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Love, Lust, or is he too old?
So I'm kind of .. "in love," i guess, with this boy, but he's ALOT older than I am.. well, not alot, but he's in his 20's and i'm in my middle teens, so. yea. But he seems so perfect, he's so sweet, we both love eachothers company & i am fully comfortable with him. We've gone all the way & he still wants me around as much as possible. But I don't know if his motives are what I've come to believe seeing as he's older. my parents don't want me seeing him, because of the age difference, but I always want to be with him & he seems to love my company even when we're just lying next to one another. Is this right, or is he bad news?
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If you are about 13, 14, or 15, you are too young to date a man in his 20's. If you are 16, 17, 18, 19, it seems fine. If the man is 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, or 25, I think it's perfectly fine. So if you are "in love" with him, still make sure if you are. Finish high school if you haven't and college. After, try to live life without marrying him. Even though you are in love with him, there's many men in the world. You can still keep him in mind and love him all you want. Wait until you are in your mid 20's to marry him. It makes sense and you will know if he could be a could husband and possibly a good father. If he doesn't agree, he isn't worth it. Good Luck :)
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No normal mid 20's male is attracted to a female in her mid teens to the point of persuing ANY type of relationship with her. Yes, it's bad news in that he may use you, but also any sexual contact is illegal (a felony, not just like a traffic ticket, we're talking jain time and he has to register as a sex offender). You might want to talk to an adult (that is not trying to get with you) about this.
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Good/Bad news. Think about it: what NORMAL guy in his 20's wants to hang out with a girl your age??!! but, maybe hes different and your guys' relationship sounds fun. tell him to wait till your older, if he doesnt like that idea, then hes not ready to be in love with you. if he say okay, then your good!!
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girl, i'm gunna try to answer this from experience...i'm 17 and this guy i was with for 6 months was in his 20's too. we watched movies and cuddled, we were sweet on eachother, flirting constantly and just above and beyond just a friendship. but recently i found out that he was only using me for one thing...but when i wouldn't give it up to him in any form because i'm not that kind of person, he denied anything that happened between, quit talkin to me, and started treatin me like crap. it wasn't till after that i realized his true motives because we'd be hanging out with other people and he would just be sitting there, but as soon as the lights were off or he knew no one was looking, he would hold my hand, put his arm around me etc. i'd just be careful to make sure he's not just usin you as his target to get what he wants. also a guy in his 20s with a teen...you gotta wonder why he can't get a girl his own age
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You have to make sure that hes true to you and becareful cuz sometimes older guys tend to play with younger girls.Make sure he loves you by PROOVING it.But as for the age difference,i see nothing wrong with it.The older the guy is,the better because hell know how to treat you more and hell be more experienced than someone you might meet thats your age.
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im not going to say its completely wrong becausei am 17 && i like this 26 year old. the differnece is that i havent done anything with him.
he might be the greastest guy you have ever met in your life but he is in his twenties. Usually when a older guy is involved with a teenager hes doing it for the wrong reasons. But i might be wrong. Also considering your parents do not want you with him because of the age gap it would probly be best to end the relationship with this guy && just be friends.
If you stay with this guy after your parents say end it && your parents can get him put on the pedhophile list because he has had sex with someone under the age of 18. And even after you turn 18 he will still be on that list. So if you dont want him on that list because of your parents i suggest you end this relationship.
Maybe i havent said what you wanted to here but you are still kind of young see whats out there && if when you turn 18 && this guy is still in your life & he is still everything you want then start over.
And that will give you plenty of time to find out if he is the guy that is in the relationship for the right reasons or just bad news.
i hope i helped
kimm:)
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From my experience when an older guy is dating a teenager, his motives are usually not good. Think about it, why wouldn't he want to date someone his own age who's going through the same things as he is? You are probably more mature for your age, and it's great that you feel comfortable with him, but I think it's not good to be dating someone that much older when you are a teenager. Maybe you could remain friends, since you love eachother's company. But I do think he is probably bad news, and you should find someone who is closer to your age.
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