from 1 day to FIVE WEEKS.This is a fact.Even check for yourself http://health.rutgers.edu/drugs/DrugChart.htm
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My boyfriend left my friend a picture comment on myspace that said "your so sexy shortii." I'm really jealous. Should I be jealous? I don't want to seem so clingy but I'm kinda jealous. (link)
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I would get so damn MAD and jealous.I think you should talk to him about this and tell him if hed like it if you were checking out HIS freinds.Tell him to treat you the way he wants to be treated.
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i'm 13, i don't plan on losing my virginity ANYTIME SOON, i'm going to keep it until i'm married. Most of my friends aren't virgins [ages; 13-16] and they don't regret it, but i know in the future they will . but can you guys just give me an amazing reason on why being a virgin is a precious thing and that giving up your body to some guy that just wants to get in and out makes you seem like a hoe. i really need good reasons so that when the other 1/4 of my friends are going to have a sex i can give them great reasons on why not to [other than STD's and all stuff i need other advice] (link)
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look,do you actually agree with 13 year old ppl losing it?i think its disgusting because they no nothing about it and only do it because their freinds do.tell them that if they lose it now to their boyfreinds theyll obviously one day break up with their boyfreinds and go to a different guy and do it with him and break up and so on,and by the time they are married,they would have stdd,been pregnant before and a sucky ass reputation.they always end up regreting it.and tell me,if they get pregnant,can they actually take care of their kid??no!because theyre a child with a child and both are in need of mothers!people will talk rea;ly badly about them and guys will lose respect to them and say,"aw shes a whore,she did it with everyone,"virginity should only be lost to a person that you know youll be with for the rest of your life.not to some 13 yearr old guy that barley got his puberty and wont take care of no damn kid youll get pregnant with!
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im 13/f
Well, to make a long story short..
There's this boy I've been crushing on for about a month now. I'm going to spend a week with him at his house for vacation with a whole bunch of people and i just want to know how do i let him know i like him? i really wanna go out with him but the thing is i've never really had a REAL boyfriend. and i haven't hooked up yet & i'm pretty sure he has. and if he asks if i've hooked up before do i say yes and lie so he'll hook up with me and think i'm experienced? or do i say the truth and say no and see whatever happens from there? I really need to let him know how i feel but i don't wanna make it obvious, i wanna keep him guessing. he's 15. what are some ways i can play hard to get and flirt with him? PLEASE HELP! xox
& btw, what are some signs that boys give to let them know they like a girl.. i really really realllyyyy like him, so please make this work! (link)
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Well,have you ever talked to him normally before?If you have then just wait for him to be alone one day,then walk up to him and start flirting.Just make sure he dont have a girlfreind.To play hard to get this is what you do,while flirting,do it perfectly but then be the one who says,"nice talking to you,hope we can talk again soon"and walk away.That way youll make him want more.If you never talked to him before,then walk up to him(with a freind if you want)and introduce yourself or have a freind introduce you if youre too scared.First off lets start with the flirting...first thisng,you neeed to start off slowly,dont go up to him the first time you talk to him and tell him how you feel or your life story details since you were born.Just play it cool.Give him your cutest smile,a freindly comment(cool shoes,i love them!!)ask him questions,listen more than you talk,pay attention to everything he says and ask questions outta his answers,and put the focus on him,dont go off talking about yourself too much and forget about him,or youll end up admiring yourself alone.After that goes well,just smile and say hi when you pass by him but not too much or youll freak him out.You should always be the one to walk away first,so you can leave him wanting more.Dont dress too exposed(in clothes that show off too much skin)remember,you want him to keep guessin how you look like and want more of you.To give him signs that you like him,make eye contact,smile,give him the up and down look(while smiling),laugh at his jokes,and always look your best.Make sure youve shaved any unwanted hair,moustache and stuff like that.Make sure you dont smell bad either,you want to look gorgeous infront of him!Well,hope this helped and tell me if it goes well!
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Whenever I shave my legs I always get cuts. So I tried using shaving cream but that only irritated them, and now I have little red dots everywhere! So what are some good razors that I can use, that aren't exspensive, to have smooth legs? And nair is out of the question. Thanks in advance. (link)
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Razors suck.They really do.They make your leg hair pokey and doesnt shave right.I wax.Waxing makes your legs really smooth and gives you the best results.Razors and shaving cream make your hair grow thicker next time it grows.
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i'm a 16 year old girl who has never done it or had even had a REAL boyfriend.
is this abnormal?
cause my friends are all off doing it and they think im such a nerd. (link)
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So??Im 16female and never had a boyfreind or sex either.OOOOOOOH BIG DEAL!!!I myself am only going to lose it when im married.Im not going to be like them and lose my virginity to my boyfreind then break up with him then have a new boyfreind,do it with him and break up and so on till im married.By the time im married i will have gotten pregnant before,STD's AND a sucky ass reputation.Losing it now wont make me get no damn scholorship and get to go to the college i want,or make me any prettier.Itll just make me a hoe.You should do the same.They can say whatever the hell they want to,theyll see wholl be getting the last laugh when youve got a scholorship and really smart and healthy and they all have STDs!!Dont do anything your going to regret later on.Because EvErYoNe i know gets screwed posts their questions here saying "OH NO IM PREGNENT HELP!!"Are you ready for that?
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Alright i am a 15 year old girl. im pregnant. i have a great boyfriend. i dont get along with my dad or little brother. my mom and dad are getting a divorce. i choice to move with my mom. and my little brother choice to live with my dad. just recently i started cutting again. i no its not good and i talked to my boyfriend about it and ive been trying so hard to stop but there is so much drama. i just cry and i want to do it so bad. but i can i promised my boyfriend i wouldnt. my mom and i are moving out the end of the mnth. so i wont have to put up with my brother or my dad any more. but thats to long i cry everyday! and i want to cut everytime i cry or get angry. i need help!! and im crying out for help. i dont want to go talk to someone. i have a fear of talking to someone i dont know! so hopefully you guys can help me! (link)
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WOW how smart.Cutting yourself when your pregnant.You need to be more mature than that and know how to solve your problems correctly if youre going to be a mother.You should be happy!Youre moving out and leaving your dad that used to annoy you!Your parenst arent the first people to get divorced,its their lives get over it!You should talk to your mom about this.Cutting yourself is going to get you bruises and scares on your skin thall look really nasty.And worse you can get skin disease!!Whats going to happen when your baby grows up seeing you cutt yourself?HES GOING TO DO THE SAME THING YOU DO!!Take your anger out in a different way like puching a pillow or writing in your diary.Youre moving out so have hope that tomorow will be a better day.
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ok me and my boy friend have been thinking about having sex and he has had sex with people befor but i am a vergin, he told me that in the past he has just pulled it out befor the came instead of using a condom... and thats what he wants to do but i dontkno if that is compleatly safe..plz tell me if this is safe i need to kno! thank you! byes (link)
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Its not safe in SOOO many ways.First of all he did it with another girl and that girl coulda done it with another guy and that guy coulda done it with another gurl and so on.Which obviously means he can have STD's and pass them to you!!You never know if he pulled out on time either!!He can get you pregnant and youll be posting another question on this website saying how stressed you are cuz youre pregnant.Make him wear a condom and take birth control pills if you REALLLLY cant wait.
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My boyfriends wants me to send him a picture of my pussy to his phone. I don't really want to. How can I tell him I'm not going to without making it seem like I don't love him? (link)
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Just tell him that your not comfortable with that.DONT EVER do that.You never know WHO hell show it too.What if you guys break up and he goes off showing his freinds or prints it and posts it out everywhere to get revenge?I know you said you dont want to but im just warning you about what could happen.
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lately i have been so depressed. i dont get along with my mom that much anymore & we were soo close. i just cant stop crying & i like cant stand being around certain people that i used to be so close with. i know your gonna say its growing up but this isnt normal. i have tried talking to my mom about getting me pills or something but she just throws in my face how bad her life is which makes it worse. at this point i hate just about everything about me. i think im fat; ugly; worthless; loney; friendless & i cant do anything right. idk what to do anymore. i used to cut but i dont as much anymore and i dont want to but thats the only thing i can think of doing this point. also im getting quite suicidial. i cant see myself going threw with it but i have been thinking. my best friend is the same as me; same problem & everything. we both have very messed up families. also with me thinking im fat it makes me think of becoming anorexic again. i have been threw that also. im 5'1 - 100 pounds. telling me im not fat makes everything worse. i just dont know what to do anymore with myself. i need happy pills or something but idk what to say to my mom. please help. this is outta hand. (link)
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woman!dont ever take these pills!!you can get addicted to them and thatll just make your life worse!you need to open up to your mom more and tell her to help you out.look,commiting suicide will just make you lose your lifetime which is filled with great oppertunities and lose your afterlife too,because commiting suicide will get you to nowhere but hell!!nomatter what religion it is,suicide is a great sin.god created you for a reason and its not to cut yourself.you need too have an aim in life,a goal.all your doing to yourself is going to make your grades at school drop.what do you want to be when you grow up?ok,to get to that you have to have a good college degree and good marks at school,and being depressed aint getting you nowhere.if you sit down crying about your life then guess what????it aint getting any better!!what do you mean you cant do anything right?everyone makes mistakes woman!!your not perfect and noone is.i make the most retarted mistakes ever!!like my mom tells me to go get her water,i go drink and come back lol.and even worse.you only feel worthless because the summer break is looong and boring.you might feel like this,we all did because your life seems to have stopped.but if you study hard and get high marks,itll be worth it in the end when you see yourself as a famous successful person!a new year is coming and youll meet new freinds!have hope for tommorow!stick more to religion because god helps whoever gets closer to him.i dont know about your looks but if you were to send me a pic of you on my email mabey i can help you get a totally new look before you start school!!thatd be cool.good luck,if you need more help,drop me a message.
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My boyfriend and i have been dating for like 2 months and almost 3 months. And he's been acting kinda different from the last month. Last month i was his everything, he was perfect. This month he's different, it's like he's kinda careless now. I'm so sad, and worried, i cried 4 times 2 days ago, and cried one time this morning cause i waited for him to wake up online until 5 in the morning. But then i gave up and i signed off.. and then he signed on.. and i talked to him on the phone later that day and he said he woke up after i signed off and that he did not sign off on me and etc. and he said he was sorry.
but my friends arent really helpful my BESTfriend and i are fading apart since she moved to another city.. and my other bestfriend and i are in a fight and all i have is this site and my other bestfriend. Hopefully things wont get worse.. im scared of losing all of 'em especially my boyfriend.
should i worry or should i not? is he losing feelings for me? (link)
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I honestly think he might be.You need to talk to him and ask him why hes been so different lately.Youll never know whats wrong till youve asked.Mabey hes stressed out these days.You also need to fix things with your bbest freind that your in a fight with.If the fight was because of you then call and apologize,if it was cuz of her and she KNOWS she was wrong and didnt call to explain,then dont bother calling her and apologizing.You got dignity dont you?
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there was this guy that saw my picture on myspace and messaged me for my screename. he would say dirty things to me, and tell me i was sooo sexy and he wanted to hang out with me and that he wanted to see me and all this stuff. he also left this message on my phonee saying how hot i was and stuff. he went to my school but i never really talked to him before this - he just saw my myspace pictures and kept messaging me and IMing me every time i got on. after he kept IMing me for a couple days saying i was sexy and crap, he started saying really gross stuff like he wants to have sex with me and that i could touch his penis and stuff. then he told me he smokes marijuana, which i find really pathetic. why do guys act like this? he hasn't even talked to me in real life, just seen my pictures. what should i do? (link)
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Tell him to stop sending these sick messages and that you would never like him.If he doesnt then the next time you see him,just walk up to him and SLAP him with no explanation and walk away,just make sure you got some of your freinds as backup incase he tries to do anything back.Hell hate you forever after you do this and wont have the guts to even send you a message.Thats what I woulda done.
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ok i really want to lose about 35-50pounds.im 5'8 and 170 lbs.am i to big.every one says im not fat because i cary it really well.and i do.also there is this guy i really like could this be a reason he does not like me?pleazz tell me any good diets to stay on.i run 1 mile every morning and eat preety good.i am in basketball and run about 8 laps around our football field every day in athletics.thanxxx
13/f (link)
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well,if you want the truth then,yeah you kinda are overweight,(im telling you this so you can be more inspired to lose weight for yourself and for the guy you like)but its great that you do all these exercises,just never stop because if you do,youll gain what youve lost.in exercise if you stop,the muscles you built turn into fat so dont stop.as for what you eat,no junk especially soda!!that is like a diets worst enemy!!drink 2 cups of water before any meal cuz itll make you feel bloated quicker and youll get full fast.never drink while eating,because that makes your stomache fat.hope i helped!
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So I'm kind of .. "in love," i guess, with this boy, but he's ALOT older than I am.. well, not alot, but he's in his 20's and i'm in my middle teens, so. yea. But he seems so perfect, he's so sweet, we both love eachothers company & i am fully comfortable with him. We've gone all the way & he still wants me around as much as possible. But I don't know if his motives are what I've come to believe seeing as he's older. my parents don't want me seeing him, because of the age difference, but I always want to be with him & he seems to love my company even when we're just lying next to one another. Is this right, or is he bad news? (link)
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You have to make sure that hes true to you and becareful cuz sometimes older guys tend to play with younger girls.Make sure he loves you by PROOVING it.But as for the age difference,i see nothing wrong with it.The older the guy is,the better because hell know how to treat you more and hell be more experienced than someone you might meet thats your age.
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My sister is sleeping over my neighbors lake house tonight while my mom goes out to dinner with my dad and their friends. I'm stuck home with my grandma who is old and boring (no offence) and I don't want to spend a night playing cards and listening to her oldies music. I see her every week already so it's not like I don't spend time with her. My mom already said NO FRIENDS. So I can't see a movie with my friends or any stuff like that. I really want to sleep over my neighbors house with my sister. They didn't actually invite me but I have slept over plenty of times before and they enjoy me sleeping over because I help them watch the kids when they want to have a couple of drinks. My mom thinks it would be rude for me to ask them if I could come too, but they are the type of family that doesn't get offended if you ask. My mom made a deal with me. She said I could call my neighbors and ask to sleep over if I could make up a really good excuse why I should sleep over that's not cheesy rehearsed or pushy or sounding like I just need a place to stay. They live right next store so I can easily ask them. So if I'm going to sleep over I have to call my neighbors and ask them but not make it seem like I'm just looking for a place to stay. I want to mention the whole baby sitting thing but I don't know what to say. Help on what to say when I call and ask? (link)
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I think your moms right about it being rude,even though they might not get offended it just seems like...what?where did you come from?!ok anywayz,if you really want to ask them,you can do something smarter.You can let your sister ask if you can sleepover too.Let her tell them this,"i feel bad for my sister shes sitting home alone" or "im want my sister around,can she come too?" if that dont work then,say this..."hey wussup..blah,my sis is so lucky shes sleeping over,can i come too?i really enjoy coming at your place.but if you guys are busy,ill understand" itll be not rude and a nice way to ask too.You can try either wayz i told you.
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OK. So my girlfriend is a little younger than me and I am really hot...literally. I know that she loves me but when we kiss I have to ask her for a kiss. I am also the one that has to try to start the romance. I am only 14 but I am really attracted to her.. I am going into the 8th and she is going into the 6th. But what I am afraid of is when she starts school at the end of the month is that she is gonna find another boy.. See she has already broken up with me once. but had to have my sister tell me that it was over then about 1week later she came wanting me back. I took her back but I am not sure if I broke up with her and things didn't work out with a girl I like if she would take me back. I think that this girl that is my age and is only 1grade below me is straight out cute. her name is morgan and she is cute.. I know she likes me and I like her.. I know she likes me because we like to play basketball every sunday before church. also I was at my youth ministers last night and she was there. we were sitting right next to each other and playing all the games with each other. The only thing is I think my girlfriend was jealous because she was there and so was my sister.. What should I do.. Should I express my feelings to morgan and see what she thinks or should I just see what happens between me and my girlfriend? Please ADVICENATORS!!!!! HELP ME!!!!!!!!!
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Well,your girlfreind is hell to young for you,i know age doesnt matter but shes in the 6th grade.You cant expect her to start by kissing you or her to start off by doing the romantic stuff,shes too young to understand theses things!Now,i would ususally encourage a breakup,but in your case,i think you should go for morgan.Even if you work things out with your girlfreind,she still wont be able to start anything romantic,shes too young.Going through a breakup shouldnt be too hard for her,she wont even feel depressed for a long time about this.But first you got to know if morgan feels the same about YOU.And i also think you should take your sisters opinion on what to do.
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