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Alright i am a 15 year old girl. im pregnant. i have a great boyfriend. i dont get along with my dad or little brother. my mom and dad are getting a divorce. i choice to move with my mom. and my little brother choice to live with my dad. just recently i started cutting again. i no its not good and i talked to my boyfriend about it and ive been trying so hard to stop but there is so much drama. i just cry and i want to do it so bad. but i can i promised my boyfriend i wouldnt. my mom and i are moving out the end of the mnth. so i wont have to put up with my brother or my dad any more. but thats to long i cry everyday! and i want to cut everytime i cry or get angry. i need help!! and im crying out for help. i dont want to go talk to someone. i have a fear of talking to someone i dont know! so hopefully you guys can help me!
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I think the first issue that you need to come to terms with is the pregnancy. Teen pregnancy is very unhealthy, both physically and mentally, but it is a blessing anytime a child comes into the world. The biggest thing you need to be consentrating on right now is doing what is right for the child in side of you. I'm not promising the pain will go away once you give birth, in fact it will most likely get worse and you will want to cut more, but please just resist for the sake of your child.
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i cut for about 2-3 years on and off then i got put into two mental hospitals one for nineteen days and a partial for eleven days i doesnt solve problems although you may think that it does it doesnt just hurt you it hurts everyone else & honestly its not worth it it takes over you like a way of life a ritual or a religion you cant even look yourself in the mirror for the mistakes youve made ok so what im going to tell you is 1.don't tell your parents they will make you see someone [ since you dont want to] 2. try talking to a friend honestly mine helped me through long struggles 3. hang in there just think only a little more till you move out -- one thing to stop cutting if you feel like you need to then put it off be like ok 15 minutes of cutting free once you get to that goal set it higher and higher so that you make it through three days and see how you feel.. i really hope i helped good luck with the baby and if you cant talk to your friends then talk to me my aim sn is Jessicaa 9o3 and my email is jess1o9@aol.com
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You are going through a lot of changes right now, and you deserve to feel better. Crying all the time is not good for you or your baby. Cutting would not be good for you or the baby either. This must be such a hard time for you, the hormones, the divorce, the urge to cut..it seems overwhelming to me, and I am not in your position. It is frightening to bring up such senstitive issues with strangers, but some strangers are only friends we haven't met. There are people who will understand your pain. I would suggest that since you are pregnant and probably under medical care you talk to your Dr or nurse about this at the next visit. Tell them you are asking for help, we in the medical profession are in the business of caring about others. Most Drs or nurses that I have known in my lifetime (and that is so many I can't count) would not condemn someone for asking for help. Over the length of your pregnancy you will get to know them well, so please don't consider them as strangers. Best of luck, and remember the sun will come up tomorrow in spite of how you feel today.
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I don't have much knowledge on this subject, but if you think you have a real problem you should try talking to someone you know compared to stranger. Or you can try to find things to keep your mind off all the stress your under. Hope i helped.
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i cut for awhile but then i realised how it doesnt really help any it just makes you feel in control i realised there is other ways to do that hunny cutting is a pain am i right or wat?like you have to make sure that no one sees it and it stians your clothes if it bleeds and if someone accidently hits o my god does it hurt.problems are always going to occur and so like me you need to trie to find another way to fix it i write poetry listens to music and some times cry.you said you are pregnant i dont know if you are ceeping it but you are lucky you get to bring another life into this world i know that you wont want the baby to do that because you love and care about your mom wont want you to in less than a month you get to leave your dad and your brother behind and so then atleast one stress will be taken away talk to yourself i kno w that sounds lound lame but it may help just to get it in words or start a journal and write it all down it may help your boy friend loves you so much and that means he will be willing to help you get over your problem you couldtry to do something wheen ever you want to call someone do something i hope i helped and also you could think like think of your life as a soap opera and laugh about it or always think someone has worse than i do
hope i helped tell me how you are doing
you can emil me at mizztalk_alot@hotmail.com
if u believe in god pray
~nikki~
aka lalagurly
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it will be easyer for me to help you over aim or e-mail...my aim is MiSsMUrDer 007 x and my e-mail address is xoalleyox2694@msn.com
hope to hear from you
p.s my friend wants to help also his aim is Xxairjordanz23xX
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WOW how smart.Cutting yourself when your pregnant.You need to be more mature than that and know how to solve your problems correctly if youre going to be a mother.You should be happy!Youre moving out and leaving your dad that used to annoy you!Your parenst arent the first people to get divorced,its their lives get over it!You should talk to your mom about this.Cutting yourself is going to get you bruises and scares on your skin thall look really nasty.And worse you can get skin disease!!Whats going to happen when your baby grows up seeing you cutt yourself?HES GOING TO DO THE SAME THING YOU DO!!Take your anger out in a different way like puching a pillow or writing in your diary.Youre moving out so have hope that tomorow will be a better day.
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Ok you have alot of issues going on right now. First of all you need to make sure that you are getting the proper prenatal care for your child if you are going to keep it, this includes vitamins and regular visits with your doctor.
Second issue is your parents divorce, I know that you are hurt and angry right now but you are stuck with your brother and father for life and just because you are having issues now doesn't mean that you always will, so don't close your heart to them completely.
Third issue, the cutting, every negative thought you have now is going to your child. Cutting is an addiction and although hard to stop it is as you know possible. Try to use different things to relieve your feelings of stress and anxiety I often tell clients to set up a room where they can go to yell, scream or break stuff. Also keep in mind that right now your hormones are not only going nuts due to being pregnant but because you are a 15 year old girl.
I know that you don't want to see a counsellor but honestly it would probably due you a world of good, a counsellor won't judge you and can't repeat anything you say its a safe place to vent.
Think about it. Hope this helps
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Crying is good to get feelings out...but if you cry too much it's not good for you. I know that sometimes I have cried so much that I feel like throwing up. If you are pregnant, crying is not good for your baby. You may feel like you can't take it anymore...but you have to suck it up for your baby. Try to keep yourself busy...time always flies by when you are busy.
Good Luck,
Teacup
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Cutting dosen't help. It relives stress temporarly, but the stress just keeps coming back. I'm sure you know this, but really.. what happens one day if you go too far? What happens to the peole who care for and love you?
Sorry if that sounds a little harsh, but I really, desperatly want to help you in this situation. Just look forward to the fact that you wont need to deal with your brother//dad, adn if you ever do need them, theres always the chance to visit, and theres' the phone.
Crying's very natural, too. Don't worry about that. Cry as much as you need to, anything to prevent you from hurting yourself, and those around you in the process.
I've found many sites, but some of the best things I've learned to help people stop cutting are things that either distract, or simulate cutting.
If you ever feel the need, snap your wrist with a rubber band, draw on your wrist with marker where you would want to hurt yourself, or most of all, call your boyfriend, he sounds reallly helpful.
Try to do this for your baby,too.
Please, write me if you need ANYTHING at all..xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com
Really, I'm not saying that out of kindness or anything, I want to see this resolved, and you and your baby healthy and happy.
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Cutting won't solve anything. I did it for over a year and it tore my life apart. If you haven't told your parents (or mom) already that you're pregnant, I would do that. And I would go to a therapist or counselor to help you through all this drama and stress. It sounds like there is so much going on, and no 15 year old should have to go through that. Please, help yourself before your cutting gets worse.
Seeing a counselor or therapist will help you tremendously.
if you need someone to talk to, let me know.
good luck!
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Wow. Please don't cut. It doesn't solve anything, I know. If you feel like it's all too much every once in a while take a pillow and yell in it (only for a few seconds lol don't want to kill any brain cells) You know when you are getting out for the summer at school? It seems so long away in like april. And now when you look back on it it's like wow I'm glad all that waiting is over. Well if you are leaving at the end of the month, it's not that long. Really. Think of the people who have to wait years for something to happen. Something extremely important. Just take it day by day. You'll be out soon so if you cut now you are going to regret it. Listen to your boyfriend, just don't do it. And you don't want to talk to someone you don't know... well try talking to your mom if you can. And also... go to the library or something or if you have any magazines or books that you can read that'd be good. Just stay busy and keep your mind of things.
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