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My name is Lauren. My life dream is to become a pirate, as well as a witch straight outta Hogwarts! I believe I was born in the wrong place and the wrong time. I often beleive I belong in England. I wish I was british. :] I'm 15 years old, and I'm called weird. I'm a spunky and smashing teenager ready to answer your questions.

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how I have skinner cheeck?

Depending on your age, it could just be plain old baby fat. Which to me, it sounds like it is.
Unforunately, there is nothing you can do about it until you grow older.
Hope I helped, and all the best!

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so up until a week ago i felt like a total freak for not knowing how to dance at parties. i read some of the other questions here related to that, so i know im not alone. i tried following advice like dont worry about it, or just move to the music,have fun, and i tried that but people are just kinda mean about it and they can totally tell i cant dance, and they tell me. and idk even if i tried to ignore them and have fun the comments still get to me...so how can i become more comfortable with my bad dancing when i go to a party?

the best way to be comfortable with bad dancing is to just make fun of it. it sounds stupid, but if people see you making fun of your own dancing, they know you're pretty okay with it, rather than uptight.

so next time someone mentions it, you could say sarcastically, 'ACTUALLY, im pretty AWESOME at dancing!' or not sarcastically, 'my bad dancing just makes this party ten times better, right?'.

it helps a lot and makes people think you're more confident with it. hope i helped!

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When i first met my boyfriend. I thought he was funny and just that kid back in middle school that i knew nothing about. I was SO shy back then. About 6 months passed by and I see him as someone I love to be around. Someone who i really care for. Months later, for some reason.. my feelings are changing. Whenever I look at him, he looks.. different. I don't know how to explain this but it's.. weird. I don't know what's wrong with me. He makes me so happy and he would do anything for me.. I would do anything for him. But whenever I look at him, I don't see him as someone I grew closer with.. it's something else.. Like someone I can live with.. who would take care of me when I'm sick and try to make me happy as much as possible. Does anyone know what's going on with myself? Lately, I have been so happy around him. So happy.. like in those romance movies and it happened so suddenly.. it seems weird!

It could be that for the first time, you've fallen in love. To be in love, it's definitely important that your boyfriend is not only your boyfriend, but your best friend. Hope I helped.

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umm im 14 and i have never had my period and i have no boobs none at all. is there somethng wrong with me???

No, not at all. Some people don't get their periods until they are in their late teens. So don't sweat it. As for your breast problem, it's not a big deal. Lots of people develop differently, some early, and some like you, which are late. And maybe when you do develop you're meant to have small breasts, but you can still flaunt that. Don't worry about it. Your time will come to feel developed.

Hope I helped!

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My BGF and i have liked each on and off in the last year. Nothing happened until this summer because before then we both had relationships to each others really good friends. He was dating my really good friend Heather like 3 times over the year and then my BFF. And i dated 1 of his BFFs. They aren't BFFs anymore but they r still good friends. Anyway this summer he invited me to this formal 50th anniversary for his grandparents and we left and walked around the church and then he started hitting on me. The couple of weeks before we had told each other we liked each other but when he was trying to hold me and hug me i realized i didn't like him enough to date. I really wanted to start school single. And there is this Christian place where we works and if you work there you can't date until your 16. Well he's 15 and won't turn until May. We have class together and realized i like him again and i think he still likes me but he can't date! I just really want him to take me to Homecoming! I pretty sure he got my hints but he didn't ask his parents if he can go yet. I just really want to know how to flirt with him and show him I'm interested without being super obvious because that would be too weird for best friends. I think he might be picking up a little but if anyone has advice that would be so helpful!
And everyone who knows us says we are a perfect couple and look so cute togther. Even his MOM said it! He is 1 of the only people who really understands me. I can go to him with anything and i know he will be there for me. I know he really cares about me and i think we should start a relationship but i have to wait until MAY! It's so awful! Don't say "tell him to quit" or whatever because it is really important to him andi want him to stay committed. He's a Christian like me and we go to church together and hang out and stuff too. And at that formal anniversary thing he asked me out but since i wasn't feeling it and i could tell he wasn't thinking just acting on emotion i said i will think about it and a week later we talked and agreed not too. Because of his job thing. My friends and his bro and BFF really want us to date and kinda pressure us but we're used to it i guess.
Thanks so much in advance! Plus i know this is really long and sorry but i rate! :D

Well, boys don't pick up hints very quickly. I think what you're going to have to do, is talk to him whether it be by phone, IM, or face to face, whichever is most comfortable. Just tell him, 'Listen, I know you're not allowed to date until you're 16, but I really would like you to take me to Homecoming as your date, but as friends.' That way you don't seem to eager. If he says yes and you go, flirt with him like mad, and pull him aside even, and just tell him, 'I like you still, a lot, and I think when we agreed not to date, I made a mistake in agreeing.' It's hard to do this, but if you care about him enough, you can do that. And then just tell him you'll wait until May. and until then, atleast you'll both know you want to date each other, and be able to flirt a ton still.

Hope I helped!

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I have been friends with this kid for a long time, and about 1 month ago his g.f broke up with him. And he was sad for weeks and i felt so bad he liked her so much. Im 13 and hes a year younger So he Came to me for help and after that we started like talkig 24/7 and like hanging out alot. But Last night He kept on dropping SUCH obvious hints that he liked me. He kept on asking me questions about my pas relationships and about if i still liked any of the boys and who the things on my profile were for, I told him It wasn't for Anyone and He was like "dang I thought it was for me" so i guess Its kinda obvious he does like me but then after that hes like "what if one of us likes eachother but then the other person gets mad and we never be friends again" but I didn't answer cause i had to go.
But I mean its pretty Obvious he likes me but like i DONT wanna like him like that AT ALL i like things the way they are now and i really dont want to go out with him or anyone at the moment. But If he ever tells me he does like me and asks me out I dont wanna Hurt him Like his ex did cause he was So sad.
Now whenever he signs on i dont want to talk to him because I feel so awkward now.
Idk What to do.
Sorry it was long.
Helpp

Haha awww.
Don't worry about it.
I think the guy who likes you may be choosing you for a rebound. haha. He and his girl just broke up, so what do guys do? They get a rebound. So he's going to like you for some time, while he's getting over the girl. Once he's over her, he'll probably move on from you as well. Try to drop hints that you don't want to be with him, like not hanging out with him as much, and when he calls, just say you have to go. Don't talk to him as much, and he'll hopefully catch the drift. If he doesn't, then confront him and just be like 'Listen, you're a great guy, but you can do better than me, and I don't think you and me would work out...' That way he won't feel like a loser when you turn him down. And make sure he knows you will still be his friend and comfort him.

Hope I helped!

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So i just started high school and i met this boy. It's so weird. We're really, really, alike. Well the first day we talked and stuff, and then the second, we talked alot, but the third day, i gave him my phone number, and asked him if he wanted to sit at my lunch table. He sits there now and we really flirt and stuff. It's not 'innocent' flirting either. It's like..wwoahh, i don't even know how to explain it. The first night i gave him my number, he didn't call me. But he called me the second night, and we talked for about 20 minutes. The next day, my best friend gave him a note without me knowing, that said "sam likes you. wanna go out with her?' and so that night i called him and asked him what it said and he was like.. i don't remember i think it just said..he whats up..or something like that. so then i called him at ten and we talked for an hour, and he didn't say anything about the note. is he trying to avoid it, or is he just nervous?

He's both avoiding it and nervous. He's probably not sure that it was from you, so if he just tells you over the phone that he would like to go out with you, he has the fear that you wouldn't know whats going on and say no.

Especially because you asked about the note and what it said, he knows that you didn't know about it or what it said, so he doesn't want to feel like a loser by saying 'oh, well it was you asking me out.'

So, one night, just bring it up, and be like 'well, I know what it said but it was sent without me knowing... and I want to know what your thoughts on that note were...' and just be flirty. He'll hopefully catch on and tell you his answer and what he thinsk of you.

Hope I helped!

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ahh Stevens still in ISS... and so's Nick.
if you got my question like 2 nights ago it was about my friend Steven sticking up for me to Nick who caled me Butch because like all my friends are guys.. well today we had cooking and I got stuck wiht becky.. thank good DJ,JJ, and Nathen. Well im friends with Nathen.. and JJ was making jokes about how its a womens job to cook and all this sexist crap.. well then Cole joined and Nathen already hated this kid so they got in a talking arguement and as Nathen walked away he like said to me under his breath..
"Err I wished he'd die.. of cancer."
Well I tweaked on him because ive senn what cancer does to people and after a while there gone. like there bodys still on earth but anything else is gone.. and I screamed at him!
I was like WHAT! I was like noo even I cant stand Cole but never EVER would I wish death on anyone!! Expecially not cancer.." and he was like oo oo i didnt mean it like that.. I was you still said it! what is wrong with you.. have you seen what cancer does to people! and my Uncle passed away November 4th of last year and not a day goes by i dont think of him.. I love him and he lived 9 months after finding out he had cancer but maybe 6 months tops into it he was gone.. and i told him this.he was like ughh oo.. ee..

And i remember in the last question i said all my guy friends were just friends but I knew I did have feelings about Nathen.. and I never expected this from him HE KNEW about my Uncle but he still said it..
Well i started crying and actually ran to the ISS room to talk to Steven
Mrs Berry it was cool aslong as we were quite. Well I hugged him.. and basicly cried on his shoulder.. I told him everything about me liking him and how he said it and Stevens attitude changed completely.. first he was like ohh come here.. are you okay like completely friend.. next minete he stil cared but i could tell i hurt his feelings. And now im not sure about anything like does Steven like me??? I love Steven as a brother as a best friend as someone i can count on.. not a boyfriend. Well i had to leave and as I hugged Steven he was stiff..
I had PE afterwards and I have that class with Nathen and he just looked at me..
I dont want to be the person who cries alot of but at the moment that doesnt madder.. im gunna lose two of my good friends over something thats Nathens fault.. but i like Nathen i think because when he sai it i wanted to claw at him..
Explain to me why im feeling like ahhhhhhhhh

Well, you're feeling AHHHHHH because you're confused. You like Nathen, but your personal experience with your Uncle and what Nathen said interacted, which made you upset still. In order to make things right with him, I really think you should sit down with Nathen, and just be straight up like, 'I was really hurt by what you said, and I know you didn't mean it like that, but I need to know that you won't say something like that again.' And even if he does some other day, you have to understand that you're teenagers, and it's common for people to wish death upon people and not mean it, you know? I know it's hard to brush off, but it's something you have to learn to do.

As for Steven, don't worry about his feelings. Focus on yours and Nathen's right now. If Steven cuts himself off from you or starts acting strange, try and talk to him and ask him what you did, or what you can do to help him get over whatever it is he's going through. If he does like you, just tell him that he could find someone else and that you honestly just don't like him like that. If he is the brother best friend you're describing, he will understand and still be your friend. If he freaks out and decides you're not friends, he's not worth it.

Hope I helped!

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M/13

Is it weird that when im around my freinds im really fun and wild but when im with like "popular kids" i am really shy i dont know why but ive been like that for a while and i really want to break out of my shell kinda when im around thoose type ok kids. I mean i have already gotten alot of crap about moving back and wearing "emo cloths" or whatever there stereotyping my clothing. Its not just like what people are sating gets said behind my back they come up to me and call me agothic emo cutter or whatever. Now i dont know what to do about it. i was thinking of just going up to the and telling them off but that might not be the greatest thing to do since its the begging of the year and all. Lately school hasn't been getting any easeir and with all the drama that goes aorund i dont know if i can take it any longer any advice helps =)

Hey. Judging by your age, I'm going to say you're probably in 7th or 8th grade, correct?

Anyhow, the same thing happened with me. And honestly, you ARE going to get stereotyped in junior high, no matter what. Why? Because people are JERKS.

Just ignore their comments, and if they confront you face to face, just be like 'Hey, labels aren't cool.' If you don't have enough confidence, go with a couple of friends to confront them about it, or if they even have IM that could work for your age group, too. And if they call you emo again, seriously just be like 'Okay...' and then look at their clothes and be all 'well, you're a snob, aren't you?'. Give them a taste of their own medicine.

As for being called a cutter, start wearing sweatshirts and rolling them up to your elbows to show off your cut-free wrists. That way they'll know you're not and stop saying that you are, because no cutter wears shirts that show off the wrists, I would know. I was a cutter.

As for talking to popular kids, I am shy too. Stand there and listen to the conversation, and when you hear something that you can relate to, pipe up and tell a story or tell them about it. Even a 'me too' would show you're truly interested in talking to those kids. And remember, popular kids are ONLY popular because of how confident and outgoing they are. So try and be a little more outgoing, although it's not easy to get used to.

Hope I helped!

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14/f
i shave my armpits but i have a lot of lines.
there not smooth at all!
i shave in the shower just with water.
and i heard soap was bad for it.
any suggestions what i should use, what specific product, or what YOU Do?

yeah, soap is bad, because it kind of dries out skin, and that could cause a rash.

I use hair conditioner, and it words VERY well. That way you don't need to buy any specific product. My shaves always come out smooth when I use conditioner, because conditioner is used initially in hair, to eliminate tangles and make it smooth.

So, anyways, conditioner is REALLY good. Just try it.

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Hi.
I hope someone can help me out...

I go back to school next wednesday and last year at school i felt a bit left out from my gruop of best friends (about 6 of us includeing me) and some times they don't talk to me. I got the impression that i was a bit boring. I don't know why, but i don't want to find out because i will be upset. I just would like to know if anyone has any ideas to make me a little more interesting? I am a little bit shy as well... if that helps you.

Please say anything. Because i woudl liek to try anything.

[= Thanks In Advance! =]

Well, you don't necessarily have to make yourself interesting. It's all about the shy factor. If you eliminate the shy factor, you're golden.
To do this, it's going to take time and effort. You'll have to practice confronting people you do not know to say 'hello', and interacting with lots of different groups, like the drama club, or sports. It helps a ton, I found.

And sometimes if your friends don't talk to you, talk to them! Don't hold back, just ask to make some plans and I'm sure it will all work out fine.
If they refuse to make plans with you, they weren't very good friends in the first place, were they?

I hope I helped!

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hey i heard this song on the radio. i only remember one part of it tho.

it goes: "so let the rain take me away" something like that.

i think it's a pretty new R&B song. but i dont know who it's by and what exactly the title of the song is coz i cant find it anywhere. i think it might be called "rain" but im not sure.

so if anyone knows what it's called and who sang it, that would be great! thanks in advance!

if the answer below was wrong,
simply type the lyrics into a google search or yahoo, and put lyrics after.

like this:

so let the rain take me away lyrics

or the rain lyrics.


you should be able to find it.
hope i helped!

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Do you believe going into High School will give you a fresh start? I mean during elementary I was still popular but I was made fun of still quite a bit and alot of rumors were present. Do you think they will still be going around when i start grade 9? Alot of my friends say this is the summer where everyone changes. At my school alot of the guys said i was ok looking but none were ever interested in me and now I find a few high school guys think im hot but I dont understand how I can go from kinda ugly to hot in about a month. Does this all mean I get a fresh start? Or will grade 9 just be like grade 8 with just a few more people? Im sorry this is kind of confussing but all answers welcome. Thank You

Haha, I understand your dilemma. Last year was my 9th grade year, and I can tell you, people change.

I go to a pretty small high school, so if yours is bigger, it's better. I HIGHLY doubt people will be making fun of you, trust me. I used to get made fun of a lot in 8th, but in 9th, I didn't see half of my class.

Truth is, you won't see most of your class anymore because of all the classes, and some classes with upperclassmen, you know? Don't sweat it.

Only, I think if you just stick to friends from your class, I guarantee High School won't be all that fun. Mingle with upperclassmen, get introduced to them. Sports, clubs, anything. Don't sit in the dark or you won't have a good time.

=) Hope I helped!

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is it okay that i change my tampon everytime i have to pee? or do some people leave it in while they pee? i neever thought about it until my friend told me she didnt change it everytime she peed.

well, hygenically speaking, yes, you really SHOULD change it every time you go to the bathroom.

i mean, it's not horrible to pee with it in, but, you're supposed to change your tampon i believe, every two hours. i could be wrong.

but either way, you really should change it when you go to the bathroom.

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I'm a shy person and only have two close friends. I always thought that it didn't matter if other people accepted me because they did. Today my best friend sent me this email:

hey, i have something i need to talk to you about. it actually involves dixie too but she is too afraid to talk to you about it because she doesn't want to make you mad or upset. okay first off dixie and i both agree that you have been acting rude to us. every time we say something that isn't said "perfectly" or is not something you would say you treat us like we are 5. like for example at dixies party at my house i said something about sequences (i proabably spelled it wrong but i really don't give a crap) and you were like amanda you are special..blah blah blah. also you make a big deal out of the fact that dixie hasn't seen bambi.....BIG FRIGGIN DEAL!!! you haven't seen marry poppins...OOHH ASHLEY YOU HAVEN'T SEEN MARY POPPINS OH MY GOSH!!! sorry but that's the way you treat us. you have also been acting spoiled and it seems like you are trying to make us jealous....okay personally dixie and i don't give a dookie that you did whatever...good for you..we are happy for you! oh and the college situation. it seems like everytime we are talking about college you always say that dixie can't be an interior designer. SHE CAN DO WHATEVER SHE WANTS IF SHE PUTS HER MIND TO IT. she has an interest in it! SHE CAN DO IT! you are sapost to be her friend and support her instead of put her down!!! why don't you think she can be an interior designer??? cuz she doesn't dress like you do or decorate like you do???????? give me reasons..because if that is your reason then we don't think you could be a teacher because you have no patients. oh and that time you called me just to tell me I was wrong when really i only had a different opinion than yourself. it was about global warming. you said we are all going to die and blah blah. i don't believe in global warming and i don't believe we are all going to die. i don't care what scientists say or what al gore says...they're not God..i only believe what God says. i don't care if you are thinking i am stupid because i am my own person and i have my own opoinion....you heard the old saying "opoinions are like butt-wholes, everybody's got one!" that's all i have to say now but we just wanted to let you know how rude and childish you have acting. we love you to death and don't want to ruin our friendship but we had to say something so you would realize what you are doing is hurtful...and if you are thinking that this letter is hurtful i realize that. i wrote it so you would feel the hurt and humiliation you have caused us. please write back

I just don't get it. I mean I'm the one with self esteem issues. If anything I envy both of them. Just the thought of them being mad at me is killing me. Its like my world is falling apart. Its not just them. My whole family has been treating me worse lately. I'm digressing backwards. I'd went from almost commiting suicide to being a relatively happy teenager. I mean I'm 17 and I want my life to end. I'll never kill myself and I know it. I just don't want to spend the rest of my life alone and unhappy. I just need some advice and help.

By the way, sorry about how long this is.

Well, the fact that your friends I'm assuming are 17, are extremely childish. I haven't seen a letter like that since Junior High.

Just let them know, that you don't want to lose them, and that you'll try and stop doing whatever it is your doing. It seems like they are very hypocritical because they said you were rude for all of those things, but that letter is rude.

Tell them that if they are just as mean as you supposedly are, they are no better than you and they're sinking to that level.

If they can't accept your flaws, then they're not good friends.

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I was going out with this one guy that I really liked for a little over a month. But then he started wanting to know where I was, who I was with, and all that stuff. He called me a million times a day and when I didn't answer his call he'd keep calling until i'd pick up. or he'd leave messages cussing at me asking why the f*** I wasn't answering my cell. Plus, he wanted all my time and if I was busy, he would just ask to come with me and do it too or come with me and my friends. So, I broke up with him.
Now, he calls me still and leaves a million more messages, wants to be "friends" and now he's bugging me even more now then he did when we were going out. He says, "I love you, babe" and all that crap.
should I take it or call the cops or what??
please help me!

That's considered abusing/harassing.
Go to the cops,
try for a restraining order.

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my bf has a really romantic song on his myspace about me....and i really want one for him!
what is a good song in the country/rap/hip hop genres that are really romantic and that he might like?

uhhh I don't know about rap or hip hop but country theres a couple of cute love songs like

The Broken Road - Rascall Flats
I love to love you out loud - Rascall Flats
Somebody like you - Keith Urban


I suggest the first one as the best and most romantic. :]]


Hope this helped!!!

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I've had a really bad cold for the past couple of days, with a runny nose. Now my nose is all red and sore and the skin is all dry and gross!

I have to be at a formal this weekend, so if anyone can give me any tips on how to reduce the redness and help it heal faster, I'd appreciate it. I'd really prefer to not have to wear foundation or coverup though, because it bothers my skin.

I have the same problem whenever I have a cold.
At night, put antibiotic cream on your nose and reapply every night, and in the morning just gently wash your nose with water.
Avoid using all facewash, as it will only irritate your nose more.
Just simply use the antibiotic cream and you should be set. If not, don't worry. I doubt anyone will care about your nose being red - and if they do care, just tell them you recently got over a cold. It's not like it's a disease, so they shouldn't make a big deal. :]

Hope I helped!

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hey guys im 17 years old and ive been with my boyfriend for a year now! and i have no idea on what to get him for christmas..any ideas? i want it to be something like special that reminds him of me or something like about us...not just like a video game and stuff you know?! thankss

A really good idea that is special is find a picture of you and him or get one taken, and have it put in a really special frame. That will make him think of you and appreciate the gift. =] Hope I helped.

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13/f. I've never had a boyfriend.

There is a guy I really like. But my flirting skills are horrible. I want to be able to confidently carry a conversation with him, or with any guy.
Like most girls, I tend to act very weird and tense, talk a lot and too fast. Occasionally try to make a witty joke- but failing.

I tell myself to just cool and calm down. I'm also extremely shy, and can never seem to start conversations.

What are some small things to do to help with my social and flirting skills?

Aw, it's alright.

One way I know works is to just act quirky.
When you're talking to him and things get awkward just be like 'So how 'bout them Red Sox?' or any other team to lighten the mood. I know it's going to seem hard at first, but you'll get used to it. Just act silly and seem carefree, that's what I do even though underneath I'm turning red with embarrassment.

If you make a mistake, like if you said 'UT SHUP!' messing up for shutup, just laugh along with him, and then go home and freak out. Haha.

Try practicing with boys you don't like that are your friends. Just pretend that you like them for a couple of minutes, and allow yourself to strike up small talk and see what happens.

I hope this helps!

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