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lately i have been so depressed. i dont get along with my mom that much anymore & we were soo close. i just cant stop crying & i like cant stand being around certain people that i used to be so close with. i know your gonna say its growing up but this isnt normal. i have tried talking to my mom about getting me pills or something but she just throws in my face how bad her life is which makes it worse. at this point i hate just about everything about me. i think im fat; ugly; worthless; loney; friendless & i cant do anything right. idk what to do anymore. i used to cut but i dont as much anymore and i dont want to but thats the only thing i can think of doing this point. also im getting quite suicidial. i cant see myself going threw with it but i have been thinking. my best friend is the same as me; same problem & everything. we both have very messed up families. also with me thinking im fat it makes me think of becoming anorexic again. i have been threw that also. im 5'1 - 100 pounds. telling me im not fat makes everything worse. i just dont know what to do anymore with myself. i need happy pills or something but idk what to say to my mom. please help. this is outta hand.
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One thing I have learned about depression is that it is often hereditary. It seems that may be your case, if your mom keeps turning it around when you try to talk to her. Hereditary depression often involves a chemical imbalance. While it can be helped by making changes in your life and your outlook, medication is often needed to correct the imbalance. Now, I am not pushing meds here. I am just speaking from my experience. I learned the hard way that sometimes meds are needed. I learned by taking about half a bottle of Excederin PM and ending up in the ER getting my stomach pumped.
You are losing relationships with family and friends, and you have stopped enjoying things you used to. Your self esteem is shot. I could tell you that with your height your weight is very normal, even thin. I could tell you that you can snap out of your mood if you really want to. But I don't think that will help. It didn't help me when I was at the point where you describe yourself. Tell your mom flat out that you are concerned about your health. If she turns it around on you, listen to her for a bit and be helpful. She may be more likely to listen to you. If she doesn't listen and get you to a doctor right away, is there any other adult in your family who could? I don't mean to be insensitive, just going by what you said, I wonder where your father is. Is he able to help you? Perhaps you have an aunt who could take you to a doctor. There are mental health clinics that you could go to that have sliding scales so what you pay is determined by income. I don't know how that works for teens, but it is something to look into.
Whatever happens, this is not something to take lightly. I am glad to see you recognize that and are seeking help whereever you can. Please get professional advice. If you do have to take antidepressants, keep in mind that since you are so young, you will likely not have to take them for too long. You can have a normal life again.
Oh, also, antidepressants aren't really happy pills. They pretty much level you out. I don't like how flat I feel taking them, but it is a heck of a lot better than the violent depression I had.
Good luck, and if you need anything, even just someone to listen too, I have been where you are and am here to help.
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wow,just..wow.
this is so incredibely weird because we have almost everything in common.
weight,height,insecurity,cutting,mom,friends.
I don't really know how to help with this one.
But I'm trying to get through everything also.
I try to be around happy people and do yoga and relax. I started keeping a journal and writing songs about everything that bothers me.
I tell my friends everything that is on my mind.
I also began jogging and eating better.
It made me feel so much better.
you should try doing the same.
I really hope life gets better for you.
good luck<3
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I have to say that I'm sorry about this situation. I know what its like to feel like things will never go back to normal again; to feel like you`ll never laugh or smile again. Killing yourself will actually bring you know where [literally]. Think about what you`d do to your close friends if you did that, they'd go even further into depression.
as for your mom, don't come straight out and ask her for the pills [which I don't think is a good idea, but it seems like you really want then] [Zoloft], say the normal greetings, "hi mom", "how are you", stuff like that.
you`re probably a wonderful girl, and things seem bad right now, but things always get better.
for things to get better they have to get worse.
oh yeah, and keep a diary. it will come in really good use one day.
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Here is one suggestion: Try to do some of the stuff with your mom that you used to do. it may help but if it doesn't then i don't know what to do. well anyway, i hope this helps.
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holy crap, you just wrote my life story. Im a little younger and im still goign through it too. I dont know what kinda music you like, but i find slow to be very helpful, or loud rock if your flippin mad. Do you have a bf? if you do, talk to hi about things, he should understand. Or maybe just another male friend you lok up to, even if you dont have a crush on them, they stilll make your heart skip a beat ;-) if you have aol/aim, IM me sometime if you want.
faith x baby07
LxMarie02
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haah eys i have a lot O:-)
oh btw... pills probably wont help because word will get out and then peole will either think your a crazy lunatic and start rumrs about your life. Or try and make you fel better, which we al knows makes it worse becasue them being nice wont change the way you see yourself. ik this from experience :-p
x0 Leigha
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I'm sorry about everything going on in your life, but you CAN over come it.
Everything may seem messed up now, but it all gets better with time, and if you hurt, or even kill yourself, when are you going to be able to see that good time??
Try to talk to your friend, since she's going through the same thing, but just know, that if she hurts herself, that dosen't make it okay. You both should try to seek out help for the feelings you're going through.
Try to write your mom a letter about how you're feeling, she should understand, if she sees you really mean it about this. You will also get your word in.
Please, though, dont' end up hurting yourself, really, I dont' know if you know it, but there are alot of people who care about you.
Also, with your weight issue, don't go anorexic. Really, with your bmi, I'm pretty sure that's the normal-underweight range, and anorexia wouldn't really help. People can't accept others these days for just the way they act, either you're too fat, too skinny, and if they don't find something wrong with your weight, they'll find something else.
Sorry if that sounded harsh or anything, but I really want to help you in this situation, and only being 14 really sends out a signal that you need help with this.
Email me if you need any emotional support.
xo_graziano_ox@hotmail.com
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hey,
Sometimes, life gets really tough and hard and we just go through alot ,that we do nothing but weep and cry and feel all depressed and miserable. I ,personally ,go through that alot, but i never actually reached the limit of even considering cutting or commiting suicide or anything of this shit.
Every single problem you wrote down, i thought about an answer for it in less than a second.
I was exactly in the same position as you are, and exactly 51 people gave me advice and things to do to change and be happy, either if its someone from my family, a friend, a teacher, a neighbour, a complete stranger..etc.
but i never actually listened, and i stayed so depressed for 6 whole years, i actually wasted 6 whole years in my life in shit and misery, and then after that, i realized that the solutions to every single one of my problems was just right infront of my eyes but i was just to blind, by crying and feelind depressed, I didn't listen to anyone and its just like people were trying to help me but i didn't listen, i enjoyed being in that state of misery that i was in. But then i took all the advice, considered it ,and did it, and now you could call me the happiest person in this whole entire world. I work on his advice column and i am going to be in championships soon and my family loves me so much ,i have lots of freinds and i am going to a whole new school to start a new life.
Number 1, you say that you and your mother were very very close to each other, will what happened? Probably each on of you was busy with his on life, and you just simply drifted apart, will is definitely not to late to be friends again. I mean.. you say that your keeps telling you how bad her life is, why don't YOU try to help her, maybe your mom wants to talk with someone ,and since you have always been the closest one to her, why don't you sit with her and just let her talk, and you listen and advise her and tell her what to do. Make her feel that for once its all about her ,and its not about you wanting to take pills or do this or that.Your mom feels bad and has problems, then its your responsibility to fix.
Number 2,You think your fat, consult a doctor to make you a healthy food plan consisting of only the four food groups, quit junk food. Wake up every morning, go the club, run the track, go the gym, make exercises and stretches and work out for a while. Eat alot of proteins and healthy things, no sugar or fats. Go for long walks and maybe invite your mom to accompany you for awhile ,and spend some quality time with her and listen to her, so that it would help you lose weight and in the same time make things better with your mother. You can also think of taking up sports or something fun, and if you improve, you could be in championships.Its not impossible.
Number 3, you think your ugly, let me tell you think. there are millions of pretty girls with blonde her and blue eyes and great figure, what do they do with it? They hook up with guys and lose their virginity when they are only 11 years old. They go around showing off their beauty and boyfreinds ,and everyone worships them, but actually, they have such a cold heart and are the meanest people you could ever meet. But then you could find someone just plain and normal ,and seems to be the kindest person you could ever know. so looks aren't everything, and appearances should be the last thing that you should think of. And let me tell you something.
Everyone of us which thinks that he is ugly, is actually so beautiful from inside and has the warmest heart. And your one of these people, your not really ugly as you think you are, and at the same time, you are so beautiful from the inside.
Number 4, you think your worthless. If you weren't born or ever existed in this life, things wouldn't have been the same. Think of how much your family loves you and cares about you. And about your mother, she may be a little mad these days, but actually, your her daughter and best freind, and i wouldn't even want to imagine how she would feel without you. And your freind with the messed up family and similar life as yours, who would accompany her if you weren't there.There are alot of people who love you and care so much about you. So think of it, and then tell me, do you still think that you are worthless?
Number 5, lonely and friendless ,why? Because you think that you are fat and ugly and worthless and that you have a messed up family, so you can't gather up your courage to go out there and make freinds. Freinds are everywhere ,they come and go every second in our life. And the person who wants freinds, doesn't just sit around and say " i don't have friends', no, he goes out there and he makes freinds , he hangs around, he jokes, he laughs and he has the greatest fun he can have. Just exactly as the person who sits and complains about all these are things, that he doesn't even have time to think of solutions to all the things that he complaions about .
But now , i have pointed out things for you and solutions for your problems, so listen to me, and believe in your self. For that, you are an incredibly amazing person, and you could be a talented person if you go out there and know your talent, and make freinds, and hang around , and always look at the bright side, and think differently and take up sports or instuments to play, and have fun. Just have fun and live your life, but if you keep sitting here and repeating your problems on and on, then you will never do anything, move on or have a life. So think straight and think right, but don't ever think that committing suicide or cutting yourself will lead you to anything.
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Snap out of it. You're fourteen years old, and a perfect weight. I used to be the same as you at your age, I felt worthless and all my relationships came crumbling down. And as much as you don't want to hear this, you're just feeling sorry for yourself. Stop thinking you NEED pills, because you're only making it worse for yourself. You sound like you think that's the only solution. If you're mother is not going to take you to a therapist, as my mother refused to do, you have to make it through on your own. I was suicidal at one point, but I got through it.
Find a hobby, try to better yourself. And no you are not fat, and I don't know why that would make it worse maybe because you know that's the truth? Stop trying to hurt yourself, and BETTER yourself. Moping around is not going to help. Go make some new friends, find a hobby that's fullfilling, tone up your body if you need to.
Everyone has the moments they feel worthless, but you have to realize YOU ARE NOT WORTHLESS. You and your friend can work on this together, but please don't just mope around about your lives. Another friend bringing you down even more is not what you need.
A last resort should be the pills, but if you can't get them, you need to find other ways to make yourself happy.
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woman!dont ever take these pills!!you can get addicted to them and thatll just make your life worse!you need to open up to your mom more and tell her to help you out.look,commiting suicide will just make you lose your lifetime which is filled with great oppertunities and lose your afterlife too,because commiting suicide will get you to nowhere but hell!!nomatter what religion it is,suicide is a great sin.god created you for a reason and its not to cut yourself.you need too have an aim in life,a goal.all your doing to yourself is going to make your grades at school drop.what do you want to be when you grow up?ok,to get to that you have to have a good college degree and good marks at school,and being depressed aint getting you nowhere.if you sit down crying about your life then guess what????it aint getting any better!!what do you mean you cant do anything right?everyone makes mistakes woman!!your not perfect and noone is.i make the most retarted mistakes ever!!like my mom tells me to go get her water,i go drink and come back lol.and even worse.you only feel worthless because the summer break is looong and boring.you might feel like this,we all did because your life seems to have stopped.but if you study hard and get high marks,itll be worth it in the end when you see yourself as a famous successful person!a new year is coming and youll meet new freinds!have hope for tommorow!stick more to religion because god helps whoever gets closer to him.i dont know about your looks but if you were to send me a pic of you on my email mabey i can help you get a totally new look before you start school!!thatd be cool.good luck,if you need more help,drop me a message.
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