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Too shy!
13/f. I've never had a boyfriend.
There is a guy I really like. But my flirting skills are horrible. I want to be able to confidently carry a conversation with him, or with any guy.
Like most girls, I tend to act very weird and tense, talk a lot and too fast. Occasionally try to make a witty joke- but failing.
I tell myself to just cool and calm down. I'm also extremely shy, and can never seem to start conversations.
What are some small things to do to help with my social and flirting skills?
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Aw, it's alright.
One way I know works is to just act quirky.
When you're talking to him and things get awkward just be like 'So how 'bout them Red Sox?' or any other team to lighten the mood. I know it's going to seem hard at first, but you'll get used to it. Just act silly and seem carefree, that's what I do even though underneath I'm turning red with embarrassment.
If you make a mistake, like if you said 'UT SHUP!' messing up for shutup, just laugh along with him, and then go home and freak out. Haha.
Try practicing with boys you don't like that are your friends. Just pretend that you like them for a couple of minutes, and allow yourself to strike up small talk and see what happens.
I hope this helps!
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Practice talking to guys that you are not interested in. This is the best way to overcome your anxiety and build your skills and knowledge of the opposite sex. Start with a topic that you know that they are interested in...people love to talk about their own hobbies and selves. Be a good listener and make good eye-contact. Ask open ended questions, not questions that can be answered with a yes, no, or single word. Better to end a conversation and leave with a confident smile, than stick around with an awkward silence. Guys are active and make a lot of noises that are not verbally understandable...grunting and whatnot, so don't think you have to win him over with intellectual verbal acrobatics. Just have fun and be positive. Guys love attention and crave praise! Tell him in sincerity when you think he is doing well or is right about something. You go girl!
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Okay I have the same problem so I know how you feel. I would say don't flirt you know I'm not the flirting type of girl but it depends if he is a flirting type of guy. Find some more cool jokes but find out what kind of jokes he would like. I always try to act that way and I get his attention and I'm not very attractive either. If you told your friends about your crush practice talking with them. I know it sounds weird but it might help. Hope my advice helps and good luck!
Kgirl
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